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Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.In this episode, we’re unpacking one of the most common—and most misunderstood—pieces of advice given to submissives: “Know your wants and needs.” But what does that really mean, and how do you figure out the difference? You’ll learn how to identify your core needs, why honoring them is essential to a healthy D/s relationship, and what happens when you settle for less than what truly fulfills you.We’ll also explore common submissive-specific needs, how to communicate them, and how to check in with yourself (and your partner) as those needs evolve. Whether you're new to submission or deepening your dynamic, this episode will help you reflect, realign, and reclaim your right to have your needs met.📝 Topics covered:The difference between wants and needWhy needs matter more than you thinkHow unmet needs impact submission and mental healthNeeds specific to D/s and power exchangeWhy settling is harmful (even if the dynamic feels “good enough”)Tools for identifying and ranking your needsReflection prompts and next stepsRead the full version on Submissive Guide 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive. ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today.►http://patreon.com/subguideA very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you._____Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere?►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide►Discord: http://subgui.de/chatCheck Out My Books!►https://subgui.de/store

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.This episode challenges the myth of the “perfect submissive” and explores how chasing flawlessness can lead to burnout, self-doubt, and disconnection. Instead of striving for an impossible ideal, submissives are encouraged to embrace authenticity, growth, and the beauty of their unique journey. Real submission isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being present, vulnerable, and enough just as you are. 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive. ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today.►http://patreon.com/subguideA very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you._____Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere?►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide►Discord: http://subgui.de/chatCheck Out My Books!►https://subgui.de/store

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Using your safeword is never something to be afraid of. While it may sometimes mean stopping the scene, it also prevents you from going to places you’re not ready to explore. Yet, guilt or self-disappointment can make using a safeword feel like a failure for many. Fortunately, there are ways to address the guilt, disappointment, or fear around using or not using your safeword when it truly matters.Thoughts to PonderWhat is your opinion about safewords? What value do they have in a relationship?If you have withheld a safeword in the past, why did you do it? What were you trying to gain by doing so?What other issues arise from using your safeword?Interesting LinksThings You Need to Know: Why Safewords Are Not SafeSome Thoughts About Safewords 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive. ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today.►http://patreon.com/subguideA very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you._____Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere?►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide►Discord: http://subgui.de/chatCheck Out My Books!►https://subgui.de/store

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Most people say ‘sorry’ or ‘I’m sorry’ far too often. You’re probably aware of whether this is an issue for you. If you struggle with frequent apologizing, you may need to take a different approach to find ways to express what you really mean.The Art of Apology Series - Submissive Guide 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive. ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today.►http://patreon.com/subguideA very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you._____Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere?►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide►Discord: http://subgui.de/chatCheck Out My Books!►https://subgui.de/store

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Sub drop is a natural part of the BDSM experience, but it doesn't have to derail your enjoyment. Learn how to recognize the signs, prevent severe symptoms, and create a personalized aftercare plan that supports both your physical and emotional recovery. From building a drop kit to mastering self-care strategies, this guide empowers you to take control of your well-being and embrace every part of the journey with confidence.Hormone Junkies Series:AdrenalineOxytocinTestosteroneEndorphinsMore Resources:Sub Drop in Long-term relationshipsWhat is Aftercare, Why Do You Need It, and How to Ask for ItSix Important Activities to Include in Your Aftercare RoutineSelf-AftercareSubmissive Guide FetLife GroupGet Your Copy of “Becoming a Service Submissive” Today! 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive. ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today.►http://patreon.com/subguideA very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you._____Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere?►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide►Discord: http://subgui.de/chatCheck Out My Books!►https://subgui.de/store

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.We’ll cover the complexities of online submission, offering various safe environments to explore and learn the nuances of BDSM and discuss the potential benefits and dangers. We’ll help you navigate the online BDSM landscape with confidence and care. 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive. ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today.►http://patreon.com/subguideA very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you._____Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere?►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide►Discord: http://subgui.de/chatCheck Out My Books!►https://subgui.de/store

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.A question I see asked all the time is, "How can I be a better submissive?" Here are a few things you can do to improve your submission and service without much work.Resources - Non-sexual Service and How To Add It To Your DynamicHow Making a Cup of Coffee Centers MeRitual Ideas: High Tea, Japanese Tea Ceremony and Formal Dining3 Reasons a "Perpetual Student" Mindset Is Vital to KinkCreate SMART Goals For Your New Year's Resolutions and Reach Your Goals This Year!The Importance of Journaling Your Submission5 Simple Steps to Creating a Personal Submissive Mantra365 Days of SubmissionLearning Good Observation Skills for Better Submissive AwarenessEntering the Community: The Different Ways to Socialize with Local KinkstersFinding Your Submissive Voice: Speak Up for Better, Honest CommunicationActive Submission Means Always Improving YourselfA Submissive's Prime Directive: Take Care of the PropertySubmissive Guide Fet 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive. ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today.►http://patreon.com/subguideA very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you._____Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere?►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide►Discord: http://subgui.de/chatCheck Out My Books!►https://subgui.de/store

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Let's discuss how to build healthy communication skills in our D/s relationship and what a safe environment for difficult conversations looks like. I’ll give you the tools to develop a report with your partner that is full of trust, shared vulnerability, and compassion. You’ll learn that a safe environment for those challenging talks requires planning and mutual agreements to work as they should. Resources:Conversation Starters for Difficult Conversations: https://www.wikihow.com/images/sampledocs/f/Conversation-Starters-for-Difficult-Conversations.pdf Kink Friendly Therapists:Psychology Today - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/sex-positive-kink-alliedKink Friendly Therapy - http://kinkfriendlytherapy.com/resources-3/resources/Kink Aware Professionals Directory - https://www.kapprofessionals.org/Domestic Abuse Hotlines:US: https://www.thehotline.org/UK: https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/EU: https://www.improve-horizon.eu/helplines  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive. ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today.►http://patreon.com/subguideA very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you._____Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere?►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide►Discord: http://subgui.de/chatCheck Out My Books!►https://subgui.de/store

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Often, we discover our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. Let’s cover what you should do to prepare to talk to your partner about your newfound interest, how you can encourage a submissive mindset on your own, and how you can slowly bring kink into the bedroom. Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/making-him-the-dom-of-your-dreams-working-with-the-man-you-have Initiating a Discussion about BDSM with Your Partner:Initiating a Discussion about BDSM Interest with Your Partner - ted_subby - Part 1 of a 3-part series. Highly recommended.Ask SehAnru | Communicating Kinky Needs to a Vanilla Partner - SehAnruEstablishing a Safe, Trusting Environment for Talk - lunaKMResources:Recommended Reading ListsCreating a Personal Submissive ProtocolJoin our Discord Server - https://subgui.de/chat  🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive. ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today.►http://patreon.com/subguideA very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you._____Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere?►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide►Discord: http://subgui.de/chatCheck Out My Books!►https://subgui.de/store

Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Receiving your collar is a special occasion for many submissives and slaves. When a collar comes into view, some people want to commemorate that with a ceremony. Let’s discuss collars, their symbolism in D/s and M/s relationships, and how you can build a formal ceremony around declaring your commitment to each other.Article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/how-to-plan-a-formal-collaring-ceremony Resources: Expectations of a Collar: How Ready Are You to Accept One?Here is a list of collaring ceremony stories I found online to get you started in your research to build your ceremony.Our Ceremony of Roses, Vow Renewal, and Re-collaring by Mrs DarlingOur Collaring Ceremony on the space betweenMy collaring ceremony script from my polyamorous commitment ceremony on Offbeat WedPlanning Our Collaring Ceremony on The ChateauCollaring Ceremony and Ceremony of the Roses on House of DaseinCeremony From The Heart: The Collaring Ceremony by Norische 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive. ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today.►http://patreon.com/subguideA very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you._____Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere?►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide►Discord: http://subgui.de/chatCheck Out My Books!►https://subgui.de/store