Life's Dirty Little Secrets Podcast | Breaking Silence Around the Secrets We All Carry

In this episode, Dr. Eric Morris, an associate professor at Latrobe University and Consultant Clinical Psychologist, challenges our traditional understanding of psychosis and mental health. With over 30 years of experience in both Australia and the UK, Morris brings a fresh perspective on how we view and treat unusual experiences often labeled as psychosis.The conversation explores how the boundaries between what we consider "normal" and "psychotic" experiences are far more fluid than traditionally believed. Morris explains that unusual experiences, such as hearing voices or having unique perceptions, are actually more common in the general population than previously thought, with up to 10% of people experiencing voice hearing and 20-30% having paranoid or suspicious thoughts.The discussion takes an important turn toward pragmatism, emphasizing that the key issue isn't the presence of unusual experiences but rather how we relate to them and their impact on daily functioning. Morris advocates for moving away from rigid categorization toward a more nuanced, contextual understanding that considers the person's entire life circumstances and cultural background.This episode is essential listening for anyone interested in understanding mental health from a more compassionate, nuanced perspective.Highlights: Psychotic-like Experiences in Everyday Life Common Misconceptions About Psychosis ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) and Psychosis Impacts of Cultural Narratives on Perception Path Forward: Rethinking Mental HealthView extended shownotes hereTimestamps:00:00 "Understanding Unusual Human Experiences"06:09 Cultural Views on Psychosis11:57 Understanding Diverse Perceptions of the Mind21:28 Reevaluating Psychosis in Youth25:11 Embracing and Understanding Life Experiences32:41 Beyond Labels: Understanding IndividuMax Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

Unlocking the complexities of ADHD and perfectionism can be a game-changer for many seeking self-understanding and balance. In this episode, Michaela Thomas, a senior clinical psychologist, delves into how self-identification and formal diagnosis can transform lives in therapeutic and group coaching settings. She sheds light on the nuanced relationship between ADHD and perfectionism, explaining how perfectionism often suppresses joy and hinders self-expression.Thomas passionately explores the heightened sensitivity to rejection that individuals with ADHD experience, tying it to past ostracization and the resulting hypervigilance in social situations. This conversation is packed with insights on managing multiple responsibilities and the challenges of binary thinking common in ADHD.From discussing the ADHD brain’s unique motivations—including urgency, interest, challenge, and novelty—to addressing emotional variability and hormonal influences, Michaela Thomas offers a comprehensive view of ADHD. She recommends Jennifer Kemp's "The Neurodivergence Workbook" and invites listeners to her podcast "Pause Purpose Play," promising a continuation of this vital discussion.Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry add depth by focusing on compassion, self-awareness, and practical strategies to manage ADHD symptoms. Whether it's understanding coping mechanisms or debunking misconceptions about ADHD in women, this episode is a treasure trove of information for anyone navigating the ADHD journey.Listen in to discover empowering insights and practical tips for harnessing the strengths of ADHD while mitigating its challenges. This episode is essential for those seeking to better understand their own minds or support loved ones with ADHD, all through a lens of compassion and self-compassion.Highlights: ADHD and Perfectionism Connection Emotional Sensitivity in ADHD ADHD Diagnosis as a Starting Point ADHD Coping Strategies for WomenView Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode of Life's Dirty Little Secrets, hosts Chris McCurry and Emma Waddington welcome back clinical psychologist Debbie Sorensen to discuss the growing issue of parental burnout.Sorensen, an expert on chronic stress and burnout, elaborates on the overwhelming pressures faced by modern parents and how societal expectations, economic pressures, and lack of support contribute to their exhaustion. The conversation also touches on perfectionism, micro stressors, and the importance of self-compassion and support networks. They provide practical advice, emphasizing the importance of asking for help, reducing expectations, and ensuring parental well-being.Highlights: Parental Burnout Mental Health Support Systems For Parents Perfectionism And Its Impact On Parenting Optimal Frustration In Child Development Self-care For ParentsView extended shownotes here:https://www.lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast.com/episodes/secret-44-parental-burnout-with-debbie-sorensenMax Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode of Life's Dirty Little Secrets, hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry are joined by Nike Oruh, a therapeutic specialist and clinical lead counselor at Edinburgh Napier University.The discussion delves into the struggles young men face today, focusing on their search for purpose, the influence of social media, gender role shifts, and the need for safe spaces to express emotions.The conversation emphasizes the importance of emotional vocabulary, positive role models, and community support systems to help young men navigate the complexities of modern masculinity and emotional well-being.Highlights: Understanding Young Men's Behavior Anger and Emotion Addressing Societal Issues Intersectionality and Resilience Emotional Support Framework Safe Spaces for Expressions Role Models and Empowerment Managing Struggles and EmpowermentResources Mentioned in this Episode: Jackson Katz: https://search.app/EfiaBa6UdeuMJhKw9About Nike Oruh:Subscribe to Nike’s Substack - VII Breaths Substack: VII Breaths JournalNike is an experienced therapeutic specialist with a demonstrated history of working in the Health & Wellbeing industry. He has spent the past two decades involved in emotional and sexual health, which began with a non-profit organisation whose main aim was to help young people make informed choices. Nike has developed his communication skills, training and experience as a therapist across various settings and environments. Which led to his contribution to the seminal counselling book First Steps in Counselling (5th Edition) (PCCS Books).His expertise in the areas of Men’s Health, Race & Equality and emotional wMax Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode, Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry welcome back Dr. Jonathan Caspi, a sibling expert and family therapist, to discuss the intricate dynamics of sibling relationships.Dr. Caspi delves into the complexities of sibling conflict, the importance of closeness, and the impact of perceptions of favoritism. He provides actionable strategies for parents to preempt conflicts, establish rules of engagement, and reinforce positive interactions.The conversation also highlights the critical issues of sibling abuse and the lifelong benefits of strong sibling bonds. Raising Loving Siblings Sibling Conflict and Closeness The Importance of Sibling Relationships Gender Differences in Sibling Relationships Parental Influence on Sibling DynamicsAbout Dr. Jonathan CaspiVisit Dr. Caspi’s websiteFollow @siblingexpert on XOrder Dr. Caspi’s booksDr. Caspi is a Professor in the Department of Family Science & Human Development at Montclair State University, where he teaches about and studies sibling relationships. He has written 3 books and a host of academic articles, mostly about siblings. Dr. Caspi is also an individual, marriage and family therapist. In addition, he is a media consultant with appearances on NPR, The Brian Lehrer Show, WNYC, WHYY, the New York Times, CNN, Wall Street Journal, Washington Post & elsewhere. His 4th book, a parenting guide to learning about what exacerbates sibling conflict and how to manage it, will be out on Guilford Publishing, either later this year or early in 2025.Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode we are joined by Dr. Steve Graybar, a clinical psychologist from the University of Arizona.They delve into the complex and sensitive topic of gender affirming care for minors. Dr. Graybar provides a nuanced analysis, advocating for a more comprehensive and research-based approach to gender affirming care. He emphasizes the need to reimagine the current model to include thorough psychological evaluation and family therapy while cautioning against the politically charged atmosphere surrounding the issue.The discussion also explores the risks of medical transitioning and the importance of empirical support and informed consent in making these significant decisions.Topics Discussed: Evolution of gender reassignment and need for long-term follow-up studies Social pressures and vulnerabilities during adolescence Emphasis on family therapy to prevent parental alienation Societal Approach and Policy RecommendationsAbout Steve GraybarFollow Steve on LinkedinClinical Psychologist, Associate Clinical Professor University of Arizona, Tucson, AZ, all around nice guy.Follow us on Facebook @lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast and on Instagram @lifesdirtylittlesecretsReach out and let us know you are listening and what you would like to hear on the show - email:lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast@gmail.comMax Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode of 'Life's Dirty Little Secrets,' hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry are joined by Dr. Russell Kolts, a clinical psychologist and professor at Eastern Washington University. They discuss the complexities of masculinity and anger in today's society.Dr. Kolts shares insights on how societal expectations shape male behavior, the challenges men face in expressing emotions, and the importance of creating safe spaces for men to be vulnerable. The discussion also covers the role of temperament and upbringing in emotional development and highlights the impact of competitive social contexts on behavior.The episode emphasizes the need for both men and women to support emotional expression and vulnerability in boys and men to foster healthier relationships and communities.Topics Discussed: Detoxifying Masculinity and Anger Management Societal Expectations and Gender Differences Creating Safe Spaces for Men The Consent ConversationAbout Russell KoltsWatch Russell’s TEDx TalkCheck out An Open-Hearted Life. Shambhala. 2015.Read The Anger Workbook: Discover the Strength to Transform Your Anger Using Your Compassionate Mind. Robinson (Little, Brown Book Group). 2024.Learn more about The Compassionate Mind Guide to Managing Your Anger. New Harbinger Publications. 2012.Read Buddhist Psychology and Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy: A Clinician's Guide. The Guilford Press. 2016.Russell Kolts is a clinical psychologist and founder of the Inland Northwest CompassioMax Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode of 'Life's Dirty Little Secrets,' hosts Chris McCurry and Emma Waddington delve into the transformative power of compassion and human connection in healthcare. Joined by pediatric nurse and humanitarian Becky Platt, who recently completed a mission in Gaza with Save the Children, they explore the profound impact of empathy in high-pressure medical environments.The discussion spans heart-wrenching stories of young patients, the courage in providing dignified end-of-life care, and the mutual gifts of understanding during moments of grief. Becky shares insights from her nonprofit 'Don't Forget the Bubbles,' which offers educational resources to support those caring for sick children. The episode emphasizes the importance of regarding patients as whole individuals, advocating for a humane approach in caregiving that values every human interaction, and highlights how these acts of compassion can mitigate burnout in healthcare professionals.Join us as we reflect on the radical idea of 'loving your patient' and the power of love and connection as tools for healing and therapy.Highlights: Human Connection In Healthcare Importance Of Compassion Personal Reflections And Emotional Connections Dealing With Parental GuiltWatch Becky’s TEDxNHS talkLearn more about Don't Forget the BubblesBecky Platt is an Advanced Clinical Practitioner in Paediatric A&E at the Royal London, an executive member of the Don’t Forget the Bubbles team and a senior lecturer on the PEM MSc at QMUL. Becky has deployed to several disease outbreaks and conflict zones with humanitarian organisations, most recently to Gaza with Save the Children. She was awarded the British Empire Medal in 2021 for her overseas humanitarian work.Becky is passionate about humanity in healthcare, putting patients first, and caring for staff. She regularly hosts debrief sessions after clinical incMax Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode, we are joined by special guests Christopher Michaelson & Jennifer Tosti-Kharas. As co-authors of "Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work," they provide a compelling examination of how to find purpose and value in one's career.The episode explores the privilege of questioning the worthiness of work and the generational shifts in work perception. From Christopher’s poignant reflections on his grandfather's and mother's work experiences to the societal undervaluation of critical roles like delivery workers and cleaners, the discussion dives deep into what truly makes work meaningful.Listeners will hear about the impact of historical events like 9/11 on work motivations, and the persistent dilemma of working for love versus money.The discussion emphasizes the liberating notion of not having all the answers and the importance of curiosity in navigating work life. Michaelson introduces the concept of 'dancing with work,' promoting a healthier and more flexible relationship with our careers.Join us as we unpack the intricate relationship between work, happiness, and societal contribution, encouraging a mindset of adaptive curiosity and practical fulfillment.Highlights: Meaning & Fulfillment:Understand why examining the meaning of your work and questioning your purpose is more beneficial than seeking absolute answers. Societal Values:Reflect on the societal undervaluing of certain essential jobs and the overdue reevaluation prompted by the pandemic. Employer Motivation:Discover why highlighting the importance of work can be more motivating for employees than punitive measures. Privilege of Passion:Realize the privilege linked with finding a “calling” and the potential burnout from societal pressure.Visit: Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

In this episode of Life's Dirty Little Secrets, hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry talk to Carina Simmons, a consultant clinical psychologist from Barts National Health Service Trust, Royal London Hospital. Carina discusses the complexities surrounding youth interpersonal violence, the impact of social media, and the challenges faced by youth in managing emotions and mental health.Emphasizing a holistic approach, Carina highlights the importance of addressing both individual and systemic factors, the need for early intervention, and the role of emotional literacy in preventing violence. The conversation also explores the unique difficulties faced by young men in expressing emotions and the therapeutic potential of building strong, trusting relationships.Highlights: Understanding Youth Violence Role of Social Media in Youth Violence Causes of Youth Violence Male Emotional Expression Complex trauma in youthTimestamps:00:00 Introduction and Clarification00:24 Meet Carina Simmons01:05 Understanding Youth Violence01:36 Factors Contributing to Youth Violence03:56 Approaches in Trauma Centers06:14 Complex Trauma and Mental Health15:47 Gender Differences in Emotional Expression25:29 The Role of Social Media34:57 Supporting Emotional Literacy50:43 Final Thoughts and ReflectionsAbout Carina SimmonsMore about Barts NHS Trust based in the Royal London HospitalLearn more about London’s Air AmbulanceLearn more about The Major Trauma CentreI am a Consultant Clinical Psychologist at Barts NHS Trust based in the Royal London Hospital. I lead the Major Trauma Centre's Clinical Psychology Service which aims to integrate psychological anMax Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)