Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with Sherrae Phelps of Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast about how to respect the differing views and beliefs of others as well as how to approach difficult or uncomfortable conversations about religious topics. To hear more from Sherrae Phelps, visit her at www.tenthousandhoursofwriting.com. Some of the questions addressed include: Are all conversations discussing conflicting beliefs valuable to engage in? What about controversial conversations? Is there value in listening to ideas that scare us? Are there times when it is morally courageous to give others platforms to speak and other times when it would do more damage than good? To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our website, check out our course page, and take a look at our upcoming events.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with Sherrae Phelps of Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast about the topic of submission. In this episode you will learn more about what submission means and how it can be driven either by fear or moral courage. To hear more from Sherrae Phelps, visit her at www.tenthousandhoursofwriting.com. “When submission is a virtue, it’s an active choice to yield to something because you think it will create the greater good. It’s not driven by fear; it’s driven by moral courage.” – Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife Sherrae Phelp’s Thoughts About This Episode: The word submission can accurately be used to describe weak behavior, but submission can also describe virtuous behavior.  I’ll be honest; I don’t like the word submission. I don’t like the meanings that are typically associated with the word submission. When I picture someone submitting, I think of an act that weakens and makes one vulnerable. But I do think there can be submissive behaviors that are virtuous, and that type of submission is a little harder to identify and define because the negative meanings are so prevalent. In this interview with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, she explains what submission looks like as a virtue and what it looks like as a weakness. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our website, check out our course page, and take a look at our upcoming events.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife is interviewed by Sherrae Phelps on her podcast Ten Thousand Hours of Writing. They discuss the different “versions” of forgiveness and how to forgive in a way that is healing and not harmful. To hear more from Sherrae Phelps and her podcast, you can visit her website at https://tenthousandhoursofwriting.com/. The main question that this episode explores is this:  What are some misconceptions about forgiveness? And in what ways is counterfeit forgiveness, or “doormat forgiveness”, hurtful, harmful, and destructive? To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our website, check out our course page, and take a look at our upcoming events.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife is interviewed by Rachel Nielson the host of the 3 in 30 Podcast for moms. They discuss why your sex drive may have decreased post kids and marriage, as well as what you can do to get it back. To learn more about Rachel Nielson’s podcast, you can visit her at www.3in30podcast.com or follow her in Instagram at @3in30podcast. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our website, check out our course page, and take a look at our upcoming events. www.Finlayson-Fife.com This episode originally aired on December 3, 2018.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with Sherrae Phelps of Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast about the topic of thinking for ourselves. In this episode you will learn more about how to make your own decisions based on your integrity and moral compass rather than approval of others. To hear more from Sherrae Phelps, visit her at www.tenthousandhoursofwriting.com. “One of the things that interferes with our ability to think for ourselves is our need and desire for approval—our desire for other people to acknowledge or validate what we do. The more we depend on that, the more it will distract us from our own internal compass. You don’t want to cut out the voices of other people—-that would be immoderate in the other direction. But you don’t want the voices of other people to distract you from your own compass, because your own compass is an important source of knowledge and this is a gift to us.” –Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife Within many religions, the idea of being a disciple is encouraged and honored and viewed as a pathway for growth, wisdom, and for spiritual and emotional development. But when discipleship is misused it encourages dependency rather than independence and in turn, limits one’s growth and development and wisdom. Discipleship is about acting not about being acted upon. In this interview, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife talks about what it means to be a disciple that thinks and acts for themselves. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our website, check out our course page, and take a look at our upcoming events.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with Sherrae Phelps of Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast about the topic of indulgent suffering. In this episode you will learn more about how to act out of virtue and integrity and how to let go of immature thought patterns that can be harmful to personal development. To hear more from Sherrae Phelps and Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast, visit her at Www.Tenthousandhoursofwriting.Com. Often to determine if something is right or good or God’s will, we use pain, suffering, and sacrifice for a measuring stick. While I do not disagree that sometimes virtuous acts can be difficult and inconvenient, I think we are missing the mark when we use “pain and suffering” as a way to determine if something is right or wrong. It’s like we have this mental checklist. Is it inconvenient? Check. Is it the opposite of what I want? Check. Is it going to require sacrifice? Check. Is it going to cause suffering? Check. Is it going to be hard? Check. Conclusion: This must be good, right, and God’s will. But this is a flawed and limited way to discern to discern what is good and right. In this interview, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife talks about this indulgent suffering that as Christians we sometimes value, and discuss the moral development required to act instead with virtue and integrity. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events.

In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is interviewed by holistic nutritionist and eating psychology coach, Stephanie Webb all about how to create and maintain a sexual sense of self while in the throes of motherhood. You can hear more from Stephanie by visiting her website, EatConfident.co, or by following her on her Instagram, @stephanie__webb. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our website, check out our course page, and take a look at our upcoming events. www.Finlayson-Fife.com This episode originally aired on February 12, 2019.

In this Rational Faiths podcast Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers two new questions: The first question covers the question of how to make sense of wet dreams in the context of marriage, and how to address differences in sexual desire and biological needs in constructive ways. The second question addresses the role of erotica and visually explicit imagery in a woman cultivating her desire in marriage.  Dr. Finlayson-Fife also addresses the upcoming transition for the “Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist” series from Rational Faiths to Mormon Marriages. This episode was originally aired on July 9th 2019.

In this podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Rational Faiths Podcast team to address three questions sent in by listeners. The first question is regarding maintaining intimacy in long-distance relationships, the second is about discomfort with “talking dirty” during sex, and the last question is about masturbation. This episode was originally aired on December 18th 2018.

A discussion with Dan Wotherspoon, Charles Randall Paul, Joseph Stanford, and Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife on the meaning of covenants in religious practice, and particularly the meaning of covenants when one's faith has evolved or shifted. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.  www.Finlayson-Fife.com This episode was originally aired on November 1st, 2018. You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher. The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcast Archive is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients; and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.