Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

Zach and Darcy Spafford of The Self-Mastery Podcast: End the Porn Struggle interviewed Dr. Finlayson-Fife and discussed the roots of the issues surrounding unwanted pornography use, betrayal trauma and infidelity.  Listen to learn more about:  - The importance of seeing other people as full, complete people in their own right -  Becoming a strong agent in the world by gathering information and owning our choices  - The way vulnerability can lead us to strength and intimacy - The role self-regulation plays in compulsive behaviors  - A more strength-based model of conversations around unwanted pornography use  To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Sherrae Phelps to discuss how to navigate religious challenges with integrity, from the best within us. Listen to learn more about... - How to truly sustain church leaders - Relational and moral development - Acting out of the best in you in regards to religion - Using your faith to live well and love others  To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

“Parenting is noble work, in part because you are so often reaching through the dark trying to figure out what it means to love this unique child, with their specific challenges, strengths and desires.”  Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Tina Gosney of the Parenting Through the Detour podcast to answer difficult questions that are on parents minds and souls.  Listen to learn more about:  - The normal, but unhelpful tendency to use your child to reinforce your sense of self  - The importance of truly knowing and loving your child - The healthy does of compassion that is needed for self and others in the parenting process Don't forget to take advantage of our Christmas Sale! 20% off of all courses with additional discounts when you purchase more than one course.  Course Page To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dr. Corey Allan of Sexy Marriage Radio for a frank discussion about resentment in marriage and how we can avoid this common pitfall by becoming more honest with ourselves and learning to not rely on our spouses for validation. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Self-validation vs other-validation * Self-confrontation * Differentiation theory * Marriage as a mechanism for growth * How to handle conflict in marriage To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

It can be extraordinarily difficult to break free from the framing and meanings that we were handed in childhood. It is easy to perpetuate these systems unwittingly as adults because it is what we know--it's the water we are swimming in.  The process of waking up to the way we are participating in unhealthy systems requires a lot of self-confrontation, faith, and courage. It means breaking free of the systems we know and taking the more courageous path of offering our partners and children something better than what we received.  In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Paul Duane of The Soul Anarchist podcast for an engaging and powerful discussion of everything from the evolution of Jennifer's understanding of and relationship to God to the power of lipstick and high-waisted jeans. Listen to the full episode to learn more about:  * The stages of moral, spiritual, and sexual development * Gender role ideology and how it impacts our perception of God  * Obedience and integrity  * Jennifer's spiritual journey To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

In the weeks since their last meeting, Phil and Claire have been working hard to make honesty a top priority in their marriage. These efforts have been rewarded in the form of feeling more genuine friendship, desire, and appreciation in their relationship. Phil recently realized that because he had been focusing so heavily on what wasn't working in the relationship, he hadn't given the marriage a real chance to prove its strength. Now he and Claire are each choosing to lean into the marriage, and both have been delighted with the outcome. Phil and Claire still have a lot to untangle from their past and the views they each inherited about sexuality from their family and culture. In this follow-up interview, Claire and Phil are wondering how they can bring more real passion into their intimate relationship. Listen in as Dr. Finlayson-Fife works with Phil and Claire to explore what they can do to bring their newfound honesty and authenticity to their physical relationship. This episode is perfect for those who: * Crave more novelty in their physical relationship * Have difficulty reconciling their sexuality with their spirituality * Are in a mixed-faith marriage * Have a hard time having difficult conversations with their spouse Don't forget to subscribe to the Room for Two podcast! The outro song for this episode, "I Don't Need You No More" was written and performed by Justin Burnette and is available for purchase and on all streaming services. You can follow Justin on social media @justinburnettemusic. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

In this NEW podcast episode Jennifer joins Heidi Benjaminson of Confidence Coaching to talk to parents about confidence, perfectionism, and how to best help our kids navigate the awkward and uncomfortable process of maturing into adulthood. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Tolerating the ups and downs of parenting adolescents * What we can do when teens make mistakes * Dismantling perfectionism * How to talk to teens about sexuality * The most valuable kind of confidence, and how we can model it best To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

"It’s hard to self-correct, but it is the pathway into honest unity within a group. You don’t get unity by suppressing the part of the group you don’t like." - Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife It is important that we never prioritize our ideology over love. Making efforts to know and understand those who experience the world differently than we do expands our view and allows us to create stronger families and communities. In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tina Gosney for a timely conversation about the importance of bringing honesty and courage to our faith community, especially when it comes to complex and divisive social issues. Being both loving and honest, even with varying perspectives, fosters greater understanding and compassion, and helps us all become wiser. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Honesty and the important role it plays in creating meaningful unity * Becoming more Christlike by offering mercy and compassion for others * How to build bridges of understanding with those who believe differently than you do Parenting Through the Detour Podcast To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Jared and Ethan Thomas of the A Brothers' Creed podcast to talk about how society's view of masculinity has shifted over time, what masculine strength actually is, and how men can step up and embody that strength to bless the lives of their families and communities.   Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * What strong masculinity looks like * Honesty and the fundamental role it plays in desirability * Immature masculinity ("bullies" and "nice guys") * Men's mental health and the importance of finding a sense of purpose * Inherited Cultural Meanings of Masculinity and Sexuality To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.  

Feeling rejected by your spouse in any realm can be disheartening, but when the rejection is sexual, it can be an exceptionally demoralizing experiencing. Sexual rejection is particularly potent because during arousal states the brain is highly plastic. So any emotion, good or bad, holds extra sway when it is experienced during an aroused state. In this episode of Sex Therapy 101, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Cami Hurst to answer a listener's question about how to move forward and cultivate her sexuality after years of feeling undesired and fundamentally rejected by her spouse during their 21-year mixed-orientation marriage. This powerful episode is helpful to those who: * Have felt undesired in their marriages * Have been in a mixed-orientation marriage * Feel insufficient * Want to develop a stronger self-reference Don't forget to subscribe to the Room for Two podcast today to lock in the introductory pricing before November 1st.  Annual subscribers get access to a live Q & A Dr. Finlayson-Fife is holding on November 5th! To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.