In the Loop

At 22, Danielle Gare was drugged and sexually abused in a bathroom at Christchurch’s Mama Hooch bar. Six years on, the Dunedin early childhood teacher shares her story. Today’s episode carries a trigger warning for serious sexual assault, drugging, and significant traumatic experiences. Given the distressing matter discussed, this content is for adults only. This is an important subject but we urge listener discretion.  Sexual harm - do you need help?If it’s an emergency and you feel that you or someone else is at risk, call 111.If you’ve ever experienced sexual assault or abuse and need to talk to someone contact the Safe to Talk confidential crisis helpline on: Text 4334 and they will respond Email support@safetotalk.nz Visit https://safetotalk.nz/contact-us/ for an online chat Or contact your local police station. If you have been abused, remember it’s not your fault.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today’s episode carries a trigger warning for serious sexual assault, drugging, and significant traumatic experiences. Given the distressing matter discussed, this content is for adults only. This is an important subject but we urge listener discretion.  In late 2017 Sophie Brown, then 19, was of hundreds of young people regularly partying at the Mama Hooch bar. Naive to the club’s dark underbelly until she was drugged and sexually assaulted in a nearby bathroom by the manager Danny Jaz. Today Brown, the first survivor in the case to lift her automatic name suppression, is finally able to share her story. Sexual harm - do you need help?If it’s an emergency and you feel that you or someone else is at risk, call 111.If you’ve ever experienced sexual assault or abuse and need to talk to someone contact the Safe to Talk confidential crisis helpline on: Text 4334 and they will respond Email support@safetotalk.nz Visit https://safetotalk.nz/contact-us/ for an online chat Or contact your local police station. If you have been abused, remember it’s not your fault.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Posie Parker, a self-described women’s rights activist, caused controversy with her arrival in New Zealand. Large protests against her talks sparked debates on free speech, hate speech, and cultural differences regarding trans issues. The rally also featured counter-protester Eliana Ribushkin, a trans woman who hit Parker with tomato soup, showcasing her motivations and willingness to face arrest.

Modern dating can be a minefield and navigating sex with a new person can make things even more nerve-wrecking. A recent Bumble survey found 39 per cent of Kiwi singles admit to feeling inexperienced in the bedroom which impacts their self-confidence. Today on the Herald’s In the Loop podcast, Bumble’s resident sexologist Chantelle Otten speaks to hosts Cheree Kinnear and Katie Harris about attraction, chemistry and how to gain confidence with sex. Later in the show, 31-year-old Otten said reveals how people in non-monogamous relationships, unexplainable chemistry and exploring how we engage with others in the world.Follow us on Instagram at itlpod :)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Cheree shares her heartbreak after miscarriage and the need for more open conversations about pregnancy loss. The podcast explores the emotional rollercoaster of pregnancy, breaking down the barriers of sharing miscarriage experiences, the recovery journey, and the transformative impact of miscarriage. The speakers emphasize the power of openly sharing experiences and seeking support for grief.

In this special (early release!) episode of In the Loop, Katie chats to her sister Laura and her friend Nicky about all things polyamory. Laura is in a long-term relationship with two other women, and Nicky is also polyamorous but is not in a committed relationship right now. The pair share their feelings on monogamy, jealousy, what it's like being in love with more than one person and why they chose polyamory. We loved this ep, especially how open and honest both Nicky and Laura were, and we hope you do too!  Find queer resources, information and support at Rainbow Youth (09) 376 4155. Follow us on Instagram at Itlpod :)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, Cheree and Katie sit down with a former Calendar Girls worker Alice* to speak about the collective contract negotiations that they claim resulted in 19 women getting dropped. She also speaks about wider issues in the industry and what they would like to see change.  *Alice's name has been changed to protect her privacy.  Calendar Girls claimed in a statement it had not changed its private dancer cost for 12 years. “In hindsight we should put the cost up a little each year.” The organisation said that while the percentage had changed, the contractor amount went up. However, the former worker disagreed and said a 50 per cent cut was less than 60 per cent. Calendar Girls also said the contracts were written by a specialist lawyer and although there were fines in the contracts “not one” has been issued in Wellington this financial year. “The 19 contractors, some of which who have already moved on or only do a day here and there and, with a limited amount of lockers, we need them for new contractors working weekly. All of which were told they could re-apply online.” A dancer also disputed the claim they were told to re-apply.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lip flips, buccal fat removal, and baby botox are all in a minutes scrolling on social media these days. Whether it’s on your favourite celebrity, colleague, or even your mother, the latest cosmetic procedures have become the topic du jour for many Sunday brunches. Sarah Hart, an Auckland-based cosmetic medicine doctor has seen beauty trends come and go for decades. She speaks to In the Loop about social media trends, what actually works, how she got into cosmetic medicine plus much more.  Follow us on Instagram at itlpod :)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Redundancies, contract disputes and personal grievances are always in the headlines, but what’s it really like for the lawyers at the coal face? Today In the Loop host Katie Harris chats to senior solicitor Lizzie Thomas about contracts, non-compete clauses and the common cases that come across her desk. In the episode the pair discuss the importance of thoroughly reading employment contracts, common mistakes people make when signing the documents and what kind of cases are the most common. Thomas explains non-compete and other post-employment clauses, which are in place across industries, and why they can be enforced. Follow us on Instagram at itlpod :) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Bella Howarth, 22, didn’t exactly fall into social media fame. While TikTok was never a specific ambition, from age 12 Howarth knew she wanted to make videos.“I was trying to be like a vlogger, like Zoella, I think my handle [on YouTube] was Dorkabella.”While her YouTube career wasn’t meant to be, and she has now scraped all evidence from the internet, she’s now found success on the video-sharing app TikTok. Speaking to the Herald’s In the Loop podcast, Howarth details what it’s like sharing so much of her personal life, dealing with trolls and being recognised in public.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.