Smart Dating Academy - The Podcast

This week I'm having a fun conversation with Lane Moore, who was the "sex / relationships" editor at Cosmo, is an award-winning actor, author, and comedian. Moore is most famously known as the creator and star of one of the most well-reviewed comedy shows in the world, Tinder Live, where she projects her dating app onto a screen, swipes through profiles live on stage, and the audience votes whether she swipes right or left, to cathartic, hilarious, and surprisingly kind results.  We talk about:Fun moments on her Tinder Live shows  Her books "How to be Alone" (and it starts with accepting who we are and what we need) and "How to Find Your People"   What self-love and self-worth really means (I love her defintion)  How a pet can help you feel healthy, happy, and unconditional love and heal from heartbreak How to form authentic adult friendships  Different attachment styles and what they mean in friendships  Friend breakups: How to know when to leave and how to do it  The ONLY time ghosting is ok  What being vulnerable REALLY means You don't want to miss this high energy episode filled with awesome advice on how to find YOUR people. Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela    

Get ready to be inspired by another true "finding love story" from one of our awesome clients that found the most amazing love (and it took a longgg time)!  Massive plot twist here, by the way, that you won't believe, so listen to the WHOLE thing!   Courtney Bass Sherizen is a badass HR Executive with two degrees from Harvard and is also a certified yoga teacher. She just celebrated her 4 year wedding anniversary and has a 2 year old. But just a few years ago she was in your shoes looking for love. Courtney was on a long and arduous journey when it came to dating and was longing to find a lasting partner and to be a mom. Her parents saw Bela on the Steve Harvey Show and encouraged Courtney to reach out to SDA, which changed her course forever and fixed her picker. You literally will not believe how Dan won Courtney's lasting love and marriage - still blows me away (yes, men that want to be with you will move MOUNTAINS to be with you) You will hear: How Courtney had to overcome self doubt and fear when it comes to dating How she found out about Smart Dating Academy How the online dating stats used to bring her down How she used to hide parts of herself and held up barriers to protect who she was - which prevented her from showing up in relationships How she fixed her picker with Lindsay's help How Dan reached out to Courtney, and why she said NO at first :) How she KNEW she wanted to be a mother, and wouldn't settle for less How Courtney left Dan, and why he came back SHORTLY thereafter (and what changed) - this is truly amazing How they blend their families together (Courtney is African American and Dan was raised in the Jewish faith) You will absolutely love Courtney telling her love story! Love came in an unexpected package for her and it can come for you, too!  Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela    

This week the amazing Kate Anthony, author of The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage and the creator of the groundbreaking online coaching program, Should I Stay or Should I Go? came to chat with me about all things involving the decision if we should divorce or breakup.  Kate empowers women to find their strength, passion, and confidence even in the most disempowering of circumstances and helps them move forward with concrete plans.  There are some of the incredible insights that Kate shares with us to help you navigate one of the toughest decisions of your life. Kate talks about: The very first thing women need to look at when trying to make this decision (which is not what you might think!) How to get to know yourself again The Research that shows why women are often unhappy in their marriages (which will blow your mind) Why women often feel like they aren't enough without a partner What you should feel in a healthy relationship and an emotionally abusive relationship What feeling to look for in a relationship that are major red flags (and that applies for all non-heterosexual relationships) What the difference is between a narcissist and a sociopath You don't want to miss this awesome episode! Even if you are not thinking about divorce, you can get so many eye-opening and great takeaways. Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela    

JJ Virgin, triple-board certified nutrition expert and Fitness Hall of Famer, discusses aging powerfully and sexily at ALL ages, emphasizing the importance of body composition, tracking, and lifting heavy weights. She shares tips on measuring and improving body composition and the benefits of weight training and resistance training. Bela and JJ also discuss the challenges of finding a long-term partner and offer three key tips for aging powerfully.

Bela talks with best-selling author Debra Fine about the importance of small talk. Topics include Debra's journey from being an engineer to improving her conversation skills, the art of active listening and digging deeper in conversations, the significance of small talk in dating and creating chemistry, balancing talking and listening, overcoming the fear of rejection, developing the skill of being a good conversationalist, and the power of small talk in building connections.

In this episode, Bela interviews Dr. Justin Garia, Executive Director of the Kinsey Institute and Scientific Adviser to Match.com.   Justin leads Kinsey, the foremost experts and thought leaders on sex/sexuality.   We discuss the hottest topics in sex research, why second dates really matter, the upsides and downsides of dating apps, aging & sex (and the Golden Bachelor), orgasms for younger and older singles, and the TOP 5 thing singles are REALLY looking for in relationships according to Match's research on "Single In America!"   You won't want to miss this episode !    Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela    

Everyone's favorite segments are the love stories!   Dr. Laura, a physician in Chicago, found love online at 49 years old!    She had never been married, had a great career, and suffered from a bad picker.  Laura said to herself, "If I can do an Ironman, I can find my soulmate!"   Laura heard an interview with Bela, and she reached out to find her soulmate!  That action changed the course of everything, and helped her find her amazing FBI agent husband, Doug!   You'll hear: How Laura went through some cruel times in school because of a birthmark How her 'bad picker' started back in high school (crushed hard on gay guys - didn't know they were gay)! How she started falling for emotionally unavailable ones in her 20s (starving artists, long-distance, and more) This continued on well into her 40s, while her career was booming and she became a full fledged Iron Man triathlete! She heard Bela interviewed by Arielle Ford, and reached out to Bela What the key things Smart Dating Academy (SDA) did to FIX HER PICKER! How her "last first date" happened with Doug, who was an FBI agent that had adopted three daughters from China! How she knew, finally that Doug was the ONE!!   (it's Bela's favorite word about relationships - spoiler alert) How they got married at a ceremony at her house and are living happily ever after! It's Peak Dating Season, and the perfect time for YOU to start YOUR new plan to find love!   If Laura can do an Ironman AND find her SOULMATE, so can YOU!!    Schedule your 1:1 session with us today to "be like Laura" and make 2024 the year that changes EVERYTHING! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela    

Dr. Marisa Cohen joins Bela talking about the four 'relationship killers' that harm every relationship from dating to friendships to family.   And, you'll hear HOW to have difficult conversations with ANYONE in your life without harm.   We also talk about the loneliness epidemic, how Marisa experimented with going on 30 'new friend' dates in 30 days (and if that worked to cure loneliness), how mindset is everything, and how Marisa met her husband on a dating app! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela    

Want to glow from the inside out? Don't miss one word of this conversation with beauty expert and visionary Angela Jia Kim of Savor Beauty. When Angela (a concert pianist) broke out in a horrible rash before an important concert (due to some lotion she applied), she made it her mission to create a system that was loving from the outside in. In this episode, you will learn: -How your inside is reflected on the outside - Why water is actually crucial to our skin -Why washing your face at night is important to mental health -How to layer on skincare the way you dress for a Midwest winter -- thinnest to thickest.  She explains it ALL!    -How mindset is crucial and how to have the best one!!    Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

Part 2 of this episode is amazing!  Bela and Lindsay of Smart Dating Academy are back, discussing MORE secrets that have made their clients successful in finding love!   Here are some nuggets you'll hear: Where there is smoke, there is fire - Most of my divorced clients can point to something very specific early on that indicated something wasn’t right. People make time for things they want! There is no such thing as being “too busy” when someone is ready to date. They will ALWAYS make time. Even if it’s just for a quick cup of coffee. The busier someone is and the less they prioritize you is a sign that their “taxi light is not on”….they aren’t ready.   Believe that you are a catch and act like one! He or she is lucky to meet you and they will earn you. Create an identity around dating.   Everyone is afraid of rejection. You are afraid. They are afraid. It’s neutralized. What you think about dating decides your outcome! Mindset is everything! Our positive clients who embrace dating (even when it is DRY AS A DESERT) find love because they never give up. Our clients who decide they hate it…usually don’t. What can you do to become psychotically optimistic???   Old trauma often shows up in new relationships. ·       Pay attention to what people tell you in the beginning.  ·       Past trauma has a big impact on ability to find love without therapy ·       Know their triggers so you can avoid them in a relationship. Clarify if you might have misinterpreted something.  Never assume! Just ask. Don’t make assumptions…ask.   Clearly define the relationship and you won’t be surprised down the road Sex changes everything, and how to have the best sex of your life  The people around you shape who you are! You are the combination of the 5 people you spend the most time with! When it comes to finding love, make sure you share what’s going on with people who are encouraging and supportive. Like us….ahh! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela