

The Mind Mate Podcast
Tom Ahern
The Mind Mate Podcast explores the human condition at the intersection of philosophy and psychotherapy. Hosted by counsellor and psychotherapist and writer Tom Ahern, the podcast engages deeply with questions of meaning, anxiety, freedom, identity, death, love, and what it means to live authentically in the modern world.
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Sep 27, 2020 • 1h 15min
How To Manage Political Egos With Terri Butler - EP. 121
Terri is the Shadow Minister for the Environment and Water, and has been in parliament since the 2014 by-election, succeeding Kevin Rudd as the Member for Griffith. During this time, she has worked on issues as diverse as innovation, supporting the AFLW, marriage equality, and employment services.
Terri holds a BA/LLB(Hons) from QUT and a Grad Dip Econ from UNE.
Prior to entering parliament she became a partner at a Queensland law firm, and then founded Maurice Blackburn’s Queensland employment and industrial law practice.

Sep 20, 2020 • 21min
How To Actually Find Your Purpose - EP. 120
Guys! I could not be more excited! This is 'Find Your Mission' Launch Week! If you are stuck in life, anxious, lost, ruminating, unsure what to do or who you are—this podcast is for you! I want to give you, my beloved Mind Mates, the tools to finally CREATE the life you want because you bloody deserve it.
We are fundamentally the stories we tell ourselves. We act those stories out—our myths. You can change your myth but, firstly, you have to know how it was formed and what the factors were. If you’re not happy with the story you tell yourself, change it by writing a new one and become the, as the cliché states, hero of you own movie!
Have a listen to the show and join me in my FREE webinar where I'll be going into greater detail with the ideas presented to you in this show! Sign up here: https://event.webinarjam.com/register/2/vlrn2f7?fbclid=IwAR2O8I-b7xGV2wt_mMMNhSCElqeUAdexi-wFwhWfA6P4PHAOn1vqFvgRZ5o

Sep 13, 2020 • 1h 12min
#119 - Do You Need God To Overcome Addiction? Chats With Bryce Turvey
Bryce Turvey is 33, a San Diego native. He is sober, a contractor, a Breathwork facilitator, a surfer and skater. As he says, "I suppose those are the high points."

Sep 6, 2020 • 1h 21min
#118 - From Maiden To Whore, And Everything In Between I Carmina Marie
Carmina is a breathwork guide who assists women in birthing their wild, authentic nature. She teaches women how to turn themselves on by just being seen. She helps develop their desire to dig into the darkest corners. Carmina is also a seeker who empowers women to chase what makes their energetic-womb throb and leads the connection to their divine power. Most importantly, she's a downright legend!

Aug 30, 2020 • 18min
#117 - How To Overcome "Attachment" In Relationships
Attachment Theory is an area of psychology that describes the nature of emotional attachment between humans. It begins as children with our attachment to our parents. The nature of this attachment, and how well it’s fostered and cared for, will then influence the nature of our attachment to romantic partners later in our life.

Aug 23, 2020 • 1h 11min
#116 - From The Streets To Mastering Masculinity With Julian Moreno
J. Moreno - Seattle, WA - guides Men in discovering meaning and creating balance through fully understanding, embracing and channeling their masculinity.

Aug 16, 2020 • 1h 6min
#115 - Actions Speak Louder Than Words With Stefanos Sifandos
Stefanos has been immersed in deep men’s empowerment work and the exploration of intimate and sacred relationships. Merging the best of eastern and western methodologies and philosophies to promote balance, union and power in life and love. Using integrative techniques and methods, such as neural-empowerment, Shamanic Praxis, holotropic and biodynamic breath work, trauma release and integration, western psychology, Eastern Mysticism and more, Stefanos has created programs, models and systems to enhance the quality of your life, your intimate relationships and in essence bring you closer to your potential.
By restructuring and reframing his own masculinity and movement through the world as a man relating to himself, his environment, women and his purpose, He has discovered and created methodologies and innovative models for navigating the often-difficult path of contemporary manhood and intimate relationships. Stefanos places his focus and energy towards evolving the nature relationships in contemporary times. An advocate and proponent of “sacred union”, Stefanos believes cultivating healthy relationships to self, ideas, others, our lovers and the Earth will liberate humanity towards a new empowered expression of itself. Through a deeper connection to God, Earth and self, Stefanos realised the power of the human spirit. We often avoid challenge, fear and pain, however for the modern man (now more than ever), they are tools for transformation that help us heal universally.

Aug 9, 2020 • 1h 24min
#114 - A Universal Spirituality | Chats With David Tacey
David Tacey is an Australian public intellectual, writer and interdisciplinary scholar. He is Emeritus Professor of Literature at La Trobe University in Melbourne and Research Professor at the Australian Centre for Christianity and Culture in Canberra.
Tacey was born in Melbourne but his young adult life was spent in Alice Springs, central Australia. Growing up alongside Aboriginal cultures influenced him greatly and he has maintained a lifelong interest in Aboriginal religions, indigenous health and wellbeing. His secondary education was conducted at Alice Springs High School. After completing secondary school in 1970, he worked as a labourer for a year to fund his future university education. He studied literature, philosophy and art history at Flinders University in Adelaide, South Australia, where he obtained his BA (Honours) in 1975. He transferred to the University of Adelaide and completed his PhD in literature and analytical psychology in 1981.

Aug 2, 2020 • 48min
#113 - Heal Yourself Before You Heal The World | Tom & Jane Latimer
Jane holds masters degrees in both counseling psychology and art, from Hunter College and Regis University. Her own personal healing path, however, encompassed years of Alchemical Lightwork, which she now blends with shamanic and psychological practices. She is committed to helping individuals activate their Soul Seed and live their Soul’s destiny. Her background spans areas of transpersonal and humanistic psychology, expressive arts and somatic trauma therapies. Jane’s greatest love is to help individuals prepare the human vehicle for their Soul’s authentic courageous expression. From her website:
“I was a serious, sensitive, deep and troubled person. I didn’t know how to live in alignment with my highly sensitive, intuitive and creative nature. A spiritual awakening in my early twenties led me to a path of healing which has resulted in over thirty years of successful freedom from food struggle, depression and dysfunction. After an array of miraculous spiritual experiences and many years of working on my own healing process, I became a psychotherapist, developed programs and books that helped countless people with trauma, food and body-image issues feel more hopeful and turn their lives around. After that initial awakening I had many “soul encounters” along the way that guided me deeper into my path as an Intuitive and Creative Soul Guide. Today, I work somatically as well as spiritually to support the unfolding of your greatest calling. Utilizing energetic and trauma release techniques as well as dreamwork, active imagination, parts and shadow work, archetypal, nature and the expressive arts , I will help you see beyond and underneath the patterns that are holding you back. As you awaken into your greater capacities, I can help the hurting parts within heal so that you can feel in-control and in-charge of your life again.”

Jul 26, 2020 • 22min
#112 - Who Are You Really? Unpacking The Ego | Tom Ahern
The ego can be thought of as many things. Some refer to it as “arrogance made manifest” but it is deeper than that. Some say it is the thoughts in your head and it is, but it is more malleable than that—and we know this because our thoughts change all the time (at least the seemingly less significant ones). When we identify ourselves by our egos—and, unfortunately, this is not always a conscious decision—we derive our sense of self from something that isn’t us. The ego ultimately seeks some kind of superiority; it compares itself to others, and that when we identify as our egos, we never meet other individuals at all; only the constructs of our minds. What does this mean? It means that we have become who we think we need to be—complete with moral superiority and social acceptance—to not only be included, but be loved, whole, welcomed and desired. Thoughts are projections. They are ideas about ways to access or grab ‘what is’—as Eckhart Tolle would say—outside our selves. The ego always needs some kind of antagonist because it defines itself by the other. Identity is something that humans desperately seek because to not be someone means to be no one, and being no one is scary! Enjoy this episode of the show guys!


