The Great Unlearn

Navigating relationships as we grow older is a lost art today — especially for men. Without awareness, friendships can far-too-easily fall into the depth-less golf buddy category, never sharpening and molding us the way they’re designed to. I’ve invited three of my closest brothers who have continued to #showup for me in ways that I can only begin to describe. In this episode, we do our best to unpack exactly what that means. This is our opportunity to share our struggles and triumphs as a means to inspire you to unlearn the common ways of modern middle-age friendship and explore true brotherhood (or sisterhood).  We go deep into many areas, including, but not limited to: → How we’ve evolved together and developed deeper connectionsthrough many stages in our lives. → Ways that our brotherhood has been pivotal in becoming the best versions of ourselves. → The challenges we’ve faced, as husbands and fathers, during this pandemic. → Using ceremony to deepen connection with loved ones. → Approaching our parents with curiosity and understanding that we’re all doing the best we can with the tools we have. → Elements that we’ve implemented to amplify the quality of our lives. References: • Ritual Zero Proof: https://www.ritualzeroproof.com• Mystic Art Medicine Deck: http://bit.ly/medicinedeck• House of Shan: https://www.houseofshan.com/Connect with Dave:• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daveregula/• TrAk Athletics: https://trakathletics.com• TrAk Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/trak_athletics/ Connect with Cal:• UnlearnX: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com/unlearn-x• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cal.callahan/• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thegreatunlearn• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/thegreatunlearn/• Website: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com• Newsletter: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com/newsletter This show is produced by Soulfire Productions

Last year I attended Adyashanti's 5 day silent retreat, which is similar to a Vipassana retreat. Vipassana means “to see things as they really are.” I took a vow of noble silence and practiced deep stillness each day. I soon began to feel and experience many of the things that have ALWAYS been surrounding and supporting me. It was a life-changing experience.During this quarantine season, I felt it was an opportune time to revisit the magic I experienced back then and do my very first Dieta. For 4 1/2 days, I unplugged from technology, focused on a more plant-based diet, settled into my journaling practice, communed with my altar and most importantly, spent intentional time with nature. My intention was to attune to my being and the essence of allowing/surrendering by connecting with the divine feminine that is nature.Again, magical experience. And one I took this episode of the podcast to tell you more about in hopes that you may find unique ways to introduce more silence and surrender into your experience of life!In this episode, I share...→ The constant work that is simply, surrendering.→ Why sometimes it’s best to “weed the garden” vs implementing new practices.→ How doing a Dieta and unplugging allowed me to tune into the gifts that surround me daily.→ The importance of getting clear on our intentions with all things in life.→ Surrendering and accepting our experiences vs letting our ego drive our experience.Referenced:• Walking with Bears by Dr. Will Taegel: http://bit.ly/walkwithbears• Sacred Ceremony by Steven Farmer: http://bit.ly/sacredcereConnect with Cal:• UnlearnX: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com/unlearn-x• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cal.callahan/• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thegreatunlearn• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/thegreatunlearn/• Website: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com• Newsletter: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com/newsletterThis show is produced by Soulfire Productions

We live in a society where men often feel the pressure to be overly masculine and overtime lose touch with the feminine essence that lies within all of us.Hallie Rose is an author, speaker, host of The Thought Room podcast and is on a mission to help men reconnect with all parts of themselves — including the Divine feminine within. During this interview, she deep dives the power of masculine self-love and all of the amazing implications for men who are willing to go there.During this conversation, Hallie and I discuss...→ Cultivating a practice of awareness.→ The power in recognizing that we are responsible for how we feel, not others.→ A tool to help men reconnect with themselves.→ Embracing agency and sovereignty over our being.→ Triggering moments and people are opportunities to learn more about ourselves.→ Redefining relationships through understanding adult attachment.Referenced:• Conscious Masculinity Course: https://www.hallierose.com/men• Hallie's Spotify Playlist: https://spoti.fi/34TV8p6• Hallie's First Podcast: https://apple.co/3lxSlrP• Erik Godsey on The Thought Room: https://apple.co/2EXf5Ap• Sarah Riegelhuth on The Thought Room: https://apple.co/2YTEhz4• "Attached" by Amir Levine: https://amzn.to/2EMBlgH• Trevor Hall "Kala" album: https://spoti.fi/32I9q9W• Worth The Fight Podcast: https://apple.co/2QIWn2lConnect with Hallie:• Instagram: http://bit.ly/hallierose• Facebook: http://bit.ly/hallieroseblog• Website: https://www.hallierose.com• The Thought Room Podcast: https://apple.co/2EQAiw8Connect with Cal:• UnlearnX: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com/unlearn-x• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cal.callahan/• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thegreatunlearn• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/thegreatunlearn/• Website: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com• Newsletter: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com/newsletterThis show is produced by Soulfire Productions

When it comes to politics these days, I'm tired of the noise. However, when I want to tune into what’s really going on in the political landscape, my guest on today’s podcast is where I go.Conner Moore breaks down the plethora of information that is constantly coming our way on his podcast, Conner Wanders. It’s phenomenal and I highly recommend it.Our conversation today is about the current landscape of our country (and politics in general) and why we need to be questioning it all. Conner isn’t a conspiracy theorist. He’s simply someone who can help us re-posture ourselves in the midst of a chaotic landscape of constant information.During this conversation, Conner and I discuss...→ How losing a business catapulted Conner into a more meaningful life.→ Ways that we construe the (mis)information given to us by political parties.→ Our thoughts on this country’s divisiveness and why we aren’t 100% left or right.→ Letting our emotions inform action vs our emotions being the action.→ How freedom and opportunity are parallel, yet equal opportunity is lacking.Referenced: • TGU Giveaway: http://bit.ly/TGUgiveaway• Soulfire Productions: http://soulfireproductionsco.com• Cal on The Realness: https://apple.co/3lGICzc• Malcom X speech: https://bit.ly/2QFXwYm• Conner Wanders and Candace Owens: https://bit.ly/2YQTDnN• Worth The Fight Podcast: https://apple.co/2QIWn2lConnect with Conner:• Instagram: http://bit.ly/connerwanders• Twitter: http://bit.ly/connerwanderstw• YouTube: http://bit.ly/connerwandersyt• Website: https://gettherealness.com• The Realness Podcast: https://apple.co/32F1DcM• Conner Wanders Podcast: https://apple.co/3gKyKkx• OK, BABE. Podcast: https://apple.co/2GiMu9LConnect with Cal: • UnlearnX: http://bit.ly/unlearnx• Instagram: http://bit.ly/calcallahan• Facebook: http://bit.ly/TGUfb• YouTube: http://bhttp://bit.ly/TGUytube• Website: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com• Newsletter: http://bit.ly/TGUnewsletterThis show is produced by Soulfire Productions

For years, I’ve heard people talk about the Enneagram and how powerful of a tool it is for personal development. And for years, I internally rolled me eyes. How could a “glorified personality test” help that much?And then, I experienced the work of Dr. Jerome Lubbe and it all made perfect sense. ;)Dr. Jerome is a Functional Neurologist that uses the Enneagram as a tool to help patients understand where their efficiencies and inefficiences are and how to better design their lives in accordance. Today, he takes on myself and Peyton (my wife) and helps us dissect ourselves and our relationship in mind and life-bending ways! During this conversation, Jerome, Peyton and I discuss...→ Using the Enneagram to understand why we are the way we are and have the motivations we do.→ Getting clarity around our personal efficiencies and inefficiencies and designing our life to play to our strengths (game changer for me!)→ Understanding the why behind our triggers and how this is the way to outgrow them.→ How our programmed dependencies for survival are not necessary for our current way of life.→ How the enneagram can help you to understand your partner’s (or anyones) way of operating and enhance your communication immediately→ And more…Connect with Jerome –Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctor.jerome/Website: http://thriveneuro.comConnect with Peyton –Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ohdeerpeyton/Website: http://peytoncallahan.com Connect with Cal –UnlearnX: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com/unlearn-xInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cal.callahan/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thegreatunlearnYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/thegreatunlearn/Website: https://www.thegreatunlearn.comNewsletter: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com/newsletterResources –The Brain-Based Enneagram: https://www.wholeidentity.comRheti Test: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/rheti

This conversation offers a simple, yet often tough, perspective when it comes to how we respond to challenging periods in life. Do you retreat when you are in mucky waters or do you lean into it and allow your hurt / humiliation / anger to evolve into purpose?From 7 Tour de France wins to Livestrong Foundation to battling lawsuits to Next Ventures, Lance Armstrong shares his journey through life and how facing his challenges head on served him rather than hiding away and letting that minimize him.With the current climate, I’ve had many conversations with others on the hardship that they are experiencing. This episode with Lance provided a nice shift in awareness that we are responsible for how we feel, given any type of circumstance.During this conversation, Lance and I discuss...• What can come from releasing bitterness.• The emotional impacts from retirement that no one talks about.• Not allowing hardships take us out of the game of life.• Continuing forward movement through our darkest moments.• How a simple mindset shift opened a channel for opportunities.• Letting our kids choose their own life path, their own passions.References:The Forward Podcast – https://bit.ly/forwardpodThe Move Podcast – https://bit.ly/movepodPowerDot – https://www.powerdot.comStrava – https://www.strava.comNext Ventures – https://nextventures.comPr Lotion – https://amphuman.comConnect with Cal –UnlearnX: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com/unlearn-xInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cal.callahan/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thegreatunlearnYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/thegreatunlearn/Website: https://www.thegreatunlearn.comNewsletter: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com/newsletterThis show is produced by Soulfire Productions

A force to be reckoned with on the personal growth scene, Preston Smiles is a conscious businessman, family man, experiential speaker, author of Love Louder, Founder of Kaboom Coaching, and Co-founder of The Bridge Method.No matter what “side” of the current revolution you reside, this conversation with Preston is an essential listen. As a badass messenger of love, he shares from his pro-humanity heart to inspire others to tune back into theirs. During this conversation, Preston and I discuss…The difference between caring deeply and trying to carry someone else’s painEmbracing the courage to speak our hearts when we know there may be great resistance.Why it’s not up to us to decide how others express and communicate their pain, anger, and hurt.How to remain deeply compassionate while taking a strong stand.Stifling our innate desire for curiosity with our attachment to being “right”And more...Referenced –Valarie Kaur Speech: https://valariekaur.com/2017/01/watch-night-speech-breathe-push/Connect with Preston –Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/prestonsmiles/Website: https://prestonsmiles.comYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/questionswithPrestonBook: Love Louder: 33 Ways to Amplify Your LifeConnect with Cal –UnlearnX: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com/unlearn-xInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cal.callahan/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thegreatunlearnYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/thegreatunlearn/Website: https://www.thegreatunlearn.comNewsletter: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com/newsletterThis show is produced by Soulfire Productions

I am thrilled to have Boyd Varty back on The Great Unlearn this week! Boyd is a lion tracker, storyteller, life coach, and wildlife activist. Even while surviving many uncertain and life-threatening encounters while growing up on the Londolozi Game Reserve in South Africa, he holds that his truest challenge was that of discovering purpose — something he now helps people do all over the world.In this episode, Boyd shares about his recent experience of 40 days and 40 nights in the South African wilderness alone. Like most of us, this pandemic put him in a space that he wanted to resist and brought feelings of uncertainty. but once he embraced the season for what it is, he headed out into the wild and found rich meaning through clarity and stillness. During this conversation Boyd and I discuss...How nature allows stillness, connection to Spirit, and the feeling of pure being.How being in ceremony shows us where we are living based on others programming and allows us to develop our own.Tapping into nature's intelligence reminds us of our own deep knowing.Boyd’s real-time mentoring of Cal as he heads into a 5-day nature retreat (Dieta).And more…REFERENCED IN EP:Enneagram – https://www.enneagraminstitute.com40 Days & 40 Nights Podcast – https://boydvarty.com/about/40-days-40-nights/Adyashanti – https://www.adyashanti.orgWalking With Bears: On Bridges to Earth's New Era by Will Taegel – https://www.amazon.com/Walking-Bears-Bridges-Earths-New-ebook/dp/B07818K172Sacred Ceremony by Steven Farmer – https://www.amazon.com/Sacred-Ceremony-Steven-D-Farmer/dp/1561709816Mystic Art Medicine Deck – https://www.mysticartmedicine.com/mystic-art-medicine-deckConnect with Boyd–Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/boyd_varty/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/boydvartyincWebsite: https://boydvarty.comGet Boyd's Book: https://boydvarty.com/book/the-lion-trackers-guide-to-life/Connect with Cal–Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cal.callahan/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thegreatunlearnYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/c/thegreatunlearn/Website: https://www.thegreatunlearn.comNewsletter: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com/newsletterUnlearnX: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com/unlearn-x

My guest on this episode, IN-Q (short for “In Question”), is an award-winning poet, best-selling author of Inquire Within, multi-platinum songwriter & one of Oprah’s Supersoul 100.He writes to entertain, inspire, and challenge to look deeper into the human experience and ask better questions — which is precisely what he does on this episode of The Great Unlearn.In this episode of The Great Unlearn:How to use our pain as medicine and to create rather than destroyHow growth is incremental and accumulativeThe value of not trying to control the present moment but responding to itHow the mask of pretending gets heavyFollow IN-Q:Instagram: @inqlifeFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/INQlifeWebsite: in-q.comGet the book: https://in-q.com/inquirewithin/Follow Cal:IG: https://www.instagram.com/cal.callahan/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCneI0an6qiL7t-7sne9TjhQWebsite: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com/Newsletter: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com/newsletterThis show is produced by Soulfire Productions

In this solocast, Cal deep dives into the moment he awakened to his hand-me-down belief system and programming. Although incredibly grateful for his journey thus far, he abruptly arrived at the realization that many of his “beliefs” and ways of showing up weren’t actually his at all, they were largely instilled through deep inherited programming and childhood wounds. Since beginning his journey to the core of his being, he finds himself leading more with his heart and less with his mind— a lot more feeling and a lot less “shoulding”.In this episode of The Great Unlearn:Unlocking agreements to free ourselves from self-limiting beliefsWhy KNOWING is greater than KNOWING ABOUTTapping into our playful essence to be in the present momentDeconditioning the idea that we always need to be achievingHonoring our energetic need for physical space, especially within intimate relationshipsEpisode References:The Unlearn Experience — https://www.thegreatunlearn.com/unlearn-xThe Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz — https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1878424319/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i0Enneagram test — https://tests.enneagraminstitute.comInquire Within by IN-Q — https://in-q.com/inquirewithin/“You Can’t Rush Your Healing” by Trevor Hall — https://open.spotify.com/album/7LInWgnlGzdaGS8neaQoR3?si=hdw07ddNSOi7dff4Sjku2QTrack Your Life with Boyd Varty — https://boydvarty.com/category/podcast/Erick Godsey on TGU — https://www.thegreatunlearn.com/podcast/ep-11-erick-godseyCoffee with the Callahans — https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=INySmvLECJwEastern Philosophy Card Set — https://www.theschooloflife.com/shop/us/eastern-philosophy/Follow Cal:IG: https://www.instagram.com/cal.callahan/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCneI0an6qiL7t-7sne9TjhQWebsite: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com/Newsletter: https://www.thegreatunlearn.com/newsletterThis show is produced by Soulfire Productions