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May 5, 2025 • 12min

Signs of Coercive Control by Narcissists in Conversation

In this episode, we’re breaking down the subtle but dangerous ways narcissists use coercive control in conversations to manipulate, destabilize, and maintain dominance over others. If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation feeling mentally foggy, emotionally drained, or questioning your own thoughts, you may have been subjected to narcissistic coercion without even realizing it. Coercive control is a form of psychological abuse that narcissists use to undermine your confidence, distort your reality, and keep you second-guessing yourself. Unlike overt aggression, these tactics often fly under the radar, making them difficult to recognize until the damage is already done. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How narcissists use rapid-fire questioning to overwhelm you, keep you off balance, and push you into emotional dysregulation. Why gaslighting is a core tool in coercive conversations and how it causes you to doubt your memory, perception, and even your sanity. The subtle way narcissists withhold information, distort facts, or contradict themselves to create confusion and maintain power over the narrative. How guilt, shame, and fear are weaponized in conversation to manipulate you into compliance and emotional submission. Why they interrupt, talk over you, or shift blame to prevent you from asserting yourself and setting boundaries. The Psychological Impact of Coercive Control Research shows that victims of coercive control often experience chronic stress, anxiety, low self-esteem, and cognitive dissonance—the mental discomfort caused by holding contradictory beliefs. Over time, these conversations can leave you feeling powerless, disconnected from your own thoughts, and emotionally dependent on the narcissist for validation and approval. But knowledge is power. Once you learn to recognize these tactics, you can stop engaging in their games and take back control of your own mind. Breaking Free from the Cycle Healing from narcissistic coercion requires self-awareness, emotional detachment, and boundary-setting. In this episode, we’ll discuss practical strategies to help you: Stay grounded and recognize when a conversation is designed to manipulate you. Trust your own perception rather than seeking validation from the narcissist. Respond with clarity and confidence instead of falling into the trap of emotional reactivity. Use gray rock and other disengagement techniques to limit their control over your thoughts and emotions. If you’ve ever struggled to hold your own in conversations with a narcissist, this episode is for you. Understanding their tactics is the first step to reclaiming your voice, your confidence, and your emotional independence. Tune in now, and let’s expose the mind games so you can break free from the cycle of coercive control once and for all! Become immune to narcissists by healing the unhealed wounds that make so many of us more vulnerable to their abuse. The 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program is the healing method and modality that has helped thousands stop falling for narcissists. https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp To learn more, contact Lisa and her team members here; Contact Website Spotify Award Winning Books  Facebook Support Group      
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Apr 28, 2025 • 25min

Narcissists See You as a Liability or an Asset and Nothing More

If you love a narcissist and you're here listening to this podcast, chances are you are learning to understand that you are not viewed healthily and that perhaps the person you are dealing with perceives you through a skewed lens. Maybe you're realizing that it's not you and there is nothing you can do to please a narcissist, although God knows you've tried. Sadly, a narcissists mind works in black and white. You are either for them or against them, which is why having any type of conflict or disagreement is so earth-shattering to them and why they can become so mean, angry and vile with a flip of a switch.  To a narcissist, you are in their life because you represent an asset of some sort, most often as narcissistic supply. However, when a narcissist begins to sense that you can see through them, and especially if you stand your ground, their minds begin to view you as a liability. If a narcissist is unable to dominate you through coercive control tactics, you will be discarded sooner than later, because to them, you have now become a liability and offer them no value.  It's sad but also true and incredibly clarifying ONCE you see the dynamics for what they are.  Are you ready to develop that stainless steel spine we all need in order to develop self love and start manifesting the lives we deserve and desire, free of toxic narcissistic and codependent dynamics? If so, start your transformation journey with Lisa here; Breakthrough Program  Contact Website Spotify Award Winning Books  Facebook Support Group
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Apr 21, 2025 • 23min

Stop Apologizing for This: Codependency Recovery

How often do you look within and hear yourself asking the only questions that have any real potential to change your life, such as, "Who am I?, or "Why do I feel not good enough?" If you're like most people, you may never question whether or not you question the quality or validity of your thinking. That's why Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach wants to activate higher consciousness within you so that you have a chance at changing your life outcomes.  While going through the early stages of recovery, Lisa realized she had an authenticity problem.  Being raised to fear her mother's gaslighting, rejection, and emotional neglect, conditioned Lisa to feel as if her authentic self needed to be abandoned.  Learn why it is essential to stop apologizing if you are truly serious about becoming a cycle breaker and healing from codependency. Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Online Codependency Recovery Program Facebook Support Group Free Codependency Quiz
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Apr 14, 2025 • 24min

Beware: Narcissists Use Your Perception Against You

If you struggle with worrying about what others think, you may be vulnerable to narcissistic manipulation. Codependents are often conditioned to seek external validation, fearing rejection or judgment. Narcissists exploit this by twisting reality, making you question your own experiences, and using your need for approval against you. They may say, "You're too sensitive," or "No one else sees it that way," to gaslight you into doubting yourself. They might also manipulate social perceptions, controlling how others see you through smear campaigns or triangulation.  In this episode, Lisa A. Romano exposes these tactics and teaches you how to detach from the fear of judgment, trust your own reality, and break free from the narcissist’s control. If you don't know just upset you can become when others perceive you in a negative way, you might not realize how someone with high narcissistic traits could use that fear against you to keep you stuck! Tune in now to reclaim your power! We appreciate your like, follow and share.  And if you know someone who needs to know that a narcissist might be using their fears regarding how others perceive them against them, be sure to share this episode with them.  Embark on the path to conscious awakening, emotional healing, and transformation with Lisa's Conscious Healing Academy, which includes a 3 tier coaching system that assists with one's awakening, emotional intelligence, and mental and emotional mastery.  12 Week Breakthrough Program (Level One - The Awakening) 8 Week Master Your Reality (Level 2 -- Deliberate Creating) Soul School - (Level Three -- Ascending Ego) To learn more, contact Lisa and her team members here; Contact Website Spotify Award Winning Books  Facebook Support Group  
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Apr 7, 2025 • 33min

Codependency and Money: Breakthrough this Lack and Scarcity Mindset

If you grew up feeling unworthy, unseen, or responsible for other people’s emotions, chances are your relationship with money reflects those same subconscious wounds. In this episode of Breakdown to Breakthrough, Lisa A. Romano dives deep into the connection between codependency and financial scarcity, revealing how childhood conditioning shapes your beliefs about abundance, self-worth, and security. Learn how to identify lack-based programming, break free from people-pleasing money habits, and shift into a mindset of empowerment and financial self-trust. It’s time to stop surviving and start thriving—because you are worthy of abundance in every area of your life. Tune in now! Like, follow and share this episode with those who you believe would benefit the most and join Lisa on her mission to help others turn their Breakdowns into their Greatest Breakthroughs. Embark on the path to conscious awakening, emotional healing, and transformation with Lisa's Conscious Healing Academy, which includes a 3 tier coaching system that assists with one's awakening, emotional intelligence, and mental and emotional mastery.  12 Week Breakthrough Program (Level One - The Awakening) 8 Week Master Your Reality (Level 2 -- Deliberate Creating) Soul School - (Level Three -- Ascending Ego) To learn more, contact Lisa and her team members here; Contact Website Spotify Award Winning Books  Facebook Support Group
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Mar 31, 2025 • 24min

Narcissists: You're NOT Their Slave But They Treat You Like They Are

Have you ever felt like someone's psychological slave, as if every thought you have, you must worry what someone in your life is going to think or feel? If you have ever loved a narcissist, you may have slowly lost yourself overtime and not even realized it until you felt like you were going crazy or like you were losing your mind. A narcissist lives in a very unique fantasy world, in their mind, and you are merely an actor in their play. You do not exist as an autonomous 3D human being, with your own unique beliefs, needs, expectations, emotions or opinions, at least not in their heads you don't. No, you play a role in their life and whether you realize it or not, in their eyes, you are their psychological slave and you are to bend when they blow. Lisa A. Romano, a breakthrough life coach, and expert in codependency and narcissistic abuse recovery, clearly explains in this episode how a narcissist uses their perception as a weapon of manipulation against you. Additionally, a special warning goes out to those who struggle with self-doubt, low self-worth, and the need to be understood, needed, and who identify as codependent. You have been conditioned since childhood to seek validation outside yourself to feel worthy. Dear One, you are a prime target for narcissistic abuse.  Listen good! In this episode Lisa is going to help you develop that stainless steel spine all codependents and those who have been psychologically manipulated by narcissists need to strive for on their transformation journey from inner wounds to inner strength.  Work with Lisa here: Codependency Recovery Accelerator Apply for her VIP Mastermind Groups VIP Mastermind Group Coaching Listen to One of Lisa's Books for Free Books  Join Lisa in Person at the Art of Living Center in May 3 Day Inner Child Retreat
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Mar 24, 2025 • 25min

Codependency and Narcissism: The Paradigm You MUST Escape

Are you in a relationship with a narcissist and do you feel like you need to walk on eggshells to keep them calm? Do you feel easily controlled due to your caretaking nature? Can you identify codependent traits in you, such as low self worth, negative self talk, feeling shame-based, and needing the approval of others to feel like you are okay, and not going crazy?  If you are codependent, most often you do not know it. Seeking approval, and worrying more about what others think about you than what you think about you has become a way of life. In childhood, your behavior was tied to your self worth and not your innate worthiness, so today, you subconsciously seek out similar dynamics in which you repeat your childhood patterns of needing others to give you permission to feel worthy.  The codependent narcissist relationships is similar to two magnets being drawn to one another. One needs and attention and the other feels compelled to abandon their own needs just to pour out their attention onto others in exchange for a sense of self. The codependent is completely governed by faulty childhood programming and can die in this self abandoning paradigm and never awaken. This happens all the time and is why many people on their death beds most regret NOT acting on behalf of the self during their lifetimes rather than worrying about what other people thought about them.  In this episode, Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach and #1 bestselling author of The Road Back to Me (2012) and creator of the Codependency Recovery Accelerator, The 12 Week Breakthrough Roadmap, helps you to understand codependency as a mindset or paradigm that traps you within its walls all outside of your limited conscious awareness. Her passion for helping adult children from toxic homes, such as those born to alcoholics, narcissists, or the emotionally immature, is rooted in her desire to help others transform their inner wounds into inner strengths. Romano was awarded the title of the #1 Most Influential Person of 2020 due to her deep, uncanny, understanding of codependency and the negative adverse childhood experiences responsible for this life lived from the perception of a lost self.  She is ready to help you find your true self, and equip you with the mindset training required to breakthrough the veil of illusions that have kept you trapped in codependent narcissistic paradigms.  Begin your Breakthrough journey here: Codependency Recovery Accelerator Ready for an enriched coaching and mentoring experience? If so, contact Lisa for information on her individualized coaching packages here: Email Purchase Lisa's #1 Bestselling Book here: The Road Back to Me Join Lisa's Facebook Support Group here: Facebook Support Group
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Mar 17, 2025 • 17min

Get Selfish Now: Here's Why

Have your inner wounds ever stopped you from setting a boundary or speaking your truth? If so, this episode of Breakdown to Breakthrough with Codependency Expert and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Life Coach is for you. In this episode, you will find the encouragement you need to go from the fear of disapproval to the approval of self, knowing the value of divine selfishness. Let's face it, it's impossible to tap into your dreams, attract wealth, get healthy or manifest the type of love relationships or friendships we desire if we do not honor the self. Lisa A. Romano is an expert in the self healing, mental and emotional wellness space and she is dropping pearls of golden wisdom for the one who is ready to be codependent no more, self reliant and unapologetically operating from self love.  Ready to transform those inner wounds to inner strength? If so, it's time to invest in yourself, and your authentic self with The 12 Week Breakthrough Codependency Bootcamp System. Break free of faulty beliefs tied to the wounds of the inner child and start living from your authentic self in 12 weeks or less. Grab this offer before the price increase!  https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp  
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Mar 10, 2025 • 30min

Narcissists are Turned Off by Your Request for Fairness: Warning Signs There's a Narcissist in Your Life

Do you think you might love, know, or be related to someone who is a narcissist or exhibits narcissistic traits? Loving someone with a high-conflict personality can change you in ways you never expected. One thing you might do that keeps you stuck is hoping they will change. You can drain yourself trying to connect with them, seeking resolution, or negotiating a middle ground. However, you will ultimately realize their consistent pattern of being completely unresponsive, dismissive and revengeful to your request for fairness. In this episode of Breakdown to Breakthrough with Lisa A. Romano, the #1 bestselling author of The Road Back to Me and a coach specializing in codependency and narcissistic abuse, you will gain powerful insights into her deep understanding of the complexities of the narcissistic personality and its impact on your life, spirit, psyche, and world. It's time to grow beyond the limits codependency, childhood trauma responses and narcissistic abuse has had on your life.  Are you a action oriented, goal minded, self motivated person who is ready to shatter the ceilings of limiting beliefs created by adverse childhood experiences? And do you ache for deep transformation and are you willing to commit to healing your mind, body and soul at the most profound level so you can take your innate talents and bless them with the world? If so, you might be the perfect candidate for Lisa's VIP Conscious Healers Mastermind Group.  To learn more, contact Lisa at coach@lisaaromano.com to learn more.  Embark on the path to conscious awakening, emotional healing, and transformation with Lisa's Conscious Healing Academy, which includes a 3 tier coaching system that assists with one's awakening, emotional intelligence, and mental and emotional mastery.  12 Week Breakthrough Program (Level One - The Awakening) 8 Week Master Your Reality (Level 2 -- Deliberate Creating) Soul School - (Level Three -- Ascending Ego) Website Spotify Listen for Free Facebook Support Group
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Mar 3, 2025 • 9min

In the World of Narcissists Facts Don't Matter

In the world of a narcissist, facts don't matter. They lie and rely on coercive control to keep their targets in line, full of cognitive dissonance and trauma bonded. Did you know that when narcissists lie their brain is soothed? This is why you will be shocked when you sit back and note how easy it is for a narcissist to lie.  In this episode, learn about how narcissists deceive and rely on deception to manipulate the vulnerable, and codependent as forms of narcissistic control. Learn proven strategies by Lisa A. Romano the Breakthrough Life Coach and author of the #1 bestselling book The Road Back to Me, that help to minimize the cognitive dissonance and distrust in one's own reality and mind as a result of gaslighting, and deception.  Embark on the path to conscious awakening, emotional healing, and transformation with Lisa's Conscious Healing Academy, which includes a 3 tier coaching system that assists with one's awakening, emotional intelligence, and mental and emotional mastery.  12 Week Breakthrough Program (Level One - The Awakening) 8 Week Master Your Reality (Level 2 -- Deliberate Creating) Soul School - (Level Three -- Ascending Ego) To learn more, contact Lisa and her team members here; Contact Website Spotify Award Winning Books  Facebook Support Group

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