Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast

Karen McMahon

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Jun 17, 2022 • 35min

JBD Team Talks: Letting Go Part II: But HOW do I Let Go?

So much of our suffering is due to the voices in our head...the stories of how we have been wronged, or what is happening is bad or the certainty of why s/he did that thing...the 'why' placing us squarely in the victim seat. Divorce is painful, when we suffer, it is our own doing as a result of ruminating about our perspective, judgement, unforgiveness, insecurity, fear, etc. Today's episode shines a spotlight on what happens between your ears and the steps you have to take to Let Go of your story and embrace a perspective that leaves you feeling less charged and more empowered. Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com
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Jun 13, 2022 • 52min

High Conflict Divorce: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

While all decision during divorce are challenging, deciding whether to stay and mend your marriage or to divorce is one of the most stressful and emotionally charged. It is often drenched in judgement, shame, guilt, fear and uncertainty. Today we help you to unweave your fears and limiting beliefs from the circumstances you are assessing so that you can become clear in determining your best next steps. We also share the huge value in staying long enough to work on your shortcoming so that, regardless of your choice, you emerge healthier in all your relationships. Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com
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Jun 13, 2022 • 50min

High Conflict: The Vital Role Forgiveness Plays in Healing

The psychological impact of living with a HCP crushes your self esteem often leaving you, the spouse insecure, reactive and bitter. Dr. Gayle Reed shares how forgiveness is a healing balm for the spouse of the HCP. She explains the traumatic impact of verbal and emotional abuse and the psychological defenses you use to manage the resulting anger, pain and confusion. While forgiveness seems to be for the HCP, it is actually for you, the spouse. Forgiveness is not condoning, accepting, excusing or denying the abuse. Gayle takes us through a 4 phase process that helps you to uncover the impact of unforgiveness, examine the benefits of choosing forgiveness, begin the journey to forgive and the healing that journey invites and ultimately, how forgiveness, healing and growth is the cornerstone for finding meaning in the struggle with the HCP. Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com
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Jun 10, 2022 • 50min

Healthy Romantic Relationships: Know Your Personal Operating Style

Welcome to Today's Episode: Know Your Personal Operating 'Style' and That of Your Partner's. We have a great conversation for you today with Sandy Weiner who brilliantly highlights how important the little things are. She shares the value of a 'Personal Operating Manual' which she developed for her clients that enables them to share their authentic selves with their new partner. It includes Lifestyle, Worldview and Sex. It covers all the small stuff that drives our perspectives and behaviors and we discuss how knowing yours and his or hers enables you to relate better. Join us as we discuss the importance of knowing your core values, being vulnerable and curious, making agreements and getting the support you need to make this your best relationship yet! Sandy is the Chief Love Officer at Last First Date. She's an internationally known TEDx speaker, and dating and relationship coach for women over 40. Sandy also authored 'Becoming a Woman of Value, How to Thrive in Life and Love', and she is the host of two podcasts, Last First Date Radio and The Woman of Value Podcast. Sandi is the proud mom of three highly creative adults, and the grandmother of three delicious grandkids. Sandy believes it's never too late to go on your last first date! Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate/ Website: http://lastfirstdate.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sandyweiner1 YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Lastfirstdate Dating Podcast: Last First Date Radio https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/last-first-date-radio/id586220219?mt=2 The Woman of Value Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-woman-of-value-podcast/id1470291918?ign-mpt=uo%3D4 FREE GIVEAWAY: 8 Steps For Having a Tough Conversation Request a Free Jump Start Call at https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/jumpstart For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com
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Jun 8, 2022 • 43min

Voices of Celebration: I Found Myself, He Got Sober and Everyone's Better!

Molly knew early on in her marriage that things were not good. She experienced emotional abuse and walked on eggshells to 'keep the peace' with her new spouse. When their child arrived, things got worse as she needed to focus more on the baby than on dad. Once she decided to divorce, she began setting boundaries, finding her voice and her authenticity. The biggest challenge and surprise was how their parenting dynamic went from all her responsibility to 50/50 custody with dad getting the help he needed to break generational chains and become a present and healthy dad for their child. So many hold the belief that if one parent has not been active and present, then they simply can't. Tune in as Molly shares her fear and frustrations, he leap of faith and her spouse's own hard work on himself to become the parent they both hoped he would be for their child. Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com
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Jun 6, 2022 • 52min

High Conflict Divorce: How to Heal from Self Love Deficiency (Codependence)

Today's episode is dedicated to your healing journey. Those of us who marry HCPs have our part in the dysfunction as we discussed in episode 2 - Divorcing A Narcissist: The Personality Disorders and Dysfunctional Dance of High Conflict Marriages. We are excited to have Ross Rosenberg with us again today to share deeply effective strategies for healing from codependency, a self love deficiency disorder. Ross speaks passionately about how vital it is to heal trauma from childhood to gain the self love that was 'robbed' from your childhood. As the spouse of the HCP, the promise for your future lies in keeping the focus on your healing and in changing behaviors that have not benefited you. If you struggle with this, we are here to support you. Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com
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Jun 3, 2022 • 29min

JBD Team Talks: The Practice of Noticing and Letting Go

Divorce offers a plethora of opportunities to get triggered, react and then remain upset. Today's talk is about the difference between the pain of divorce and the suffering so many of us experience. The difference is your ability to take responsibility for your emotional reaction and ultimately let go. Most of us weren't taught to 'go in' when we get upset, but rather to look outwards and blame other people or circumstances. Karen challenges that approach and shares a powerful practice of noticing your resistance or acceptance of the initial 'event' and then noticing your thoughts and feelings as you continue to focus on that event. The freedom and peace that is available to us comes when we take agency over our thoughts and actions. This requires us to know the difference between our thoughts and feelings, to notice our thoughts and 'shift' them when they don't benefit us. In doing so, we experience an emotional shift to a lighter more hopeful place. Practice makes for progress. Tune in and begin your practice of letting go today! Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com
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May 30, 2022 • 56min

High Conflict: How to Communicate To Get What You Want from a Narcissist

As we began discussing in our last episode, communicating with a high conflict personality (HCP) is often frustrating and fruitless, and leaves us feeling angry, exhausted and unheard. Today's episode offers a unique and powerful approach to communicating with a narcissist that enables you to protect your interests without conflict or drama! This strategy neutralizes combative and emotionally charged power struggles and inspires the narcissist to cooperate. (Get ready to take notes!) Special guest Lindsey Ellison, is the author of Magic Words, a relationship coach and founder of Start Over Coaching. As a result of struggling to communicate with her narcissist ex-spouse and support her clients to do the same with theirs, Lindsey brilliantly applied her experience from her previous marketing career to design a simple yet powerful 5 step strategy to get you what you want from a narcissist. Need support? Request a Free Rapid Relief Call at www.rapidreliefcall.com For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com
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May 27, 2022 • 45min

Healthy Romantic Relationships: Entering New Relationships with a Positive Mindset and Self Compassion

Welcome to our Healthy Romantic Relationship Series and today's episode: Entering New Relationships with a Positive Mindset and Self Compassion. As we dive into this topic, Dr. Jennifer Reid, who is a psychiatrist and award-winning educator with a practice in Philadelphia, shares the importance of realizing how we are wired and therefore how we communicate and react in relationships. Jennifer invites us to create a safe space to speak to our partner and the critical skill of active listening. We cover the challenges with expectations, the role of sex and your ability to know and be able to express what you need and the brilliance of gratitude, positivity and the skill of acknowledging our partner when we feel loved by them. Dr. Jennifer Reid also writes and podcasts as The Reflective Doc, sharing practical mental health information to those who may not have access to adequate care and support. She trained at Columbia University and UCLA, and is on the clinical faculty at the University of Pennsylvania. She is also a frequent guest on podcasts and a regular contributor to Psychology Today and Doximity. You can reach Jennifer at TheReflectiveDoc.com The Reflective Doc Podcast Request a Free Jump Start Call at https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/jumpstart For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com
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May 23, 2022 • 59min

High Conflict Divorce: How to Remain Peaceful, Productive and Professional

Today's powerful episode gives you the strategies and tools needed to communicate more effectively with your spouse's high conflict personality. You have been struggling with criticism, deflection, blaming and black and white thinking. You have doubted your own version of reality, lost your self esteem and tried time and again to reason with your spouse to no end. What you didn't know was that communicating with a HCP requires a very different approach. HCPs do not respond to logic. Their brains are wired differently which is why your reasoning was fuel to the fire of conflict you were trying to put out. You continually get hooked into his/her reality, react is frustration or discouragement with nothing changing Today's guests, Megan Hunter and Andrea LaRochelle are experts in high conflict disputes and explain why your reasoning approach has not worked and what you need to do to communicate more effectively with the HCP in your life. Learn about the EAR and BIFF approaches that will forever change the way you interact and coparent with your HCP. Request a Free Jump Start Call at https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/jumpstart For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com

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