The R Spot with Iyanla

Iyanla believes that a betrayal of trust by a family member can be one of the most difficult relationships to heal from, but also one of the most beneficial. And two callers this week have detailed stories of betrayal to share on their paths toward healing. One caller had the police called on her after she exposed her sister’s cheating husband. And a second caller has always had contention with her three sisters, whom she now hasn’t talked to for years after a very minor disagreement. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla takes a look at the other side of the parent/child relationship, with two callers whose mothers still treat them like children. The first caller feels like he had to become the emotional support for his mother after his father died, which created an unhealthy relationship. Then, a second caller wants to have some relationship with their mother, but can’t seem to set boundaries like an adult. Iyanla guides both callers toward standing up and presenting themselves as children no longer. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla classifies a relationship as lasting for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. In this week’s episode, callers share stories of returning to a relationship for a second (or third, or fourth) time – something Iyanla calls “Double Dipping.” One caller continuously returns to a man who disappears from her life for long periods of time, while another caller believes second chances never work in romantic relationships as it’s only left her with a broken heart. Iyanla guides both callers to understanding the “reason for the season” in these recurring relationships.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week’s callers think there are no more good, single men out there. One woman is only attracting men who take and never give in the relationship, and now she measures her relationships as a transaction. Then, the second caller believes she’ll never find what she wants in a partner, and because of that ends up finding men who leave her. Iyanla takes it all the way back to the root, diving into each callers’ belief systems (B.S.) developed at a young age.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What people experience as a child can have resonating ramifications for how they develop into adulthood. Two callers this week are working through their childhood traumas. One woman keeps having flashbacks to degrading and mean comments her mother made when she was young, and she feels like she can’t move on from it. Then, a second caller wants to be close to his parents, but feels like they never allowed him to express himself. Iyanla guides both callers toward forgiveness and acceptance of their unhealed inner child. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant  Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After 12 years of marriage, one woman is on the verge of divorce because her husband continues to spend time with an ex and many female “friends”, which he refuses to let her meet. Another caller’s boyfriend left him when he didn’t lose the weight gained as a result of the stress of significant loss. Iyanla dives right in, reminding both callers that the most important things for them, in this moment, is to set their boundaries, learn from their mistakes and choose themselves. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

With the intention of bringing a family back together, one woman is trying to bridge the estranged relationship between her boyfriend and his daughter. The problem is: her boyfriend never asked for help. Then, Iyanla’s second caller is frustrated when her husband shuts down after trying to over-communicate her issues with him. Iyanla’s guidance on both issues is straightforward: Communication in a way that works for you and your partner is the only solution. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In a mental-health-conscious episode, one caller recently moved in with their now-adult son after a crisis, and is struggling to live together without treating him like a child. Another caller suddenly became a guardian to her grandchildren after a heartbreaking loss and needs some support moving forward Iyanla asks that both women seek the strength inside themselves and to, most importantly, ask for the help that they need without feeling like they’re doing something wrong.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Blindsided by a sudden breakup shortly after closing the gap on a long distance relationship, one caller is left heartbroken and confused by the continued mixed messages. Another caller is certain her masculine energy is preventing her from attracting the ideal man. Iyanla has some guidance for the both of them: Choose yourself, and grow some lady balls! It just might help them both find a relationship that works. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla often says that if you are emotionally untrusting, you will attract emotionally untrust-worthy people, and that couldn’t be more true for both of her callers today. The first caller is dating a married man and is unsure if she should end the relationship, but Iyanla doesn’t buy the lie. Then, after constantly being friend-zoned, another woman realizes that she is constantly pushing to find “the one,” all while being emotionally guarded. When love is difficult, Iyanla reminds both callers that if they want to know the end, look at how the relationship began – either in a lie, or out of desperation. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.