Coming Out Late

Robin shares a Late Bloomer’s coming out story that captures different stages of her confusion, acceptance, devastation, and guilt and how ultimately she just wants to be happy, along with the ones she loves.In this episode, you will learn…Growing up without realizing being gay is an optionAcknowledging the heartbreak of first crushesRealizing the Haunting of Bly Manor is the first healthy lesbian relationship she’s witnessedI am super gay but it’s too late since I’ve been married for 30+ yearsHer sister’s response when she finally shares that she’s gayThe blessing of finding a supportive community after the devastation of telling her husbandWhat it was like to finally end her marriage and how it feels to salvage their friendshipRemembering hurting someone you love sucks but it doesn’t mean you deserve to take on shame or guiltLinks to resources:I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassJoin our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

Robin shares a common challenge of finding the right time to embrace your truth and the importance of knowing you’re never alone in this journey!In this episode, you will learn…The problem of not wanting to put your children through a divorceRecognizing there is no perfect time to be true to yourself or to teach children that people changeFrom delaying hurt and confusion to having people survive and thriveDon’t stay trapped or unhappy for anyone, especially your kids10 Key Takeaways from this story:1. Our stories are relatable, sharing is imperative to feel hope and inspiration2. None of us are ever truly alone in this journey, no matter how it might feel3. You are all stronger than you believe you are4. It will get better, no matter how impossible it may seem today5. Freedom and happiness does lie ahead6. Know that you’re not alone (yes, it’s worth repeating)7. The unknown is scary but the leap is so worth it8. You’re not alone (I really want you to get that message)9. You have an amazing community of supporters10. We are all in this together and we will all come out on the other side, no matter what the other side looks likeAn invitation to climb to the top of Mount FearLinks to resources:I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassJoin our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)BLOOMERS SOCIETY: www.bloomerssociety.com

Robin shares different responses of people reflecting on the past year and the power of embracing the changes you experience!In this episode, you will learn…Exciting updates about upcoming guests, Facebook group and Bloomer’s SocietyFinding the light at the end of the tunnel if you’re in the messy middle of coming outReflecting on the most significant difference in your life from this time last yearHow Robin is changing her language to reflect her current journey of launching a small service businessRemembering it’s better late than never because it’s never too lateLinks to resources:I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassJoin our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)BLOOMERS SOCIETY: www.bloomerssociety.com

Cosmos Kumar shares the power of embracing your truth, nurturing relationships and being okay with knowing the only constant in life is change.In this episode, you will learn…Cosmos’ background and why she calls herself a UniversalistNobody deserves to be in pain and nobody should be in a situation where they’re unhappyWhy Cosmos loves synchronicity and following natureWhen Cosmos began to feel inklings about her identity and sexualityAdvice for those coming out to themselves during the pandemicGive yourself permission to be who you want to be and trust yourself that you know who you areHow Cosmos’ son, friends and family reacted to her coming outAppreciating other people’s lifestyles instead of shutting them downOwning your truth and knowing it can change whenever you wantUnderstanding bisexuality and confusion about the LGQBTI+ spectrumDetails about Cosmic Soul CoachingLinks to resources:Cosmos/Meenakshi Kumar, MD: you can find Cosmos and her Bio and ALL of her coaching services at: Link tree: https://linktr.ee/docmk; FB: https://facebook/groups/docmk; Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/docminx/; Art: internalescence.etsy.com Blog: https://wonderwomansearches.com/. Dr. Kumar, MD, also mentioned the book, "The Fountainhead", by Ayn Rand: One of the 20th century's most challenging novels of ideas, The Fountainhead champions the cause of individualism through the story of a gifted young architect who defies the tyranny of conventional public opinion.I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassJoin our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)BLOOMERS SOCIETY: www.bloomerssociety.com

Happy 2022! Robin dives into the New Year with encouragement to find your one word for the year and why it’s important to get clear on the life you want for yourself.In this episode, you will learn…Details about available support from Women Loving Women Group and Monthly Dinner ClubChallenge to approach 2022 with a new way of thinking, feeling and doingWhy Robin’s one word for the year is COURAGEEncouragement to determine your one word for 2022Acknowledging codependency and ignoring red flagsGet out of your head and into your heart and into your bodyRelease your feelings and make time to get honest about what you want in lifeLinks to resources:I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassJoin our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)BLOOMERS SOCIETY: www.bloomerssociety.com

Robin responds to comments, questions and topics from different social media outlets that address coming out late and shares her personal perspective about common issues.In this episode, you will learn…You win some, you lose some—acknowledging relationships may change after coming outRemember—it’s not about sexuality, it’s about toxicity and toxic people don’t need to be in your lifeGirlfriends?—understanding how women loving women relationships operate and establishing clarityThe Big Freeze—”gay panic” and why we get nervous when we like someoneFlirting—knowing what crosses the line and communicating with your partnerMutual respect and mutual love is always importantLinks to resources:I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassJoin our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

The holidays can be particularly challenging for those who’ve just come out. Robin shares how to handle difficult situations with care and the importance of keeping lines of communication with your children and/or family as open as possible. Robin also discusses why the New Year is a perfect time to prioritize self care!In this episode, you will learn…How to handle the holidays with your significant other or former significant otherYou don't have to spend an uncomfortable holiday unless there are children involved.Suggestions for how to manage difficult feelings in the same space with othersAdvice for asking your children what they expect on Christmas Eve and Christmas DayTry to be the one that initiates cohesiveness and togetherness and connectedness.The sooner our children realize and can adapt to and embrace change as something that just simply happens, and it's not something to be feared is good.The importance of making self care your number one priorityEncouragement to let go of toxic relationships—no matter who they’re withWe're gonna learn how to love ourselves or we're gonna learn how to shed our codependency because it's a new year.Links to resources:OMG, OMG...super excited to have *just* set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first 11 Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I pay $400 every four episodes just to get it produced...and I'm not making a single cent on it to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassJoin our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

Robin and Leanne share why it’s better late than never to come out and live the life you are meant to live with no blame, guilt or shame. Leanne also gives insight to how our brains process emotions and anxiety, and how we have the power to change our lives! In this episode, you will learn…What an neuro linguistic programming (NLP) practitioner doesChange requires willingness and the right attitude for change.Understanding anxiety and 2 pathways to anxiety: cortex-based, thoughts vs. amygdala-based, reactionsStrong emotional experiences become your body’s emotional history, which then condition how you feel and react to situations.Stop listening to the stories in your head—we recall stories based on perspective, not reality.How Leanne works with clients to change their language and programmingWorry is nothing more than predicting chaos.Remembering we have limited years, don’t waste them living unauthentically.Advice for how to tell your significant other about your sexualityFear is nothing more than False Evidence Appearing Real.A label is nothing more than an explanation for society—be who you’re meant to beThe power of working through negative self beliefs      Links to resources:Leanne Jones is a leading LGBTQ+ women's anxiety recovery coach and therapist, and owner and founder of BRAVER WOMEN. Leanne is based in the UK, but has a worldwide client base. With her program BRAVER WOMEN, Leanne specializes in providing LGBTQ+ women with the tools to stop anxiety and to raise self-esteem, to live with more passion, pride and purpose. Her BRAVER WOMEN website is currently being developed and can soon be found at: www.braverwomen.com. In the meantime, follow this link to request to join Leanne's amazing FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/359069712192635/You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: comingoutlater@gmail.comLooking for your coming-out-late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook.com/ComingOutLateCommunity (Please fill out all the registration questions.)Coming out later in life has its fair share of stress and challenges. Be sure to take good care of your mental health during this trying time. Contact Pride Counseling and book an appointment at: www.pridecounseling.com/comingoutlater.

Robin shares the story of her first queer wedding—she was the queer at the wedding. Her story also describes the awkwardness she faced of being the only gay couple at the wedding and how her girlfriend came to her rescue and made her feel comfortable, as well as some of the issues they faced during the event.In this episode, you will learn…We can survive and thrive doing difficult and scary things.Her relationship with her daughters after she came out about her sexualityLearning to let go of others’ opinions and thoughts—they don’t know your side of the story.The messy middle of coming out to yourselfThe reality is never as bad as all that is going on in our brains.Things like anxiety will come up—just focus on how you want to feel through that event.People will have different opinions about you because you’re gay—smile and hold your head high—you’ve not done anything wrong.Don’t conform to what other people think or want for you—you know what you want—just be brave enough to go out there and get it.Move forward in your life and do the things that make you happy.Links to resources:By taking bloomers society off Facebook and moving to a private platform, we've created a robust and interactive community filled with stories, interviews, and resources, all at your fingertips right when you join. https://bloomerssociety.comYou can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian. And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: comingoutlater@gmail.comLooking for your coming-out-late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook.com/ComingOutLateCommunity (Please fill out all the registration questions.)Coming out later in life has its fair share of stress and challenges. Be sure to take good care of your mental health during this trying time. Contact Pride Counseling and book an appointment at: www.pridecounseling.com/comingoutlater.

Robin talks to Anne-Marie Zanza and her wife, Tonda McKay, about the impact of religion on people coming late out as gay and their journey of accepting and embracing their sexuality.In this episode, you will learn…Anne and Tonda’s backstoryHow isolation impacts your dating lifeThe journey of accepting and embracing their sexualityUnpacking the patriarchy and understanding why certain things are just wrongJesus’ teachings are far from what the church doesBridging the divide between the binary of male and femaleExistence of same-sex relationships in the eighties.Different schools of thought on acknowledging sexualityThe reaction of family and friends when they came outSame-sex relationships and the constraints of religious institutionsFinding a community that suits you as a member of the LGBTQ familyComing out as gay and redefining who you areDeconstructing how you were taught your faithLinks to resources:Looking for your coming-out-late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook.com/ComingOutLateCommunity. (Please fill out ALL the registration questions.)You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian. And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: comingoutlater@gmail.com.Coming Out Coach, Anne-Marie Zanzal can be found at: www.annemariezanzal.com. Her podcast, "Coming Out and Beyond" tells the story of the later in life community and can be heard wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts. And Anne-Marie's memoir, "Authentic Peace", speaks to anyone who is in a transitional stage in life and who are called to reinvent themselves. Her wife, Tonda McKay is an award-winning, professional, architectural photographer. Tonda's work and contact information can be found by visiting: www.tondamckay.com.