Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast

In this episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, Karen McMahon sits down with divorce attorney Andrea Vacca, Esq. to explore the unique pressures of the holiday season when you're considering divorce. This is the stage where uncertainty weighs heavily, information is still being gathered, and you may not be ready—or safe—to share your plans with anyone. Family gatherings, traditions, and expectations continue around you, even as you quietly wonder what the new year will bring. Karen and Andrea bring compassionate clarity to this "secret season," discussing how to stay grounded, make strategic decisions, and approach the holidays with intention rather than panic. They dive into the five common fears that surface during this time: the fear of not holding it together in front of family, making the wrong decision under holiday pressure, being discovered before you're ready, facing financial fallout in the new year, and feeling responsible for disrupting your children's sense of family or holiday joy. Through their conversation, you'll learn how to navigate family events without revealing too much, maintain your boundaries when emotions run high, and distinguish between reacting emotionally and preparing strategically. Karen and Andrea also discuss how to gather information safely and privately during the holiday season and how to use quiet moments and year-end reflection to get grounded. They explain why January is often the month of decisions and how to enter it with confidence and clarity. The episode naturally leads into Andrea's Pre-Divorce Guidance Package, offering legal clarity alongside emotional and strategic support so that listeners can move into the new year equipped, confident, and prepared to make informed choices about their future. This conversation is essential listening for anyone navigating the complexities of divorce while managing the emotional and practical pressures of the holiday season. Connect with Andrea: Holiday Planning for Divorcing Parents – Part 1: Putting the Children First: https://www.vaccalaw.com/holiday-planning-divorcing-parents-children-first/ Holiday Planning for Divorcing Parents – Part 2: Creative Holiday Legal Solutions: https://www.vaccalaw.com/creative-holiday-legal-solutions-divorce/ Divorce During the Holidays: How to Navigate Stress, Protect Your Kids, and Find Joy: https://www.vaccalaw.com/how-to-manage-the-holidays-during-a-divorce/ Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod

In this episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, I'm speaking directly to the men who are walking through the intensity of high conflict divorce — the pressure, the triggers, the confusion, and the deep internal unraveling that often comes with it. Men in high conflict divorce are asked to hold an extraordinary amount: to respond instead of react, to stay grounded when provoked, and to lead even when everything around them feels uncertain. And while I coach men through these challenges every single day, I also know that some truths land more powerfully when they come from another man who embodies the discipline, steadiness, and intentional leadership required to rise during divorce. That's why I invited Michael Holt, founder of the international Savage & Saint Collective, to join me for this conversation. Michael has dedicated his life to helping men reclaim emotional sovereignty, cultivate presence, and embody a form of masculine leadership that is rooted in clarity rather than chaos. His work blends meditation, martial arts, psychology, holistic health, and serious inner discipline — and it aligns deeply with what I teach men navigating high conflict divorce: that the real power lies not in controlling others, but in mastering yourself. Michael and I explore the patterns that keep men stuck in reactivity during divorce and the internal shifts required to break those cycles. We talk about the cost of abandoning your center, how quickly men give away their power when triggered, and what it takes to stay grounded when you feel attacked, misunderstood, or overwhelmed. Michael offers a male perspective on strength that doesn't rely on force, suppression, or avoidance, but instead comes from presence, vitality, and self-awareness — qualities that become essential when the stakes are high and the conflict feels relentless. Together, we dig into the difference between reactive masculinity and embodied leadership, and why men who learn to regulate their nervous system and stay anchored in who they are gain far more influence — not just in their divorce, but in their lives, relationships, and fatherhood. We discuss how men can cultivate discipline, stability, and clarity even in the middle of legal battles, emotional turmoil, and the dismantling of a marriage. This is the kind of conversation that gives men direction, grounding, and a roadmap for showing up as the man they want to be, not the man the conflict tries to turn them into. Michael Holt is a powerful example of what it looks like to live the work rather than talk about it. His Savage & Saint Collective supports men around the world in strengthening their inner foundation so they can show up with integrity, courage, and calm — exactly what is needed in high conflict divorce. If you're a man navigating divorce and you've been searching for guidance from someone who truly understands the internal journey you're on, this episode will offer the clarity and steadiness you've been craving. This is about reclaiming yourself, rebuilding your center, and stepping into the kind of leadership that can change the trajectory of your life. Connect with Michael: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/savageandsaint/ Free Gift: E-Book re: Savage & Saint Philosophy: https://ebook.savageandsaint.com/savageandsaintphilosophy Masculine Vitality Program: https://savageandsaint.com/mens-courses/ Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod

In this episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, we dive deep with Cheryl, a mother of two, whose post-divorce journey reflects the emotional complexity so many women face when rebuilding their lives. Cheryl holds nothing back, discussing the early fears she carried—from concerns around safety and childhood wounds resurfacing, to the sheer uncertainty of starting over. Listen as she reveals the pivotal moment she discovered the power of listening to her body, trusting her intuition, and honoring her core values. We explore the critical role of boundaries in creating emotional safety, the healing power of clear personal goals, and why building a supportive community is essential. Cheryl's transformation is a powerful reminder: strength and confidence emerge when you slow down and trust the woman you're becoming. If you are seeking emotional healing, empowerment, and a peaceful new beginning, this episode is for you. Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Use AimeeSays: www.aimeesays.com USE CODE: 2MonthNov for 2 free months Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod

In this episode, I'm inviting you into one of the most tender and complicated questions you may ever face: How Do I Know If It's Time to Divorce? If you've been living in a cycle of uncertainty, replaying conversations, second-guessing yourself, or worrying about the impact on your children, this conversation is designed to bring you clarity, calm, and a grounded sense of direction. I explore the fears and confusion that naturally arise when you're considering divorce, and I help you distinguish between conflict that can be healed and patterns that may be too damaging or entrenched to repair. We'll look at the red flags that often signal deeper dysfunction, the emotional and relational dynamics that affect your wellbeing, and an essential question I encourage every parent to ask: Would I want my children to grow up and repeat this relationship? My intention in this episode is not to push you toward a decision, but to help you see your situation more clearly, understand what healthy partnership requires, and begin to trust your own inner wisdom. Whether you ultimately choose to mend or end, you deserve clarity, dignity, and peace as you move forward. Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod

In this episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, we explore one of the most important strategies for navigating divorce: building a collaborative team from the start. I talk with Andrea Vacca, a leading collaborative divorce attorney, about how legal, financial, and emotional professionals working together can reduce stress, protect your long-term goals, and create smoother outcomes. We discuss why early planning, intentional team alignment, and choosing the right divorce process—whether mediation, collaborative law, or litigation—are critical for managing high-conflict situations. Andrea also shares how a unified team supports parents through co-parenting challenges, ensures financial clarity, and helps maintain emotional resilience. Divorce isn't just a legal process—it's a financial, emotional, and family transition. Bringing in the right professionals early can help you avoid missteps, reduce conflict, and create outcomes that truly serve you and your children. Andrea Vacca is the founder of Vacca Family Law Group in New York City, guiding families through divorce with dignity, clarity, and respect. Connect with Andrea: Free Checklist: https://www.vaccalaw.com/pre-divorce-checklist/ Pre-Divorce Guidance: https://www.vaccalaw.com/pre-divorce-guidance/ Vacca Family Law Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vaccafamilylawgroup Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod

Are you worried your spouse is hiding money or manipulating finances during your divorce? In high-conflict divorces, it's all too common for funds to be moved, concealed, or dissipated, leaving one partner in the dark and anxious about their financial future. In this episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, I dive into the high-stakes world of divorce forensics and financial investigations, exploring what you need to know to protect yourself and your assets. I'm joined by seasoned forensic accounting expert Ilan Hirschfeld, who shares decades of experience uncovering hidden assets, analyzing complex financial records, and guiding clients through some of the most challenging divorce situations. We talk about the warning signs that finances may not be fully transparent, how to assess whether forensic accounting is a necessary investment, and the different levels of forensic investigation—from targeted reviews to full-scale audits. Ilan also explains what to look for in a forensic accountant: not just technical skill, but integrity, client care, and the ability to support you through what can feel like one of the most stressful chapters of your life. Whether you're concerned about post-complaint earnings, undisclosed income, or the subtle ways finances can be hidden, this conversation gives practical guidance to help you make informed decisions and move forward with clarity and confidence. If you've ever questioned whether following the money in your divorce is worth the cost, this episode will help you weigh the risks, understand your options, and take the steps necessary to protect your financial future. Connect with Ilan: Website: https://www.cbiz.com/about/people/ilan-hirschfeld Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cbizcareers/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/cbiz/ Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod

Why do so many relationships fall apart because one partner can't—or won't—connect emotionally? Why do men and women alike find themselves trapped in cycles of emotional immaturity, disconnection, and pain that lead to divorce? For many women, life with an emotionally unavailable or immature partner feels confusing and isolating. For single moms, the question becomes: How do I raise an emotionally healthy son when his father isn't modeling it? Yet men, too, often suffer in silence—many find themselves with emotionally unavailable or even abusive partners, unsure how to express their pain or find support. To unpack both sides of this issue, I'm joined by Jason M. Lange, a men's embodiment coach, group facilitator, certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach, and evolutionary guide. Jason brings over a decade of experience helping men reconnect to their emotions, develop relational maturity, and transform the cultural conditioning that keeps them shut down. 🎧 In this episode, we explore: Why emotional immaturity develops in men (and women) The impact of emotionally unavailable partners during and after divorce How cultural and societal norms keep men disconnected from their emotions What men need to heal and reconnect How single moms can nurture emotional intelligence and resilience in their sons This conversation shines light on what it means to heal from emotional unavailability, break destructive cycles, and create emotionally mature, connected relationships. Connect with Jason: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evolutionarymen/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@evolutionarymen TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@evolutionarymen Book Your Free Discovery Call: https://evolutionary.men/talk Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod

Have you ever wondered why, even after divorce, your ex still feels energetically present in your life? Divorce isn't just the end of a relationship... it's a profound emotional, energetic, and spiritual transition. Long after the legal papers are signed and the physical separation is complete, many people remain unconsciously bonded to their former spouse, feeling stuck in emotional patterns, attachment, or resentment that blocks healing, peace, and future love. In this powerful episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, I sit down with Joanna Shakti, the Soul Love™ Mentor and founder of Ecstatic Intimacy™, to explore how to release energetic ties after divorce, reopen your heart, and rebuild your capacity for healthy, authentic connection. Joanna brings decades of expertise in masculine-feminine dynamics, conscious separation, emotional healing, and spiritual intimacy, offering compassionate guidance and practical tools for breaking free from lingering bonds and stepping into a life rooted in self-love, clarity, and empowered choice. If you're ready to reclaim your emotional autonomy, release the lingering energy of your past relationship, and open your heart to possibility — this conversation will support you every step of the way. Connect with Joanna: Free Gift: Ecstatic Intimacy Jumpstart Kit With your 4-part Ecstatic Intimacy Jumpstart kit you'll ignite confidence, connection and chemistry on the path of Soul Love. Your kit includes the "Soul Love Roadmap", Conscious Masculine and Feminine Assessments, tips for the bedroom and much more!: https://ecstaticintimacy.com/intimacy-jumpstart/ Facebook: facebook.com/EcstaticIntimacy Instagram: instagram.com/joanna.shakti YouTube: www.youtube.com/@DateCamp Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/joannashakti X: https://x.com/JoannaShakti Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/joannashakti/ Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod

When your wife says she wants a divorce... and you never saw it coming... it can feel like your world is collapsing. Most men panic in that moment. They chase, plead, argue, or withdraw… all the things that feel natural, but only push her further away. In this episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, I sit down with transformational men's coach Tim Wade, who brings over 25 years of experience helping men rebuild their marriages, their confidence, and their lives. Tim shares his own story of reconciliation after eight years of separation and the powerful lessons he's learned guiding thousands of men through crisis and change. We explore: ✅ Why trying to "fix" her never works—and what actually does ✅ How to shift from fear and desperation to calm, grounded confidence ✅ The simple relationship skills your dad never taught you (but your wife wishes you had) ✅ What to do when saving the marriage isn't possible—and how to still come out stronger Tim reminds us that true transformation begins within. Whether you're trying to save your marriage or find peace on the other side of divorce, this conversation offers hope, clarity, and a path forward. 🎧 Listen now to discover why your best chance to change your relationship starts with you. Connect with Tim: Website: https://timwadecoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/timwadecoaching/ Talk to Tim: https://timwadecoaching.com/lets-talk/ Online Course: https://howtodefusethedivorcebomb.com/ Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod The Mask Your Live In: https://themaskyoulivein.vhx.tv/checkout/the-mask-you-live-in-feature-film/purchase?referrer=http%3A%2F%2Ftherepproject.org%2F The Untethered Soul: https://www.amazon.com/Untethered-Soul-Journey-Beyond-Yourself/dp/1572245379

Co-parenting is never easy—but when your ex displays narcissistic or emotionally abusive behaviors, it can feel impossible. You're not just managing logistics—you're protecting your peace, supporting your children, and trying not to lose yourself in the chaos. In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. David Hawkins, founder of the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute. With over four decades of experience and more than 40 books to his name, Dr. Hawkins brings deep insight into what it takes to stay grounded and emotionally safe while co-parenting with a narcissist. We explore how to shift from feeling powerless to powerful—not by changing the other parent, but by transforming how you show up. Dr. Hawkins and I talk about boundaries, emotional regulation, and how to support your children without getting pulled into manipulation or conflict. This conversation is about empowerment, not blame. If you've been walking on eggshells, exhausted by drama, and worried about your kids' well-being, this episode will bring clarity, courage, and practical tools to help you anchor yourself and protect what matters most. Connect with Dr. Hawkins: Free Resource: Free Ebook - Getting To the Core: https://marriagerecoverycenter.com/media/Getting-to-the-Core.pdf Website: www.marriagerecoverycenter.com Email: info@marriagerecoverycenter.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagerecoverycenter/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/drdavidbhawkins/videos Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-rehab-exposing-narcissistic-emotional-abuse/id1618828831 Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod