The Catholic Gentleman

Every couple begins marriage with love, purpose, and seemingly endless dreams, but then the kids arrive...and everything changes. Sleepless nights, endless noise, and unrelenting schedules can slowly replace tenderness with tension. Before long, spouses who once felt inseparable find themselves living like teammates or strangers, wondering where the closeness went.  In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt confront one of the hardest truths of married life: intimacy doesn’t die overnight; it fades when it’s no longer pursued. They share how to see, hear, remember, and respect your wife again, and how daily virtue (not quick fixes) restores the bond that children, exhaustion, and the world so easily erode.  🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for 30+ sessions to help you understand how to balance work, how to overcome lust, how to actually prayer, and a ton more: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com👉 Get Devin Schadt’s new book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ Use coupon code Gentleman20 for 20% off.  Video Producer - Pietro Damasceno ______________________ 🔴 PLEASE HELP US GROW THIS CHANNEL 🔴1. Don’t miss a Youtube Catholic Gentleman Video: Please click SUBSCRIBE, then Click the "Notification Bell" = 🔔and select “ALL”. This will make sure that you are notified when any new video is released. 2. Please "Like" this video. 👍3. Please share this video on Facebook and Twitter using the SHARE button. ______________________ -- FOLLOW THE CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN -- https://www.facebook.com/TheCatholicGentleman https://www.instagram.com/catholicgentlemanhttps://twitter.com/catholicgent______________________ Go to our website https://catholicgentleman.com/podcast-listing to join our mailing list Please SUBSCRIBE, LIKE, AND SHARE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most couples believe love and faith are enough to build a marriage. But what if they aren't? Too often, the real cracks appear after the vows because they never talked about what truly matters. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt walk through the questions engaged or serious couples must ask to build a lasting, holy marriage - the ones no one talks about anymore. From intimacy and past wounds to faith, finances, and family culture, this episode uncovers the silent assumptions that quietly sabotage relationships. Whether you’re preparing for marriage or already living it, this conversation will challenge and strengthen you to love with purpose, lead with humility, and live your vows with integrity. QUESTION DOWNLOAD - https://bit.ly/TCG-Pre-Marriage-Questions 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 31 exclusive formation sessions, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 Get Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/Use coupon code Gentleman20 for 20% off. Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Husbands often struggle with the urge to fix their wives' problems, but the real key to healing is understanding rather than solving. The hosts explore the masculine drive to provide solutions and how this can lead to frustration. They discuss the importance of being present and affirming, rather than attempting to control. By addressing personal growth first and serving with humility, men can foster deeper connection. The conversation emphasizes authentic leadership, self-denial, and the power of small, unnoticed acts of service to nurture marital harmony.

Every man lives by a story, but what if the story you’ve been living isn’t true? We find ourselves, unknowingly, trapped in lies that define who we are and how we must act. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt expose the hidden lies that quietly shape how men see themselves, their worth, and their purpose. These lies are subtle, powerful, and universal, and until they’re revealed, they keep good men restless, anxious, and unsure of who they really are. With honesty and Catholic depth, John and Devin call men back to their true identity, one rooted not in lies but in something far greater. If you’ve ever felt like you’re striving but still empty, this is the episode you can’t afford to miss. FREE Handmade Wooden Rosary with Pardon Crucifix This Month for those joining CG+. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: ⁠⁠https://catholicgentlemanplus.com⁠⁠👉 Devin Schadt’s new book The Rule: ⁠https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule⁠ COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer - Pietro Damasceno ______________________ 🔴 PLEASE HELP US GROW THIS CHANNEL 🔴1. Don’t miss a Youtube Catholic Gentleman Video: Please click SUBSCRIBE, then Click the "Notification Bell" = 🔔 and select “ALL”. This will make sure that you are notified when any new video is released. 2. Please "Like" this video. 👍3. Please share this video on Facebook and Twitter using the SHARE button. ______________________ -- FOLLOW THE CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN -- https://www.facebook.com/TheCatholicGentleman https://www.instagram.com/catholicgentlemanhttps://twitter.com/catholicgent______________________ Go to our website https://catholicgentleman.com/podcast-listing to join our mailing list Please SUBSCRIBE, LIKE, AND SHARE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

WARNING, this episode contains adult content. Few men realize how deeply silence about sex can wound intimacy. It’s not usually selfishness that causes distance, but fear of saying the wrong thing, being rejected, or exposing the ache for connection that runs deeper than words. Over time, unspoken needs harden into resentment, and what was meant to unite begins to divide. In this episode released from 9 months ago, John Heinen and Devin Schadt open a brutally honest conversation about how to talk with your wife about sex. Not as a demand, but as a path toward healing, holiness, and true partnership. Drawing from Scripture, Catholic wisdom, and personal experience, they reveal how mercy, patience, and honest communication can restore trust and rekindle desire. If you’ve ever wanted deeper unity in your marriage, this is where it begins. FREE Handmade Wooden Rosary with Pardon Crucifix This Month for those joining CG+. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: ⁠⁠https://catholicgentlemanplus.com⁠⁠/october-rosary 👉 Devin Schadt’s new book The Rule: ⁠https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule⁠ COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno ______________________ 🔴 PLEASE HELP US GROW THIS CHANNEL 🔴 1. Don’t miss a Youtube Catholic Gentleman Video: Please click SUBSCRIBE, then Click the "Notification Bell" = 🔔 and select “ALL”. This will make sure that you are notified when any new video is released. 2. Please "Like" this video. 👍 3. Please share this video on Facebook and Twitter using the SHARE button. ______________________ -- FOLLOW THE CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN -- https://www.facebook.com/TheCatholicGentleman https://www.instagram.com/catholicgentleman https://twitter.com/catholicgent ______________________ Go to our website https://catholicgentleman.com/podcast-listing to join our mailing list Please SUBSCRIBE, LIKE, AND SHARE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Confusions in marriage abound as husbands and wives struggle to understand each other. The discussion reveals men's four deep needs, highlighting that intimacy extends beyond the physical. Respect emerges as crucial, as disrespect can deeply wound a husband. Insights into how beauty influences a man's spirit and the significance of partnership enrich the conversation. The hosts offer practical advice for wives to foster encouragement and support, emphasizing the power of affirmation in strengthening marital bonds.

Devin Schadt, an author and speaker dedicated to Catholic men's formation, shares wisdom on living purposefully. He discusses the importance of divine sonship and how it shapes a man's identity. Vocation, especially in marriage and fatherhood, is explored as a path to sanctity. Devin emphasizes self-sacrificial love as a true measure of authority and underscores the significance of silence and prayer for spiritual strength. He concludes with actionable advice from his book, offering a framework that inspires men to lead lives filled with meaning.

Husbands often unknowingly make their wives feel unloved despite good intentions. Unseen mistakes like neglecting emotional presence, commenting on weight, and failing to notice inner beauty can damage trust. The hosts discuss the importance of communicating effectively and prioritizing time together, emphasizing how date nights and public compliments can strengthen bonds. They explore the detrimental effects of pornography and stress mutual partnership in parenting. Listeners are encouraged to actively nurture their relationships with intentional actions.

Exploring the complex distinction between lust and love, the hosts reveal that marriage won’t automatically eliminate lustful desires. They emphasize how wives can sense when they are cherished versus objectified. Healthy attraction is discussed alongside the consequences of failing to recognize the difference, including eroded trust and intimacy. A practical checklist is provided to identify signs of lust, encouraging men to engage in self-reflection and growth. The discussion closes with a call to embrace virtue and holiness in relationships.

Charles Fraune, an author and researcher specializing in exorcism and spiritual warfare, joins to explore the unseen battles against evil. He reveals how saints act as powerful allies in spiritual combat and shares gripping accounts of exorcists invoking their names and relics. Fraune emphasizes the necessity of these saints in overcoming personal vices and the transformative journey of those, like Blessed Bartolo Longo, who have turned from darkness to light. He challenges men to deepen their spiritual practices to claim victory in their own battles.