Your Secret Is Safe With Me

When someone in a committed relationship has been cheating on their partner and they feel stuck in deciding what they want to do, they sometimes get the idea that they should tell their committed partner, even though they don’t know how they want to move forward. Feeling like you can’t make a decision is excruciating. If you’ve been thinking about disclosing your cheating in the hopes that your partner will break up with you and the expectation that you’ll feel better, tune in this week because the reality is not as simple as you’re telling yourself it is right now.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/133

Is sex important to you in a relationship? If you can honestly acknowledge the extent to which good sex (however you define that) is important to you, making relationship-related decisions you actually feel good about becomes simpler and easier.     Dr. Marie Murphy is showing you why you’re not doing yourself any favors when you attempt to deny, minimize, or devalue the significance of a great sexual connection, and telling yourself sex shouldn’t be important to you only makes matters worse.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/132

When you decide that it’s time to break up with someone you’ve been cheating on, you’ll likely have a lot of questions about how to ensure the person you’re breaking up with does not find out about the infidelity.     Dr. Marie Murphy is discussing the benefit of properly preparing for your breakup, why breaking up itself might arouse suspicion of cheating, and some practical strategies for a good breakup so you can deal with anything that comes up in the process.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/131

Say you and your partner started off as a monogamous couple, but then you started discussing “alternate arrangements” and it turned out that although you were very enthusiastic about the idea of opening your relationship up, your partner really wasn’t. It's not uncommon in these kinds of scenarios for your partner to offer you implicit permission to cheat, or at least pursue sexual connections outside of your relationship. Discover what implicit permission to cheat can look like in your relationship, why receiving this permission brings up so much confusion, and how to handle the freedom your partner might have decided to give you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/130

If you’re in the midst of an infidelity situation and you’re confused about what to do next, it’s generally the case that you may be using your mind in ways that are not actually helpful in cultivating the clarity and certainty you crave.   Dr. Marie Murphy is showing you how to start intentionally creating clarity and certainty, even if it feels impossible right now, so you can make intentional decisions instead of sitting in the anguish of uncertainty.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/129

Discover the value of cultivating clarity and certainty for yourself. You’ll hear a story that illustrates this point, and why changing your thoughts based on other people’s opinions or societal norms around your infidelity situation will never produce the certainty and clarity you’re seeking.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/128

Discover why you want to seek out advice from others, and why this might not be the best idea when it comes to your infidelity situation. Dr. Marie Murphy is giving you some useful insights into why it’s not the advice that matters, but what you decide to do with it, and how you think about the results.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/127

Tune in this week to discover why regret is optional, and how you can start preventing or minimizing it when it comes up for you. Dr. Marie Murphy is sharing why getting a handle on your relationship with regret is invaluable in dealing with your infidelity situation, and showing you how to take your preferences and priorities seriously, reducing or even eliminating the possibility of regret.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/126

If you truly believe you must hide your grief at the end of your affair relationship and not share the reality of what you’re going through with anyone, this episode is for you. Dr. Marie Murphy is sharing how to deal with this situation in a more empowering way than believing you have to operate a certain way, and offering you some practices you can use when you’re in this kind of pain.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/125

If you’re doing everything you can to make choices you think will make other people happy, this episode is for you. Discomfort and unpleasant emotions are naturally occurring things, and they don’t need to be considered problematic. So, tune in this week to discover how to understand your own discomfort, and begin trusting that other people can handle their uncomfortable emotions so you can make decisions about your affair situation based on what you want instead of trying to keep everybody happy.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/124