Awesome Marriage Podcast

When we carry parts of our past with us, they still affect us today. You may know there is something going on, but not know what it is. You may sense your spouse has something they are carrying or you might be affected by unresolved conflict in your shared past. Today Dr. Kim shares how these things shape our marriage relationships and what we can do about them. Episode highlights include: Ever been picked last at recess? Yeah, us too. But do things like that matter in our marriages? Why aren't we dealing with this stuff already? What happens if we don't deal with our past hurt Is it okay to talk about our spouse's baggage if they don't bring it up? We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our 4 Week Connection Challenge for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES 44 Tips to Better Sex in Marriage: Sexual Intimacy Cheat Sheet This is the FB Live video with Chris and Jamie Bailey that we referred to dealing with Emotional Rationalization As promised! Here are some Scriptures that speak to the things we addressed today: Colossians 2:6-10 Ephesians 4:20-24 John 16:33 James 1:2-5

Here's what's coming up in the next several weeks on the Awesome Marriage Podcast! I'll share which guests will be appearing on the podcast and a snippet of what they'll talk about. This series is full of warmth and wisdom, so make sure to tune into each episode!

How can just three words help strengthen your emotional, spiritual and mental health? Not only that, but Pastor Mark Batterson says they can shift the tide and change everything. Please, Sorry, Thanks is the name of Pastor Mark Batterson's new book, and he is here today with Dr. Kim, sharing why it's worth devoting an entire book to three of the first words many of us were taught growing up! Don't miss this powerful episode. Episode highlights include: Practices to better position ourselves to hear God's voice over the world's noise The psychology of please, the science of sorry, and the theology of thanks The antidote to bitterness, and the lasting impacts of unconfessed bitterness We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. RESOURCES For some guidance to try Mark's idea of asking great questions, try our 52 Questions For Your Family Table. These are designed to help you ask great questions and engage in interesting conversation! If you enjoyed this episode, you will love Mark's new book Please, Sorry, Thanks!

So many parents know the pain of a broken relationship with their adult child. This isn't how you thought it would go, and you're not sure how to love your child when they continue to break your heart. Today Dr. David E Clarke returns to the podcast to give some biblical steps that parents can take, individually or as a couple, with their prodigal child. Episode highlights include: 10 scenarios that can cause relational disconnect with your adult child Steps to repairing your relationship when you've fallen short Resolving parental guilt - and what happens if you fail to do so Forgiving the adult child that has broken your heart What role do other family members play? We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES More on this topic can be found in Dr. Clarke's book: Adult Children Who Break Your Heart www.davideclarkephd.com

Today we tackle listener questions about how to practically apply boundaries in specific marriage situations. Dr. Kim gives some great starting points to help you deal with situations that you may be facing where a boundary would help, but you just don't know what that boundary should be, or how to set it. Episode highlights include: Decision-making boundaries with in-laws Dealing with a controlling parent How to address an unmet promise without nagging Finding creative solutions to address marriage pain points We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Learn all about how to set healthy boundaries for your marriage with our Building Better Boundaries For Your Marriage online course. Our new Boundaries Workbook Guide helps you decide where and how to start applying this content to your marriage.

Today on the podcast, we're sharing real stories of marriage boundaries that couples used to help their marriage grow healthier. Dr. Kim and I each share some of our own experiences, and we will hear from 4 members of the Awesome Marriage team about boundaries that helped their marriage. Episode highlights include: The money mindset that set Dr. Kim and Nancy up for success together A simple way to transition from your work-from-home to family time Lindsay and Christina share practical boundaries for couples in ministry Dr. Kim and Lindsay have opposite takes on one thing their spouses do We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Learn all about how to set healthy boundaries for your marriage with our Building Better Boundaries For Your Marriage online course. Our new Boundaries Guide helps you decide where and how to start applying this content to your marriage. The 7 Most Popular Resource Bundle launches today! It's available for 2 weeks only, so don't miss the chance to get 7 of our most-loved resources for just one donation. https://awesomemarriage.com/2023-april-bundle

Today we're going to get into what healthy boundaries do and do NOT look like. We will troubleshoot the confusion and frustration that boundaries can bring when they're not working like they should, and tell you what to do about it. Episode highlights include: We unpack some reasons you might avoid setting boundaries Red flags that you are doing boundaries wrong How to clarify the importance of the issues you discuss When you have assumed your spouse knows your boundaries We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Learn all about how to set healthy boundaries for your marriage with our Building Better Boundaries For Your Marriage online course. Dr. Kim covers why and how and gives practical tips and examples to help you put them in place. Our new Boundaries Guide helps you decide where and how to start applying this content to your marriage. For more information on boundaries, Henry Cloud and John Townsend's book, Boundaries is an immensely helpful time-tested staple.

Do you ever get a little defensive when your spouse disagrees with you? Marriage disagreements get real because we can't just ignore what we don't agree on like we can with an acquaintance. Today Mike Donehey joins Dr. Kim on the podcast and shares gospel-centered wisdom that shows us a better way to disagree. Episode highlights include: How Christians should handle defensiveness A great way to diffuse an argument as soon as it begins What can happen when we take the time to really hear the other person's argument We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Read Mike's book, Grace in the Gray: A More Loving Way to Disagree Find Mike at MikeDonehey.com Listen to Mike's podcast, Chasing the Beauty

Today we get into the details of how to carry out healthy boundary setting. We continue the series on healthy boundaries by talking about logistics of how to set and carry out the boundaries our marriages need. We'll talk about how to do this conversation well, and what NOT to do when you talk about them. Tune in to hear how to set these well to help you and your marriages to be their healthiest. What do you want to hear more about before we close this series? Let me know! Episode highlights include: Dr. Kim gives several examples of how to make boundaries enforceable Practical dos and don'ts of a boundaries conversation What to do if your spouse doesn't agree to your boundaries or respect them Ways for in-laws to deal with boundaries involving their married kids We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES A helpful companion episode: What is Team Language? | Ep. 501 Our Boundaries Guide walks through the topics we've covered through this series and helps you decide where and how to start applying this content to your marriage. We talk to a lot of couples who don't know what makes them a great team, so we created Team You & Me: A Guide to Approaching Your Marriage as a Team, to help you be more intentional to tap into all God has for you in the gift of your marriage. Our Conflict Solving Survey & Workbook provides more help to work on healthy and effective conflict resolution together. Learn all about how to set healthy boundaries for your marriage with our Building Better Boundaries For Your Marriage online course. Dr. Kim covers why and how and gives practical tips and examples to help you put them in place.

Several types of boundaries can help your marriage be healthy, and today we're talking about boundaries outside of marriage. That means with family, friends, and the opposite sex. We could probably devote an entire episode to each of these categories! We definitely can't cover every possibility, but we can get the conversation started. Episode highlights include: Boundaries with your in laws & adult married children Guidance on setting boundaries with your kids at any age Basic boundaries for co-parenting with an ex Dr. Kim's recommendations for affair prevention boundaries We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Learn all about how to set healthy boundaries for your marriage with our Building Better Boundaries For Your Marriage online course. Dr. Kim covers why and how and gives practical tips and examples to help you put them in place. Get 25 of Dr Kim's best conflict resolution tips in our Conflict Resolution Cheat Sheet! Our new Boundaries Guide helps you decide where and how to start applying this content to your marriage. Our friends Dan & Kay at Centsei can help you set a budget and stick with good financial boundaries. We talk to a lot of couples who don't know what makes them a great team, so we created Team You & Me: A Guide to Approaching Your Marriage as a Team, to help you be more intentional to tap into all God has for you in the gift of your marriage.