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Dan spoke with friend and frequent guest Sarey Martin Concepcion about the intersection of intellectual humility and our Christian faith journeys, attempting to tie this together with his recent set of “Still Christian” episodes. They discussed how Sarey was raised in a fundamentalist evangelical strain of Christianity that valued certainty and correct doctrinal beliefs above all else. This made it challenging to embrace intellectual humility -- acknowledging what one can and cannot be confident about.While appreciating the research around intellectual humility can create some real tensions within Christianity, it also provides a foundation for extending grace to ourselves and others amid disagreement and uncertainty. https://www.tidycocreative.com/Other Intellectual Humility Episodes:Elizabeth Hall: Doubt, Intellectual Humility & Uncertainty Tolerance (#146)https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-have-permission/id1448000113?i=1000553166878Joshua Hook: Intellectual Humility (#184)https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-have-permission/id1448000113?i=1000608179436Daryl van Tongeren: You Are Not Your Beliefs (#195)https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-have-permission/id1448000113?i=1000618349369Stephen Sandage: What Does a Healthy Spiritual Leader Even Look Like? (#209)https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-have-permission/id1448000113?i=1000627460605____________________Follow Dan on IG: www.instagram.com/dancoke/Or Twitter: twitter.com/DanKochFaith deconstruction resources: www.soyouredeconstructing.com/Edited by Josh Gilbert (joshgilbertmedia.com -- he is accepting more work!)Join the Patreon for exclusive episodes (and more) every month: patreon.com/dankochEmail about the "sliding scale" for the Patreon: youhavepermissionpodcast@gmail.comYHP Patron-only FB group: tinyurl.com/ycvbbf98Website: www.dankochwords.com/yhp.htmlJoin Dan's email list: www.dankochwords.com/Artwork by sprungle.co/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Richard Hays, a renowned New Testament scholar, and Andrew Huberman, a cutting-edge neuroscientist, dive into pivotal discussions surrounding modern theology and science. Hays shares insights from his upcoming book on gay-affirming theology, challenging traditional beliefs within Christianity. Meanwhile, Huberman faces scrutiny in a recent New York Magazine piece. The hosts also reflect on personal stories of growth and friendships while humorously navigating cultural dynamics, making for a lively and thought-provoking conversation.

Dan's guest today is Simon Nixon, a former pastor and licensed counselor in Australia who works predominantly with domestic violence offenders in group therapy settings, helping them understand how to change their behavior and become safe partners and fathers. They discuss the challenges of such work, including the emotional difficulty and the need for a non-judgmental approach to facilitate change.Simon and Dan explore the concept of toxic and non-toxic masculinities and the importance of helping men identify and process their emotions. Simon outlines the process of working with these men, which includes identifying the kind of man they want to be, challenging unhelpful beliefs, and providing tools and strategies for managing anger and other emotions. They also touch on the evolutionary aspects of masculine traits and how some of these traits, such as protection and provision, may have been adaptive in the past but can be problematic in modern society. Dan offers a framework for re-evaluating some classically masculine traits in a more adaptive way.Simon's Counsellor Page:https://www.theaca.net.au/counsellor/Simon-Nixon**Watch this episode on YouTube**https://youtu.be/Dou415Dnhow____________________Follow Dan on IG: www.instagram.com/dancoke/Or Twitter: twitter.com/DanKochFaith deconstruction resources: www.soyouredeconstructing.com/Edited by Josh Gilbert (joshgilbertmedia.com -- he is accepting more work!)Join the Patreon for exclusive episodes (and more) every month: patreon.com/dankochEmail about the "sliding scale" for the Patreon: youhavepermissionpodcast@gmail.comYHP Patron-only FB group: tinyurl.com/ycvbbf98Website: www.dankochwords.com/yhp.htmlJoin Dan's email list: www.dankochwords.com/Artwork by sprungle.co/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Speaking as much to himself as to listeners, Dan continues this series by recapping Part 1, then discussing two more common thinking errors, known in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy as “cognitive distortions,” that he sees in news coverage around the possibility of a Donald Trump victory in 2024. Recognizing these distortions in the media as well as our own thoughts about the election and its results can 1) reduce our anxiety and 2) align our thoughts more fully with the reality that the future is uncertain but unlikely to be as catastrophic as we often assume. More episodes should come and will focus on additional cognitive distortions, as well as acceptance work.**Watch this episode on YouTube** https://youtu.be/Ixh-be0_l5A____________________Follow Dan on IG: www.instagram.com/dancoke/Or Twitter: twitter.com/DanKochFaith deconstruction resources: www.soyouredeconstructing.com/Edited by Josh Gilbert (joshgilbertmedia.com -- he is accepting more work!)Join the Patreon for exclusive episodes (and more) every month: patreon.com/dankochEmail about the "sliding scale" for the Patreon: youhavepermissionpodcast@gmail.comYHP Patron-only FB group: tinyurl.com/ycvbbf98Website: www.dankochwords.com/yhp.htmlJoin Dan's email list: www.dankochwords.com/Artwork by sprungle.co/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our very own Tony Jones (Generation Gap Culture Hour episodes, author, theologian, recovering youth ministry wunderkind) joins Dan for a very special conversation about the release of his brand new book, The God of Wild Places. Their conversation follows a three-act structure: Tony's early ministry days, then his escape into hunting while his marriage and life were crumbling, and finally the re-approaching and rethinking of his theology and faith in light of those experiences. Along the way, they also touch on mid-century mainline Protestantism, the spirituality and ritual of indigenous hunting practices, and the costs and benefits of organized religion versus a more "disorganized" spirituality. This is not one you'll want to miss, especially if you enjoy Tony on the GGCH episodes.Tony's Website:https://reverendhunter.com/RESOURCES MENTIONS:James Dobson’s “Preparing for Adolescence”:https://www.drjamesdobson.org/broadcasts/preparing-for-adolescence-part-1**Watch this episode on YouTube**https://youtu.be/wbAuF3YKj3A____________________Follow Dan on IG: www.instagram.com/dancoke/Or Twitter: twitter.com/DanKochFaith deconstruction resources: www.soyouredeconstructing.com/Edited by Josh Gilbert (joshgilbertmedia.com -- he is accepting more work!)Join the Patreon for exclusive episodes (and more) every month: patreon.com/dankochEmail about the "sliding scale" for the Patreon: youhavepermissionpodcast@gmail.comYHP Patron-only FB group: tinyurl.com/ycvbbf98Website: www.dankochwords.com/yhp.htmlJoin Dan's email list: www.dankochwords.com/Artwork by sprungle.co/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

**Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/FhPSrPr0g9UIn the first of hopefully many "rapid fire" mailbag episodes, Dan answers listener questions on the following topics: Books to read as you start faith deconstruction Podcasts he wishes someone else would start Oppenheimer vs. Dune Part 2 Whether Jesus’ teachings in the Gospels are compatible with other religions being viable paths to God Albums that changed how he listens to music What the Eucharist/Lord’s Supper means to him today To listen to or watch the full episode, join the Patreon community at http://patreon.com/dankochRESOURCES MENTIONED:The Bible Made ImpossibleA Flexible FaithPureBonnie Kristian YHP episodes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-have-permission/id1448000113?i=1000428619214https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-have-permission/id1448000113?i=1000437967133Linda Kay Klein YHP episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-have-permission/id1448000113?i=1000450839620Pretty Good Vibrations (Dan's music podcast): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pretty-good-vibrations/id1652779250--------YHP on YouTube: www.youtube.com/@YouHavePermissionPodcastFollow Dan on IG: www.instagram.com/dancoke/Or Twitter: twitter.com/DanKochFaith deconstruction resources: www.soyouredeconstructing.com/Edited by Josh Gilbert (joshgilbertmedia.com -- he is accepting more work!)Join the Patreon for exclusive episodes (and more) every month: patreon.com/dankochEmail about the "sliding scale" for the Patreon:YHP Patron-only FB group: tinyurl.com/ycvbbf98Website: www.dankochwords.com/yhp.htmlJoin Dan's email list: www.dankochwords.com/Artwork by sprungle.co/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Dan answers a listener question about how he approaches difficult biblical passages that portray God as full of wrath, punishing humans in this world for their sins and rebellion. Later, Kristen Tideman joins to discuss Dan’s answer and ask some follow-up questions.**Watch this episode on YouTube**https://youtu.be/STHpDBYJuQc____________________Follow Dan on IG: www.instagram.com/dancoke/Or Twitter: twitter.com/DanKochFaith deconstruction resources: www.soyouredeconstructing.com/Edited by Josh Gilbert (joshgilbertmedia.com -- he is accepting more work!)Join the Patreon for exclusive episodes (and more) every month: patreon.com/dankochEmail about the "sliding scale" for the Patreon: youhavepermissionpodcast@gmail.comYHP Patron-only FB group: tinyurl.com/ycvbbf98Website: www.dankochwords.com/yhp.htmlJoin Dan's email list: www.dankochwords.com/Artwork by sprungle.co/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Dan answers a listener question about how he approaches difficult biblical passages that portray God as full of wrath, punishing humans in this world for their sins and rebellion. Later, Kristen Tideman joins to discuss Dan’s answer and ask some follow-up questions.**Watch this episode on YouTube**https://youtu.be/ZHtYQQmRp9Y____________________Follow Dan on IG: www.instagram.com/dancoke/Or Twitter: twitter.com/DanKochFaith deconstruction resources: www.soyouredeconstructing.com/Edited by Josh Gilbert (joshgilbertmedia.com -- he is accepting more work!)Join the Patreon for exclusive episodes (and more) every month: patreon.com/dankochEmail about the "sliding scale" for the Patreon: youhavepermissionpodcast@gmail.comYHP Patron-only FB group: tinyurl.com/ycvbbf98Website: www.dankochwords.com/yhp.htmlJoin Dan's email list: www.dankochwords.com/Artwork by sprungle.co/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this wide-ranging conversation with Dr. Malinda Berry (Anabaptist Mennonite Biblical Seminary), Dan and Malinda cover nonviolence in the Anabaptist tradition, where Anabaptism comes from, the questionable emphasis in these traditions on martyrdom stories, our psychological instincts toward “purity,” and even exposure therapy and the idea that “time heals all wounds.”Malinda’s Faculty page:https://www.ambs.edu/employees/malinda-elizabeth-berry/Richard Foster's Book “The Streams of Living Water: Celebrating the Great Traditions of Christian Faith”:https://www.amazon.com/s?k=streams+of+living+water+richard+foster&hvadid=587486551675&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9019667&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=1310001887124060575&hvtargid=kwd-377313966157&hydadcr=22599_13379366&tag=googhydr-20&ref=pd_sl_6v26802mcy_e____________________Follow Dan on IG: www.instagram.com/dancoke/Or Twitter: twitter.com/DanKochFaith deconstruction resources: www.soyouredeconstructing.com/Edited by Josh Gilbert (joshgilbertmedia.com -- he is accepting more work!)Join the Patreon for exclusive episodes (and more) every month: patreon.com/dankochEmail about the "sliding scale" for the Patreon: youhavepermissionpodcast@gmail.comYHP Patron-only FB group: tinyurl.com/ycvbbf98Website: www.dankochwords.com/yhp.htmlJoin Dan's email list: www.dankochwords.com/Artwork by sprungle.co/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dan is joined by friend and musician Brian Hall (TENTS) to talk his journey through different corners of Christianity, his relationship with his highly-spiritual father, staying out of dogma, and all that as it relates to a beautiful song called “Hutah!” The song is part of Brian’s attempt to reclaim some of his bodily, charismatic birthright in a post-deconstruction landscape. As you might imagine, it’s a pretty great conversation!Brian’s band Tents Spotify Page:https://open.spotify.com/artist/6UEOudUMOVOVUgAuVos294?si=a3W4UhooQfGWKHr0lGEvnQ“Hutah!” Song Long Link:https://open.spotify.com/track/1gL9wxxn8tuTCTfNP31ZXw?si=098da25678b247bcIG @tentsband_____________Follow Dan on IG: www.instagram.com/dancoke/Or Twitter: twitter.com/DanKochFaith deconstruction resources: www.soyouredeconstructing.com/Edited by Josh Gilbert (joshgilbertmedia.com -- he is accepting more work!)Join the Patreon for exclusive episodes (and more) every month: patreon.com/dankochEmail about the "sliding scale" for the Patreon: youhavepermissionpodcast@gmail.comYHP Patron-only FB group: tinyurl.com/ycvbbf98Website: www.dankochwords.com/yhp.htmlJoin Dan's email list: www.dankochwords.com/Artwork by sprungle.co/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices