A New Way of Being

"Neuroscience research shows that the only way we can change the way we feel is by becoming aware of our inner experience and learning to befriend what is going on inside us"Dr Bessel van der Kolk is a titan in the world of trauma research. He’s the author of the seminal best-selling book about trauma - The Body Keeps the Score - which has been published in 38 languages and read by millions of people around the world.As the title of his book implies, trauma leaves imprints within our bodies and brains that can lead to physical and mental health problems.Bessel has studied numerous ways that help us heal – and he splits them into three categories: Top Down, bottom up – and medicinal.Top down processing involves things like traditional talking therapies.Bottom up focusses on somatic, body based interventions.- as feeling safe within our own bodies is key.Medicinal treatment is where SSRI anti-depressant medication comes in.In this episode:How common trauma isBessel’s frustration with the 'over medicalisation' of traumaWe are social creatures, the importance of our place in social systemsThe role of our parental relationshipsThe British boarding school phenomenonHow trauma drives people to great achievementsTrauma is pre-verbalThe benefit of being triggered and leaning into thatThe importance of mindfulnessSomatic therapies including yoga, QiGong and team sportsShadow work/ internal family systemsPsychedelic therapyAdvice if you want to address your own trauma & how to avoid passing it down generation to generationCAUTION: This conversation contains themes of an adult nature and references to sexual assault.Bessel's website: https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/**MyTwitter: https://twitter.com/simonmundieInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/simonmundie/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/simon-mundie-89379114/And for the 'Mundie on Monday' newsletter - featuring three of the best Life Lessons from four years and 200 of these conversations - head to simonmundie.com (where you can also drop me an email)Please do share this episode - it makes a big difference in helping people find this podcast.Thank you.Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you are not open to new experiences, and stepping out of your comfort zone, you may miss out on some of your own discovering deep-seated passions and talents. One person who illustrates this brilliantly is the triathlon legend Chrissie Wellington, who was crowned Ironman world Champion on four occasions – despite only turning pro at the relatively ripe age of 30. She took a meandering route to an elite sporting career by trying new things and tuning in to her intuition, which eventually led her on a path which she had never anticipated.MyTwitter: https://twitter.com/simonmundieInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/simonmundie/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/simon-mundie-89379114/And for the 'Mundie on Monday' newsletter - featuring three of the best Life Lessons from four years and 200 of these conversations - head to simonmundie.com (where you can also drop me an email)Please do share this episode - it makes a big difference in helping people find this podcast.Thank you.Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode is all about the importance of diverse thinking. Matthew Syed explains how the FA embraced diversity off the pitch, which contributed to success on it, and how the tragedy of 9/11 could have been avoided had the CIA been less collectively blind because of a lack of cultural diversity. It's to do with 'homophily', which is our tendency to bond with people who are socially similar. And if you've ever thought that meetings at work are 'catastrophically inefficient', this episode will prove you correct.MyTwitter: https://twitter.com/simonmundieInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/simonmundie/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/simon-mundie-89379114/And for the 'Mundie on Monday' newsletter - featuring three of the best Life Lessons from four years and 200 of these conversations - head to simonmundie.com (where you can also drop me an email)Please do share this episode - it makes a big difference in helping people find this podcast.Thank you.Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you feel a subtle sense of lack? If you do, you are not alone. It’s part of the human condition – or at least it is when we are identified with the mind. But the truth is, there is a space in all of us that is always fulfilled and content. Our task is to recognise that – and rest there.Grayson Hart is the CEO and founder of Puresport, and is a former Scotland international rugby player, having grown up in rugby royalty in New Zealand where he was part of the junior All Black team that won the World Cup.In this episode we discuss our shared philosophical outlook, the point of which is to recognise that wellbeing and happiness isn’t something out there, in objects and the world. It is our true nature.Recognising that you are already enough and fulfilled is one of the greatest gifts anyone can find – and that is something Grayson discovered, having hit rock bottom after his father died after suffering from drug addiction, and after his rugby career left him feeling unexpectedly empty.The key message that Grayson shares in this episode is such an important one – and I hope you enjoy our conversation.In this episode:Coming from rugby royalty in NZ – his uncle coached the All BlacksGrowing up around drug addiction with his DadThe consequences of that & seeking attention at schoolFinding belonging in rugby & a way to connect with his DadBeing selected for the junior All BlacksReaching his goal and feeling unfulfilled & then his father dyingStarting looking inwardsRecognising we are all already enoughExploring our true natureBecoming an entrepreneur - challenges & lessonsThe importance of recognising 'we are the sky and not the weather'MyTwitter: https://twitter.com/simonmundieInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/simonmundie/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/simon-mundie-89379114/And for the 'Mundie on Monday' newsletter - featuring three of the best Life Lessons from four years and 200 of these conversations - head to simonmundie.com (where you can also drop me an email)Please do share this episode - it makes a big difference in helping people find this podcast.Thank you.Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

'There is nothing either good or bad – only thinking makes it so'.Stoicism is described as the most practical of all philosophies – according to Ryan Holiday, best-selling author of classics including the Obstacle is the Way. I spoke to Ryan Holiday during the COVID pandemic – with a view to helping people not get overwhelmed by what was a very challenging time.Clearly things have now moved on, but the beauty of the life lessons Ryan shared can be applied to any difficult scenario. Events are challenging now – albeit for different reasons than a few years ago, but this philosophy and way of looking at events and understanding how our thoughts and judgements about what is happening colours our experience and feelings, remains hugely beneficialFull Length Episode: https://www.simonmundie.com/blog/ryan-holiday-stoicismMyTwitter: https://twitter.com/simonmundieInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/simonmundie/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/simon-mundie-89379114/And for the 'Mundie on Monday' newsletter - featuring three of the best Life Lessons from four years and 200 of these conversations - head to simonmundie.com (where you can also drop me an email)Please do share this episode - it makes a big difference in helping people find this podcast.Thank you.Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why 'winning' can be overrated.Let's start with a quote from Jamie Carragher – 'it’s all about winning trophies really'. Well is that actually true? To dive into our cultural obsession with 'winners' and 'winning at all costs', I was joined by the silver medal winning Olympic rower and former diplomat turned business coach and author of the excellent book ‘the Long Win’ Cath Bishop.MyTwitter: https://twitter.com/simonmundieInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/simonmundie/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/simon-mundie-89379114/And for the 'Mundie on Monday' newsletter - featuring three of the best Life Lessons from four years and 200 of these conversations - head to simonmundie.com (where you can also drop me an email)Please do share this episode - it makes a big difference in helping people find this podcast.Thank you.Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week I am joined by one of the greatest British athletes of all time, Seb Coe – a double Olympic gold medalist during the golden era of middle-distance running, the President of World Athletics, the driving force behind London’s winning Olympic bid in 2012, and much more besides.There’s so much we cover in this episode, from using early setbacks as fuel later in life, through to his epic Olympic triumph at Moscow in 1980, as well as the key role he played in helping London win the 2012 Olympic bid.The theme of this episode is about the power of good mentors. Find out who his key mentors have been, the role they’ve played in his life, but also the questions to ask yourself to help get over disappointment and adversity, and the importance of trusting your intuition to come up with the goods at the key moment, as it did for him ahead of London 2012. We also talk about the transformative power of sport and the amazing charity Greenhouse Sports, for whom Seb is an ambassador. The charity uses sport to help disadvantaged young people and communities and the work they do is truly transformative. In this episode:How early adversity often breeds later successSeb Coe's key mentorsThe power of sport and inspiring people to live healthy lives & the concerning trend of young people being less activeHis competition with Steve Ovett and Moscow 1980 – winning silver and goldThe power of humour and Daley ThompsonThe questions to ask yourself to regroup after disappointmentWriting the key speech for London 2012’s Olympic bid & listening to your intuitionSport being the biggest social worker & its power to affect changeGreenhouse Sports: https://www.greenhousesports.org/MyTwitter: https://twitter.com/simonmundieInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/simonmundie/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/simon-mundie-89379114/And for the 'Mundie on Monday' newsletter - featuring three of the best Life Lessons from four years and 200 of these conversations - head to simonmundie.com (where you can also drop me an email)Please do share this episode - it makes a big difference in helping people find this podcast.Thank you.Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

At a time when all the knowledge in the world is little more than a mouse click away – the importance of learning how to learn is key.And one person who was a pass master was the late Anders Ericsson – who was best known for his work on deliberate practice and whose research led to the widely misconstrued '10,000 hours' rule popularised by Malcolm Gladwell.So this was Anders – talking all about how to learn, and develop a love of learning – drawing on his own formative experiences. MyTwitter: https://twitter.com/simonmundieInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/simonmundie/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/simon-mundie-89379114/And for the 'Mundie on Monday' newsletter - featuring three of the best Life Lessons from four years and 200 of these conversations - head to simonmundie.com (where you can also drop me an email)Please do share this episode - it makes a big difference in helping people find this podcast.Thank you.Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"The two great risks are risking too much but also risking too little. That's for each person to decide. For me, not risking anything is worse than death. By far." - Jimmy ChinJimmy is a pro climber, skier, photographer and Oscar winning Film director. The theme of this episode is about following your heart and taking risks. Committing to a path and working it out along the way.Jimmy picked up the Academy Award for the incredible Free Solo. His latest film is called The Rescue, and focusses on the rescue of twelve Thai boys from a flooded underground cave.You can find the episode with Alex Honnold, star of Free Solo, here: https://play.acast.com/s/dont-tell-me-the-score-with-simon-mundie/fear-alexhonnold***Follow me:on instagram https://www.instagram.com/simonmundie/on twitter https://twitter.com/simonmundieAnd for the 'Mundie on Monday' newsletter - featuring three of the best Life Lessons from three years and more than 150 of these conversations - head to simonmundie.comAnd please do share this episode with anyone who may benefit, and rate and review wherever you get your podcasts***Finally, a huge thanks to my sponsors, Puresport. Their range of CBD and Nootropics supplements have had a significant impact on how I sleep, manage stress, and focus throughout the day. I can’t recommend them enough.CBD has been shown to have benefits for anxiety, inflammation, aches and pains - and it may even be good for long term brain and heart health. And anything that helps keep me well in the long-term rather than having to fix lots of niggles once they arrive gets the thumbs up from me. Combined with their supplements range, Puresport are paving the way in the natural wellness market.Frankly, if nothing else, you have to try their Unwind Oil before bed. You’ll sleep like a baby. The good news is that you can get 20% off with code Life20 at checkout. Head to puresportcbd.com and enjoy!Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sometimes, what you need to survive and thrive in challenging times is age old wisdom. And my guest this week is full of it. Paul McGee – speaker and Sunday Times best selling author –has sold over a quarter of a million books, and spoken in more than 40 countries to date. He’s an expert in things like dealing with change, developing relationships, creating opportunies and performing under pressure. His work has been endorsed by the likes of Sir Clive Woodward – and his clients have included the most dominant football team in England in recent years, Manchester City. His book is called SUMO – which stands for Shut up and move on – and we talk about the key lessons he has distilled in there – from seeing other people’s perspective to spotting and creating opportunities.In this episode:Perspective, understanding other people and developing ‘compassionate curiosity’An equation for making good choices in life and responding appropriatelyTaking the time to embrace low momentsOvercoming a victim narrativeHow to spot and create opportunitiesThe power of getting in front of people and developing relationshipsLife as a game of snakes and laddersPaul’s seven questions top consider when life doesn’t seem to be going to planTwitter: https://twitter.com/simonmundieInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/simonmundie/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/simon-mundie-89379114/And for the 'Mundie on Monday' newsletter - featuring three of the best Life Lessons from four years and 200 of these conversations - head to simonmundie.com (where you can also drop me an email)Please do share this episode - it makes a big difference in helping people find this podcast.Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.