Spoken By Elswyth - Femdom Hypnosis

I promised a link to my Amazon wish list in these show notes, and here it is:https://www.amazon.co.uk/hz/wishlist/ls/2H0LNXYM2TDCU Transcript Welcome to today’s episode. It’s the Spoken By Elswyth Locktober Review, and Reward Update. So… I had a bit of a delay, but you know what? Deadlines call, and I have to answer. But the good news is that there’s a fun session coming out here on the podcast on Thursday. I’ll tell you what that is in a moment, but first let’s talk about… A thank you to a very special gentleman for the gift of the new yoga mat. You don’t wanna know what the old one was looking like, so it’s nice to have this bit of sunshine to tote along with me to class. Thank you for that. Also I received an Amazon gift card, which… I reall enjoy getting those, because I kind-of have my own mental list of things, and some of you are aware that very high on that list is anything that deals with sunlight. So my home is a bit sunnier now. Also had some other things come off the Amazon wishlist which… I actually had from a few of the people notes come beforehand to say to not thank them publicly, which was interesting. I think they were afraid I might add some commentary to the items that were purchased. But anyway, thank you… it’s always a fun surprise, right? To get something in the mail? If you want to look at my wishlist, the link is in today’s episode notes. If you want to do something free and easy to help the podcast, make sure you hit “Like” and “Subscribe” and it wouldn’t hurt to have some good… I don’t even know if it’s four, or five star reviews out there. So, feel free to do that too. It costs a bit of time, but gifts of time, they’re pretty good gifts, right? So we are into November, depending on where you live that means all kinds of things. You might have just recently had your bonfire night, or… oh, you might be out voting today. Yeah, so… interesting times, right? And those things kind-of go hand-in-hand. Anyway, right… not getting into politics, I swear. We had out Locktober last month, for October. Did have a bit of a derailment in there thanks to the, you know, stupid you-know-what managing to invade my body. Man, that’s not even good. Like if you were writing a bit of sexy, let’s say it’s a… oh, X-Files is the only alien TV show I can think of. You know, you’re writing a bit of sexy fan-fic, and you decide, oh… invasion, alien invasion on my body. It would never result in a lot of coughing, and a fever, and basically feeling like shit. Or maybe the last one, I don’t know… well, I don’t even like fanfic for the most part, I do really love amateur writing. I can’t always get into the fanfic thing. Anyway, let’s go back to the topic. We had out Locktober… there… was a form on the website, and it let you sign in, and put you name in there, whether you planned to participate. Now, the form is closed, which it should be because it’s November, but your reward is coming. I will let you know when it’s ready. And the reward is going to be one of those fun little Easter Egg things that I like to slip into the podcast or the sessions, or whatnot. And it is only being given to those who participated in this year’s Locktober… so next year we’ll do something different, but I know you’re going to love this one; I really love this particular trigger, party because I love words and I love this word. So anyway, that’s coming. Now we still have some people waiting until the 10th, and… one unfortunate soul, just one, who won’t be able to get a reward until the end of November. Sad, huh? But, I am happy to have been the center of this little game, this experience… I’m glad I had a whole host of reponses and reactions to the rice punishment. I’m glad to know it had the desired effect on almost everyone who experienced it. I even had a very polite request for a sensation play session like the… Left With Warm Thighs, do you know that one, dear listener? Well… a hypnotic session that brings about this particular discomfort through hypnosis, it might just be worth exploring. If you’re listening and thinking to yourself that you need a file like that, let me know, okay? Some of my favorite types of messages to receive, these were the descriptions of chastity as a sort of slow-burn of arousal and desire and uh… well… here, let me read something that I copy/pasted:Dear reader. You need to to listen to episode to hear this little snippet. Is that such a hardship? Okay, so… more news about the new Thursday Session; this was going to be the Locktober Cuddle Session, and okay… what’s a Cuddle Session? On Patreon I released a Cuddle Session, I think it would have been earlier this year… and it’s a something-something hypnotic session that focuses on the sensations of having me cuddled up behind you, in bed. Oh, and that original one, it has lots of deliberately confusing language, it toys with some subtle emotional manipulation, a little jealousy, but it still comes back to good, snuggly thoughts before it leads you to sleep. Now this new session, it was supposed to be out in the middle of last month, and then you know, everything else. I’m still happy with being able to create the chastity mindset sessions and some of the other Locktober sessions, affirmations and such, but I really wanted to have this session that echoed the cuddle session, with that lovely undertone of chastity. And there’s another theme in the session I had planned, which is that… well you all knew this, I hope. I loved… love the idea of that extended period of denial, it’s leading to the coveted wet dream. And so this Locktober Cuddle Session was supposed to encourage those with post hypnotic suggestion and sleep hypnosis. Oh, and a reminder that I don’t consider it cheating on your Locktober Success Story. But, you all know that chastity-themed month-long events don’t stop at October. I’m not doing anything special for November, but I have dozens of messages asking me if it’s okay to continue… well, sort of. If you’ve been waiting, torturing yourself with further denial while I’ve been, you know, a bit out of touch… please, please, dear man… stop showing off and have an orgasm before you explode. If that’s the case, and I know from my email inbox that there’s at least a handful making this claim, pause this podcast right now and entertain yourself at the earliest convenience. It is good for your prostate health. Okay, what was I saying? Ah yeah… the weather here in the UK it’s taken a turn for the… wet and windy, the nights are starting earlier and getting darker. It’s definitely snuggle season. So all this to say that the Locktober Cuddle Session has grown and changed into the Winter Cuddle Session. And I’m really looking forward to sharing it with you this week. There’s denial, there’s hypnotic conditioning, there’s wet dreams, and there’s a satisfyingly long list of extra fun thoughts and sensations available for those who need more. Pretty nice of me, huh? Okay, that is it for today. I expect to have some happy thank you notes coming in. And for those of you who have asked, like I said, the link to the wishlist, it’s usually pretty easy to find on the website but I will go ahead and put it in the episode notes for today. The post 4.39 SbE Locktober review and reward update appeared first on Spoken By Elswyth.

The session I’m gifting you today was planned for next week. You can find out what it’s all about in the podcast episode, and it’s something you can make use of immediately. The Locktober Cuddle Session has become something grander. You can look forward to it appearing next week, and like this session there will be a version available right here on the podcast feed. The post E38 Session: Easy alert trance cues to improve concentration appeared first on Spoken By Elswyth.

Transcript In today’s episode we need to talk about Headspaces. It’s basically a SpokenByElswyth requirement. In my creative process for sessions… I do like to borrow from different hypnotic strategies, theories, and history. And using those using those pragmatic nuts and bolts suggestions – both the highly indirect, permissive and metaphoric, and also the direct, forceful, and authoritative. This is a Femdom Hypnosis slant after all. The different sessions allow for this creativity, plus I know that how you experience hypnosis isn’t the same as how another might. Now Erickson, he was a big fan a multiplicity of suggestions and keeping them simple. But I know that you are clever. I know that you fucking love the mind games.. And because we’re not working on something like stopping smoking, where I would use simple suggestions presenting a sufficient number where you willingly take this one or that one… I feel just fine with having this variety… because this isn’t a deadly serious issue that you’ve come to me with, right? Like stopping smoking. It’s something else… so we can have a lot more fun with it. And really like including the ones, that you may only receive and take on after the third or fifth listen through. All of this is highly repeatable, right? So it’s fun to know the more you do it, again and again, the more you’re going to get. Now quite a few of my sessions, they have multiple versions intertwined. They have these threads that are similar, right? But they come at it in a slightly different way. If you have listened to the most recent Financial Domination one, it’s very obvious in there… and I’m a creature of habit, I tend to stick to sets of three. Now I did mention before that in the past, I really struggled with that creative, interesting element to FinDom. And, yeah… it just wasn’t. It just wasn’t clicking. And what allowed it to actually click for me was turning it into more of that shared experience. By really diving into that headspace that hypnosis allows us to have, right? It’s a totally different experience compared to just… being in person and, not saying necessarily one is better than the other, but… they are quite different, and when it comes to something like Financial Domination, I’m gonna say the hypnotic version is way better. Now, before I get into that, about the headspaces and how it varies, let’s talk about that Lemon Convincer script. If you haven’t experienced it, go back to episode 24 and take a listen… it’s fine, I’ll wait. That particular session… the reason it’s called a convincer is because it’s typically used to break the ice in a private or group sessions. It allows someone to touch on hypnosis, use those various senses, and for many people, they then realize that they do have this depth of imagination and memory just waiting to be drawn from. For instance, in that lemon convincer script, which kitchen did you imagine yourself in? Now quite a few people can tell an entire story about which they picked, why they picked it, and give lots of details. Enough that like, I feel like I’m taking this trip, and I’m visiting it with them. I’m sharing that space. For someone like me, and honestly… someone like you, when a person does that, when a person is able to describe and share that place enough, that space, they really are adding on to our personal headspace, and I love that. Now before I go further, I do have a small favor to ask. Whether you’ve found me on YouTube, Spotify, or your favorite podcast provider, take a moment to subscribe to the SpokenByElswyth podcast. It helps me to be found and to continue to put my time and energy into this project. Also, you may have noticed I have zero ads. I don’t think you want to hear a sock sponsor in the middle of my podcasts, though socks can be useful for things like keeping your feet warm… so I’m keeping it this way, right? This means your support on patreon or purchases through the website, it just keeps the lights on, and with the way the UK economy is going, I need that support. I need my light. So thank you to those who have done this already and to those that haven’t, what are you waiting for? Okay, now back to talking about headspaces. For those that indulge in this daydreaming regularly, you may have found a certain aesthetic that works for you, like a fusion between Elswyth’s teachings and Animal Crossing. You know, what is on your island? I know, from numerous conversations over the years with patrons and other followers that describing the headspace is a joy, and it’s often very detailed. You’ve made space for that forest walking area, the town that we visit in Walking to Seduction, and you’ve either found or created your temple. So creating the FinDom session, it meant it wasn’t going to be all name calling and exchanging of bank details. The shared experience, the overlapping of headspaces, the creating new territory in that mind of yours… that is my kin. I can exchange bank details with a personal trainer. I can get my name calling kicks out by watching the news… but I can’t create that way. So the Listening Room session, it is that shared experience and it has the three takes. Now one Patron said, this is a direct quote; “Not only is findom a hard limit for me, but I honestly find it boring. However I trust you and your skills as a hypnotist (I could seriously listen to you narrate someone watching paint dry) so I went for it. Well, that trust paid off in a big way because I’m obsessed with the Cash Mistress! The way she took control of everything, tongue included, but left me as a prisoner in my body was so deliciously cruel.” And that is why there are the three takes, because as you’re going through, I know… just by these headspace descriptions that you’ve given me, I know for a lot of you, you have the perfect real estate to put each of these ones in. So before I go from today, let’s talk about this for just a minute, in regard to your headspace and my headspace. Take a moment and take in a deep breath. Fill yourself up, all the way up, and exhale all the way out. And let’s do that again… breathe in. And out. And another one in. Thinking about headspaces, and breathing out. Now you can continue to breathe deeply, or just find that natural rhythm… but I want you to have this open mind, I want you to have that well available. Maybe pull up the bucket, so you can be ready with your thoughts and memories. What happens where our headspaces touch? Now, do you imagine it just as one shared headspace? Or do you see that they’re overlapping, that you have yours, I have mine… and this area is shared? Is there a color boundary? Any boundary? Is there an obvious change in scenery, like when you imagine my headspace… not shared, but my personal, private, own one… can you see how it’s decorated? Or not? Maybe it’s not a room… maybe it’s outside. I just realized that for those of you who have gotten to really know me, that for my private headspace, or maybe just in that shared headspace where you can look over and see mind, that it’s quite likely that the type of… I’m gonna say “shelter” just so I can keep it as vague as possible That the shelter you picked it something I mention quite a few times of wanting… and it’s only fitting that in my daydreams, I should have it, right? Okay, so go on… enjoy your Tuesday. If you need a task, consider your task to be just mulling over those questions. If you find yourself with some downtime today… do a bit of deep breathing. See you headspace, mine, the shared one… and think on that, the boundaries, if they exist, if they don’t exist and such. I would love to hear your thoughts, so don’t forget to share them with me. After all, all of your thoughts and feelings… what? Come on. You know the answer. The post 4.37 We need to talk about headspaces. It’s a SbE requirement. appeared first on Spoken By Elswyth.

Financial DominationMeet your Cash Mistress, your Sugar Baby, and the Goddess who demands an even more meaningful tribute. $7.00 Shop now Today’s episode was originally planned for yesterday. At this point I expect a new episode will appear on Friday. For everyone asking, I’m feeling much better, and my cough is under control. Transcript Today’s episode is about L-D-R-F-L-R’s, and some rambling. I’m going to tell you about something that’s out of character for me… usually I don’t like hearing about the minutiae of chastity play, at least when it comes to those L-D-R-F-L-R situations. And so in spite of the fact that I’ve had a few listeners ask me to play the role of keyholder… and I’ve had a few beg me to play the role of keyholder, I usually turn them down. I think it’s the disconnect of long distance that makes it a bit less appealing. Doesn’t quite have the same oomph as our usual, y’know… erotic hypnosis relationship. Because I don’t get to passively observe the effects of frustration, and make little bets with myself over when you’ll break, or ask for more than I’m likely to give. Oh, or reap the benefits when it comes to my own pleasure, or all the other ways that affection and appreciation can be displayed. But these last almost-three-weeks, I’ve really enjoyed it. Maybe it’s the fact that all this chastity-themed fun is concentrated in one place, and that the expectation of no orgasms is present in every connection for this short time. And then the elephant in the room; I’ve been unable to record a podcast episode for a little while, so I have enjoyed keeping up with the trials and tribulations of a month in chastity in message and emails. You’ll likely hear a little bit in my throat. I managed to catch what everybody… what everybody seems to have. Still getting back to my normal self… really surprised how this one managed to kick my ass for a bit. And speaking of those messages and emails… I’ve had lots of messages about wandering hands and desperation. I’m enjoying the pride that the mental chastity aficionados all display, and I’ve had artful photographs shared by some of those who did elect to make use of a device. I’ve even had slip-ups, and I’ll be addressing those in a moment. Here’s something I want, it’s your task for the day, if you haven’t told me how it’s going, do so. Even if it hasn’t been going, you know… great. Remember, you do need to go over to the website, SpokenByElswyth.com/Locktober to tell me if you’re participating in order to be eligible for that exclusive reward that’s popping up in November. So it hasn’t all been sunshine and rainbows. Not least because… that running total I promised I’d keep? Well… that number hasn’t increased much recently. I don’t really need to tell you that this coughing fit is a real mood killer. But things are looking up; I’ve enjoyed some quality writing time… and today there’s a new Listening Room session that really dives into Financial Domination. You’ll find it in the shop, and if you’ve heard The Pirate Queen, well it’s definitely in that same… “direct” style. There’s a real narrative for you, that you can just be totally immersed in. A story where you’re the subject… victim? Let’s say victim, of another incredibly controlling, and possessive Mistress-figure. Oh, There’s also a session, I’m.. right now calling it the Locktober Cuddle Session. And fingers crossed that’s going to pop up later this week. There’s some work left to do on it, but it’s all about warm and close sensations brought through sleepy, trancey, relaxation hypnosis. It’s certainly a session that’s perfect for right before sleep… and I know you love your Sleep Hypnosis. And at the moment the plan is to put a version of that out on the podcast for everyone, so that’s something you get to look forward to. But, okay. You have your task; if you haven’t told me how Locktober’s going for you, now’s the time. Even if you fucked up. It’s okay, I told you it’s okay, right? Over a week ago now. But now’s the time to climb back on the horse. And if you’ve been good, if you haven’t had a single intentional orgasm since the last day of September, you’re allowed to leave now. Off you go. Feel free to shut off the podcast, or the YouTube video. Once again, I’m assuring you that you’re not in trouble. You’re not missing out, and you should feel my pride POUR over you, due to your good behavior. That was the dog. She wants to go for a walk… and so she just keeps roaming around the room. Anyway, you’re not missing out, like I said. This is just, not for you. Because you’ve been a good boy. If you want to know what message I have for the disobedient ones, you’ll have to listen to the episode. The post 4.36 Checking In, With Chastity (and Punishment) appeared first on Spoken By Elswyth.

I’ve taken a test, and then another test, and I’m now certain that I have Covid. It’s relatively mild, but you might find yourself waiting until Thursday to be teased about the impending two week stint without orgasms. Luckily this story was already recorded on Friday, so I can share it with you today. Transcript In today’s episode I’m sharing some of the responses I had to episodes 32 and 33, the plant episode… remember that one? With the orchids and cacti. And the utopia idea. So I had quite a few people, confessing whether they feel into being a orchid, or a cactus, or… you know, fluctuating between. And one of the emails from… a particular submissive gentleman gave pretty good reasonings for why he is a vine. Now if you’ve ever seen these lush vines growing, like the golden pathos and so on… they’re impressive. They’re easy. And the reason why he identified as a vine wasn’t necessarily because he considers himself to be easy. But because the rampant vines, they like exploring a lot, yet… always happy to follow guidance, training. And they’re pretty able, you know, to survive alone. They can deal with some mistreatment and being ignored. But I’ll tell you, one of my favourite things about vining house plants, is they’re so easy to share with friends. I mean, you can share them with a half-dozen friends with minimal effort. Very minimal effort. And if you’re actually looking for a gardening tip, all you do is… cut off a part of it, plop it down in water, you know, change it every week or so, you’ll have roots, throw it in dirt (or not) it can stay in water, and give it to a friend. If you’re looking for, you know, how to share your submissive tips… well… well let me know, and I’ll do that in another episode. And so for episode 33, again, quite a few responses. Lot of people love the idea of Utopia, and I’ll get to a few of those, and we might revisit this a couple times, so if you still have an idea that you haven’t shared with me, go ahead. We’re going to start off, this one, with a story that was inspired by Episode 33. So go on and get yourself, you know a cup of hot chocolate, or some hot tea. Settle on in for storytime. Listen to the podcast episode to hear this delightful piece of hypno fiction. The post 4.35 Don’t Miss This Utopia Story – Listener Response to Episode 33 appeared first on Spoken By Elswyth.

Transcript Today’s episode will have a full length session after a bit of a introduction. The session is “How to Quickly and Easily Avoid Chastity Failure”. So you can certainly listen, and enjoy it right now… but I’ll let you know when it’s time to pause and get comfy somewhere private before listening any further. By the time you’re hearing this you could well be a whole week into this experience. Does it help you to think about the time ticking away? I’ve been thinking about that ever since our Cactus/Orchid conversation, whether the Cactus-type is more likely to not notice the pages being torn off the calendar. And why is it dear, that this Locktober has to take place in one of those long, long 31-day months? If only it could be February, and you could happily say that you’re already a quarter of the way to freedom. Well, of course February wouldn’t work, right? Because what would you be doing on the 14th? Oh, and this session also comes at a great time, because someone told me a story of how they woke up with both hands already wrapped around their… you know. I do think, dear listener… loyal and faithful sub, that if you don’t sleep naked, it makes it a bit harder to grab your cock. What do you think? Find yourself some PJs? And y’know, because it’s getting into fall weather, make them the cute ones. You know the ones that zip all the way up in the front. Bonus points for a hood… a hood that has ears on it. Now I’m not saying you need a whole furry persona. I think that’s called a fursona, that sounds right. But I could be making that up… I’m not saying you need that. You can go to almost any department store and find a way to turn yourself into a bear, or a tiger, bunny… et cetera. Just something fuzzy that covers up parts you’re not supposed to be touching. I’ll… oh! I have a little sticky note here for myself. It probably wins for the… oddest sticky note that someone else could possibly see. I told you on the 3rd of October that I was already up to six. Well, it’s… it’s quite a bit more than that, but you know I’m just going to blame hormones, and I’m also going to blame this account that was sent to me. I’m not always into dress-up. I know, I just told you to dress up like a tiger or a bear or whatever… not always into that. Not always into my french maids, not always into my prissy’s. Not always into my sex-doll-sluts, I mean… not everything has to be about dress-up, right? But ah… man, on this particular account, the person in it has these pyjamas that I am totally obsessed with. I need to find out where they found those, desperately need that. If you ask me nicely, in an email, or Patreon message, whichever one’s easiest for you, I’ll tell you what they look like. Okay, so I did promise you a full session, right? So now is about time for you to find that quiet, private spot. Go ahead, I’ll wait. Oh, and just a quick note that if you would like to have this session to use at any time, without the podcast preamble, just go on over the the website, SpokenByElswyth.com, and you can get it there. Any session that you get through the website, is kept in your account so you can have unlimited downloads. Very useful if you happen to misplace things. And if you enjoy having full sessions available on the podcast, be sure to either hit like, or subscribe, or leave a review, depending on where you’re listening to me. Having the likes and reviews and so-ons, subscriptions, just makes it possible for more to find me, and for me to dedicate even more time to you. The post 4.34 How to Quickly and Easily Avoid Chastity Failure appeared first on Spoken By Elswyth.

Tune in on Friday, when a full-length meditation and hypnosis session is expected. Transcript This transcript is provided for the purposes of information only. Unless strictly necessary, I insist that you listen to the session before consulting this reference.Good boy. Today’s episode is a bit rambly. It’s my idea of a Utopia setting, but like most of my ideas this is not one set in stone, this is just what I came up with morning after reading a pretty interesting message. The person wanted to know, what is one of my taboo fantasies. Something I would do maybe only in an actual daydream of my own. Now I don’t know if they expected me to come up with something really shocking. Or, really sexual or whatever else. Maybe this hedonistic orgy that one of these festivals, you get together with, and everybody lives their best life for a while. A Hypno Utopia Setting? But I had a walk to take after that, and while I was going, I really got to thinking about this one. Like, for today… what would be my no-holds-barred Utopian thing? And I came up with… having a bed, out in like the middle of nowhere, okay? Let’s make it a four-poster bed, we’ll put a white canopy on it, something that gives a bit of intimacy while not really blocking off the scenery, okay? And I’m going to set this bed in a very quiet place. While I was on vacation, holiday, a while back… I had the pleasure of visiting this lake, a glacial lake, up the mountains… that was so quiet. Now I grew up in a rural area, where you could pretty easily get away from the sounds of cars and people and so on, but it did not compare to this, to the way that the silence felt. I’ve heard that there is a crater or, I think it’s on Maui, that’s one of the Hawaiian islands, that has been dubbed “The Quietest Place on Earth”. The sound level is about the same volume as your breathing, it’s ten decibels. ANd since I’ve started this project, I’ve gotten pretty good at reading sound meters, so I know what ten decibels happens to be. So this bed, would be placed somewhere that quiet. With a guarantee of no interruptions at all. Something that… even though it goes against the definition of the word, is a shared solipsism. You know, that… the only thing that you have direct access to, basically, is the contents of your own mind. And just because you see something, it doesn’t mean it actually exists. People do see stuff. And indulging in that… so myself, and whoever is with me, being this… alone and detached, feeling that we’re the only two people that exist. Okay, still with me? I know, it’s not kinky yet. The Intimacy of Trance But then playing with it. For me, trance is very intimate. I somewhat recently read this actually very well written article about sleeping together. Sleeping is just about the most intimate thing you can do together. I’m going to argue, it’s more intimate than sex… because think about it, you know… two people can meet, find themselves just wrapped up in this passion, have sex and then kind of go on their way, right? But sleeping together without some kind of closeness, it seems strange, wrong. Pretend those two people, in these throws of passion, fantastic sex, both fall asleep, and wake up the next day. Most of the time, I think one, or both, of the people they’re both basically ready to leave. Whatever drove them together for that sexual passion, did not keep them cemented together for that intimacy of waking up together. And now, you know… some people, they look forward to every night, going to sleep with their partner, or partners, and having that close, intimacy of even before like your brain is fully awake, perhaps you’re already reaching out to the other, or others, or what-not in your bed, right? That instinctual closeness, knowing that they’re there. And for me, with trance, with playing with the… or maybe playing isn’t the right word, but with using the erotic hypnosis, it is tapping into that energy. That sleep intimacy, plus some, right? Because those dreams that you’re having, you’re not conjuring them up all by yourself. That shared solipsism happens because I do have access to your mind. To your thoughts, to your emotions, to creating the experience that’s going on. And you have that intimacy and that trust and that openness that we can just be the only two people. The Deepest From of Hypnotic Submission Now because it’s really not like this big confession unless there’s something else with it, and my big confession can’t be literally that I just want to sleep with someone, right? How interesting would it be, to have the trance, have the headspace sharing, the word runes, and all of that bleed over. Have those lined just so faint you can barely see them. Because of this period of being just two people, alone in the world. How far could I nudge you? When I was looking up some information about sounds and silence and such, I always thought of… you know how they talk about the moon, and being quiet, and everything else? I didn’t really think about the sounds that different objects make. But, I was thinking… okay, here’s this bed, middle of nowhere. We’re pretending the food logistics don’t count, we’re gonna fast for three days, or five, or whatever, right? There’s water… good enough. But I was thinking, I want silence, right? So it can’t be by the beach, I don’t want the waves doing their thing, or anything like that. And I imagined there’d also be zero light pollution, so there we are, looking up at the stars. The sun and stars, they actually do make sounds. And it’s very similar to bells, like.. Cathedral bells. So that’s where, by day, two… three, whatever of this shared solipsism, where I would start to go. I would make sure that you could hear them. That you could hear the stars above us. And when daytime comes back around, ah… we’ll just go with silence, right? Or use the sun. But how amazing would that be, to have your everyday world turned on its head? To feel like only you and I exist, and not only that… things you’ve never heard before, or experienced in a certain way… like being able to taste the wind. And feel colours as sensations, and over and over again, being taken back down. And instead of using a session that’s… you know, based on this, and then we have a different session, and yet a different session… a true recreating. Recreating your memories, your thoughts, your feelings, your idea of reality, completely. By taking you under, by forming it, speaking it, having you experience it, and continuing that story. I suspect I could get the right person to truly believe that only we existed. So for today’s confession, or story, or whatever else of “What Would I do if I Had No Moral Compass, Or No Limitations” or whatever else, that’s actually what appeals to me today. Shared solipsism. Oh, and stars that sound like bells. Now it’s your turn. Tell me, in this utopia setting, whatever yours looks like… and without using a stereotypical easy one, what would you do? What would you experience, what would you have? If you could change the world in whatever way, you know… and have whatever experience, tell me what it is. And if you want to have that experience. If you believe that we could turn it into a session, let me know. If I do, then you’ll get it for yourself, and it’ll likely get shared out, but whatever is intimate to you will only go to you. That’s it for today’s musings. Now, go ahead and be my muse. The post 4.33 My Shared Solipsism Confession and an Invitation to be My Muse appeared first on Spoken By Elswyth.

There are one or two mentions of triggers in this podcast episode, and some are invoked. Find the POUR and Marshmallow trigger setting sessions on the Locktober page. In this episode I mention a session aimed at my sissy maid, Prissy. It’s a fun erotic story told to you in trance, with a humiliating, demeaning (but orgasmic) finale. This session absolutely will not help you retain a state of chastity for the month. Transcript Are you a Loctober Orchid, or Cactus? So it’s October 3rd already? Kinda surprising, honestly. A happy accident of days 1 and 2 of Locktober taking place over the weekend. But depending on your disposition, your normal routine this might be where things start to get interesting, anyway. It’s certainly the plan that as the month goes on, I’ll have to address what we’re going to do with any thoughts of cheating, or even the reality of you slipping and consciously having an… unsolicited release. But do I really, really need to start today, this first installment of the SbE Locktober, with a caveat like “If you’ve been… very naughty, hidden yourself away in the bathroom to cheat, and jerk off” et cetera. No, I don’t think so. Everything’s on track, right? Now if you’ll indulge me with beginning a thought with a metaphor, and deliberately leaving you wondering what point I’m making… here we go. I have a few houseplants. I don’t know about you, but I think the number of people keeping succulents and so on, it’s basically exploded in the last couple of years. Probably due to the C-word, right? Or heck, maybe I’m just seeing more of it personally? We’re all looking at different internets these days, right? But I have a cactus or two. Part of the appeal (though not really for me) of these plants is they like to be left alone, and for a certain type of person, that is just right, just perfect. Cactuses like to be ignored. I had a family member growing up she had a huge one in her kitchen, which to children is very intimidating, but now as a full-on grown up, I just find it really inspiring in a way. I don’t think I’m ever gonna get one that big. Or live that long, actually. So it’s true. Because of this, most of the plants I keep are you know, the long, vining things that like to creep up a moss pole of a bamboo, or go across the mantle. That’s my happy spot. But I do keep one, somewhat humble Orchid. It was a gift, I suspect most people throw them out once they stop flowering. And because this easy-going grocery store example, man they are high maintenance. Especially when you compare it to that cactus that’s just on the window sill. Or even the vining plants, they like attention, but if you forget they’re like “It’s okay, that’s fine. We know, you’re busy.” But an orchid it has no chill at all. If you want that thing to flower again, you have to water it on a certain schedule, you have to get it tthe right amount of light… the temperature, it makes a difference. Oh, there’s special fertilizer. And regular potting soil… no, no-no-no-no, the orchid does not go in that. I paid a pretty hefty premium to put it into special orchid bark. Which is insane for a plant that in the wild just grows on trees and it’s just fine. So anyway, it’s like the difference between that perfectly browned roasted marshmallow and when you just stick it in the flames, let it catch fire, and blow out the blackened mess. Getting a chargrilled marshmallow is easy, getting it evenly brown is not.  It’s not exactly a test of one’s personality, which houseplants you like to keep. I think it’s the same as those that walk that moral high road when it comes to roasting marshmallows. Now, if you’ve never done it, I’m probably gonna lose you here. And I admit I haven’t done it as much recently because, after becoming vegetarian and realising what gelatine actually is, and I don’t really like a lot of sugar either, so… all of those things go together, but anyway… anyway. With roasting marshmallows, there are the people who believe very firmly that to be a good person means slowly turning it, getting it evenly brown all the way around. And there are other people who fall into the camp of… ya stick it in the fire, let it catch fire, twist it a bit, blow it out… and then you have this blackened mess. Again, just like with the houseplants, and chastity… I’m not saying one is morally superior to the other, but I do know which camp I fall into. So maybe for these first two days you’re been trying to avoid thinking about chastity at all, other than using the sessions, making sure that chastity trigger, it stays firmly in your mind. I’m not going to let you get away with that for the whole month. We’re not going to just ignore it. We are going to reflect on it, talk about it, and you are going to have some tasks where you tell me how you’re feeling. You know those thoughts and feelings that belong to a certain someone… I’m going to collect those. And I’m also pretty open about how it effects me, as well. Going through this Locktober period. Because any Mistress who decides to deny a guy like you is going to need to know, or is going to quickly learn, whether they’re dealing with an orchid or a cactus. Now I’ll say quickly here… I’m happy to tend this garden. I’m not saying I like one more than the other. I will say…I am definitely not a cactus, or an orchid, or anything else. Though I think Elswyth does mean something like “Fairy of the Willow Trees”. Somewhere there. I’m, well… as we know, I’m a bit different than you. I think I’ve already have a half dozen or so orgasms just this October… alone. It’s not an exact science, I don’t actually keep a tally mark somewhere. But for me, trying to exist on chastity would never, ever work. You know what, I probably should try to keep a running total, and see where I get to by the end of the month. But I was thinking about those orchids while I was perusing my email box this morning. I think it’s the easier of the two sides of this coin to understand and explain… because chastity and playing with tease and denial, the triggers, the teasing MCFs and so on… as well as even cages and keyholding, all that stuff, it can be a lot of fun, right? And that fun, it might come from all those little interactions where your state of chastity is acknowledged. And here’s a fact; playing with chastity this way, part of the deal is that you’ll see the ways that I am taking genuine pleasure in your frustration. And this just serves to highlight the difference between you and me, my dear. Because I’m never going to be satisfied by denial. I don’t care to force myself into that kind of discomfort, servitude, and frustration. But I do enjoy it from other people. There’s this moment in a session about my silly little sissy maid Prissy, you might know the one. It’s where I’m telling my blushing one about how she’s dressed for work in her little uniform, while I’m relaxing on a Sunday morning in comfortable, loose pyjamas. Of course, it isn’t necessary for me to indulge that fantasy by pressing in a corset and high heels. And even in that session, prissy’s manhood, it’s tucked away, kept away, until it’s earned, or wanted. Maybe part of the game is even offering you release. Letting you earn it through some display of obedience, or personal humiliation. Or just hearing you beg. I really do love some good begging. I think I’ll see and hear some of that, as the month wears on. But definitely not on day three, and let’s be real… if you actually got that release, when you know you’ve been prescribed a month of no orgasms, you’d just be disappointed. Orchid or Cactus. Disappointed. So let’s talk about our cactus. I’ll bet most have started off the month feeling like a cactus. Just ignoring this, and pushing through. Two full days so far without cumming can’t possibly have changed that much for you. I bet you can do that accidentally sometimes, right? The cactus is the type of guy that is happy to be on that proverbial shelf. Still needs sun, sand, and care. But many an overzealous owner has ruined a cactus by providing way too much interaction and care. Maybe doing way too much for the cactus, and then it starts to feel guilty. I know I have these precious plants in my Elswyth collection because I get the notes here and there – always short, always apologizing for using my time, but letting me know they’re listening and around.  Usually they just send a note when the task for that day requires it. So maybe you choose the cactus mentality because it makes it easier to go through. You know it’s just… out of mind, switching it off. No temptation. Often though, I feel like most don’t choose to be a cactus, instead they simply are. They’ve gone through the various steps towards submission, they live it in their lives, you know as it fits. They’re less likely to want to be a Sabriel. You know those sessions where he’s living his happy go lucky life, ‘til the trigger is used to take over his mind. I see the cactus, if we’re living in our utopia setting, as perhaps someone who’d always want their mind in a somewhat hazy state of trance. As light or deep as I want or need for the day, or week, or month. Almost like a content state, right? The cactus is not sending me daily emails, paragraphs long. That would never suit them. So with chastity, they’re similar. I’m not saying it’s easy. Instead, I’m saying most are just… for lack of a better word; resigned. Accepting. They have their place, and they know when their cock is desired that the chastity trigger will be set aside so they can be their fully functioning, highly satisfying submissive self. Now but what if you’re an orchid, and you’re nervous about becoming a cactus? That if you’re denied too long you might lose interest altogether. Or you might feel ignored. If you’ve ever had that fear I want to hear more about it. So send me a message, either through Patreon or you can go through the website if you want to do it anonymous. Or email.No PC for today, but you do have the task of thinking about orchids and cacti. And any other plant in between and seeing where you fall now and, perhaps, where you want to be. The low maintenance plant or the one you can have to pour water on almost daily. Now later this week, I’m planning on a full length session being released. It will come through the podcast as well as being up on the website, and I know it’s gonna blow some of your minds. I know this because I’ve tested it out, and I absolutely can’t wait for you to experience it. The post 4.32 Are you a Locktober Orchid or Cacti? appeared first on Spoken By Elswyth.

I know I can trust you not to get into trouble until the Monday the 3rd of October. But if it’s not as easy as you expected, make use of this mini relaxation and affirmations session. The affirmations are borrowed from the middle of the Chastity Mindset Sessions. Transcript Today is the final precursor episode to the SpokenByElswyth Locktober. The end of today’s episode is going to be a mini meditation session of mindful breathing and include the Mindset Sessions, those chastity affirmations. There’s a link to the full Chastity Mindset Session in today’s episode notes, so go check that out if you don’t have it already. If you’re not participating in Locktober, feel free to do the breathing anyway, but you might just wanna gloss over the affirmations. There might be some “Explain like I’ve been listening for five minutes” information in this episode. But if you’ve been listening for a while, I know you won’t mind listening carefully. There will be three episodes a week for the next month, in our October. This crazy sporadic schedule, it… it is going to be sorted soon, although I know many have said it’s allowed them to catch up. So there’s always a silver lining. New Erotic Hypno Content Coming Soon! So for next month, there is still going to be fun and erotic sessions coming out. As I mentioend previously, I have a few things in the works. And some have gotten kind of clogged up in the editing process. There will be a new Getting Longer release. Getting Longer is the erotic hypnosis session, well a number of sessions, that form to complete a narrative. The episodes come out every few weeks, and you just buy it once, it goes in your account, and you automatically get access to all of the new versions that come along. There’s a new “Walking to Seduction” style session. It’s shaping up, it’s going to be quite different to the first one from episode 4. And a new “Listening Room” session, it’s in the same vein, I would say, of The Pirate Queen. And this one is tangled up in such delightful topics as Financial Domination and forced movement. Now I do promise not to release, or demand that you listen to, any sessions that are explicitly about seeking orgasm, for that month. Now November, woo… you might be busy. You better stay hydrated. The Permission for Release, those Permissive Circumstance, the thing that I throw out in the podcast episodes, that if you have met that circumstance for today… like… let’s say today’s, we’re going to go very basic, are you wearing sock? If you’re wearing socks, you have my permission for an orgasm today. Now if you’re not wearing socks, that means too bad, so sad. No release for you today. That is a Permissive Circumstance. They’re not always that basic, sometimes it’s more of an honour system of… do you remember a certain affirmation, or a session, or a trigger.  I was going to make to make today’s Permissive Circumstance a bit… juicier, so if you think the sock one is just a bit too mundane for you, so how about this? You have permission, as long as you’ve told me, promised me, that you’re going to succeed at Locktober. You can do that by going to the website, SpokenByElswyth.com/Locktober and it’ll tell you exactly how to do so. So PCs they’re on hold during October and resuming in November. Now if you’re not doing Locktober and will miss the fun game of chance, use some dice – even for yes, odds for no. Keep track and then you can let me know at the end of the month. A Chastity Mindset Mini-Session This mini-session that’s coming up, is one that you’re going to use after you’ve “entertained yourself” if you met today’s… either one of today’s Permissive Circumstances, and it’s also one for you to revisit throughout the month. So find a place where you’re unlikely to be interrupted. You’re not going to have to do any particular movement, it’s just going to be guided breathing and the affirmations. It’s suitable for mental chastity, or the type that involves little cages, or strategically placed piercings. Oh sorry dear, did I push a button when I said “Little Cages”? I just meant cages. Big cages, enormous cages. Roomy, even. Does that make you feel better? Now this isn’t really hypnosis, but it leans on hypnosis techniques, and it makes use of Affirmations. And if you come back to this short session every day, you’ll likely have these affirmations memorized. Affirmations are literally just positive and encouraging statements, but when they first came to prominence they were coupled with hypnotic trance. We can make use of them both ways, because we’re flexible like that, right? So you’ll hear affirmations like these as parts of longer sessions. In fact, these very affirmations appear in the middle of the Chastity Mindset Sessions. We’re going to take a moment to relax. Not with a deep trance, this time but just with a simple, mindful breathing technique. You’re going to need to be somewhere comfortable, either sitting or lying down, and where you can be reasonably certain that you won’t be disturbed. In a moment, I’m going to ask you to start matching a different breathing rhythm. This rhythm is called Four-Round Breathing, and it’s called that because you’re going to take a long breath in, and that’s going to take about 4 seconds. Then you’re going to hold that breath, and I’m going to count out 4 beats for you. And as I promised you this would be easy. Simple even. So next you’re going to hear me say “Out… 2… 3… 4…”, and you’re going to slowly let that breath out, and then you’ll “Wait… 2… 3… 4…”. You can breathe through your nose or mouth on each breath… whatever feels most natural. In just a moment I’m going to instruct you to begin, and count to keep you on track. So go ahead and shake out any tension, adjust your body in whatever way you need. Whatever you need to adjust. And be ready. Listen to the episode to enjoy this mini session. Download or bookmark it to make use of it all through Locktober. The post 4.31 The Last Locktober Precursor Episode appeared first on Spoken By Elswyth.

Let’s not beat about the bush. I have the sniffles. I had a slightly different plan for yesterday’s episode but since it’s something I’d like you to revisit, I’m shuffling things around to ensure I sound “right”. I think all will be well by Friday the 30th. It’s important to keep looking forward. Transcript In this episode I’m covering whether or not you’re living the sub-guy life. And, later I’ll go over whether or not you can call me Mistress, because that’s a question that has surfaced a few times. Both of these topics actually, they’ve come up quite a bit in emails and messages. Also, the elephant in the room. I obviously have a cold. My entire city seems to have a cold. There is a run on Kleenex here. I won’t be recording sessions with this voice, but I figure a podcast is stuffy-nose-voice-appropriate. Literally had a short spanking session with someone over this stuff-nose situation, just today. Which put me in a good Mistressly headspace, and I decided just to go ahead with the podcast. Oh, someone had the audacity to say they couldn’t take me seriously when I talk like this. They’re now… and they did you know, the whole pinch-their-nose-together. Well they’re now taking me seriously after taking a hairbrush to their bottom. Just about everyone has a hairbrush, or a wooden spoon, or heck even a flat shoe works in a pinch. But spanking isn’t one of today’s topics, it’s whether or not you’re living the sub-guy life. Now I do get a lot of sad tales. I am not signed up to be somebody’s therapist. I do have a lot of hypnotherapy skills, but that’s not quite the same as couple counselling, is it? Now with some of these, I get you. I was once in a relationship that was definitely the wrong place for me. It was not the right place for him, but it was one that just… on paper seemed to be the right choice, you know? And you do and you do and you do and you keep thinking it will get better, but you know time is passing and that clock is ticking and you gotta make a decision. For a lot of people that is so hard because it’s almost like your friends split up, right? And your relatives say stuff, and then people say things like “Oh you know, grandma and grandpa were married for fifty years.” Well, whatever, don’t go after the fifty year thing if it isn’t the right relationship, okay? Because it’s your life and you don’t get like a trophy, nothing like that. Anyway, so sometimes the relationship is just the wrong one. But quite a few of these sad tales that come through are not so much about the wrong relationship as much as the wrong mindset. So I get a lot of… whining. That that you know, you just can’t live your submissive guy life because she won’t tell you what to do. Or you can’t bring this up because she is so… well, I’m saying she but you know, this is the Femdom podcast, so I’m assuming these, this is my lane to stay in. Training Yourself to be a Better Submissive Or you know that your relationship partner is just so close-minded. Well here’s the thing, you can still do stuff. Let’s say you’re actually living with someone, you’re sharing a house, okay… that’s this relationship opr a few someones, or whatever. There are things available to you to do as a submissive guy. Now, don’t go asking what you can do… because that creates work. I. Hate. This. Now if it’s an actual project, like we are… let’s pretend we’re back in the States and we’re gonna be living on a farm, okay? And we are building a chicken tractor, and I’m… you know… doing my thing and you come over and say “Oof… what can I do?” That’s fine, you know? Because there’s an order to it, right? And it’s a one set project, whatever… fine. In your own house, come on… you know what needs done. You know it. I know you know it. You know you know it. Your partner wasn’t born knowing everything about knowing how to manage a house, how to make sure appointments are made, or this tax is handled, and the library books go back. They weren’t born with this innate knowledge. It isn’t some skill. They don’t sneak us off to these secret classes to learn all this stuff. Okay? You know. You’re a grown-ass adult, you know. So just do it. Seriously, if you are a submissive guy and this is a person you love… maybe you’re claiming right now you don’t love ‘em as much, or you’re not in love with them like before… whatever. Pretend you’re dating. Pretend it’s still that engagement period. Whatever, and go for it. Right? And don’t say what you did. Don’t expect some big old thank you. Because guess what? That assume whatever chore you just did, you did it assuming it was her’s, and so therefore you deserve a thank you. Now I’m hoping that if you’ve been with me for a while, that you are not that kind of a guy. Really hoping. Yeah, because… oh my god, that’s so tedious, isn’t it? So, you know… if I’m living with someone, I’m not going to gush over the floor being swept, well, in certain scenarios with you know, outfits included, a little bit of power play going there… or a lot, perhaps there’d be some fun Prissy-Praising happening. But right now I’m just talking about everyday life in la-la-land. And you know, if you swapped the laundry around, that’s a mix of household whatevers, don’t wait on the brass band to celebrate you. And if you won’t do these things, let’s ssay you’re gonna say you’re not a service sub, that’s not your kink… guess what? It’s still an act of submission. It is still acting out a way of making your relationship partners life better. And it should be a way to get some of your subby-guy fix. I’m not saying you’ve got to be the house servant, while she is whiling away the hours on TikTok or whatnot. What I’m saying is, you can’t whine to me that you’re never allowed to serve, when you’re basically just saying you want to serve by licking her boots, or having her sit on your face, and something like scrubbing up the whole bathroom before running her a bath is just beneath your subby wants. A Devious Test for Devious Mistresses You know, the… first coming home with a Mistress, one fun thing to do especially with a guy that all around is pretty good, let’s say he’s like… 85% like “Yeah, I can work with this.” okay? He is somebody who has practiced serving and doing other things, and whatever else, and his mannerisms come true, but unfortunately let’s say this guy has spent let’s say the last five years idealizing how being with a Mistress would be, and even worse… he has picked one, maybe two fantasies to jack off to all the time. Now this guy, he probably needs to go pay someone. And tell them exactly what he’s expecting. Now I’m not really against that for what we do, because I think that’s fun. I have people who say “This is what I want to live out, can’t do it in my everyday life, let’s do it in the headspace.” and then we create something, and I think that’s fantastic, and a lot of time that comes out in public, and you get to enjoy it to. But let’s get back to everyday life guy… and again, this could even be a session, couldn’t it? If you wanted to explore it. Basically, been out a few times, you know he’s not an axe murderer, he know you’re not an axe murderer, you hit it off, this is the first time coming home. The best way to do that, because you know, well, I know that he is horny as hell, and he’s kinda hoping we’ll go through the steps, and sometime you know, we’re going to go down the the dungeon and just play. Instead, it’s so good to have him take off just about everything. Undershorts can stay on, have him stand in the bedroom while I go take a shower, it’s a glass door, I don’t mind being watched. Coming out, getting a tower, even letting him server by helping me dry, and then you know… putting on my comfy PJs. I have a avocado set that I absolutely love, and then telling him, it’s his turn. In the shower he goes. Scrubbing clean. Now you know, you know what he’s thinking now, right? I’m clean, he’s clean, maybe the PJs threw him off a bit. And then, either going out to, well we call it a front room here, and watching a show, which he’s gonna think is like.. Netflix and Chill, right? Or, let’s say it’s pretty damn late, going to the bed, telling his that he’s the little spoon, because I actually don’t want to feel his arousal all night, and then going to sleep. And then the next morning teaching him how to make my coffee. Now, the guy who has his one or two scenarios and he jerks off to them all the time? He’s gonna be pissed off, or at least… like… really blah’d, right? And he’s going to make that pouty and known. But the submissive guy, he can be frustrated, that’s totally fine. But he’s also going to stay as him. He’s going to be like… getting some of that submissive guy fix, right? Her needs above his needs. And I’m sure as it goes on, more rewarding stuff comes. You know, like a hairbrush against your bottom. Submissive Training For Unattached Submissives So let’s say you don’t have a relationship partner. Let’s say you still are in that dating mode. We’ll go from that and then next we’ll talk about from that… just friends and family that’s your social circle. If you are dating, and let’s say you’re not having much luck asking people out, put on your Sabriel mindset. And instead of asking out whoever on the same old tired date like to dinner, see what they might like, or if you have no idea, still do something different. Find out when open mic night is somewhere, I would love… love, love, love that. I wouldn’t be doing it. You know, my style of storytelling is more for a discrete audience. Or, stand up comedian, you know… live local sports, especially like that little team because if you’re in the States, the farm teams for baseball, it’s always fun. They always have like… goofy things going on, and so on, you know… something different. Now let’s say you’re not dating, right now. In between and all that, taking a break, whatever. And it’s just friend and family, you can still do the same thing. You can still practise that mindset of you know… going with your buddy to see a museum? Trying out paddleboarding with a cousin, doing something along those lines. Again, this is getting you in the mindset of… them, not you. If as I’ve talked through all of that it sounds so damn tedious to you, I’m going to say… and there’s nothing wrong with this, but I’m going to say, maybe you’re not a submissive guy, maybe you just like certain things with your sex, and that’s okay. It is! It’s absolutely okay. But if you are looking to use someone as kinda like a prop, because you know exactly how you want it to go, you’re probably not going to find that in your average relationship. You’re probably not going to find that in your current relationship, which is mostly vanilla, and twisting it over to something else. But I can almost promise you, if you are a submissive guy and this is giving you some new ideas of ways to kind of explore that in your everyday life, even if it’s not kinky fun, but it’s just creating you, then you’re going to find success. You just are. You’re going to find yourself feeling good. You’re going to find more people being warm to you. And if you have this everyday life relationship that isn’t going to so, or has stagnated, or whatever else… if you practise those things, and you practise in discussions, making sure you’re not quick to jump in. You’re not quick to correct. You’re not quick to give your opinion, you know? She’s telling you something that she heard on talk radio, you know… that working. And you wanna jump in and say “Ah, but… blah-blah-blah-blah-blah.” Is it worth it? Is it really worth it to say it? Or is it worth it to you, to listen to her and enjoy that she’s sharing something with you. That you have this person interested in the world, interested in you, and talking to you. Don’t take that stuff for granted. Why You Can Call Me Mistress Now this is going a little bit different… I don’t often talk about people’s other relationships and so on, I am a pretty big believer that we can love a lot of people in a lot of different ways. People do come in and out of our lives, and that is also fine. You don’t have to like… hold onto everybody like it’s some… I can’t even remember what year that was. Like the 80s or 90s those Beanie Babies, you don’t have to do that. You know, you can appreciate the comings and goings. But let’s talk about why you can call me Mistress. Now part of this, and this has come up a bit and usually it comes across a ploy for me to say something about the relationship or whatever else. And honestly, we can just reel it all the way back; you can call me Mistress, because I identify as a Mistress. Any of the other honoriffics, I pretty-much accept. It took me a while to get used to Goddess. I did not have someone in my everyday life who was really into that, except for a brief stint. You know, Darling… I love Darling. That’s usually my day-honorrific, you know… out in public. Quite a few things. That’s why. That’s why you can call me Mistress. Because I identify as a Mistress. Can you also just write to me as Elswyth? Yes. And I do have people do that, because I actually do have non-submissive guys, just people who are with me for the self-growth, for the… they have another relationship going on, or they don’t identify as a submissive guy. That’s really okay, I don’t fall apart. My own personal worth and happiness and so on doesn’t really come from whether or not Joe-Schmoe si gonna call me Mistress. If you write a message to me and you call me Elswyth I’m not like… scoring any points, I’m not flinching or whatever. It doesn’t threaten me in any way. That’s why you can call me that. So, going along those lines, this one I’ve come up with a few times, for tasks, ummm… and I like it. Because it makes you think outside the box. There are quite a few people who are in power exchange relationships, who do have, you know, those different names for eachother. So, those that have come up quite a few times for me, are Mistress, Goddess, Empress, Darling, and… am I forgetting one? And of course Elswyth. And anyway, your job is this; come up with a title. You can borrow from history, you can borrow from other languages, whatever… Come up with a title that you haven’t heard me use for myself, and let me know what it is. Now you don’t have to stick with it, and that’s fine. But I do want to hear it. And then, your Permissive Circumstance relies on this part, which is the second half of your task; come up with title, nickname, whatever, that would pair with it. Kind-of like our Little Treasure and the Pirate? That kind of pairing, I can’t wait to see what you come up with. The post 4.30 Are you living the sub guy life? And can YOU call me Mistress? appeared first on Spoken By Elswyth.