Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage
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Aug 17, 2021 • 51min

Savage Lovecast Episode 773

On this episode, we are treated to a couple of calls concerning pronouns. One comes from a man who doesn't understand how to use the familiar 2nd person plural when one or more are non-binary. Another comes from a man who proposes a new catch all gender-neutral pronoun to rule us all. Will it stick?On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr Carole Hooven, author of Testosterone: The Story of the Hormone that Dominates and Divides Us. They discuss how testosterone works, and how we all have to live with it because it's coursing through roughly half of us. It's a great long conversation, and you should tune in.And, we're not going to sugar coat this one: A woman poops when she comes. What can she do Dan?
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Aug 10, 2021 • 53min

Savage Lovecast Episode 772

A woman is sick of being a dirty little secret. Her boyfriend's ex-partner would withhold access to the kids if she found out about the relationship. Can she demand that he tell his ex?A woman fantasizes that she's a gay man when she's having sex. But the rest of the time, she feels like a cis woman. Dan issues a label for her and sends her on her way.On the Magnum, a comedian is creeped out that her ex-boyfriend might come heckle her at her stand-up shows. Dan welcomes comedian Jen Kirkman to talk about dealing with this unpleasantness.And, a bi man is in a long distance relationship with an older man. But he is coming to grips with the fact that he has an unhealthy sex compulsion, and has been taking dangerous risks. Should he break off the healthy relationship with his partner while he works through recovery?
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Aug 3, 2021 • 51min

Savage Lovecast Episode #771

Our opening "sexcess" story will make all the licensed massage therapists cringe. We are truly sorry.A woman and her girlfriend have gotten in the habit of using baby voices with each other. They know this is terrible, but they can't stop. Dan! Make them stop!On the Magnum, Dan continues crushing out on dominatrixes. This week, he interviews Goddess Charlotte Lashes about financial domination, kinky conservatives, and boyfriends who are being dominated by their mothers. Goddess Charlotte COMMANDS YOU TO LISTEN.A bisexual woman is very attracted to penises. She likes everything about cis women except their vaginas. And she's attracted to trans folks...but only if they have a dick. So, is this wrong? When she's on a date, how and when should she ask what they have down below?206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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Jul 27, 2021 • 53min

Savage Love Episode 770

A nice bi man just wanted to join a nudist community and hang out with his nudist homies, not wearing any clothes and being naked. He certainly DID NOT want to be ogled or groped by the creepy leader of the group. So now what? Should he try to oust the creep, give up on the group, or return and try to avoid him? A woman learned that her boyfriend has been leading a secret double life. Have you ever led a secret double life? Well! This man's secret double life involves an online dom commanding him to crawl around like a dog and urinate in the cups and cookware in their home. So. Your secret double life seems a little less "edgy" now doesn't it? Dan's advice...may shock you. On the Magnum, learn about the sordid, gnarly history of sexually transmitted diseases. Dan interviews Professor Ina Park about her book Strange Bedfellows: Adventures in the Science, History, and Surprising Secrets of STDs. Oh, the things you will learn! Finally, hey listeners! A little help? Let's all put our heads together and a find a way to convince this caller to let his fiancé peg his ass already. 206-302-2064   voicemail@savagelovecast.com Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to . This episode is brought to you by Pill Club: the birth control subscription that is delivered right to your door. Get a special care package with your first delivery. Go to . Thanks to Roman for supporting Savage Lovecast. Roman is a men’s health company that offers remote online diagnosis for ED and convenient monthly delivery of medication. Visit . If approved, you’ll get fifteen dollars off your first order of ED treatment.
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Jul 20, 2021 • 57min

Savage Love Episode 769

Women beware! A new form of negging has emerged. If you followed a hook-up on Instagram, but he didn't follow you back, it could be INSTA-NEGGING. A trans man iplans to do a lot more butt sex once he has bottom surgery. How can he prepare on a daily basis? On the Magnum, is it ever ok to leave your wife when you are in your 70s? Dan and senior sex writer Joan Price disagree... And, a lesbian begs all those straight couples who pour into lesbian bars at closing time looking for women to be in a threeway with them to Please. Just. Stop. 206-302-2064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to . This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to and use the offer code Savage.
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Jul 13, 2021 • 58min

Savage Love Episode 768

A bi woman wants to try three-ways with her boyfriend. He enthusiastically agrees. But it's been a while since she's been with a woman, and wants to have a trial run with just her unicorn. Now, he's getting a little nervous... A woman with a 12 year-old son has been toying with the idea of starting an Only Fans account. The problem? Her son might see some of her content. How can she have this very difficult parental conversation? In one of our favorite interviews of all time, Dan brings on linguist and literature professor John McWhorter, author of "Nine Nasty Words: English in the Gutter: Then, Now, and Forever." They gab about the origins of the word "fuck" and "faggot," how the nature of profanity has changed over the years, and why some words are both sexy and unutterable. And, a man planning a hook-up hears that they can go to the other guy's home, but only if his "actual dog" watches. Is this innocent and ok or so, so far from innocent and ok? 206-302-2064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial. Thanks to Roman for supporting Savage Lovecast. Roman is a men’s health company that offers remote online diagnosis for ED and convenient monthly delivery of medication. Visit . If approved, you’ll get fifteen dollars off your first order of ED treatment. This episode is brought to you by Calm, the #1 app for sleep and relaxation. For a limited time get 40% off a Calm Premium subscription at .
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Jul 6, 2021 • 45min

Savage Love Episode 767

Dear Emily Post: What am I to do when I encounter my boyfriend in the basement enjoying large amounts of cocaine, in women's attire, with a gentleman we both know very well? A kinky woman already agreed to open up her relationship with her boyfriend. So why did he have to go out and cheat? On the Magnum, a very ethical stripper, bartender and sugar baby has contracted MRSA and worries she is putting others at risk. Not sure what MRSA is? Well, you will  know plenty about it after you listen to Dan's interview with infectious disease expert Dr. Paul Pottinger. Does she have to quit her jobs? Find out. A woman with a great sex life always has to think about porn in order to come. Is this normal? Must she change her erotic inner life? 206-302-2064      voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Pill Club: the birth control subscription that is delivered right to your door. Get a special care package with your first delivery. Go to . This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at .
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Jun 29, 2021 • 1h 1min

Savage Love Episode 766

After a dazzling "sexcess" story, we launch into three tales of dreadful parents. Conservative, manipulative, disrespectful, bigoted parents. If you have this kind of parent, our hearts go out to you. Are you a thoughtful gift giver? This woman is, and she REALLY wishes her boyfriend would reciprocate... On the Magnum: Save the lesbian bars! For they are disappearing.  Dan interviews Lea Delaria (from "Orange is the New Black") about the Lesbian Bar Project. Kick in, won't you? https://www.lesbianbarproject.com/ And, who knew saline could be so sexy?!   If you're into that sort of thing. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to . This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to and use the offer code Savage. This episode is brought to you by Allform- premium, customizable sofas and chairs shipped right to your door. For 20% off your perfect sofa, go to .
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Jun 22, 2021 • 51min

Savage Love Episode 765

A mother in Central America is worried that her son is being a little too risky when he walks home from the beach in women's clothing. When she confronts him about this, he calls her a transphobic, homophobic boomer. Teens! Am I right? A woman is afraid that her boyfriend will cheat on her. And yet, she fantasizes that her boyfriend is cheating on her. How can she preserve her self-esteem while indulging her cuckqueen instincts? On the Magnum, it turns out the ancient Greeks were wrong about cunnilingus! Dan interviews Mark Haskell Smith author of "Rude Talk in Athens" which explores how comedians in ancient Athens brawled with each other. One of the worst insults was to accuse another of going down on a lady. Silly ancient Greeks. And, are the terms "tops" and "bottoms" only for the gays? And can straight polyamorous people march in the pride parade? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by : a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to OMGYES.com/Savage. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to . The Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Dame Products: a woman-founded sex toy company. Visit to get 10% off your first order.
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Jun 15, 2021 • 53min

Savage Love Episode 764

Our opening "Sexcess" story should flood all you postpartum parents with optimism. A married straight couple has an arrangement where she can go outside the relationship, and he remains monogamous to her. All good. But she wants to tell everyone about it, and he wants to keep it under wraps. Who wins? On the Magnum, meet the elite proctologist and anal surgeon, Dr. Evan Goldstein of Bespoke Surgical. He and Dan talk about centering pleasure and beauty in proctology. We loved Dr. Goldstein, and so will you. And, a bewildered father would like to recommend good, ethical porn to his 12 year-old son. Got any recs? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Allform- premium, customizable sofas and chairs shipped right to your door. For 20% off your perfect sofa, go to . This episode is brought to you by Hello Fresh: fresh, pre-measured ingredients and mouthwatering seasonal recipes delivered right to your door. Go to and use code Savage12 for 12 free meals, including free shipping.

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