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Listening is a powerful skill that can transform our interactions and relationships. It opens up doors to deeper understanding, connection, and empathy and ultimately cultivates something equally valuable, and that is humility. Michal Lehmann is a post-doctoral researcher at Carnegie Mellon University, focused on exploring the intricacies of humility from a dyadic perspective. Her research delves into the causes, outcomes, and boundary conditions of virtues in the workplace, with a special emphasis on how humility can enhance one's understanding of people from diverse backgrounds. She is the lead author of a paper about dyadic humility among co-workers published in the Journal of Applied Psychology, as well as a paper about listening as an intervention to increase humility published in the Journal of Positive Psychology. In this episode, Michal explores the power of listening at a dyadic level. By emphasizing the importance of listening, team members can uncover better ideas and contribute to improved performance. This, in turn, fuels the success of the organization and enhances its bottom line results. "When someone listens really, really well, but truly and authentically well, they become part of another person's story." - Michal Lehmann SUPERPOWER Notes: 01:36 - What was it like for Michal to notice the power of listening 02:48 - The significance of her father's act of listening with her. 03:33 - How she got into research in the listening space 08:33 - Listening to your spark: It's like the scent of spring, of blossoms that when I feel I found something interesting. 11:02 - Two questions she focused on in her research about humility at work: What could increase humility between two people? Once I am humble in the presence of another person, how will that affect this other person at work? 13:53 - Humility taking place in a dyadic relationship 16:04 - How listening contributes to humility: We found that listening helps create humility for both partners, for the speaker and the listener. 16:59 - Two main components of literature that explains why listening makes people more humble: Internal complexity and external complexity 20:25 - Conducting experiments in different courses and coming up with interesting findings 22:19 - Recommendations on how to develop humility among team members 24:51 - Intellectual humility as it relates to empathy 27:10 - Measuring emphatic accuracy 28:25 - How to increase intellectual humility: Making them realize that we don't know everything and we could make mistakes. 30:55 - Benefits of cultivating intellectual humility in an organization: Productivity will increase and bottomline will also do much better 31:34 - Checking on her very own intellectual humility and what negative connotation people have with listening 36:08 - What she wants to achieve more in terms of listening: I would like to find more ways to make connections between science, research findings and the field. Key Takeaways: "Humility is particularly important because…you cannot be humble without another person. Humility is something that is perceived in the context of other people." - Michal Lehmann "It [listening] helps equalize things and it helps both partners to become more humble, but more so for the listener." - Michal Lehmann "When you truly listen to another person…you…merge with the other person. That's the strongest way to realize that you're not the center of the world and that you are part of something bigger. That is why when people listen, they become more humble, because they have the understanding that they're part of something more complicated, more complex." - Michal Lehmann "I think that leaders should let coworkers work on projects in dyads (pairs). Because we know there are some very important processes happening at that dyadic level and that might improve performance of the team." - Michal Lehmann Notes/Mentions: Ep. 60 Avi Kluger: https://listeningalchemy.com/listening-superpower/definition-of-listening-based-on-science-with-dr-avi-kluger/ Bradley Owens and David Hekman: https://journals.aom.org/doi/abs/10.5465/amj.2013.0660 Connect with Michal Lehmann: LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/michal-lehmann-74aa705/ Connect with Raquel Ark: www.listeningalchemy.com Mobile: + 491732340722 contact@listeningalchemy.com LinkedIn Podcast email: listeningsuperpower@gmail.com

Let's go back the memory lane and look back at how this podcast started. The podcast started as "Listen In" but evolved into the Listening Superpower podcast to explore the impact and importance of listening. Over the course of the podcast's three-year run, Raquel has engaged in conversations with experts and individuals from various fields, all centered around the topic of listening. In this episode of the Listening SUPERPOWER Podcast, Raquel reflects on the evolution of the podcast and its focus on the topic of listening. She shares her initial intention of capturing conversations with amazing people about the importance of listening in various aspects of life. Raquel discusses how the podcast has helped her learn and grow, and her desire to share these insights with the public. She talks about her journey of getting used to having her voice out in public and the decision to change the podcast's name from "Listen In" to the "Listening Superpower Podcast." Raquel explains that the podcast explores the power and impact of listening, both in positive and negative ways. She emphasizes that listening is not just about being passive, but also about active engagement, challenging each other, and asking questions. The episode concludes with Raquel's thoughts on the podcast's purpose, which is to inspire new ideas and perspectives through listening. Raquel expresses her curiosity about further exploring the integration of listening and speaking in communication to have a greater impact in daily life. "Integrating listening intentionally in communication can lead to greater impact and productivity." - Raquel Ark Listening SUPERPOWER Notes: 02:23 - Exploring the Depth of Listening: Discover how the podcast evolved from "Listen In" to the Listening Superpower Podcast, diving into the impact and importance of listening in various aspects of life and work. 05:12 - The Challenge of Herding Cats in a Listening Project: Learn about Raquel's experience in a listening project where the abundance of ideas and perspectives made it challenging to focus on a single prototype. 08:01 - Planning a Convention with a Listening Approach: Explore how Raquel applied a listening approach to planning a convention, empowering team members to take ownership and make decisions collaboratively. 11:11 - Active Listening and Collaboration: Understand the misconception that listening is passive and discover how active listening, challenging each other, and open conversations can lead to better collaboration and outcomes. 14:01 - Inspiring New Ideas and Perspectives: Learn how the Listening Superpower Podcast aims to inspire listeners by sharing stories and conversations that can change perspectives and create personal growth. 16:23 - Exploring Listening Alchemy: Delve into the concept of listening alchemy and its potential to transform challenging conversations into valuable insights and outcomes, and the intention to integrate listening intentionally in communication. Key Takeaways: "Once you start paying attention, listening is everywhere." "Listening Alchemy is about transforming messy conversations into valuable insights." "Integrating listening intentionally in communication can lead to greater impact and productivity." Connect with Raquel Ark: https://listeningalchemy.com/ Mobile: + 491732340722 contact@listeningalchemy.com LinkedIn: Raquel Ark https://www.linkedin.com/in/raquel-ark-b2067613/

How can listening help organizations have impact on critical global issues, while understanding and acting upon local needs? This tension is the space our next guest leans into in order to understand the real needs and potential. Jeff Hoffman is a Proven Public Affairs executive for The Walt Disney Company, the world's most storied and admired media and entertainment enterprise. He currently leads The Conference Board's Institute on Corporate Citizenship & Philanthropy, part of the ESG Center. He manages his own firm specializing in global corporate citizenship, ESG (environmental, social and governance), sustainability, philanthropy, and cause marketing. In this episode Jeff discusses the transformative power of offering a listening ear, which brings about magical experiences that enriches individuals' lives and has positive effects on their company and the community they're a part of. He also shares how he has navigated failures, challenges and successes, where listening or not listening well has played a role. Understand better how to have a bigger impact on global issues, yet adjust to the nuances of local needs. "The important thing about listening is also to understand what you're hearing… really try to pull the facts out of what you're listening to." - Jeff Hoffman Listening SUPERPOWER Notes: 00:33 - That time he experienced the power of listening by giving the people he talked to a magical listening experience 03:36 - What he realizes about the power of listening. 06:00 - Describing the corporate culture at Disney: You want your cast member to be the best and to bring out the richness of their own experiences into their role within the company. 12:13 - Understanding and recognizing everyone's differences: You have to understand where you are and what the needs are, and the differences. 20:35 - How he engages with the communities he serves in a manner that creates a powerful impact on them. 26:20 - Serving together to be effective: Habitat for Humanity International has done an amazing program where you can have volunteers volunteering with the people who are going to live in that home. 29:07 - Neighboring over volunteering 30:24 - Achieving the United Nations Sustainability Goals: It's all about coming together in community and collaboration and service. 35:32 - One important insight to understand about listening Key Takeaways: "... to understand differences, you need to talk to people, but you really need to listen and understand what they're saying." - Jeff Hoffman "We don't do a lot of telling now. We ask a lot of questions because we want you to tell us. We know (listening) is going to be more effective. And we're seeing that effectiveness where programs today are based on a lot of input from the people who are being served." - Jeff Hoffman Notes/Mentions: Episode 66 with Mary Alice Arthur: https://listeningalchemy.com/allgemein/a-journey-into-the-power-of-storytelling-with-mary-alice-arthur/https://listeningalchemy.com/allgemein/a-journey-into-the-power-of-storytelling-with-mary-alice-arthur/ Great Ormond Street Hospital for Children: https://www.gosh.nhs.uk/https://www.gosh.nhs.uk/ Connect with Jeff Hoffman: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hoffmanjeffrey/ Connect with Raquel Ark: www.listeningalchemy.com Mobile: + 491732340722 contact@listeningalchemy.com LinkedIn Podcast email: listeningsuperpower@gmail.com

Storytelling has captivated humanity since the beginning of time. It has the unique ability to transport us to different worlds, evoke emotions, and convey powerful messages. But storytelling is not just about entertaining and fascinating us; it is also about listening. By truly engaging with a story, we can gain deeper insights into ourselves and others, foster empathy, and broaden our perspectives. Mary Alice Arthur is a Story Activist working with story in service of positive systemic shift and for focusing collective intelligence on critical issues. She guides people to find and activate the story that will take them into a larger and more authentic future. With story as an ally, people become the visionary leaders, changemakers and paradigm shifters they want to be. They know the story is their lens on the world and determines their agency. They have the knowledge and tools to change it for the better. She is an internationally recognised process host, building capacity for people to bring their stories to life, and in practice for more than 25 years. She is inspired to work with large and small systemic stories holding keys for a more generative future. She is a steward of Art of Hosting, teaching participatory practice around the world, and co-creator of Collective Story Harvest methodology. Mary Alice is the author of 365 ALIVE! Find your voice. Claim your story. Live your brilliant life. and hosts THE STORY DOJO, an online community focused on the power and practice of story. She works with individuals, communities and organizations around the world. In this episode, my conversation with Mary Alice explores the how the superpowers of storytelling and listening are like the yin and yang. She shares stories that take us on a journey from being hired for jobs to shifting organizational culture and engaging employees in change projects. "If you want to be a good storyteller, you have to be a good listener." - Mary Alice Arthur Listening SUPERPOWER Notes: 00:24 - Sharing a moment in time when she becomes aware of the power of listening 02:52 - How curiosity allowed a listening experience to happen: This kind of curiosity feeds an inquiry about what's really going on or what really matters. 04:00 - Becoming a witness [withness] in a listening experience: I am inviting you to be with the storyteller, to be in service to the person who is speaking 05:59 - Understanding the power of withness: You can make somebody stronger or weaker in the power of your intention to them. 10:00 - What it means to be awake in an interaction between storyteller and listener: We create stories so that we could survive and we could thrive. 13:47 - The three waves of influence with which leaders use storytelling as a tool 19:00 - How to make people share their story and vulnerability: Somebody has to go first and it's a nice step for a leader to go first. 24:17 - A story that demonstrates the power of listening 27:34 - Re-energizing an organizational structure: Our listening and our storying can reawaken why we decided to say yes to the purpose that we're doing together. 31:41 - What you can get out of listening to one's self: If I really want to show up with my highest potential, I also need to listen to myself. 33:42 - Listening as love in action: You're important enough that I'm going to give you my full attention now. 35:31 - Sharing her experience of being listened to and seeing love in action 38:12 - How can I listen louder? Key Takeaways: "The business of stories is to be awake. And that can only happen with the power of good listening." - Mary Alice Arthur The quality of the people in the audience is determining how they show up, not the other way around. It's interesting to realize the power you have as a listener, and to know that it's intrinsic to the communication, the interaction you're having."- Mary Alice Arthur "The thing…about vulnerability is, uncomfortable does not mean unsafe. Sometimes getting on the edge of your comfort zone is exactly where you need to be."- Mary Alice Arthur "We have a challenge, when we're leaders or when we're facilitators or when we're anybody who's in charge of something and in front of something, oftentimes we are never in it; listening asks us to be in it with somebody."- Mary Alice Arthur "At the bottom of it all, listening is love in action. And if you intend it to be like that, people will feel that and more will come out of it."- Mary Alice Arthur Notes/Mentions: Stephen Covey:https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stephen_Covey David Drake: https://www.amazon.com/Narrative-Coaching-Definitive-Bringing-Stories/dp/0996356312https://www.amazon.com/Narrative-Coaching-Definitive-Bringing-Stories/dp/0996356312 David Huchens: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidhutchens/https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidhutchens/ Momo by Michael Inde: https://www.amazon.com/Momo-Puffin-Books-Michael-Ende/dp/0140317538https://www.amazon.com/Momo-Puffin-Books-Michael-Ende/dp/0140317538 Connect with Mary Alice Arthur: Website: https://www.getsoaring.com Connect with Raquel Ark: www.listeningalchemy.com Mobile: + 491732340722 contact@listeningalchemy.com LinkedIn Podcast email: listeningsuperpower@gmail.com

Discover the beauty of acceptance and the power of listening. Puneet Singh Singhal, founder of ssstart.org, joins Raquel Ark on the Listening Superpower podcast to discuss the power of listening and the importance of acceptance for people who stutter. Puneet shares his personal journey with stuttering and how it led him to create ssstart.org – a safe space for others facing the same challenges. He emphasizes the need for society to listen without interruption or judgment, and highlights the positive impact that listening can have on individuals and communities. Puneet 's journey of acceptance and empowerment through listening serves as a powerful reminder of the transformative power of genuine care and understanding. By actively listening and accepting individuals as they are, the organization fosters personal growth, confidence, and a sense of belonging. Through continued efforts and a commitment to listening, organizations and individuals can make a lasting impact on the lives of those who stutter and promote a world where everyone's voice is heard and valued. Don't miss our conversation. Tune in. Let's listen in. "Stuttering is just a difference, it's not a deficiency of any kind." - Puneet Singh Singhal Listening SUPERPOWER Notes: 00:48 - Puneet's experience of being a listener and observer 02:08 - Transition from being a stutterrer to becoming a public speaker 04:30 - Introduction to Puneet's organization, SSStart - creating a Safe Space for people who stutter 07:22 - The Power of Acceptance: Importance of listening and treating everyone as equals, stuttering as not a problem to be fixed, but a difference to be accepted and embraced. 11:01 - Puneet's personal story and drive to support others, acceptance and self-love as essentials in overcoming the challenges associated with stuttering 17:46 - Embracing Diversity and Curiosity: Welcoming curious people to learn and understand stuttering 20:57 - The power of listening and the importance of relationships, listening extends beyond the stuttering community and can enhance relationships and understanding in all aspects of life Key Takeaways: "Listening is a big part of the [community] because when we listen to someone who speaks in a different way, it changes our perspective and opens up a whole new world." - Puneet Singh "Have a good time. Listening to your partner, listening to your friends, listening to your colleague. I think it may help, it may not help, but it will always give you a better understanding and a better reflection of the world." - Puneet Singh Singhal "No amount of money will matter when we die. It's the relationships and memories that we build through our connections." - Puneet Singh Singhal Connect with Puneet Singh Singhal : Website:https://ssstart.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/123ssstart Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/puneet-singhal/ Connect with Raquel Ark: www.listeningalchemy.com Mobile: + 491732340722 contact@listeningalchemy.com LinkedIn Podcast email: listeningsuperpower@gmail.com

As humans, we have an immense potential within us waiting to be unlocked. However, often we find ourselves stuck in a fixed way of being, limiting our growth and potential. It's time to break free from this mindset and embrace curiosity as a way of life. Mark Vandeneijnde's keen sense of insight and market understanding was the source of many breakthrough initiatives during his 10-year corporate career with a large FMCG company. As co-founder of BEING at Full Potential, he now uses these same skills to help access the incredible potential that lies within individuals and their organizations. He is the co-architect of the HUMAN POTENTIAL Assessment Tool and an adventurous filmmaker in the area of Business Transformation. Let's join Mark in this episode as we explore n innovative and powerful tool that can help individuals unlock their full potential. This tool is designed to probe and challenge individuals in a way that leads to self-discovery and ultimately, solutions. "What I discovered is that it's not what you're doing that is necessarily related to your purpose, but it's the essence of what you're doing." - Mark Vandeneijnde Listening SUPERPOWER Notes: 01:52 - That moment he first noticed the power of listening: Stepping out of my corporate job and discovering something inside of me that I wanted to express more of. 04:45 - The turning point of that decision 10 years ago: I know what I need to do and I need to move on. 08:11 - How he got clarity in his purpose: Simply going back to those hobbies where you just lose yourself in the process. 13:56 - Tapping into the human potential: Let go of that fixed state of being and enter into a place of curiosity. 25:24 - What is The Human Potential Assessment tool: Listen to potential and to a certain extent even measure potential. 36:08 - What is the tool used for: To probe, to ask questions so that they can eventually come to the conclusion themselves. 41:30 - Entrepreneurship from a place of being: Meeting a need that is coming from within and bridging it to market needs. 47:31 - Advice to leaders on how to do things differently: Look at these young people as a fountain of creativity and ideas to survive long-term. 52:07 - How to support this creativity from younger generations: It's a cultural shift; a fundamental change at how organizations look at the potential of their people. 56:31 - Digging deep into the idea of an intrapreneur more than just being an entrepreneur Key Takeaways: "If we pay attention and delve beneath the surface of the things we love doing, we discover their essence, the profound quality that truly matters, and that's where the real power lies." - Mark Vandeneijnde "Organizations must adapt and prioritize how to tap into the natural creativity and ideas present among the younger generation." - Mark Vandeneijnde "We assume that senior leaders are the visionaries. However, it is often the junior members who possess the strongest connection to what the future holds." - Mark Vandeneijnde Connect with Mark Vandeneijnde : Website: https://beingatfullpotential.com/ Website [Human Potential Assessment]: https://beingatfullpotential.io Connect with Raquel Ark: www.listeningalchemy.com Mobile: + 491732340722 contact@listeningalchemy.com LinkedIn Podcast email: listeningsuperpower@gmail.com

It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking we know everything. What if we took a step back and listened more? Not only to other people, but also to ourselves and to the situation? By opening ourselves up to different perspectives and experiences, we start on a journey of exploration and discovery, even in challenging conversations at work. In this episode of the listening SUPERPOWER podcast, author of the book, Thrive in Turbulent Times, Jo Boniszewski shares how to listen so we can bring calm and clear thinking amidst the storm. After 15 years of commercial management roles, Jo became an executive leadership coach and facilitator and has been working many years with leaders and organizations to help them lead with more ease and impact. Since 2013, Jo has worked closely with Alan Seale, Founder and Director at the Center for Transformational Presence. She is a programme leader for the Transformational Presence signature programmes. In 2021 Jo launched her online Thrive self-leadership year programme. The programme, based on her book, focusses on equipping participants to build their capacities for thriving in these turbulent times. British-born Jo lives in The Netherlands with her husband René and three children, Alex (2003), Sophie (2005) and Katie (2009). Jo shares amazing stories and very practical tips on how to manage our monkey mind and how to become aware of our hidden assumptions, which are key to being able to listen with impact. She helps us understand our human nature and embrace our "weaknesses" without judgment, so that we can extend the same understanding and compassion to others. Enjoy listening to our journey of exploration and discovery to foster deeper connections and more meaningful relationships at work and at home. "If you embrace not knowing, you open your mind to new perspectives, new ideas, new possibilities, the potential and the opportunity that might be present in situations." - Jo Boniszewski Listening SUPERPOWER Notes: 00:38 - When she first noticed the power of listening in her work with leaders 02:32 - Putting aside the inner chatter: First noticing it, taking one step back, and becoming present. 04:35 - The impact it made on the other person when she put aside her internal chatter: I would notice a sort of settling, relaxing and an opening up. 08:25 - Experiencing the discovery of uncharted territories leading to a connection 15:30 - Surprising moment when the power of listening became clear to her: becoming aware of your assumptions 22:54 - What is listening to a situation? 27:54 - The result of 'inquiring together': Creative energy was freed up and work started getting done. 31:47 - What drove her to write her book Thrive in Turbulent Times: Helping people to meet this turbulence from a place of trust, calmness, clarity and ease. 33:24 - Five steps to bring calmness and Thrive in Turbulent Times 40:31 - Listening as a full body and wholehearted experience 41:54 - What it means to embrace 'not knowing' Key Takeaways: "If you make a commitment to yourself to do it [five steps to thrive in turbulent times] for 10 days just notice what the effect is on your state of being. It's a doorway that you can walk through to find some more inner calm, inner quiet, and inner focus." - Jo Boniszewski "It's important to accept that you're human and not judge yourself. That allows you to be more non-judgmental in your interactions with others which is essential when you want to be curious and open to listen and discover." - Jo Boniszewski "I view listening as a full body experience that's wholehearted and whole minded." - Jo Boniszewski "Embrace not knowing as being important, even an important capacity to have to be able to listen well." - Jo Boniszewski "Embracing not knowing helps you to stay in a place of calm." - Jo Boniszewski Notes/Mentions: Thrive in turbulent times: A handbook for living by Jo Boniszewski:https://joboniszewski.com/ Connect with Jo Boniszewski: Websites www.joboniszewski.com www.barefoottraining.nl Social Media www.linkedin.com/in/joboniszewski www.instagram.com/joboniszewski www.facebook.com/jo.boniszewski E-mail Jo@barefoottraining.nl Connect with Raquel Ark: www.listeningalchemy.com Mobile: + 491732340722 contact@listeningalchemy.com LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/raquel-ark-b2067613/ Podcast email: listeningsuperpower@gmail.com

How can you increase your mental and physical resilience so that you can choose your responses to the day-to-day pressures as well as navigate life's changes? While physical health is crucial, it's equally important to prioritize mental well-being. On this episode of the Listening Superpower Podcast, we welcome Leah Scott, a Wim Hof Method instructor, an accredited Snowy Mountains guide and a mother of two. Leah shares her wealth of expertise on building mental and physical resilience with tools that help us become present while also learning how to listen to our body and mind. Leah is on a mission to inspire people to see beyond their perceived physical and mental limitations and improve their health and wellbeing. From her base in Australia, Leah regularly plunges into the icy waters of the Thredbo River, taking advantage of the power of cold exposure. In this episode, she shares how this ritual has helped her conquer her own battle against stress, anxiety, and depression, emphasizing the importance of listening to one's body, emotions, and thoughts. Leah has been featured in publications such as Vogue, Marie Claire, and Body & Soul, and has even created the world's first Wim Hof Method retreat for women. Her unique perspective shines through as she shares practical tips and insights on enhancing personal growth, building resilience, and fostering meaningful connections with oneself and others. Join us as Leah shares her story and teaches us how to better understand and connect with our inner selves. "Get to know yourself, get to know your thoughts. And I mean listen to your thoughts. Because you can choose your response to your thoughts. Get to know your emotions; understand your feelings, your sensations, how your body works, your nervous system as a whole. Observe yourself, examine yourself and your situations. And I guarantee that you will start evolving and start to align with your purpose." – Leah Scott Listening SUPERPOWER Notes: 01:10 – The very first time that Leah noticed the power of listening: Going on a seeking journey that led her to her 'second life' 05:30 – As an athlete, Leah discusses the difference between listening to her body before and after her 'second life' 07:46 – On understanding her mind and body: Leah shares how Wim Hof and his method helped her take care of her physical and mental health 10:23 – Explaining the science behind the breathwork and cold water exposure 18:46 – 'Just to know who I am': How present-day Leah defines and understands resilience now 22:52 – What Leah pays attention to when working with other people and groups: "I look at them at a very micro level" 27:56 – Observe in order to be of help: How Leah works with different types of people and how they manage themselves. 36:54 – What's brilliant about these tools? It never gets into anything that one can't handle! 38:40 – Leah discusses how these practices have been male-dominated in the past, while talking about the benefits of these tools not only for men, but also important for women 42:11 – If you're someone with cold hands and feet, rheumatoid, arthritis, and/or sore joints, try this tip! Key Takeaways: "If I get into the river now or the ice baths, my heartbeat just flutters. We start to get control of stress. We're using this short-term stress to help us then deal with long-term stress." - Leah Scott "It's when you've been through the darkest parts of your life and really gotten to know your tools so well, that you can see how to help people…from the observations." - Leah Scott "My best advice to those out there would be to do the breath work, have the ice baths, calm your inner world down, know your inner world; that starts to reflect the outer world." - Leah Scott "When we can connect to ourselves, we then connect to everybody else around us. It just starts with us." - Leah Scott "Retreats are so great for corporate people…because they get to connect with their colleagues."- Leah Scott Notes/Mentions: Wim Hof: https://www.wimhofmethod.com/ Viktor Frankl: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Viktor_Frankl Connect with Leah Scott: Website: https://www.leahscott.net/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leahscottie/ Connect with Raquel Ark: www.listeningalchemy.com Mobile: + 491732340722 contact@listeningalchemy.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/raquel-ark-b2067613/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/listening_alchemy/?hl=en Podcast email: listeningsuperpower@gmail.com

We often don't give space and energy to listen to what is not being said and instead focus on what we hear, our expectations and what we have "practiced" without paying attention to others or the space in between. This can cause a lot of misunderstandings and performance is often lowered. What if you could pave a way for beautiful moments of collaboration to happen where you can perform your best BECAUSE you are in tune with others and the moment, adapting to what is best for the group (and the audience)? Grammy winning and musician extraordinaire Terreon Gully is one of the most influential artists of his generation. Tune into this episode as we take listening to a level you may not have considered before. We hope to erase all expectations and start from zero, unveiling unexpected outcomes on how huge listening impacts others. Parallels are made from music, to collaboration, leadership and life-death decision-making. Widely recognized for his creativity, versatility, and authenticity, Terreon has mastered a variety of musical genres. His innovative and distinct sound has inspired numerous artists and collaborations—from jazz legends and modern masters to the hottest hip hop icons. Committed to education and inspiring other musicians, Terreon served as a Professor of Music at the University of Manitoba in Winnipeg, Canada and has given clinics and master classes all over the world; including, Australia, Canada, France, Germany and New Zealand. When you listen to this episode and Terreon's unique approach, not only will you learn how a master musician approaches making beautiful music with others, but you will learn how to master listening for impact in a big way. Disclaimer: Terreon Gully, allowed the listening SUPERPOWER podcast to use a portion of the music from "Tanktified" in their podcast episode with Terreon which is licensed under TERREON's MUSIC ASCAP. If you enjoyed the portion of music featured in this episode, please support the artist by visiting https://terreongully.com/. "A lot of people feel inadequate if they don't know and feel like it's something wrong. But I think that's how you learn—it's about being first comfortable and cool with not knowing, and therefore, you are able to listen and learn." – Terreon Gully Listening SUPERPOWER Notes: 00:00 – We play, it's conveyed, they react: Terreon recalls when he first started playing music and how the musicians in church and the cadences of the preacher moved the congregation 03:48 – Music at its highest level: Listening to the space in between. "When musicians are really listening to each other and making the music happen" 11:33 – Starting from zero and what made a show the "best" that season: What makes it hard for people to be in tune with each other? 17:32 – Terreon's tips on how you can become that musician who is able to create something beautiful with others: Take the time and really listen to the music; listen for everything 24:45 – There needs to be a space: Highlighting how you're only able to listen and learn once you're comfortable with admitting that you don't know something 27:41 – Pay attention to what's being said in order to hear what's not being said; Terreon's major life experience being on the jury, creating deductions and making decisions based on what was not said. 41:48 – Are women really better listeners than men?: "I don't agree. I think everything is based on the individual." Key Takeaways: "For me, music at its highest level is when musicians are really listening to each other and making the music happen." – Terreon Gully "We have a limited vocabulary when it comes to language, but if you're listening and using more than just the language you have in communicating, you have an unlimited amount of things you can say and do." – Terreon Gully "Really take the time and really listen to the music. Listening to the music is totally different from checking out the music." – Terreon Gully "Pay attention to what's being said in order to hear what's not being said." – Terreon Gully "People miss out on a lot because they have expectations, so they're not able to appreciate what is. I think it's important, whether it's a concert, whether it's a movie, whether it's food, just see what it is and then go from there versus having expectations." – Terreon Gully Connect with Terreon Gully: Website: https://terreongully.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terreongully / Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/terreontankgully/ Connect with Raquel Ark: www.listeningalchemy.com Mobile: + 491732340722 contact@listeningalchemy.com LinkedIn Podcast email: listeningsuperpower@gmail.com

What does it mean to truly listen in a way that has enormous impact, also in the business world? When we commit to truly listening to someone, we open doors for quality connections that can lead to transformation and relationship satisfaction. It's through listening that we can build bridges of understanding, empathy, and trust that allow us to connect with people on a deeper level. This, in turn, positively impacts organizational outcomes. In today's episode, we have a special guest, my good friend and mentor, Dr. Avi Kluger, who is a renowned expert in the field of listening and a great listener. Dr. Avi Kluger is a professor of organizational behavior at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem and his area of research focuses on the dangers of feedback and the benefits of listening in relationships and at work. Avi has published numerous studies on the topic of listening in leading publications, including a meta-analysis on the power of listening at work. He was the Director of the Executive MBA program of the School (2010-2014). In his capacity as a director, he put strong emphasis on helping executives develop soft skills (e.g., negotiation, listening, self-presentation) in addition to developing an integrative view of the business. In this episode, Avi shares his insights on the definition of listening, which may surprise you. And that with listening, it may be hard, but the rewards of a deep and meaningful connection are more than worth it. If you commit to listen, you will find your relationships transform and flourish. Because then you open yourself up to the vulnerability of someone else's thoughts and emotions, and allow them to touch your heart. "Listening appears to create first and foremost good connections, good relationships, trust, and relationship satisfaction." - Avi Kluger Listening SUPERPOWER Notes: 01:25 - One experience when he felt the power of listening truly working 04:32 - How listening creates quality connections that reduces depression, anxiety and fosters vigor for life 10:20 - Discussing a question included in a listening research paper: Can we get rid of the adjective? 12:30 - Defining listening: Devotion to being with the other. 19:18 - Getting a little deeper into what it means to decide to devote yourself into listening 22:20 - What makes listening so hard: Because you have to completely let go. 26:16 - How listening lays the foundation of good connection with the ripple effect of relationship satisfaction 29:53 - Creating a challenge through listening even when things are already going smoothly 31:05 - Avi imparting some gold of wisdom: You decide to listen. It's gonna be hard. If you commit yourself, you may find that your prison walls are moving away from you and you have much more freedom in your life. Notes/Mentions: Kluger, A. N., & Itzchakov, G. (2022). The power of listening at work. Annual Review of Organizational Psychology and Organizational Behavior, 9, 121-146. https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev-orgpsych-012420-091013 Jane Dutton: https://michiganross.umich.edu/faculty-research/faculty/jane-dutton Guy Itzchakov: https://listeningalchemy.com/listen-in/listening-research-and-its-power-with-associate-professor-guy-itzchakov/ Key Takeaways: "Those fleeting moments of high quality connection, something in us changes for the better and as a result of it, it's like a deposit in our mental wellbeing bank. It reminds us that we are connected, reduces our depression, anxieties, and provides us with vigor for life, combined with sometimes new understanding of ourselves, the world, or both." - Avi Kluger "If you decide to devote yourself, it's a continuous decision, because this devotion could be for two minutes. It may disappear, you may bring it back and the devotion could be created by the listener, but it could also be created by the speaker." - Avi Kluger "Every time you go into this space of true connection with another human being, you're being transformed." - Avi Kluger "Many people are so lonely, entrenched in their own political camp. They cannot see the humanity of people from the other side, let alone listen to them." - Avi Kluger "We are sticking to what we know and to the worldview that we have. And this prison is serving us well. But the question is, is it well enough?" - Avi Kluger "While listening may take away time from work, it actually saves in the long term…a lot of time and creates better outcomes." - Avi Kluger "Once good relationships are created, more knowledge transfers in the organization, more positive attitudes are formed, like job satisfaction, motivation, and hence, and we see evidence of better performance, including objective measures of performance." - Avi Kluger Connect with Avi Kluger: Website: https://www.avi-kluger.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/avikluger/ Connect with Raquel Ark: www.listeningalchemy.com Mobile: + 491732340722 contact@listeningalchemy.com LinkedIn Podcast email: listeningsuperpower@gmail.com