Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast

Karen McMahon

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Dec 16, 2019 • 45min

Accelerate Trust During and Beyond Divorce - Step 10

(Listener Note: This is Episode #10 of this twelve-part series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order). Step 10 discusses trust and tuning inward to access one of the greatest resources we have - our own inner, intuitive guidance and wisdom. There are people in our lives that we turn to for guidance and wisdom when we are faced with uncertainty and important decisions. This is very valuable. AND there are so many times when we hear another's advice and know it's just not right for us. There's no one who knows more about you, your situation, your values, your strengths and vulnerabilities than YOU. Wouldn't it be great to know that you have inside you all the resources and wisdom you need to come up with the best course of action to take in any situation? The key lies in accessing more of your discernment process than the logical mind or gathering more and more data points. Join us as we consider our intuition, what it is, how it shows up, what gets in the way of our accepting it as an important part of our thinking and decision making process, what is possible when we pay attention to it, and the consequences of ignoring the intuitive messages we receive. There is a lot of literature written about how to distinguish the voice of your inner guidance or intuition from the voice of fear, contraction, or your inner critic. Learn ways you can distinguish the source of that voice in your head saying "Yes, let's do it!"...or "NO!!" Discover steps for cultivating your intuition so that it becomes a strength that you can learn to trust and rely upon. Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com
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Dec 6, 2019 • 41min

Overcome the Pain of Divorce - Step 9

(Listener Note: This is Step #9 of this 12 step series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order). It is normal to feel hurt, anger, blame and resentment while going through divorce. It is a devastating and traumatic transition, one that we all resist and that no one escapes without experiencing these painful feelings at some point in the process. Karen McMahon and Karen Basmagy discuss the pitfalls of living in resistance and the benefits of learning to accept what is. When we feel stuck and overwhelmed, it is a red flag that we are resisting what is happening to our lives. It sounds something like, "This isn't happening!", "I can't believe s/he is doing this!", "It wasn't supposed to be this way!", "This is all my/his/her fault". When we are in resistance, we remain stuck in blame and disbelief and unable to move forward. We unable to see our part in our dissolving marriage and unwilling to consider the possibility in life after divorce. Resistance adds more stress and tension into an already difficult situation. The key to stepping into the possibility that your future holds is to learn to accept: accept the choices you made, accept the way your spouse behaves, accept that you marriage is dissolving and the divorce is happening. By resisting, nothing changes except that it is harder and more stressful. By accepting, we begin to move through the hard time. Acceptance opens up choices and we can see more possibility with each decision we make. Acceptance enables us to channel our energy into what we do have control over. Listen in and follow the suggested action steps to help you move through your divorce. Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com
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Dec 4, 2019 • 48min

Practice Presence Throughout Divorce - Step 8

(Listener Note: This is Episode #8 of this twelve-part series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order). Divorce is a time of upheaval and chaos. Life as you've known it is changing daily in ways small and large. You are responsible for many to do's to manage the change. Exactly where all this change is leading is unknowable yet your mind is in overload attempting to predict your future or figure out the past. In Step 8 we discuss the importance of leading your head to where your feet are or, bringing yourself to and staying present in the moment. It is an ingrained habit of mind to time travel to attempt to figure out the unknowable. When we get lost in reflections of the past or fears projected onto our futures we waste the present by disabling our ability to be effective in the one place that is real and where we have power, right here and right now. Staying present in the moment eliminates the feelings of powerlessness that so many individuals experience during divorce. Easily accessible tools and effective practices are available to bring you back to and keep you in present moment awareness. In this present moment that you are powerful to choose and take considered and strategic actions to navigate wisely and well through your divorce as well as the rest of your life. Understand how you are intensifying that pain, how to begin minimizing it, and how to use present moment awareness to make your journey through divorce and beyond as easy and pleasurable as possible. Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com
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Dec 2, 2019 • 53min

Rekindle Confidence During Divorce - Step 7

(Listener Note: This is Step #7 of this 12 step series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order). Everyone divorcing has a particular version or story of what happened to their marriage and why. This story is usually from a singular personal perspective, yours. Your spouse has another story, also singular and personal. Unless your spouse is truly delusional, both stories have a basis in truth yet neither encompasses a whole truth. In Step 7 Karen and Lisa explore the concept of "story" as differentiated from "what actually happened". They provide practices and skills that allow you to become aware of your story as only one of a number of versions so you can begin to own your part in the unfolding and unraveling of your marriage with compassion and understanding. As you begin to question your story and look at other ways of interpreting the personalities and events involved, there is a freedom to recognize your role in what happened. By stepping out of your story and beginning to own your role you open up the possibility of learning and growing through understanding rather than being frozen in place by judgement. Explore ways to detach from your story, free yourself from being a victim of circumstances, recognize and change behaviors that have not been working for you, find acceptance and forgiveness for both yourself and your imperfect companion, and enjoy a broader range of choices and options that lay hidden behind your story. Simply, you will meet the perspectives and tools that will allow you to grow and heal through your pain. Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com
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Nov 29, 2019 • 1h 2min

Escape the Battle of Divorce - Step 6

(Listener Note: This is Step #6 of this 12 step series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order). I keep getting stuck in what was. 2 tools to shift your gaze from the rear view mirror to the front windshield during divorce. With Karen McMahon and Sheila Knopp. It is both normal and easy to label ourselves and / or our spouse as bad or wrong during divorce. We can live in regret or with rose color glasses as we keep our eyes glued to the rear view mirror. Our judgement of the past, which is often unconscious thought behavior, locks us into the hurt and pain that we so deeply want to escape. Explore a new practice of Curiosity. Consider what might happen if you didn't firmly believe you knew everything… the why and how, and the motivation or thought behind every action. While our judgement keeps us stuck in old thought patterns that add to our suffering, curiosity opens the possibility for new learning, growth and healing. Consider how letting go of your judgement of the past enables you to embrace the possibility of the future. Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com
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Nov 27, 2019 • 1h 4min

Grow Through Grief During Divorce - Step 5

When we are faced with divorce, we go through a grief process. The death of our marriage brings the loss of the hopes and dreams we had as a couple, the loss of our normal family life, friends, community, etc. Grief is the normal reaction to loss. No two people grieve loss in the same way. You'll learn that there is no "one size fits all" approach to grief recovery, and yet there are experiences we all share when overcome by grief. There are a range of emotions - often referred to as the stages of grief - that you might experience with the death of your marriage: Denial, Anger, Ambivalence, Depression, and Acceptance. Karen and Carrie explore what it means to grieve well and some of the "Rules of Grief" we have learned growing up that need to be consciously examined and set aside in order for you to move into acceptance of your losses. Learn practices and tools to assist you in taking care of yourself while grieving, including how to appropriately express and release your emotional energy with a sense of safety and permission to do so. The healing can begin with these simple practices and tools. Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com
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Nov 25, 2019 • 49min

Seek Solutions During Divorce - Step 4

During divorce there is no shortage of opportunities to get upset. Whether it is a disagreement with your soon-to-be-ex, dealing with the emotional reactions of loved ones, feeling frustrated with the legal system or being paralyzed by fear and uncertainty, it is common to feel raw, reactionary and disempowered! Today we discuss noticing how we unknowingly add to our own emotional upset. We look at where you do have control and encourage you to begin to take back your power. When you follow the practices and engage in the tools that we share, you will begin to experience more calm and confidence regardless of whether or not your external circumstances change. Today's show invites you to develop a new understanding of the value of acceptance, guides you to stay Solution Oriented and offers a plan for engaging in a manner that brings your closer to what you desire. Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com
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Nov 22, 2019 • 54min

Calm the Chaos of Divorce - Step 3

We have all had the experience of obsessing over thoughts during divorce. Whether trying to understand how this happened or worrying about what the future holds or re-running that argument in your mind over and over again. I call it loop thinking when we feel like we are on a mental hamster-wheel or caught in a mental rut. Today's we examine the four categories these mental obstacles fall into and how they keep us stuck and cause us to increase the emotional pain we are experiencing. Begin to see how our pain originates with our thoughts and how once we are aware of those that pull us down, we can begin to consciously change the way we think. This powerful concept frees us to choose to respond rather than react and ultimately to communicate with more confidence. Karen McMahon and Lisa Brick share practices, tools and exercises to help you implement these concepts immediately and see the impact this new awareness will have on how your choose to engage in all your interactions. Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com
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Nov 20, 2019 • 59min

Heal the Hurt of Divorce - Step 2

Divorce is deeply painful. We may experience different emotions ranging from hurt or anger, shame or disappointment, fear or bitterness. In order to heal as we go through this transition, it is vital that we not judge or avoid our feelings but rather accept that they simply are. In our quick fix society we see the devastation of avoiding our feelings with pharmaceutical drugs and personal addictions. Emotional pain seems too hard to handle so we stuff it, numb it, work harder, play harder, shop more, binge on Netflix reruns, etc. Yet no matter where we go, or how fast we try to get there, we can't outrun our feelings. Wherever we go, there we are...with our pain. The only way out is through. Karen and Carrie share gentle, practical, and doable strategies for feeling and processing painful emotions in a way that enables us to move through them and engage in essential conversations and decisions about the future with calm and clarity. Learn the practice of creating space through breath that provides a path back to your center - who you are and want to be in all your interactions. Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com
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Nov 18, 2019 • 39min

Curb the Conflict of Divorce - Step 1

This is the first episode in our twelve-part series from Journey Beyond Divorce with Karen McMahon and Lisa Brick. The emotional storm of divorce creates chaos and uncertainty and often leaves us struggling to keep our heads above water. Emotions from fear and anger, pain and devastation can sink us on a daily basis. Today's show Curb the Conflict of Divorce details two effective strategies that offer you the opportunity to gain a deeper understanding of and control over your emotional reactions. After listening to today's discussion, you will see the suffering you create by the way you react. You will also receive tangible, immediate action steps that you can take to change your experience. Karen and Lisa will discuss the power in shifting the focus off our spouse and looking at our part in the turmoil. They will challenge you to notice what triggers you, how your choose to perceive situations and what happens when you step back, slow down and embrace new perspectives and behaviors that are more aligned with what you desire...to move from chaos to calm, clear and confident. Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com

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