In this episode, John Kim and Luci Lampe discuss the concept of conscious self-pleasure and its impact on personal growth and relationships. They also explore how shame and societal conditioning can hinder sexual expression and the importance of approaching self-pleasure with presence and mindfulness. Luci Lampe is a mom of 4, trauma-informed sex & relationship coach, award-winning singer and songwriter, commercial actress & print model, and 3X author. Her writing has been featured on the Huffington Post, Forbes, Entrepreneur.com, CBS, and Fox. You can find out more about Luci HERE or follow her on Instagram HEREFollow John on Instagram HEREFind out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John explores the importance of redefining our definitions of love as we grow and change. He also highlights how our definitions of love are always changing, the challenges and beauty of love, and the importance of aligning definitions with our partners. Follow John on Instagram HEREFind out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John talks about how to express your needs, and show up in your relationship when you're fighting. He discusses the importance of knowing what is healthy vs unhealthy ways of showing up during conflict, and gives examples of what each looks like.Follow John on Instagram HEREFind out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John records a live podcast in his TAT Circle community where he answers listeners' questions, and does a deep dive on attachment styles. He talks about the honeymoon phase of a relationship, what's really happening when you feel like your attachment is being activated, and how to tell if it's your attachment style that's being triggered, or the relationship isn't right for you. Follow John on Instagram HEREFind out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John talks about thought patterns, and why we find ourselves stuck in negative thought patterns more than positive ones. He dives into different steps to take when you find yourself spiraling, and how to practice wanting things loosely. Follow John on Instagram HEREFind out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John and Vanessa talk about recovering from codependency. They talk about the steps you need to take, such as having awareness and setting boundaries, what recovering from codependency really looks like in your life and relationships, and how recovery doesn't happen overnight. Follow John on Instagram HEREFind out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John focuses on cheating and infidelity. He discusses common reasons why people cheat, including anger or revenge, falling out of love, feeling unappreciated, lack of commitment, sexual desire, and situational opportunity. Follow John on Instagram HEREFind out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Discover three transformative ways to elevate your partner and relationship. Curiosity plays a key role, allowing for deeper understanding and connection. Championing your partner's story can create a supportive atmosphere, while actively fulfilling their needs brings you closer together. Small daily gestures and open communication are essential for strengthening bonds. Investing in mutual growth fosters lasting support and helps navigate conflicts, ensuring both partners flourish in the relationship.

In the final episode of the Red & Green Flags in Dating series, John talks about how important having capacity for yourself and others is in your relationships. He defines what capacity is, gives examples and what it looks like in action, and explains the difference between having a healthy vs an unhealthy amount of capacity in dating and relationships. Follow John on Instagram HEREFind out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John does a deep dive on the second C of Red & Green Flags in Dating, communication. John discusses what healthy and unhealthy communication looks like in relationships, and what red flags you should look for that shows someone does not communicate well in the early stages of dating. Follow John on Instagram HEREFind out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices