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Dan Savage
Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex and relationship questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, record your question and send it to Q@Savage.Love, or call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savage.love and get yourself a subscription.
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Sep 1, 2020 • 53min
Savage Love Episode 723
A woman's husband had low testosterone, so he started taking T. But then, he turned into a total asshole! Is this normal? Is this just what testosterone does? A trans woman has not yet had bottom surgery. While she waits, how can she find a woman who would want her as she is now, and how she will be later? On the Magnum, Dan chats with sex researcher Alexandra Marcotte about her study looking at how men and women differ in their enjoyment of dick pics. A woman has a girlfriend but they don't live together. The caller is very cautious about covid-19: She wipes all her groceries down, sterilizes the doorknobs- that sort of thing. Meanwhile, her girlfriend's roommates are going out to bars, throwing caution to the wind. How can the caller try to limit contact? Is there a huge fight in their future? Open your wallets and go to 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at . This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Hello Fresh. Get fresh, pre-measured ingredients and mouthwatering seasonal recipes delivered right to your door. Get $80 off your first box when you go to .

Aug 25, 2020 • 55min
Savage Love Episode 722
A woman started dating a transman. But then his personality completely changed. I this just a trans thing? Or a coincidence? A verse dyke working as a nanny in an uptight conservative community can't find any other lesbians. She's so horny she would settle for a man. But how can she find someone willing to be her "walking dildo?" On the Magnum, a deep dive into cuckolding, with the utterly charming Venus from the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast. What drives a man to be turned on watching his partner get together with other men? What's in it for the woman? It's a wild, wild world and Venus takes us through it. And blechhhh! Her man douses himself in cologne. She HATES the smell of cologne. He knows this, and still pours buckets of expensive chemicals on himself to mask his natural, lovely body scent. Why? Why do they do this? Our caller is worried about hurting his feelings. So she sits there and suffers. If you smell something, say something. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to . ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. For a limited time, get up to 30% off your first order at . The Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Dame Products: a woman-founded sex toy company. Visit to get $10 off your first order.

Aug 18, 2020 • 57min
Savage Love Episode 721
Have you ever gone snorkeling...naked? On a long anticipated second date? She has. Hear ALL about it... A woman's sister is *still* planning her 100 person wedding for this October. Will covid-19 be over by then? Certainly not. So should the caller go or tell her stupid sister to postpone her stupid wedding already? On the Magnum, Dan chats with clinical psychologist and sex therapist Dr. David Ley, about the difference between sex addiction and kinks. And, can extroverts successfully date introverts? Voicemail@savageloivecast.com 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at . This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to and use the offer code Savage. This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial.

Aug 11, 2020 • 53min
Savage Love Episode 720
A man's new boyfriend is really great in every way! Except...he believes in mythical creatures, thinks he has super-powers and that the government is communicating with him through the radio. So, should the caller leave his mentally ill new boyfriend or try to get him some help? Meanwhile, a woman's sister has started dating a "professional" astrologer who had gotten kicked out of the marines, believes in conspiracy theories and wants to move to Mexico with the caller's sister after dating for just a few months. How can the caller help her stubborn sister see all those red flags a'flappin'? On the Magnum, It's a generational battle royale! Dan chats with Jill Filipovic author of "Ok Boomer, Let's Talk" in a Millennial vs Boomer sex-advice smack down! (Just kidding. They agree on pretty much everything.) Filipovic's book goes into the ways the younger generations have been shafted by the olds. Time to seize power, youngun's! A bi man's boyfriend is being driven crazy by his new neighbor. She has noisy sex at all hours, disrupting the boyfriend's sleep and work life. Should they have ear-piercing retaliatory sex to teach her a lesson? voicemail@savagelovecast.com 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Earnest: Earnest makes it easy to refinance your student loans. Get a $100 cash bonus when you refinance a student loan at e. Terms apply. This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by : the new way to learn a foreign language. Right now, when you purchase a three month subscription, Babbel will give our listeners 3 additional months for FREE with Promo Code: SAVAGE

Aug 4, 2020 • 56min
Savage Love Episode 719
Our opening covid-19 "sexcess" story is extra special this week. You will never think of Tollhouse cookies the same way again. Don't you hate it when your brother-in-law steals your underpants, and uses them to jack off? This little sordid story only gets worse. On the Magnum, meet the dominatrix who commands her clients to read Black feminist theory. Mistress Velvet and Dan discuss performative wokeness, allies vs. accomplices, and the transformative power of S&M among many other things. Mistress Velvet knows her shit. Obey her and listen in. And a woman and her boyfriend keep breaking the bed! Is there a bed frame out there that can withstand this couple's vigorous rutting? This episode is brought to you by Doordash. Get breakfast, lunch, dinner and more delivered from your favorite restaurants right to your doorstep with one easy click. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code SAVAGE. Today's episode is brought to you by Dirty Diana- a new sex positive, fictional podcast starring Demi Moore and created by Shana Feste. It's a show for all of us who are craving connection and searching for a new kind of erotica. Check it out at This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to .

Jul 28, 2020 • 54min
Savage Love Episode 718
An Irish man has found dating success with his "personal operating manual." After the second date or so, he slides over a piece of paper delineating his likes and dislikes, in bed and out. It cuts through a lot of clutter, says he. For those of you separated from your loved ones because of travel restrictions, there could be some hope maybe? Dan chats with Chelsea from "Love is Not Tourism" a group working to allow stipulations for folks who want to reunite with their beloveds in other countries. A kindly aunt has been counseling her newly out niece. The niece and her mother don't get along. Is it wrong for the caller to step in and chaperone her niece on her first date with a slightly older girl? And, one hot day, a woman found her "nubbin" tingling when she thought about ice cream for a second. Panic ensues. Is she some kind of ice cream fetishizing pervert? Her girlfriend tells her to chill out. So do we. Voicemail@savagelovecast.com 206-302-2064 This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial. This episode is brought to you by Hello Fresh. Get fresh, pre-measured ingredients and mouthwatering seasonal recipes delivered right to your door. Get $80 off your first box when you go to . This episode is brought to you by Earnest: Earnest makes it easy to refinance your student loans. Get a $100 cash bonus when you refinance a student loan at . Terms apply.

Jul 21, 2020 • 53min
Savage Love Episode 717
A man has been with his boyfriend for a year. The boyfriend's supposedly straight roommate gives intimate hugs and drops obvious homo hints when he's drunk. The caller doesn't like him or trust him. Does he have to put up with this? This lady likes a giant, huge, enormous, really big penis. She proposes a hack for when she's with a more modestly endowed gentleman. Could she insert a yoni egg inside her vagina, to simulate that Big Dick feeling? Would this work? Dan? On the Magnum, we welcome the Kinsey Institute's Justin Lehmiller. Dan and Dr. Lehmiller discuss the difficulty of stating your sexual desires to a partner when your desires are...weird. Or disturbing. It's tough out there for a closet kinkster. Dr. Lehmiller's rational thinking and soothing voice are a balm in these confusing times. Finally, a man is dating a woman he really likes. But her parents are Trump supporters. She claims she isn't going to vote at all in November. (!!!) Is she a secret Trump supporter? Does he have the right to demand she vote for Biden? Does this rise to DTMFA levels? Voicemail@savagelovecast.com 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at . Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to . This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.

Jul 14, 2020 • 51min
Savage Love Episode 716
A young gay man is having a great time with his boyfriend who is 14 years older than him. Can it last? How? On the Magnum, be charmed by comedian Jay Jurden. We were. Jay and Dan talk about gays, three-ways and Catholic guilt, among other things. A woman has a fantasy of being "taken" by an older man with power over her. But wouldn't any man who acts this out with her be a total creep? Finally, are there dog toys sold in pet stores that are secretly meant to be sex toys? For humans? Voicemail@savagelovecast.com 206-302-2064 This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by : the new way to learn a foreign language. Right now, when you purchase a three month subscription, Babbel will give our listeners 3 additional months for FREE with Promo Code: SAVAGE This episode is brought to you by Doordash. Get breakfast, lunch, dinner and more delivered from your favorite restaurants right to your doorstep with one easy click. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code SAVAGE. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to .

Jul 7, 2020 • 54min
Savage Love Episode 715
Hear the tale of the NB lesbian who snooped and found out that the sex worker they want to hire makes more money than they do, and finds this unacceptable. (Confidential to the caller: you'll eventually get over the pummeling Dan gives you.) We were so honored to welcome Dr. Erin Berry -regional Medical Director of Planned Parenthood. Dan and Dr. Berry blasted through a bunch of your questions (HPV vaccine for men, molluscum, IUDs, bidets for women, more!) and of course they discussed abortion and the recent Supreme Court decision. Dr. Berry is a rock star. Some of it is on the Micro version and all of it is on the Magnum. Listen in. And, a queer woman enjoys using her strap-on as if it were a penis. But do gay men do the same? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to and use the offer code Savage.

Jun 30, 2020 • 51min
Savage Love Episode 714
A gay married man faces a choice. He can keep his stable job, if he moves to...Kansas. Dan brings on Kansas State Representative Brandon Woodard to try to sell his state to the caller. At the top of this list of the midwestern state's redemptive qualities: Kansas is only 3 hours away from everywhere else! So, they've got that going for them. A woman is horrified that her husband wants to "suckle" her breasts as if she were lactating. "Just one time?" he begs. On the Magnum, Dan gushingly chats with public health super-hero Dr. Demetre Daskalakis. The dreamy Deputy Commissioner for Disease Control at the NYC Health Department is responsible for some of the most honest, rational, pro-sex messaging coming out of New York City, and Dan is nothing less than star-struck. Listen in. And, a woman with step-children found herself watching some step-mom porn. And she liked it! WHAT DOES THIS MEAN? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at . This episode is brought to you by Allform- premium, customizable sofas and chairs shipped right to your door. For 20% off your perfect sofa, go to . This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Blue Apron. Check out this week’s menu at


