The Big Leap

Are you ALWAYS in a rush? Does it feel like you NEVER have enough time to get everything done? Are you in a continual state of stress and anxiety because of time-related constraints? This week’s episode is all about how to quit being a victim to time and take back control. It's about how to double your productivity in half the time. Gay and Mike are are HUGE fans of getting more stuff done in a shorter period of time AND doing it consciously. Gay shares a story about getting out of his “victim” relationship with time. When he was in the first grade he got a wristwatch for Christmas and became obsessed with it. He would go so far as to spend a lot of time at the Western Union Club (which was the reference point for what time it was) trying to get his watch set exactly square on that time. Needless to say, he’s been concerned with time for a long time. He went to extremes trying to manage his time, trying ALL of the different time management programs out there. But over the last 20 - 30 years he’s switched to something much more simple. He calls it Einstein Time. Most people have a victim relationship with time. They think time is their enemy and there's not enough of it. (or if you're bored, there's too much of it!) Any complaint you have about time is trying to control something that is not actually within your power to control and the more you try to control your time, the worse the problem gets. There's no way to have enough time to do all the things that you don't really want to do anyway. Mike's personal relationship with time has changed dramatically over the years. His trap used to be typical “entrepreneur time.” He would prioritize other people's stuff unconsciously before his own. It's because so many people have a negative self-image or feel a sense of duty or loss if they don’t take on other’s agendas. For example, reacting and responding to texts and emails immediately because he thought, “if I don't do this, then this will happen.” He was fearing a loss of opportunity. Abandonment. Fear of loss. He became someone else's slave. He got stuck in the minutiae. Changing your victim relationship with time needs to involve the way you speak about time. Saying things like, “I’ve run out of time,” or “I don’t have time to do this,” is coming from a place of scarcity. Einstein Time goes in the opposite direction. Einstein had this great image of the theory of relativity. He said that “a minute sitting on a hot stove feels like an hour and an hour spent with your beloved feels like a minute.” So what's the difference? When you're sitting on a hot stove you're contracting AWAY from your experience, trying to get away from where you are and of course, that never works. The more you're trying to escape from your current experience, the more you're creating time as a kind of a binding thing in your life rather than a liberating one. On the other hand, when you're with your beloved, the reason an hour goes by like a minute is because you're completely open in your cells to experiencing everything that you can possibly experience. You're wide open and because of that time disappears. What we need to do is harness that insight and here's where to start. Start monitoring every time you speak from the victim position regarding time. When you catch yourself saying, “I don't have time for that right now,” or “I wish I had time for that,” change it to, “I'm not willing to make time for that right now.” It puts you in the ownership position of time and anytime you can get into the ownership position, the better off you are because now you’re coming from a place of power.  A lot of people approach Gay by saying, “I know you're very busy but would you…” and he always stops them at this point and says, “I am absolutely not very busy. If I were very busy, I would consider that a terrible way to live but I'm willing to make some time for us to have this conversation (or not willing) to make time for us to have this conversation.”That's being in the ownership position. Wouldn't you rather be a producer than a consumer of time? When people ask him if he’s too busy he says no because we are ALL where time comes from. It’s just that most of us haven't claimed that space yet.

Do you feel as though LUCK is a myth or something that only happens to other people?  What if luck was something you could manifest into your life on a regular basis by doing a few simple exercises or a simple shift in mindset?  What would your life be like if you doubled your luck? Tripled? Quadrupled?  Money? Love? Connections? Lifestyle?  Is your BS meter flashing right now? Most people's would be.  Gay and Mike share some really exciting strategies in this episode of The Big Leap podcast. It's all about what you need to do to express your genius in the real world AND how to dedicate a new part of your body, (that you may not have even discovered yet) to become an attractor field for good luck.  They'll cover what Gay calls “the eight different pathways to get and create luck,” how to open yourself up to pure consciousness and finally, how to find your lucky tribe which is one of the most powerful ways to manifest and create opportunity in your life.  By the time you finish listening to this podcast today you’ll be able to look in the mirror and say, “I'm the luckiest person I know.”  Need proof that mindset changes EVERYTHING? When Gay was a kid he was very obese. He had issues with his glands but none of the medical specialists could ever figure out what the problem was. By the time he was in his 20s he weighed over 300 pounds and one day he slipped on the ice, fell down and had what he calls a “Hendricks Experience.”  He knocked himself out of his ego. It was a great moment of reinvention because it was in that moment that he realized he didn’t want to be fat for the rest of his life. So, he made a big shift that year, forgot what the doctors told him and took control of the situation himself.  For a year he ate only things that felt like they fed his new body rather than his old body. He learned to eat fruits and vegetables and healthy things and within a year he dropped more than 100 pounds.  It was a huge breakthrough and massive LEAP in claiming his own life rather than trying to live someone else's life and a great example of one of the eight different pathways to get and create luck.  He stopped thinking of himself as a victim and started thinking of himself as the owner of his life and then became luckier. He shifted his limiting beliefs. Some people get there through a big leap in their minds and some people get there through a big leap in their emotional life.  Listen to this episode to hear the rest of “the eight different pathways to get and create luck,” plus a ton more inspirational reinvention and transformational stories.

What if you could control and amplify your LUCK? How would that change your life and business? How much more money would you make? How many more exotic vacations would you take? What celebrities would you meet? What kind of cool car would you buy? How quickly would you get through the line at the DMV?!?!  Gay Henricks, NY Times Bestseller and co-host on my new The Big Leap Podcast, says you CAN control your luck and multiply it too! In fact, he has developed a system he started using 60 years ago called “Conscious Luck.” It’s been a driving force in his life and the subject of his new book titled, “Conscious Luck: Eight Secrets to Intentionally Change Your Fortune,” which came out last week.  When Gay was 14 years old his school was doing a fundraiser and sold tickets to a movie. During the movie, all of the kids put their movie stubs in a bucket and they did a drawing to see who was going to win a wristwatch. He was sitting next to his friend Clay who leaned over and he said, “watch this, I'm gonna win this drawing.” Sure enough, they pulled Clay’s name out and he won to watch.  Obviously, Gay was shocked and asked Clay, “how the heck did you do that?” Clay said, I always win these kinds of things. I decided I was lucky and ever since I always win. Well, Gay thought that was a very enlightened thing for a 14 year old to say but later on he thought, wait a minute, why should I go around thinking of myself as an unlucky person? It's just as easy to think of myself as a lucky person. And that was his first entry into the “luck” aspect of life.  After that, Gay reinvented himself as a lucky person at 14 years old. Ever since then he’s been very interested in the relationship between good luck and hard work and how those two come together.  Fast forward to today and having worked with hundreds of incredibly successful people, entrepreneurs and business owners, Gay has asked MANY of them... do you think of yourself as a lucky person? Almost every single one of them said YES.  So he asked Mike the same question… Do you consider yourself a lucky guy?  The short version is yes. TODAY Mike considers himself a lucky person. BUT he feels like his luck comes from preparation and relationships. In other words, he's created his own opportunities for luck by being present for when more opportunities could happen.  To Mike, the belief that “everything happens for a reason” is a bunch of BS. Stuff either happens or you control it. As Mike's grown a little bit older, he's realized that the more he pushes to try to control everything, the less successful he is. The more he relaxes into it, the more success comes. The more he pays attention to his feelings, trust and steps away from control, the more lucky he's become.  Gay say’s there are a number of pathways to luck. One important example is having luck worthy goals. In other words, you've got to give luck a good reason to visit! You really want to have the highest quality possible goals for yourself and once you've come up with those high quality goals, start opening up to support those.  There are SO many incredible transformational life and mindset tools that are really going to change your life in this episode. For example, is it really possible to manifest luck? (hint: Gay thinks so!) How to completely CHANGE your luck and Gay’s process for getting into alignment. (SUPER important for manifesting!)  Enjoy!

This podcast is about those turning points -- the single decisions in life and business that changed everything because the difference between stagnation and success lies in the decisions you make in the moments that matter.