Relationship Coaching School Podcast

Do you ever feel defensive, blamed, angry, or hurt when someone says, “you make me feel….”? Have you heard of “spiritual cock-blocking?” This week Ellen and I talk about the potent and simple “I feel” statements and how we impact one another and influence each other’s feelings and experiences by simply co-existing in the same space, both positively and negatively. Learn how to navigate these difficult conversations by sharing ‘Impact Statements’ (a communication technique that leads with empathy while advocating for your experience) instead of pointing the finger and blaming/shaming someone for making you feel a certain way or using an impact statement if you’re on the receiving end of such a statement. Try to remember that conflict is essential in any healthy relationship because it offers the opportunity to repair, to get to know each other better, to be collaborative, all key elements in building security, resilience and trust. Useful Links: Sharing Impact 2.0 Episode https://relationshipschool.com/rmasterclass/ https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow https://www.gettingtozerobook.com

Here are my thoughts on the latest school shootings. This one hit me hard. Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/masterclass/ https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow

This week my wife Ellen and I tackle a couple of your questions that got a lot of heat online. Sarah wrestles with how to realistically reassure her partner that she’s not going anywhere when she doesn’t actually know this for a fact (she’s no psychic). Linda wonders about how to reinstall trust and move forward after her partner breaks into her phone and reads a private text conversation. We discuss how our relationships are the strength that can help us deal with the unknowns of tomorrow and appropriate ways of relating in order to steer your relationship toward a secure partnership. Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/masterclass/ https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow https://www.gettingtozerobook.com https://relationshipschool.com/group/

What would you do if you got 51 text messages from your partner if you needed space? What would you do if your partner took space and continued to be distant with no return time? These are very normal anxious/avoidant relationship dynamics.  In this episode I coach a couple through their anxious avoidant dynamic. I hope it serves you. Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/masterclass/ https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow https://www.gettingtozerobook.com https://relationshipschool.com/group/  

Do you find yourself often at odds or in conflict with your partner/co-parent?  Have you agreed to disagree and compartmentalize parenting responsibilities?  Are you stuck in your familial-parental roles (one parent = primary breadwinner, the other = primary parent)?  If yes, this episode is a great listen for parents (or aspiring parents, parents-to-be, and separated-co-parents) who can relate to desiring more cohesive collaboration in their parenting game. If you get a lot from this episode, head to www.relationshipschool.com/upgrade to learn more about the course Ellen and I co-created for partners who need support learning to collaborate.

Do you ever wonder if or how your kids experience your anxiety/stress levels? How does your nervous system and theirs inform one another? Do you take time to reflect on where you are in your journey as a human and how that may affect your capacity to develop resiliency? Join my wife Ellen and I to discuss how being mindful of our nervous system can help us build resilient children. Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/relationshipmastery/ https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow https://www.gettingtozerobook.com https://relationshipschool.com/community/  

How do you manage triggers and share emotions at the same time? Ever keep score in a partnership? Ugh. Do you feel like you are disagreeing too much? Join my wife and I as we help you address all of these as it relates to your questions. Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/relationshipmastery/ https://relationshipschool.com/rescue/ https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow https://www.gettingtozerobook.com my.community.com/JaysonGaddis

How do we help each other feel safe and secure? Tune in to listen to Ellen, and I's experiential conversation series “Rando Chat" over a cup of coffee. In this week's episode, we discuss our day, our family, and how we co-regulate just by existing in one another's orbits as a couple and family.  Enjoy the episode, and let us know your thoughts and feelings about this experimental episode in the comments. Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow https://www.gettingtozerobook.com my.community.com/JaysonGaddis

In this week's episode of The Relationship School Podcast, we speak with my former spiritual teacher Dr. Reginald "Reggie" Ray. I was also his TA in an undergraduate course on Tibetan Buddhism. This guy completely changed my life.  Reggie is the @DharmaOceanFoundation's co-founder and spiritual director, a university professor (retired) at Naropa University, and a highly respected meditation/dharma teacher.  Our conversation covers a lot of ground, including how being spiritually minded is not necessarily synonymous with being relationally developed or particularly skillful, and the importance of treating every human with respect, despite any issue or conflict.  Listen to the full episode to hear more about Reggie and his powerful journey.   Useful Links: https://www.dharmaocean.org/ https://relationshipschool.com/dpir/ https://relationshipschool.com/repair/ https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow/ https://www.gettingtozerobook.com

In this week’s episode I unpack a recent Instagram reel I posted that went viral. Here are the 5 kinds of people to avoid in partnerships: Narcissists Gaslighters Stonewallers Defensive assholes People who won’t take responsibility. Listen in to hear more.