Results & Relationships

Create Results to Connect and elevate others For longlasting relationships Embrace uncertainty for great results & healthy relationships. Here we ask ourselves hard questions and embrace serious commitments. For a life with lots of fun play, long-lasting relationships, and legacy-worthy results. Accepting Reality, Data, and that not everything matters. Connecting, elevating, enrolling those who care. Its spirals and circles. Relationships are a gift we can not take for granted, none of us. Results are something anyone can do independently of where we are on any kind of “ladder” we call can do, however small if we just choose to care. What small thing can you do today to help connect and elevate someone else? Explore thyself, harness data. Dare to experiment. Evaluate accepting multiple axes for what better looks like. Be kind to others, and yourself,  by putting yourself on the line for those who care (this podcast was before known as "Relationship Power at work")

Someone once said. Life is an empty bag and it's your job to fill it purposely and wisely. For a long time I believed that meant to fill it richly, with great friends and work that really, honestly mattered to those I serve. What I missed is that the choice where something belongs is a choice you make BEFORE choosing and creating space for the bag, not when it's too full for effective work or whatever the purpose of the bag is. if you know what each bag is for, and its containers choosing to NOT move it to another bag instead of dealing with it is a lot easier once it gets fuller than ideal. Not having made the choice early and trying to squeeze your favorite into a full bag is really really emotionally hard. Yet that's how I and most I know often do it. Buying a new bag/storage isnt a long-term solution. Likewise not using the important bags for making space for what matters recurringly. Constraints are your friend. Lean onto them to help yourself and others earlier, not later.

Are you reserving some of your capacity for enabling others without you trading time to help them get to where they need?

What are you teaching whom right now? Every moment is an open possibility for kindness to others and yourself, for coaching for committing yourself for those you care about dont wait for the big thing make the small moments matter, again and again.

Do you see what matters to those you serve or are you investing in your own illusions and biases? What pieces have to exist in order for your strategy to work longterm? What pieces might exist that you are not seeing and what are you doing to become aware? What pieces does other need to see in order to get to where they are going?   We never see all the pieces that matter, but accepting there is more than we know helps. accepting the uncertainty of what we see and dont see helps free up alot

just a long list of questions to make our heart and mind rest while looking within and beyond

Please help remind those you care about to protect their accounts & devices with Multifactor authentication everywhere. Seek out ways to stay safe, helping those who you believe dont have the knowledge or capacity. its always been urgent. Now you cant afford to wait any more. Help save others by lending a nudge, insight or knowledge. in cyber distance is an illusion and the forces are unreal with very real consequence for you.

Seeing, asking and facing what isn't being said by lifting the Question How often to you actually pause and make space for yourself to know your position before answering? How often do you refocus on why that ask you for a recommendation? WHY they are asking in the first place? what is is the ask for a recommended for?  Why do they ask you? Why now? Where are they now and do you see clearly where they want to go? Whats your position in the recommendation? You're not in their shoes. Dont let them drag you there. Surely have empathy for their position but remain in yours. That said said, respectfully levelup their question in a way you think will help them get from where they are and where they want to go. Dont settle for detours.  

No one care how much effort you invested - they care about how it can help them from where they are to where they are going release freely and often. if your idea is all you've got you've got nothing. share it with those who need it and embrace reality. if you have to lock in knowledge you're turning into a commodity. like the hackers in the 80th used to say. information want to be free deliberately put time-blocks onto your calendar to practice with the intent to throw away Do things early enough with margins to let go.  create remarkable space for opportunity.  put yourself in a position where your effort matters and get evaluated by those you want to help time-blocking, intentional action, reflecting on outcome is key. How often do you do it like that?