Life's Dirty Little Secrets Podcast | Breaking Silence Around the Secrets We All Carry

Grief is an inevitable part of life, but do we truly understand its complex nature and the different ways it affects us? Dive into this enlightening episode as Dr. Ray Owen, a seasoned clinical and health psychologist, unravels the multifaceted world of grief. With over forty years in the National Health Service, Dr. Owen brings unparalleled insights into the universality of grief, its manifestations beyond just sadness, and how cultural nuances affect our grieving process.Explore why grief can be so much more than just a singular emotion, as Dr. Owen discusses everything from anger and shame to the dark side of resilience and the concept of disenfranchised grief. Together with hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry, this episode delves deep into the cognitive processes that accompany loss, whether it's the death of a loved one, a pet, or even an identity shift due to life changes.Perfect for anyone experiencing loss or for those seeking to better understand this profound emotion, this conversation provides actionable insights and empathetic understanding. Decode the secrets of coping with Dr. Owen’s valuable perspective—your journey towards healing could begin right here.Topics Discussed in this Episode: Universality of human grief Varied facets of grief expression Role of cultural influences on grief Challenges of disenfranchised grief Navigating loss and life transitionsView the extended shownotes hereStruggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

Achieve more while living joyfully—it's possible! In this insightful episode, Dr. Mary Anderson, a clinical psychologist and author, discusses the transformative concept of being a "Happy High Achiever." Dr. Anderson explores how the relentless pursuit of excellence can often entangle individuals in anxiety and stress and offers cognitive-behavioral strategies to rewrite this paradigm.Listeners will learn to redefine success by focusing on values-based goals rather than perfectionistic outcomes. Dr. Anderson introduces the SELF acronym—sleep, exercise, look forward, and fuel—as the foundation for essential self-care, aimed at maintaining energy and well-being alongside achievement.This episode also highlights the power of positive self-talk, encouraging a shift in focus from cognitive distortions to constructive thoughts. Dr. Anderson's insights help listeners navigate societal pressures, promoting mental and emotional health without losing their competitive edge.Tune in to explore a roadmap for sustainable success, equipping you with the tools to excel in professional and personal realms while prioritizing mental health and happiness.Highlights: Happy High Achievers: Eight Essentials to Manage Stress and Energize for Success Overcoming Social Media Pressure in High Achievement Implementing Self-Care in Daily Life Shifting from Outcome Focus to Process Orientation The SELF Care Fundamentals: Science-Backed Approaches for Sustained High PerformanceClick here to read the extended shownotesStruggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

Navigating the turbulent waters of parenting an anxious child might just hold the key to fostering resilience and emotional growth in both parents and kids alike. In this episode, hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry engage in a meaningful dialogue about the reality of anxiety in parenting and how it not only affects parents but also their children.They explore the evolutionary roots of anxiety, emphasizing that it's a natural, baked-in response meant to protect us. By normalizing anxiety as part of the parenting journey, the hosts empower listeners with strategies to support children who exhibit anxious tendencies.Their candid conversation includes practical tools like the acronym "SOBER," offering a structured approach to handling anxious moments effectively. With the importance of modeling resilience and defining family values, Emma and Chris illuminate how parents can guide their children toward greater independence and emotional well-being.This episode is brimming with insightful strategies and compassionate advice, making it a valuable resource for any parent seeking to better understand and navigate anxiety within their family lives. Listen in to discover how embracing, rather than battling, anxiety can lead to a deeper connection with your child and a more fulfilling family dynamic.Highlights: Understanding Anxiety Parent and Child Dynamics with Anxiety Temperament and Anxiety Influence of Social Media and Society on Anxiety Recognizing Problematic Anxiety Parental Strategies and Coping MechanismsView extended shownotes hereORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)Struggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

Uncovering the tree that bends and thrives may just redefine how you approach mental well-being amidst life's storms. In this episode, Dr. Ross White, an acclaimed clinical psychologist, takes us on a journey through the metaphor of a tree that bends during turbulent times, drawing from his extensive work with high-performing individuals and culturally diverse populations. He shares how the Tanzanian proverb, "the wind does not break the tree that bends," serves as an empowering metaphor in his book, emphasizing resilience and flexibility.Dr. White discusses the zero-sum game fallacy, conveying that success and well-being need not mutually exclude each other. Highlighting the importance of thriving over mere surviving, he passionately debunks the endurance culture's myths, urging listeners to embrace traits like flexibility and self-compassion. The discourse around burnout post-pandemic, and the societal pressures magnified by social media, sets a backdrop for his practical wisdom on thriving.He introduces the powerful method of reflection through the get, threat, and reset modes of motivation. By blending insights from nature with psychological frameworks, Dr. White offers actionable strategies for nurturing a flexible and self-fulfilling mindset. Anchored in acceptance and commitment therapy principles, this conversation is a masterclass in aligning one's purpose with their daily actions.Whether you’re seeking profound psychological insights or practical advice for fostering a balanced life, this episode with Dr. Ross White offers an inspiring exploration of sustaining success without losing oneself. A must-listen for anyone aiming to thrive amidst life's challenges, anchored in resilience and compassion.Highlights: The Tanzanian Proverb: The Tree That Bends Concept of Thriving and Well-being Cultural Expectations and Mental Health Balancing Success and Emotional Health Emotional Awareness and Regulation Purpose and Intention in Life Challenges of High Performance Role of Self-Compassion and Willingness Forming PurposeStruggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

Unveil the secret to crafting a fulfilling life even amid turmoil. In this episode, Dr. Jenna LeJeune, a distinguished psychologist, engages in a profound conversation about what truly constitutes a meaningful life. She emphasizes the power of choice, challenging the notion that there is an inherent purpose to discover, and instead advocates for consciously deciding what principles and values we want our lives to embody.The episode also tackles the uncomfortable reality that living authentically aligned with one's values often accompanies discomfort and pain. LeJeune sheds light on how our deepest values can bring honor to our suffering, challenging the cultural fixation on feeling good. Rather than fixating on avoiding negative emotions, LeJeune suggests focusing on how we can embody our values in any situation, making values the great equalizer—accessible regardless of external circumstances.Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own lives, the autopiloted values shaped by history, and the importance of stepping outside oneself to recognize and honor the person enduring hardship. This episode is a compelling guide for anyone striving to live with integrity and intention, offering practical wisdom to navigate the complexities of human experience.Highlights: Creating a Meaningful Life Discovering Your Values What are Values? Suffering and Values Values Dilemma in Daily Life Challenges with Values Approach to Values in TherapyView extended shownotes hereStruggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode, Dr. Eric Morris, an associate professor at Latrobe University and Consultant Clinical Psychologist, challenges our traditional understanding of psychosis and mental health. With over 30 years of experience in both Australia and the UK, Morris brings a fresh perspective on how we view and treat unusual experiences often labeled as psychosis.The conversation explores how the boundaries between what we consider "normal" and "psychotic" experiences are far more fluid than traditionally believed. Morris explains that unusual experiences, such as hearing voices or having unique perceptions, are actually more common in the general population than previously thought, with up to 10% of people experiencing voice hearing and 20-30% having paranoid or suspicious thoughts.The discussion takes an important turn toward pragmatism, emphasizing that the key issue isn't the presence of unusual experiences but rather how we relate to them and their impact on daily functioning. Morris advocates for moving away from rigid categorization toward a more nuanced, contextual understanding that considers the person's entire life circumstances and cultural background.This episode is essential listening for anyone interested in understanding mental health from a more compassionate, nuanced perspective.Highlights: Psychotic-like Experiences in Everyday Life Common Misconceptions About Psychosis ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) and Psychosis Impacts of Cultural Narratives on Perception Path Forward: Rethinking Mental HealthView extended shownotes hereTimestamps:00:00 "Understanding Unusual Human Experiences"06:09 Cultural Views on Psychosis11:57 Understanding Diverse Perceptions of the Mind21:28 Reevaluating Psychosis in Youth25:11 Embracing and Understanding Life Experiences32:41 Beyond Labels: Understanding Individual Experiences39:29 Shifting Societal Expectations and Behaviors43:24 PStruggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

Unlocking the complexities of ADHD and perfectionism can be a game-changer for many seeking self-understanding and balance. In this episode, Michaela Thomas, a senior clinical psychologist, delves into how self-identification and formal diagnosis can transform lives in therapeutic and group coaching settings. She sheds light on the nuanced relationship between ADHD and perfectionism, explaining how perfectionism often suppresses joy and hinders self-expression.Thomas passionately explores the heightened sensitivity to rejection that individuals with ADHD experience, tying it to past ostracization and the resulting hypervigilance in social situations. This conversation is packed with insights on managing multiple responsibilities and the challenges of binary thinking common in ADHD.From discussing the ADHD brain’s unique motivations—including urgency, interest, challenge, and novelty—to addressing emotional variability and hormonal influences, Michaela Thomas offers a comprehensive view of ADHD. She recommends Jennifer Kemp's "The Neurodivergence Workbook" and invites listeners to her podcast "Pause Purpose Play," promising a continuation of this vital discussion.Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry add depth by focusing on compassion, self-awareness, and practical strategies to manage ADHD symptoms. Whether it's understanding coping mechanisms or debunking misconceptions about ADHD in women, this episode is a treasure trove of information for anyone navigating the ADHD journey.Listen in to discover empowering insights and practical tips for harnessing the strengths of ADHD while mitigating its challenges. This episode is essential for those seeking to better understand their own minds or support loved ones with ADHD, all through a lens of compassion and self-compassion.Highlights: ADHD and Perfectionism Connection Emotional Sensitivity in ADHD ADHD Diagnosis as a Starting Point ADHD Coping Strategies for WomenView extended shownotes hereStruggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode of Life's Dirty Little Secrets, hosts Chris McCurry and Emma Waddington welcome back clinical psychologist Debbie Sorensen to discuss the growing issue of parental burnout.Sorensen, an expert on chronic stress and burnout, elaborates on the overwhelming pressures faced by modern parents and how societal expectations, economic pressures, and lack of support contribute to their exhaustion. The conversation also touches on perfectionism, micro stressors, and the importance of self-compassion and support networks. They provide practical advice, emphasizing the importance of asking for help, reducing expectations, and ensuring parental well-being.Highlights: Parental Burnout Mental Health Support Systems For Parents Perfectionism And Its Impact On Parenting Optimal Frustration In Child Development Self-care For ParentsView extended shownotes here:https://www.lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast.com/episodes/secret-44-parental-burnout-with-debbie-sorensenStruggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode of Life's Dirty Little Secrets, hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry are joined by Nike Oruh, a therapeutic specialist and clinical lead counselor at Edinburgh Napier University.The discussion delves into the struggles young men face today, focusing on their search for purpose, the influence of social media, gender role shifts, and the need for safe spaces to express emotions.The conversation emphasizes the importance of emotional vocabulary, positive role models, and community support systems to help young men navigate the complexities of modern masculinity and emotional well-being.Highlights: Understanding Young Men's Behavior Anger and Emotion Addressing Societal Issues Intersectionality and Resilience Emotional Support Framework Safe Spaces for Expressions Role Models and Empowerment Managing Struggles and EmpowermentResources Mentioned in this Episode: Jackson Katz: https://search.app/EfiaBa6UdeuMJhKw9About Nike Oruh:Subscribe to Nike’s Substack - VII Breaths Substack: VII Breaths JournalNike is an experienced therapeutic specialist with a demonstrated history of working in the Health & Wellbeing industry. He has spent the past two decades involved in emotional and sexual health, which began with a non-profit organisation whose main aim was to help young people make informed choices. Nike has developed his communication skills, training and experience as a therapist across various settings and environments. Which led to his contribution to the seminal counselling book First Steps in Counselling (5th Edition) (PCCS Books).His expertise in the areas of Men’s Health, Race & Equality and emotional wellbeing are in high demand from Higher Education (Edinburgh, Stirling and StrathclydStruggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode, Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry welcome back Dr. Jonathan Caspi, a sibling expert and family therapist, to discuss the intricate dynamics of sibling relationships.Dr. Caspi delves into the complexities of sibling conflict, the importance of closeness, and the impact of perceptions of favoritism. He provides actionable strategies for parents to preempt conflicts, establish rules of engagement, and reinforce positive interactions.The conversation also highlights the critical issues of sibling abuse and the lifelong benefits of strong sibling bonds. Raising Loving Siblings Sibling Conflict and Closeness The Importance of Sibling Relationships Gender Differences in Sibling Relationships Parental Influence on Sibling DynamicsAbout Dr. Jonathan CaspiVisit Dr. Caspi’s websiteFollow @siblingexpert on XOrder Dr. Caspi’s booksDr. Caspi is a Professor in the Department of Family Science & Human Development at Montclair State University, where he teaches about and studies sibling relationships. He has written 3 books and a host of academic articles, mostly about siblings. Dr. Caspi is also an individual, marriage and family therapist. In addition, he is a media consultant with appearances on NPR, The Brian Lehrer Show, WNYC, WHYY, the New York Times, CNN, Wall Street Journal, Washington Post & elsewhere. His 4th book, a parenting guide to learning about what exacerbates sibling conflict and how to manage it, will be out on Guilford Publishing, either later this year or early in 2025.Struggling with your child’s big feelings? Our new children’s workbooks are here to help kids and parents handle worry, disappointment, and anger using practical, compassionate tools. Follow the journeys of Justin Case, the Glumm Twins, and Max Cross as they learn that tough emotions are normal and manageable. Find all three workbooks at bookstores everywhere and give your family the support they deserve. ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)