"Come On, Man" Podcast
Paul B.
Men’s Relationship Coach | I help men master masculinity and overcome breakups, divorce, rejection, and dead bedroom frustration. Learn to fix sexless marriages, revive lost intimacy, and rebuild lasting attraction using red pill strategies, alpha male confidence, emotional resilience, and leadership skills. Conquer nice guy syndrome, approach anxiety, and betatization. Get expert dating and texting advice, screen for compatibility, get your ex back, move on after heartbreak, and attract high-value women. Transform pain into power.
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Oct 30, 2026 • 49min
Inside The Mind Of A Man Who Gets Laid
A candid look at identity, validation, and the mindset behind sexual confidence. Topics include marriage stalemates, genuine desire versus ego protection, and changing yourself without trying to control your partner. The discussion also explores sexual energy, flirting throughout the day, slowing down, emotional immersion, and building intimacy beyond the bedroom.
Oct 28, 2026 • 1h 11min
Approaching Women Got Easier Because Everyone Else Quit
Why are fewer men approaching women, and what opportunities does that create? This discussion explores respectful confidence, the belief that she does not want to be bothered, and why in-person charm can matter more than app-ready looks. It also covers the three-second rule, daily conversation practice, reading engagement, and treating rejection as useful feedback.
Oct 26, 2026 • 1h 6min
Your Sexless Marriage Plan Can’t Be Waiting for Her to Initiate It
Why does waiting for her to initiate keep intimacy stuck? This discussion explores testosterone differences, responsive desire, sexual polarity, and the role of gradual escalation. It also covers building anticipation throughout the day, replacing permission-seeking with confident signals, and using consistent self-improvement to restore attraction.
Oct 23, 2026 • 1h 9min
Most Men Are Still Wearing a Blue Pill MASK (FRAME & GAME Fixes This)
Why do so many men feel trapped behind a “blue-pill” mask? This discussion explores childhood conditioning, nice-guy behavior, relationship expectations, and the painful wake-up call of confronting reality. It breaks down frame, game, fogging, abundance, emotional control, and amused self-mastery, with practical ideas for staying composed, handling rejection, and avoiding arguments that quietly erode relationships.
Oct 21, 2026 • 1h 2min
If You’re A Man Dating Again Over 40 In 2026, Learn DREAD First
Dating after 40 gets a strategic makeover as Paul Bauer explores preselection, social proof, and the psychology of competition. He breaks down active versus passive dread, playful ambiguity, mystery, and how to keep a dating pipeline moving. Learn why texting should stay logistical, prime nights should be earned, and curiosity can drive deeper investment.
Oct 19, 2026 • 1h 26min
The Secret To Rebuilding Desire In A Sexless Marriage (It’s Not What You Think)
Uncle Bob, a relationship and masculinity commentator on Substack, joins the conversation to explore rebuilding desire in a sexless marriage. They unpack passive versus active dread, social confidence, attraction-killing habits, and the difference between healthy influence and manipulation. Real-life stories reveal how self-improvement, boundaries, and emotional independence can reshape intimacy.
8 snips
Oct 16, 2026 • 1h 18min
A solid MENTAL FRAME makes her want your attention (You're Doing It Wrong)
A sharp look at how validation seeking can undermine attraction, from needy texting and covert contracts to turning intimacy into a scorecard. The discussion explores mental frame, responsive desire, consistent action over empty promises, and building a meaningful mission that makes attention something to share rather than chase.
4 snips
Oct 14, 2026 • 46min
Her Viral 'Husband Application' Exposed Your Dating Competition
A viral husband application draws 241 hopeful men, plus more than 1,000 inbox pitches, sparking a debate about modern dating competition. The discussion examines high relationship standards, delayed commitment, fertility concerns, and why leading with marriage can shift the balance of attraction and leverage. It also explores intentional dating, long-term security, and finding the balance between confidence, chemistry, and reliability.
6 snips
Oct 12, 2026 • 1h 4min
Talking won't get you out of a SEXLESS MARRIAGE (This Will)
Why do conversations, chores, and gifts fail to revive a sexless marriage? This discussion explores how complacency turns partners into roommates, why begging and covert contracts deepen rejection, and how independence, fitness, purpose, boundaries, and renewed confidence can reshape attraction. It also examines handling rejection calmly, creating healthy space, and making personal growth a lasting lifestyle.
5 snips
Oct 9, 2026 • 1h 3min
Believing PASSIVE DREAD Is A Tactic, Not A PRIZE MENTALITY, Ruins Marriages
Passive dread, covert contracts, and “prize mentality” take center stage in a candid discussion about struggling marriages and dead bedrooms. The conversation explores why ultimatums, jealousy games, cheating, and rushed demands backfire, while authentic self-improvement, fitness, confidence, and stronger personal boundaries reshape attraction. It also examines why obligation can never replace genuine desire.
