

Connect2
Focus on the Family Singapore
Welcome to the Connect2 marriage podcast by Focus on the Family Singapore!
Married life can be filled with twists and turns, especially with the day-to-day priorities, and stresses in life, including the times we run into conflict with our spouse.
No matter the state of your relationship today, we want to help your marriage thrive.
Join us as we figure out life and love together, and go deep into the conversations and questions (often unspoken) about the toughest topics on connection, intimacy and lifelong love.
While there are no perfect marriages, there is always room to grow to be the best spouse we can be. With practical tips, a whole lot of vulnerability and even a dose of humour, we hope that these episodes will provide hope and encouragement for your marriage.
Married life can be filled with twists and turns, especially with the day-to-day priorities, and stresses in life, including the times we run into conflict with our spouse.
No matter the state of your relationship today, we want to help your marriage thrive.
Join us as we figure out life and love together, and go deep into the conversations and questions (often unspoken) about the toughest topics on connection, intimacy and lifelong love.
While there are no perfect marriages, there is always room to grow to be the best spouse we can be. With practical tips, a whole lot of vulnerability and even a dose of humour, we hope that these episodes will provide hope and encouragement for your marriage.
Episodes
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Oct 19, 2022 • 19min
How the Growth Mindset Works in Marriage
How do we handle weaknesses in our lives and in our marriage? And is it possible to convert these weaknesses to strengths instead? Frankie and Tina, parents to 3 boys and married for over 20 years, share with us their insights and tips on how it is possible to do so. Tune in to this podcast on How the Growth Mindset Works in Marriage through Communication and Conflict series.--You can help to sow good seeds into marriages by sharing about the upcoming Connect2 Marriage Preparation group workshop with your friends and relatives. Couples can enjoy journeying closely with husband-and-wife team and long-time marriage trainers, Jason and Shelen Ang, across 3 sessions. At this workshop, couples who are still dating or engaged, or even newlyweds can learn to: Understand what love, marriage and your vows symbolize Identify each other's differences and love languages Manage healthy conflict and have a good grasp on their family finances Understand sexual intimacy, the importance of romance and family planning Learn how to manage expectations from their spouse, children, in-laws while balancing work-lifeBuild a strong foundation for marriage at Connect2 Marriage Preparation Group WorkshopThursdays, 10 & 17 November 2022 | Online SessionsSaturday, 26 November 2022 | Onsite Session Find out more at www.family.org.sg/C2MarriagePrep--If you have enjoyed this episode, please leave us a rating and review on Apple Podcast or Podchaser. It'll be very helpful for others to find our podcast. You can also help us by copying this link www.family.org.sg/connect2podcast to share with your friends. You can also support us by giving monthly. We appreciate your generous giving as every dollar helps to sustain our efforts in strengthening families. Do note that if you are based in Singapore, one-time gifts above SGD$50 or monthly donations above SGD$10 are eligible for 250% tax-deductible benefits.

Oct 5, 2022 • 18min
1 + 1 = 3 Multiplying Our Strengths in Marriage
Does 1+1=2 or when it’s with your marriage, can 1+1=3 instead? Strengths multiply when they come together. Tune in with us and hear Frankie and Tina, parents of 3 boys and married for over 20 years, share on how they avoid delegating according to strengths and weaknesses but instead choose to always come together as one team so their strengths are called out and multiplied. --You can help to sow good seeds into marriages by sharing about the upcoming Connect2 Marriage Preparation group workshop with your friends and relatives. Couples can enjoy journeying closely with husband-and-wife team and long-time marriage trainers, Jason and Shelen Ang, across 3 sessions. At this workshop, couples who are still dating or engaged, or even newlyweds can learn to: Understand what love, marriage and your vows symbolize Identify each other's differences and love languages Manage healthy conflict and have a good grasp on their family finances Understand sexual intimacy, the importance of romance and family planning Learn how to manage expectations from their spouse, children, in-laws while balancing work-lifeBuild a strong foundation for marriage at Connect2 Marriage Preparation Group WorkshopThursdays, 10 & 17 November 2022 | Online SessionsSaturday, 26 November 2022 | Onsite Session Find out more at www.family.org.sg/C2MarriagePrep--If you have enjoyed this episode, please leave us a rating and review on Apple Podcast or Podchaser. It'll be very helpful for others to find our podcast. You can also help us by copying this link www.family.org.sg/connect2podcast to share with your friends. You can also support us by giving monthly. We appreciate your generous giving as every dollar helps to sustain our efforts in strengthening families. Do note that if you are based in Singapore, one-time gifts above SGD$50 or monthly donations above SGD$10 are eligible for 250% tax-deductible benefits.

Sep 7, 2022 • 19min
Intimacy Matters: Private and Confidential
What makes up the bulk of your communication with your spouse? Is it mostly talk shop about kids and household, functional conversations but not deep, heart-to-heart communication? And do you actually even talk about sex and attraction? Without a commitment to open and direct talk about sex, it’s impossible to be vulnerable about the challenges you have with sex. Tune in to the last episode of Intimacy Matters as we talk about what’s Private and Confidential with your host Joanna and Gary.---You Can Impact MarriagesEncourage others to build a strong foundation for their marriages. If you have friends or family members who are getting married, share with them about the Connect2 group marriage preparation programme!Facilitated by husband-and-wife trainers couples can learn to:• Engage in effective communication• Have healthy conflicts and family finances• Understand sexual intimacy and the importance of romance• Manage expectations from spouse, children and in-laws Connect2 Group Marriage Preparation Workshops Couples can look forward to two weekday hybrid sessions and one in-person session on a Saturday.Thursday, 10 and 17 and Saturday, 26 November 2022Find out more at www.family.org.sg/C2MarriagePrep---If you have enjoyed this episode, please leave us a rating and review on Apple Podcast or Podchaser. It'll be very helpful for others to find our podcast. You can also help us by copying this link www.family.org.sg/connect2podcast to share with your friends. You can also support us by giving monthly. We appreciate your generous giving as every dollar helps to sustain our efforts in strengthening families. Do note that if you are based in Singapore, one-time gifts above SGD$50 or monthly donations above SGD$10 are eligible for 250% tax-deductible benefits.

Sep 7, 2022 • 16min
Intimacy Matters: Sex Through The Seasons
Is sex just for those early years of passion? After the honeymoon period, after kids and as life gets busy with work and myriad demands, is it possible for married couples to still enjoy great sex lives? And if so, just how? Join our host Joanna and her husband Gary as they navigate the topic of Sex Through The Seasons. This is part four of our Intimacy Matters series where we ask the questions you want answers to on sex within marriage. ---You Can Impact MarriagesEncourage others to build a strong foundation for their marriages. If you have friends or family members who are getting married, share with them about the Connect2 group marriage preparation programme!Facilitated by husband-and-wife trainers couples can learn to:• Engage in effective communication• Have healthy conflicts and family finances• Understand sexual intimacy and the importance of romance• Manage expectations from spouse, children and in-laws Connect2 Group Marriage Preparation Workshops Couples can look forward to two weekday hybrid sessions and one in-person session on a Saturday.Thursday, 10 and 17 and Saturday, 26 November 2022Find out more at www.family.org.sg/C2MarriagePrep---If you have enjoyed this episode, please leave us a rating and review on Apple Podcast or Podchaser. It'll be very helpful for others to find our podcast. You can also help us by copying this link www.family.org.sg/connect2podcast to share with your friends. You can also support us by giving monthly. We appreciate your generous giving as every dollar helps to sustain our efforts in strengthening families. Do note that if you are based in Singapore, one-time gifts above SGD$50 or monthly donations above SGD$10 are eligible for 250% tax-deductible benefits.

Aug 3, 2022 • 14min
Intimacy Matters: Sex-citing Love
What is Sex-citing Love? And how is it that research shows the best sex happens within marriage and after about 15 years of committed relationship? We continue to dive deep into Intimacy Matters with our third episode focusing on Sex-citing Love. Tune in to hear our hosts Gary and Joanna share science and tips that help husbands and wives keep their sex life active and satisfying. A lifetime of love and romance takes intentional effort. Why not put aside some time and listen to this podcast to kickstart that journey of inserting excitement back into your marital life!---A strong family thrives on a healthy marriage. With kids in tow, carving out time to connect with your spouse may be a challenge, and it might have been a while since both of you did something novel together as a couple.This August, have the Best Date Ever with your spouse over our Takeaway Tea Experience!Rekindle the romance over a Japanese-inspired afternoon tea set paired with the Best Date Ever kit. Containing couple activities and opportunities to build deeper connections, this intricately planned Takeaway Tea Experience provides you and your spouse the essentials to create a meaningful time together – whether it is enjoyed in the afternoon or at night after the kids head to bed.Renew the intimacy in your marriage at the Best Date Ever! Sign up at www.family.org.sg/bestdateever. ---If you have enjoyed this episode, please leave us a rating and review on Apple Podcast or Podchaser. It'll be very helpful for others to find our podcast. You can also help us by copying this link www.family.org.sg/connect2podcast to share with your friends. You can also support us by giving monthly. We appreciate your generous giving as every dollar helps to sustain our efforts in strengthening families. Do note that if you are based in Singapore, one-time gifts above SGD$50 or monthly donations above SGD$10 are eligible for 250% tax-deductible benefits.

Aug 3, 2022 • 13min
Intimacy Matters: Unlocking Desires
Is it all about sex? What does sexual intimacy look like for men versus women? How do husbands and wives express their sexual desires?In this episode on Unlocking Desires, Gary and Joanna share openly from their 22 years of marriage and experiences mentoring married couples about how husbands and wives can be more attuned to each other’s desires for intimacy.The journey towards a better sex life in marriage begins long before the act of physical intimacy itself..“At the end of the day, we need to use sex to cherish our spouse and not use our spouse to cherish sex.”---A strong family thrives on a healthy marriage. With kids in tow, carving out time to connect with your spouse may be a challenge, and it might have been a while since both of you did something novel together as a couple.This August, have the Best Date Ever with your spouse over our Takeaway Tea Experience!Rekindle the romance over a Japanese-inspired afternoon tea set paired with the Best Date Ever kit. Containing couple activities and opportunities to build deeper connections, this intricately planned Takeaway Tea Experience provides you and your spouse the essentials to create a meaningful time together – whether it is enjoyed in the afternoon or at night after the kids head to bed.Renew the intimacy in your marriage at the Best Date Ever! Sign up at www.family.org.sg/bestdateever. ---If you have enjoyed this episode, please leave us a rating and review on Apple Podcast or Podchaser. It'll be very helpful for others to find our podcast. You can also help us by copying this link www.family.org.sg/connect2podcast to share with your friends. You can also support us by giving monthly. We appreciate your generous giving as every dollar helps to sustain our efforts in strengthening families. Do note that if you are based in Singapore, one-time gifts above SGD$50 or monthly donations above SGD$10 are eligible for 250% tax-deductible benefits.

Jul 6, 2022 • 18min
Intimacy Matters: Sex Matters
How much sex do you need in your marriage? How can you make it better? Does one spouse have a higher sex drive than the other? In our Connect2 podcast on Intimacy Matters, we dive into all the reasons why sex matters in your marriage and offer you ways you can get the conversation on sex started in your own marriage. Join our hosts, Gary and Jo, both trained counsellors and marriage solemnisers and also husband and wife to each other for 22 years as they share honestly about their own journey as well as what they have learnt in their professional roles helping married couples. “We think wow, you are supposed to master the whole act of sex and fireworks is supposed to take place but the reality is, you know, as you have more sexual intimacy, you grow in your love making skill.” ---How long has it been since your last date as a married couple? With kids and busy schedules, it might feel near impossible to find time to date each other. Without noticing, our spouses may have already changed from the day we said, “I do”.At Best Date Ever, look forward to reconnecting deeply over food, fun and feelings. We have done the intricate planning for you, so all you need to do is dress up, turn up and enjoy yourselves together.Renew the intimacy in your marriage at the Best Date Ever!Sign up at www.family.org.sg/bestdateever. ---If you have enjoyed this episode, please leave us a rating and review on Apple Podcast or Podchaser. It'll be very helpful for others to find our podcast. You can also help us by copying this link www.family.org.sg/connect2podcast to share with your friends. You can also support us by giving monthly. We appreciate your generous giving as every dollar helps to sustain our efforts in strengthening families. Do note that if you are based in Singapore, one-time gifts above SGD$50 or monthly donations above SGD$10 are eligible for 250% tax-deductible benefits.

Jul 6, 2022 • 17min
The World of the Married
“Marriage is hard work and often a work in progress. It’s not just about having a great wedding, but what comes after the wedding day. If we want our relationship to grow, we need to keep sowing into it. And if we sow well, we will reap well.”Having been married for 22 years, the hosts for this new podcast, Gary and Joanna Koh, talk candidly about their relationship – the triggers, tensions, and tenacity needed to keep their marriage strong. Gary is a family life educator and counsellor, and Joanna serves as CEO of Focus on the Family Singapore.Why should I stay married when I’m on longer in love? Join Gary and Joanna as they get to the heart of this common question couples have about love and marriage.---How long has it been since your last date as a married couple? With kids and busy schedules, it might feel near impossible to find time to date each other. Without noticing, our spouses may have already changed from the day we said “I do”. At Best Date Ever, look forward to reconnecting deeply over food, fun and feelings. We've done the intricate planning for you, so all you need to do is dress up, turn up and enjoy yourselves together. Renew the intimacy in your marriage at the Best Date Ever! Sign up at www.family.org.sg/bestdateever---If you have enjoyed this episode, please leave us a rating and review on Apple Podcast or Podchaser. It'll be very helpful for others to find our podcast. You can also help us by copying this link www.family.org.sg/connect2podcast to share with your friends. You can also support us by giving monthly. We appreciate your generous giving as every dollar helps to sustain our efforts in strengthening families. Do note that if you are based in Singapore, one-time gifts above SGD$50 or monthly donations above SGD$10 are eligible for 250% tax-deductible benefits.