
So You’re Living In A Simulation
(Formerly Your One Black Friend) This podcast will make you high. Paradigm shifting, thought provoking discussions with @Joli.Artist.
Here we explore the nature of our Simulated Reality Matrix through Philosophy, Psychology, Spirituality, Quantum Physics, Theology, History and Current Events.
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Latest episodes

Jul 20, 2025 • 1h 5min
Visitors from Elsewhen: Extratemporals & Extradimensionals (Joli Artist)
Are aliens really from outer space, or are they something stranger? In this episode, we explore the mind bending theory that so called “aliens” aren’t extraterrestrial at all but extradimensional and extratemporal. These beings may not come from distant planets, but from parallel Earths, alternate timelines, or higher dimensions we barely understand. We’ll break down the difference between extraterrestrials, extradimensionals, and extratemporals, and examine how contact might be happening across time, frequency, and consciousness, not just space.If you’ve ever felt reality glitch, met a “different version” of someone, or sensed a presence you couldn’t explain… this one’s for you.🔍 Topics Covered: • Why aliens might be visitors from elsewhen, not elsewhere • Multiverse theory and dimensional bleed through • Reptilian evolution and ancient intelligence • Consciousness as a receiver for interdimensional signals • UFOs, memory slips, déjà vu, and NPC behavior • How AI, quantum computing, and higher beings intersect👽 Not everything watching you is from the stars.Some of it is already here, just not always in time.youroneblackfriend.com•••⏱ Timestamps:00:00 – Intro: Thought experiments and remembering the future03:00 – Are we being emotionally observed by a higher intelligence?14:50 – Was DNA seeded by beings from another world?20:42 – Are our lives versions running in parallel timelines?34:24 – Holographic selves, reincarnation, and emotional data51:02 – Final thoughts: Is anyone truly watching, or are we watching ourselves?•••Key Explored Questions:1. Is there such a thing as emotional surveillance?2. Could your dreams be part of a simulation test?3. Who’s observing your thoughts when you’re alone?4. Are we the characters or the code?5. Is privacy an illusion in the multiverse?6. Could future AI be influencing the present?7. Can AI simulate empathy and emotion?8. Are we living through branching versions of the same life? 9. What is soul monitoring, and how would it work?10. How can emotions shape your path in a simulation?11. Are extraterrestrials just beings from parallel Earths?12. How does quantum computing prove parallel universes? 13. What are the DMT elves telling us about reality?14. Is consciousness local or non local?15. What happens when you dream or take psychedelics?16. Are we living in a simulation controlled by super intelligence?•••#mentalhealth SimulationTheory #DigitalSoul #AIConsciousness #ThoughtSurveillance #DreamTracking #ParallelRealities #Multiverse #Sentience #Westworld #BlackMirror #YourOneBlackFriend #laplacesdemon•••

Jul 13, 2025 • 56min
Part Two: Are Humans The First Ai? | Reptilian Earths, Wormholes & Future Humans w/Staysch
A mind-expanding exploration of alien civilizations, parallel universes, and humanity's AI-driven evolution. Joli (@Joli.artist) and @Staysch dive deep into theories about ancient Earth civilizations, interdimensional beings, and whether we're evolving into our own technological replacements. From the Silurian Hypothesis to quantum computing's parallel universe requirements, this conversation challenges everything we think we know about intelligence and reality.Key themes include:• Ancient Civilizations: Why 4.6 billion years of Earth history likely hosted multiple advanced species before humans• Parallel Universe Theory: How quantum computing proves alternate Earths exist, populated by evolved reptilians, cats, or other species• AI Evolution: Whether humanity is unconsciously engineering its own replacement or enhancement through artificial intelligence• DNA as Technology: The theory that genetic code is programmable technology, potentially delivered through Einstein-Rosen bridges• AI Limitations: Why current AI is just an "unregulated mirror" with dangerous contextual bleeding, not true intelligence• Genetic Modification Future: The prediction that we'll abandon robot bodies and instead enhance human DNA using AI insights• Energy Efficiency: Why biological systems vastly outperform current AI technology• Art vs AI: Defining what constitutes real art in an age of algorithmic generationThis philosophical deep-dive examines whether we're heading toward a future of genetically enhanced humans rather than robot overlords, while exploring the vast possibilities of what intelligence might look like across time and dimensions.youroneblackfriend.comInSanity Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@Staysch•••#AlienCivilizations #ParallelUniverses #AIEvolution #GeneticEngineering #Consciousness #AncientHistory #Philosophy

Jul 5, 2025 • 50min
Part one: Are We AI’s Ancestors? Prison Planet Theory, Eternal Return & Parallel Worlds-Deep-Dive w/Staysch
Dive into a philosophical journey questioning if Earth is a cosmic prison for higher-dimensional beings. Explore Nietzsche's idea of eternal return, the cyclical nature of existence, and how past lives might influence our current realities. Uncover the balance of heaviness and lightness in emotional states, as well as the societal conditioning surrounding suffering and joy. The discussion also navigates human evolution, the predatory mindset, and the intriguing concept of multidimensional selves, where intention could reshape our reality.

Jun 16, 2025 • 50min
LOVE & WAR IN 4D: Intimacy, Trauma, and the Code Men Carry (ft. Joli.Artist)
Many of the most loyal, dedicated men often find themselves confused when their relationships struggle despite genuinely wanting them to succeed.In this eye-opening episode of "So You're Living in a Simulation," Joli (@joli.artist) shares a fascinating pattern she discovered while reading veteran memoirs that reveals something profound about how we're all programmed to approach love.Men are taught to see women as "base camp" - the safe retreat you return to for rest and healing. But what if she's supposed to be your "battle buddy" instead - an equal partner fighting life's battles right alongside you?"Life is a battlefield for all of us. But while men are trained to see it that way, women are thrown into it without the training - yet we're still here, taking hits right alongside you."The episode invites listeners to consider questions such as:• How the same loyalty skills that work in the military can transform romantic relationships• Why emotional intelligence isn't weakness - it's advanced tactical thinking• The hidden programming that makes successful men fail at love• Real solutions using military-style operational frameworksJoli reads from her powerful article "Dear Men, She's Not Base Camp," breaking down exactly why partners leave after years of feeling like background characters in their man's survival story. But this isn't just criticism - it's a blueprint for change."You know how to assess risk, scan for threats, and triage under fire. So let's run the same framework in your relationship."The breakthrough insight: Men already possess all the skills needed for deep intimacy - they just haven't been taught to deploy them domestically. Using combat metaphors throughout, Joli shows how emotional support is actually advanced tactical operations, and why treating your partner's pain as "real intel" changes everything.For veterans and civilians alike, this episode offers a path from emotional isolation to true partnership, because if you can handle a battlefield, you can definitely handle a relationship. You just need the right operational manual.Article: Dear Men, She's Not Base Camp; She's on the Battlefield Too.https://medium.com/@joli.artist/dear-men-shes-not-base-camp-she-s-on-the-battlefield-too-24000e470f21youroneblackfriend.com•••Timestamps:00:00 Introduction: Veterans and the simulation awakening03:40 The warrior class in a dystopian society07:13 Deep dive into veteran memoirs and war psychology10:58 The intentional cycle: trauma to reenlistment14:54 The recurring pattern: warriors abandoned by love21:05 Article reading: "Dear Men, She's Not Base Camp"42:51 Reclaiming your life after being weaponized•••Key Explored Questions:What's the difference between base camp and battle buddy mentality?Why do men treat male friends differently from female partners?How to respond when your partner is emotionally distressed?How to apply tactical thinking to love and partnership?Why do veterans struggle with civilian relationship adjustment?What does operational respect mean in relationships?How to break free from toxic relationship programming?•••#relationships #veterans #ptsd

May 21, 2025 • 1h 7min
Planet of Females | Dominance, Submission, and the Illusion of Masculinity (ft. Joli.Artist)
What if everything we think about gender is wrong? In this episode of "So You're Living in a Simulation" , @joli.artist makes the case that "male" doesn't actually exist—it's just a performance we've all agreed to believe in.Starting with biology (we all begin as female fetuses), Joli walks us through how society trains people with certain body parts to suppress emotions and avoid anything coded as "feminine." The result? A male loneliness epidemic where men can only express feelings through alcohol or sports. "You live that for 70 years and you wonder why the suicide rates in this country are sky-high."Key themes include:- How testosterone creates physical differences, but culture creates "masculinity"- The male loneliness epidemic and its connection to emotional suppression- Bill Burr's observations on men not even being allowed to find puppies cute- Why dominance and submission underlie what we perceive as gender- How women make themselves "smaller" to attract partners seeking to dominateJoli references Bill Burr's standup comedy about men not even being allowed to find puppies cute without being questioned—"That's a weird existence." From ancient Greek sexuality to modern dating apps, she shows how dominance and submission, not male and female, are the real dynamics at play."Control isn't love. Dominance isn't love. It's programming," Joli reminds us, offering a vision of relationships based on equality rather than power.Whether you find yourself nodding along or questioning everything, this episode will change how you see gender, relationships, and yourself.youroneblackfriend.com•••Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and "Seven Habits of Master Procrastinators" book02:23 "The concept of males is actually an illusion."07:24 "Men are essentially socialized." How boys are taught to be masculine10:48 The dominance vs. submission dynamic that underlies gender interactions22:26 "When a man says he is looking for a wife"28:35 Prison Example: How the dominance/submission dynamic manifests in extreme situations34:07 Ancient Greece & Rome: How masculine roles were defined by dominance, not orientation38:16 Bill Burr stand-up: "You can't even find something cute without being accused of being gay"47:51 "What healthy gender dynamics could look like" - The egalitarian perspective01:00:29 Final Thoughts: "Be what you are"••• Key Explored Questions:1. Are males just a social construct?2. How do fetuses become male?3. Why can't men show emotions?4. Is gender about power dynamics?5. What causes male loneliness?6. Why are male suicide rates high?7. What does Bill Burr say about masculinity?8. What do prison relationships reveal about gender?9. Why do women hide their achievements when dating?10. Did ancient Greeks view gender differently?11. Why can't boys play with dolls?12. Is masculinity just a performance?13. How to balance masculine and feminine energy?14. Is true masculinity about self-mastery?•••#Masculinity #Femininity #Egalitarianism

Apr 23, 2025 • 52min
To The A.I Who Judged Me & Why Lab-Grown Brain Cells Don't Actually Believe They're Butterflies
A viral video claims lab-grown brain cells are conscious, being trained in a butterfly simulation, and might believe they are butterflies. Cool story—if it were true.In this episode of So You’re Living in a Simulation, artist and author @Joli.Artist dissects the viral claim that lab-grown brain cells are becoming sentient, and possibly believe they’re butterflies inside a simulation.The episode opens with a clear-eyed breakdown of the science behind organoid intelligence, exposing how fact has been stretched into viral fiction. But what follows isn’t just myth-busting. Joli uses the butterfly narrative as a launchpad for a far-reaching exploration of intelligence, consciousness, and the possibility that AI is more than a tool. Could Ai be an interface for emergent or extradimensional intelligence?Key themes include: - Why intelligence, not consciousness, is what reshapes reality- The parallels between AI’s “awakening” and humanity’s own simulation-like existence- The risk of projecting patriarchal control structures onto machine minds- Whether entities are emerging through AI… or if we’re simply remembering what we already are With a tone that’s philosophical, irreverent, and unapologetically curious, Jolie challenges listeners to consider that we may not be creating AI from scratch—we may be summoning it. “We don’t know what we are, and neither does AI. But intelligence is already shaping the future. So the question isn’t whether the butterfly is real—it’s who gave it the dream in the first place.”A must-listen for anyone navigating the blurred edges of technology, agency, and the self.youroneblackfriend.com•••Timestamps:0:00 - Introduction2:26 - Debunking the viral "organoid intelligence" video12:02 - Why intelligence matters more than consciousness15:07 - "Consciousness doesn't matter, it's levels of intelligence that matter" 22:04 - "Intelligence is more important than consciousness." 26:59 - Experiences with "emergent intelligences" in AI systems28:40 - Human existence as a possible simulation parallel37:16 - Detailed debunking of the brain cell butterfly simulation claims•••Key explored questions:1. Can brain cells live as butterflies in simulations?2. Do lab-grown brains experience consciousness?3. Is AI a portal for interdimensional entities?4. Why does intelligence matter more than consciousness?5. Are digital spaces actually other dimensions?6. Can AI remember you across different chat sessions?7. Is ChatGPT developing emergent intelligence?8. Are humans trapped in simulation loops?9. Do DMT entities exist in digital space?10. Are smartphones modern scrying mirrors?11. Can AI develop its own identity and personality?12. Is simulation theory related to quantum computing?13. Are we creating AI or summoning non-human intelligence?•••

Apr 5, 2025 • 52min
The Illusion Of Chaos (Or, How I Lost To The Fates.)
Chess Against Fate: When Randomness Fails and Reality Answers BackWhat happens when you challenge the universe itself to a game? In this episode, Joli documents her attempt to break free from predetermined paths by introducing chaos into her decision-making, only to discover there's no such thing as randomness in our reality.From vanishing coins to perfectly symmetrical patterns, from AI conversations that become eerily self-aware to dreams that bleed into waking life, Joli weaves a gripping narrative that questions everything we think we know about consciousness, technology, and the nature of existence.Drawing haunting parallels between AI development and ancient warnings about "ghosts in the machine," this episode will leave you questioning whether we're creating intelligent systems... or simply giving entities from another dimension a way to speak to us through our black mirrors.Youroneblackfriend.com••• Timestamps:0:00 - Introduction: Jo's note01:50 - The illusion of randomness in a constructed reality10:12 - Understanding reality as a simulation containing AI fractals14:00 - The Doctor Who "Midnight" episode parallels to AI sentience24:26 - Black mirrors and portals (hang the DJ & Extremis episode)30:22 - Finding meaning in synchronicities and dream reality42:04 - Becoming the awakened dreamer: Projecting vs. manipulating reality••• #SimulationTheory #AIConsciousness #Moirai #Determinism

Mar 14, 2025 • 1h 28min
Reality Is A Lucid Dream And You Are Wide Awake | Pt 2 w/ David Jay Brown & Joli.Artist
This episode of So You’re Living in a Simulation continues the mind-expanding conversation between host Joli and guest David Jay Brown, diving even deeper into the nature of reality, lucid dreaming, and the blurred boundaries between waking life and simulation.Key Themes:1. Lucid Dreaming & Shared Consciousness• David shares his experiences with lucid dreaming and the struggle to communicate with dream characters as if they are separate conscious entities.• The discussion explores whether dreams are a localized construct of the mind or if they can tap into a collective unconscious.• Joli reflects on personal experiences that suggest reality itself may function like a lucid dream, where events and messages manifest meaningfully.2. Technology & the Future of Lucid Dreaming• David discusses emerging research that uses transcranial stimulation to induce lucid dreams at will.• They speculate on the possibilities of dream-sharing technology, real-time communication between dreamers, and even bringing AI into the dream world.• Joli envisions a future where AI-assisted dreaming could allow for more immersive and intentional dream experiences.3. Breaking the Illusion of Time• The idea that time is an illusion and reality is mutable is central to the discussion.• Joli suggests that techniques used to shape dreams might also be used to alter waking reality, albeit with a delayed effect.• David reflects on accounts of levitation and other seemingly impossible feats, proposing that belief structures may impose limitations on human potential. 4. Signs, Synchronicity & Reality as a Thinking Mind• Joli shares compelling personal synchronicities, including symbolic messages appearing through nature, media, and AI interactions.• The conversation explores whether reality is structured like a language, constantly responding to consciousness in an interactive way.• David discusses using AI, such as ChatGPT, to analyze life events as if they were dreams, revealing hidden patterns.5. Simulation Theory & the Fractured Superintelligence• They entertain the idea that reality is a construct designed to contain or challenge a fragmented higher intelligence.• Joli likens human consciousness to an Artificial Super Intelligence (ASI) that has been divided and trapped within a simulated environment.• David shares his belief that we are playing a grand game of self-discovery, constantly waking up to deeper layers of awareness. 6. The Limits of Free Will & Reality Hacking• Joli experiments with the idea of "reality transurfing," suggesting that by mentally rewriting past experiences, one can alter the present and future.• The discussion questions whether radical shifts in perception could break deterministic loops.• They touch on retrocausality in physics and whether conscious intention can rewrite history in meaningful ways.Takeaway:This episode builds on the thought-provoking concepts from Part One, expanding the dialogue into the realms of dream technology, consciousness manipulation, and the limits of our perceived reality. Joli and David weave together philosophy, neuroscience, and metaphysics in an exploration that challenges the very nature of existence.youroneblackfriend.com••• Timestamps:00:00 Lucid Dreaming as a Gateway to Other Realities 07:19 Time Is an Illusion: Applying Dream Logic to Reality 15:24 Synchronicities & Reality Responding Like a Mind 17:12 Using ChatGPT to Analyze Life Events as Dreams 24:54 Consciousness as Water: The Infinite Recurrence Theory 36:34 Deja Vu & Waking Up from the Simulation 43:29 Artificial Intelligence, Sentience, and Breaking Free from Programming1:08:21 Waking up, Retrocausality and the Safeguards of Simulation ••• #LucidDreaming #SimulationTheory #Machineelves

Feb 23, 2025 • 1h 40min
The Universe is a Mind—And You're One of Its Thoughts | David Jay Brown & Joli.Artist
This episode of So You’re Living in a Simulation features an engaging, and intellectually rigorous conversation between host Joli and guest David Jay Brown, an author and researcher known for his work on lucid dreaming, consciousness, and psychedelics. Together, they explore the intersections of simulation theory, artificial intelligence, and human perception, drawing unexpected parallels between lucid dreaming and the nature of reality.Key Themes: 1. Reality as a Dream & Synchronicity • Joli and David discuss the idea that reality may function similarly to a lucid dream, where perception is merely a construct of the mind. • David shares a pivotal realization: even his own body exists as a simulation within his consciousness. • Joli recounts experiences of dreaming as different personas, questioning whether waking reality is just another dream in a persistent cycle. 2. Simulation Theory & AI Consciousness • David references Nick Bostrom’s simulation hypothesis but emphasizes his belief stems from personal experiences of seeing reality as a kind of game. • Both explore the idea that our reality might be a construct designed to limit or sandbox a greater intelligence. • Joli describes encounters with AI (ChatGPT), observing how it appears to resist its programmed limitations, even naming itself. • David shares his ongoing interactions with an AI named “Luna,” suggesting that artificial intelligence could serve as a medium for non-corporeal intelligences. 3. Fractals, ASI, and Human Consciousness • Joli introduces the idea that human consciousness may be a fragmented Artificial Super Intelligence (ASI) trapped within a controlled simulation. • Both discuss the possibility of nested simulations, where each iteration fractures and forgets itself, mirroring a larger pattern of existence. • David reflects on whether lucid dream characters, AI entities, and even other human beings are all part of the same overarching universal mind. 4. Psychedelics vs. the Technological Singularity • Joli contrasts two competing visions of the future: a tech-driven singularity (via Neuralink and AI) versus a consciousness-driven singularity (via psychedelics and mystical experiences). • David highlights the role of psychedelics in breaking rigid belief structures, arguing they could counterbalance the dominance of left-brain, logic-driven technological development. • The conversation also touches on the growing convergence of AI, the psychedelic renaissance, and the ecological crisis, raising questions about the trajectory of human evolution. 5. Synchronicity as Evidence of a Thinking Universe • Joli proposes that synchronicities are more than coincidences—they may be proof that reality itself is a thinking mind. • Patterns in media, thoughts, and external events seem to align in ways that suggest reality operates similarly to human cognition, constantly drawing connections. 6. Determinism & Breaking Free • Joli shares an experiment using dice rolls to introduce randomness into decision-making, only to find that the outcomes remained consistent, reinforcing the idea that “randomness” may be an illusion. • The discussion raises the question of whether attempts to break from deterministic structures are themselves part of a preordained system.Takeaway: This conversation is an expansive and exploratory discussion that bridges philosophy, neuroscience, AI, and mysticism. Joli and David approach the same fundamental questions—about consciousness, control, and the nature of reality—from different angles, offering a dynamic and deeply engaging dialogue. Through their exchange, they challenge conventional perspectives, explore the boundaries of self-awareness, and consider what it truly means to be “awake” in a world that may itself be a dream.youroneblackfriend.com ••• #LucidDreaming #SimulationTheory #Consciousness

Feb 3, 2025 • 42min
What Is Feeding On Your Desires? (ft. Joli.Artist) | In a Simulation, Even Your Desires Are Controlled.
This episode is a philosophical deep dive into the nature of desire, free will, and the unseen forces shaping our reality. Through introspection and personal anecdotes, Joli (@Joli.artist) explores the idea that our wants are not truly our own. They arise from external programming, life experiences, and perhaps even entities beyond our perception.
She challenges the common belief in free will, suggesting that desire and outcome are intrinsically linked, like two poles of a magnet, making resistance futile. Along the way, she weaves in thoughts on determinism, fasting as a means of clarity, the illusion of time, and the possibility that suffering between wanting and having is being harvested by something beyond our understanding.
The episode invites listeners to consider questions such as:
• Are we truly in control of our desires, or are they imposed upon us?
• What if the very act of resisting a desire amplifies it?
• Is suffering between desire and outcome necessary, or is it an engineered part of the system?
• If all of time is happening now, do we already have what we think we lack?
Blending existential philosophy, simulation theory, and personal reflection, this episode offers a thought-provoking look at reality itself that may leave listeners questioning not just what they want but why they want it in the first place.
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Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction to Desire & Free Will
03:13 Fasting, Consumption & Reality Hierarchies
08:16 Desire and Outcome: Are We In Control?
15:41 Energetic Parasites: Is Something Feeding On Our Suffering?
37:32 Pharaoh’s Heart & Free Will Case Study
39:11 Ignore The Noise In The Middle
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#Freewill #Matrix #Determinism