The Free Lawyer

In this episode of "The Free Lawyer," host Gary interviews Michelle Niemeyer, a former attorney turned coach, about her journey through legal burnout and her transition to helping lawyers reclaim fulfillment. Michelle shares how chronic stress and overcommitment led to health challenges, prompting her to prioritize self-care and develop her "Art of Bending Time" framework. She discusses the pitfalls of traditional work-life balance, the importance of clarity and energy management, and practical steps for overcoming burnout. Listeners are encouraged to embrace holistic well-being, set boundaries, and find joy both in and beyond their legal careers.Michelle Niemeyer is a speaker, coach and former attorney who teaches professionals how to bend time so they can stay sharp, productive and profitable – without burning out. After finding her way to burnout and back in her own high-performing legal career, Michelle created The Art of Bending Time, a framework that helps people connect the dots across work, life, and purpose to magnetize success and reclaim their joy. She helps businesses retain top talent, boost development, and keep their people energized and engaged – all while making the magic happen.Onset of Burnout & Volunteer Overload (00:05:18) Symptoms of Burnout & Misdiagnosis as Time Management Issue (00:06:29) Political Campaign & Financial Struggles (00:09:54) Financial Crisis & Law Firm Employment (00:13:04) Autoimmune Diagnosis as Turning Point (00:15:52) Rethinking Self-Care & Lawyer Wellness (00:17:57)Transition to Coaching & Health Focus (00:21:25) Final Legal Case & Full Shift to Coaching (00:23:42)Critique of Work-Life Balance (00:25:30) The Art of Bending Time Framework (00:29:15) Handling Internal & External Time Sucks (00:31:30) Gaining Ten Hours of Productive Time (00:33:32) Early Warning Signs of Burnout (00:35:06) Difference Between Time Management & Burnout (00:36:49) Applying the 80/20 Rule & Delegation (00:37:52) Connecting Work, Life, and Purpose (00:39:39) Advice to Her Past Self & Burned Out Lawyers (00:44:34) Hope for the Future of Lawyer Wellness (00:46:50) Would you like to learn more about Breaking Free or order your copy? https://www.garymiles.net/break-free Would you like to schedule a complimentary discovery call? You can do so here: https://calendly.com/garymiles-successcoach/one-one-discovery-call

Gary Miles shares how he mistakenly believed stress was the enemy of being a good lawyer. through 4 decades of practice, he learned how to make stress a tool for success. This episode explains the "vicious cycle" where stress impairs thinking, leads to poor performance, and kills confidence. True unshakable confidence isn't found in winning cases, but in mastering the daily stress of the legal profession. Listen for practical tools and a five-step system for building daily resilience, stress management hacks, and upgrading your practice.Get the Values Alignment Guide ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://upbeat-trailblazer-9238.kit.com/1604bbf4cb⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Learn more about Breaking Free or order your copy ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.garymiles.net/break-free⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Schedule a complimentary discovery call: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/garymiles-successcoach/one-one-discovery-call⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqcfaTWo17uxmYS9hfAdiaQ

In this episode of The Free Lawyer, host Gary Miles interviews Shari Belitz, a litigation consultant and forensic psychologist. Shari shares how she helps civil defense lawyers and insurance professionals use psychological principles to improve trial outcomes. They discuss effective case framing, jury selection, and witness preparation, highlighting common mistakes and practical strategies. Shari explains how storytelling, mock trials, and understanding juror biases can shape verdicts, and offers tips for countering plaintiff tactics like the “reptile theory.” The episode provides actionable insights for lawyers seeking to enhance their trial advocacy through psychology.Shari Belitz, Esq., is a Nationally Recognized Litigation Consultant, Keynote Speaker, Best Selling Author, Chief Executive Officer of Shari Belitz Communications LLC, Certified by the National Women’s Business Enterprise National Counsel (WBENC). She is also the founder of the educational subscription course, EnPSYCHLAWpedia®.Shari Belitz Communications, LLC is a litigation consulting company which helps civil defense lawyers and insurance professionals achieve favorable litigation outcomes using psychology. Shari conducts mock trials, prepares witnesses for depositions and trials, writes theme development reports for mediation and trial, and performs jury selection and other customized trial services.Shari is an attorney with over twenty years of experience in the legal profession. Prior to her litigation consulting career, she was an accomplished insurance coverage attorney at a law firm and litigation manager in-house at an insurance company where she handled complex mass tort lawsuits for Fortune 500 insured clients. During her legal career, Shari studied forensic psychology, including advanced jury science and research at the graduate level.Intersection of Law and Psychology (00:02:20) Transition to Litigation Consulting (00:03:35) Jury Instructions and Psychology (00:04:25) Corporate Litigation Experience (00:05:55) Creating Compelling Jury Narratives (00:07:44) Common Mistakes in Openings and Voir Dire (00:11:36) Voir Dire Strategies and Juror Types (00:14:22) Deposition and Witness Preparation (00:17:51) Managing Jury Bias Against Defendants (00:22:58) Using Present Tense in Openings (00:26:19) Insights from Mock Trials (00:27:16) Overcoming Confirmation Bias (00:28:46) Psychological Techniques for Witnesses (00:30:16) SReptile Theory in Litigation (00:33:22)Responding to Reptile Tactics (00:36:19) Would you like to learn more about Breaking Free or order your copy? https://www.garymiles.net/break-free Would you like to schedule a complimentary discovery call? You can do so here: https://calendly.com/garymiles-successcoach/one-one-discovery-call

In this episode, lawyer Gary Miles reveals the most important lesson from his four-decade career: resilience is the secret weapon for lasting confidence and career satisfaction. He explains that success alone builds a fragile confidence that is easily broken by professional setbacks. Making resilience the true key to thriving in the legal profession. Resilience leads to professional growth and helps combat burnout, a major struggle in the industry. You will hear strategies for building this vital skill, including how to maintain perspective after a loss and create a process for mental recovery. Get the Values Alignment Guide ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://upbeat-trailblazer-9238.kit.com/1604bbf4cb⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Learn more about Breaking Free or order your copy ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.garymiles.net/break-free⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Schedule a complimentary discovery call: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/garymiles-successcoach/one-one-discovery-call⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqcfaTWo17uxmYS9hfAdiaQ

In this episode of "The Free Lawyer," host and veteran lawyer Gary Miles interviews Melissa Murphy Pavone, a Certified Financial Planner and Divorce Financial Analyst. They discuss the challenges lawyers face balancing finances, career transitions, and personal life—especially during divorce. Melissa shares strategies for financial delegation, mindful money habits, and the importance of open communication. She explains how collaborative divorce and financial planning can reduce stress and foster healthier relationships. The episode emphasizes building financial confidence, aligning money with personal values, and prioritizing experiences over material possessions for a more fulfilling professional and personal life.Melissa is a financial advisor who helps her clients balance their wealth with what matters most. With 18 years of experience, she guides clients through life's most challenging transitions with empathy and expertise.The Shift from Reactive to Proactive Financial Guidance (00:03:29) Collaborative Divorce and the Financial Neutral Role (00:06:26) Customization in Collaborative Divorce (00:10:27) .Financial Mindfulness: Meaning and Application (00:13:29) Balancing Work, Money, and Enjoyment for Lawyers (00:17:47) Delegation, Automation, and Paying Yourself First (00:22:15) Financial Planning for Career Transitions (00:23:54) Unique Divorce Challenges for Lawyers (00:27:06) Knowing Your Numbers: First Steps for Professionals (00:29:50)Time, Money, and Life Satisfaction (00:32:09) Financial Wellness, Mindfulness, and Professional Satisfaction (00:34:16) Redefining Success and Financial Freedom (00:36:37) Would you like to learn more about Breaking Free or order your copy? https://www.garymiles.net/break-free Would you like to schedule a complimentary discovery call? You can do so here: https://calendly.com/garymiles-successcoach/one-one-discovery-call

You’ve won cases, closed deals, and earned respect, but deep down, you still feel like an imposter. In this episode, Gary Miles reveals why external success doesn’t automatically lead to internal confidence and what to do about it. Drawing from four decades of legal experience and coaching, he deails the hidden mindset patterns that keep high-performing lawyers stuck in self-doubt. Listen for how to use strategic celebration to literally rewire your brain for confidence, resilience, and clarity. Plus, three simple rituals that can help you recognize your wins and feel like the accomplished attorney you truly are. Get the Values Alignment Guide ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://upbeat-trailblazer-9238.kit.com/1604bbf4cb⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Learn more about Breaking Free or order your copy ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.garymiles.net/break-free⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Schedule a complimentary discovery call: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/garymiles-successcoach/one-one-discovery-call⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqcfaTWo17uxmYS9hfAdiaQ

In this episode of "The Free Lawyer," host Gary interviews Ben Glass, co-founder of Ben Glass Law and Great Legal Marketing. Ben shares his journey from traditional legal practice to building a fulfilling, innovative law firm. He discusses the importance of curiosity, collaboration, and values-driven leadership, encouraging lawyers to delegate, focus on client experience, and foster positive firm cultures. Ben also addresses lawyer wellness, advocating for proactive business strategies and personal growth. The episode offers practical advice for lawyers seeking greater satisfaction and success in their careers.Ben Glass is a prominent long-term disability attorney, business leader, and legal marketing expert with over 40 years of experience in representing disabled and injured clients against insurance companies. He is widely recognized for his innovative approach to law and business, making significant contributions to both fields.Ben is a nationally recognized and sought after speaker in the legal industry and has taught and lectured on a variety of legal subjects including direct and cross examination, the use of expert witnesses, conducing effective voir dire and jury selection, maximizing recovery in personal injury cases and effective representation of disabled workers in ERISA long-term disability cases. Ben has been featured prominently in numerous publications and media outlets such as Lawyers Weekly Virginia, The Washington Post, Newsweek, USA Today, and The Wall Street Journal. Ben Glass is not only a successful attorney but also a leading figure in legal marketing. He founded Great Legal Marketing (GLM), an organization dedicated to helping solo and small-firm lawyers refine their marketing strategies and business practices. His expertise has been sought after nationwide, and he is a frequent speaker and author on legal marketing, delivering talks at in-person and virtual conferences for entrepreneurs worldwide.Collaboration vs. Competition in Law (00:06:27Starting Ben Glass Law: Early Challenges (00:07:43)s.Magnetic Marketing and Information-Based Approach (00:09:37) Client Experience and Referral Cultivation (00:12:05) Renegade Lawyer Philosophy (00:14:07) Entrepreneurial Mindset vs. Legal Mindset (00:15:19)Lawyer Wellness and Business Foundations (00:16:16) The Hard Work of Entrepreneurship (00:18:32) .Biggest Misconceptions About Law Practice Success (00:20:17) .Analyzing and Improving Law Firm Systems (00:22:17) Breaking Free from the Prison of Success (00:24:17) Mindset Differences: Stuck vs. Thriving Lawyers (00:26:18) Building a Values-Driven Practice (00:28:34) Lessons from Mistakes: Hiring and Coaching (00:31:12) The Importance of Ongoing Coaching (00:32:39) Controlling Your Environment and Inputs (00:34:23)Advice to Young Ben: Vulnerability and Coaching (00:36:13) .Encouragement for Stuck and Overwhelmed Lawyers (00:38:07) Would you like to learn more about Breaking Free or order your copy? https://www.garymiles.net/break-free Would you like to schedule a complimentary discovery call? You can do so here: https://calendly.com/garymiles-successcoach/one-one-discovery-call

Lawyers face overwhelming pressure in the courtroom. What if the key to showing up with confidence doesn’t come from more prep, but from mental rehearsal? In this episode, we explore how visualization, a strategy used by elite athletes and surgeons, can help lawyers reduce anxiety, improve performance, and bounce back from setbacks. Listen for how picturing your success before trials, client meetings, or even networking events, can create real neural pathways that boost your presence and recall under pressure. Host, Gary Miles shares personal courtroom stories and science backed tips to make this tool part of your daily practice. If self-doubt has ever held you back, this episode will show you how to mentally rehearse your way to resilience. Get the Values Alignment Guide ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://upbeat-trailblazer-9238.kit.com/1604bbf4cb⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Learn more about Breaking Free or order your copy ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.garymiles.net/break-free⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Schedule a complimentary discovery call: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/garymiles-successcoach/one-one-discovery-call⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqcfaTWo17uxmYS9hfAdiaQ

In this episode of "The Free Lawyer," host Gary Miles interviews Alexandra "Sasha" Berkowitz, discussing Sasha’s journey from contract lawyer to founding her intellectual property firm, Iconic Inc. Sasha shares insights on overcoming fears, embracing entrepreneurship, and prioritizing personal well-being. She highlights the value of flexibility, meaningful client relationships, and cost-effective legal services. The conversation offers practical advice for lawyers seeking independence and fulfillment, emphasizing the importance of aligning career choices with personal values and goals. Sasha’s story inspires listeners to pursue professional growth and personal freedom within the legal field.Sasha first developed a love of intellectual property during a trip to the World Intellectual Property Organization headquarters in Geneva, Switzerland as an undergraduate student. After a brief stint as an IP paralegal, Sasha attended law school at the University of San Diego School of Law in San Diego, California, where she concentrated on intellectual property law. Following her tenure as Senior Partner at a World Trademark Reporter-rated firm, Sasha launched Iconic Inc.Sasha has over a decade of experience assisting small and medium businesses in all industries with securing and protecting their intellectual property rights. She provides advice and counsel to clients nationwide, and is dedicated to helping them protect their intangible assets in a way that is accessible and affordable.Decision to Start Her Own Firm (00:04:36) Managing Mindset and Overcoming Fears (00:05:10) Early Success and Client Work (00:06:04) Benefits of Independence (00:06:25) Dealing with Doubts and Work-Life Balance (00:06:46) Advice for Lawyers Considering Entrepreneurship (00:07:34)Personal Growth and Lessons Learned (00:08:26) Marketing and Business Development Strategies (00:09:30) Biggest Challenges in Running a Firm (00:10:20) Balancing Cost-Effective Services and Profitability (00:10:49) Client Collaboration and Proactive Legal Solutions (00:11:51) Building Strong Client Relationships (00:12:53)Professional Development and Differentiation (00:13:48) Fee Structures: Flat Fees vs. Hourly Billing (00:14:27) Problems with Hourly Billing and Benefits of Alternatives (00:14:59) Attorney Burnout: Causes and Solutions (00:16:50) Advice on Facing Fears and Finding Mentors (00:17:34) Advice to Her Younger Self and Career Reflections (00:19:02) Greatest Joys of Founding Iconic Inc. (00:20:08) Final Advice for Unhappy Lawyers (00:20:42) Would you like to learn more about Breaking Free or order your copy? https://www.garymiles.net/break-free Would you like to schedule a complimentary discovery call? You can do so here: https://calendly.com/garymiles-successcoach/one-one-discovery-call

In this episode, Gary Miles covers the emotional toll of a courtroom loss and how perfectionism can distort a lawyer’s sense of self-worth. He reveals why even top attorneys fall into the trap of harsh self-talk and a fixed mindset after failure. But instead of spiraling, you can reframe setbacks as powerful catalysts for growth. Listen for a three-stage recovery strategy that transforms professional disappointments into personal development tools. You'll learn how to shift your self-talk, replace perfectionism with progress, and build a resilient legal mindset rooted in the growth mindset. Get the Values Alignment Guide ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://upbeat-trailblazer-9238.kit.com/1604bbf4cb⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Learn more about Breaking Free or order your copy ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.garymiles.net/break-free⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Schedule a complimentary discovery call: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/garymiles-successcoach/one-one-discovery-call⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqcfaTWo17uxmYS9hfAdiaQ