Feminist Wellness

#282: The rescuer mentality is a fascinating byproduct of codependency. It’s a habit many of us learned in childhood. For some of us, rescuing was a smart way to keep ourselves and our loved ones safe, but the truly loving choice in our relationships is to foster an interdependent way of living. Tune in this week to learn why we fall into the rescue trap and how recognizing this tendency is key to healing emotional outsourcing habits. We’ll explore the critical differences between rescuing and supporting, practical tools that will help you shed the rescuer role, and how supporting others fosters interdependence.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/282Mentioned in this episode:Buy Your Copy of End Emotional Outsourcing Today!Please support the book by reviewing it on Amazon or Goodreads. It helps the book reach more folks who are still living in old survival patterns and don’t have language for it yet. Drop your screenshot at beatrizalbina.com/book and you’ll get access to thank-you gifts and raffles for free breathwork sessions, coaching, and audiobook copies. I appreciate you more than you know. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

#281: The bedrock of interdependence is mutuality and reciprocity, which, when put together, allow us to be our fullest selves. Practicing interdependence with my wife, Billey, has been one of the greatest learning experiences of my life, so who better to discuss it with this week than her? Join Billey and me as we explore the differences between codependence and interdependence, and share our advice for creating mutuality and reciprocity in your relationships. We’re touching on the importance of setting boundaries and limits, how resentment erodes trust, and how to identify if you’re living in codependence or interdependence.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/281Mentioned in this episode:Buy Your Copy of End Emotional Outsourcing Today!Please support the book by reviewing it on Amazon or Goodreads. It helps the book reach more folks who are still living in old survival patterns and don’t have language for it yet. Drop your screenshot at beatrizalbina.com/book and you’ll get access to thank-you gifts and raffles for free breathwork sessions, coaching, and audiobook copies. I appreciate you more than you know. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

#280: It’s easy to talk about somatics solely within the context of stress, distress, and trauma, but the applications of this practice extend far beyond trauma. In fact, healing trauma wasn't my goal at all when I started doing somatics work! In this episode, I'm showing you how this somatics can help you, even if you haven’t identified some big bad wolf wreaking havoc on your life.Join me to hear why the practice of mindful body awareness benefits everybody, how somatics act as a bridge that connects you to a deeper understanding of yourself, and some of my favorite practical applications of somatics that you can begin trying in your everyday life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/280Mentioned in this episode:Buy Your Copy of End Emotional Outsourcing Today!Please support the book by reviewing it on Amazon or Goodreads. It helps the book reach more folks who are still living in old survival patterns and don’t have language for it yet. Drop your screenshot at beatrizalbina.com/book and you’ll get access to thank-you gifts and raffles for free breathwork sessions, coaching, and audiobook copies. I appreciate you more than you know. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

#279: For the longest time, I thought I was the only one rolling around in my emotional outsourcing, completely disconnected from my body. The truth is we often disconnect from our bodies as a way to get through life, and I designed The Somatic Studio to show folks how to use body-based practices to establish stronger connections to their magical selves.  This week, I'm sharing a delightful conversation I had with a recent member of The Somatic Studio, Kyra Sutherland, who is here to tell us about the discoveries and healing she experienced there. We discuss how the brain-body disconnect was showing up for Kyra, the beauty of becoming aware of your patterns, and how the community aspect of The Somatic Studio has been the greatest gift. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/279Mentioned in this episode:Buy Your Copy of End Emotional Outsourcing Today!Please support the book by reviewing it on Amazon or Goodreads. It helps the book reach more folks who are still living in old survival patterns and don’t have language for it yet. Drop your screenshot at beatrizalbina.com/book and you’ll get access to thank-you gifts and raffles for free breathwork sessions, coaching, and audiobook copies. I appreciate you more than you know. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

#278: Losing touch with the ability to tune into and trust your bodily signals, especially in the context of emotional outsourcing, is super common. In parts one and two of this mini-series, we’ve defined embodiment and some reasons for struggling to cultivate it. This week, as always, it’s time for the remedies. By engaging in practices that nurture our physical presence, we can enhance our ability to live more fully in our bodies, and I’ve got some simple strategies to get you started. Join me as I outline five key ways disconnecting from yourself manifests in emotional outsourcing, and learn my favorite remedies for beginning to bring yourself back into embodiment. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/278 Mentioned in this episode:Buy Your Copy of End Emotional Outsourcing Today!Please support the book by reviewing it on Amazon or Goodreads. It helps the book reach more folks who are still living in old survival patterns and don’t have language for it yet. Drop your screenshot at beatrizalbina.com/book and you’ll get access to thank-you gifts and raffles for free breathwork sessions, coaching, and audiobook copies. I appreciate you more than you know. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

#277: We can have different levels of embodiment and self-attunement at different times and in different settings, but how do you know when you are disembodied? In this episode, I share some subtle signs that you may not be as embodied as you could be, and what can happen when you truly start paying attention to your body. Discover some reasons you want to cultivate embodiment, and how to reconnect with your capacity to be at home with and in yourself.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/277Mentioned in this episode:Buy Your Copy of End Emotional Outsourcing Today!Please support the book by reviewing it on Amazon or Goodreads. It helps the book reach more folks who are still living in old survival patterns and don’t have language for it yet. Drop your screenshot at beatrizalbina.com/book and you’ll get access to thank-you gifts and raffles for free breathwork sessions, coaching, and audiobook copies. I appreciate you more than you know. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

#276: I love talking about embodiment because it’s truly the most life-changing thing in my practice. It's a multifaceted concept that integrates psychological, physiological, and social dimensions that shape the way we inhabit and experience our bodies. It behooves us to recognize and understand what it means to be embodied, and we’re starting today.Tune in this week as I explore an inclusive and comprehensive definition of what it means to be embodied. You’ll hear why choicefulness is the greatest gift of embodiment, how our bodily experiences are deeply political in nature, and the power of somatic practices in reconnecting with embodiment.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/276  Mentioned in this episode:Buy Your Copy of End Emotional Outsourcing Today!Please support the book by reviewing it on Amazon or Goodreads. It helps the book reach more folks who are still living in old survival patterns and don’t have language for it yet. Drop your screenshot at beatrizalbina.com/book and you’ll get access to thank-you gifts and raffles for free breathwork sessions, coaching, and audiobook copies. I appreciate you more than you know. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

#275: Emotional outsourcing develops as a survival skill in response to a felt or experienced lack of belonging and safety during our developmental years. If you have a cellular understanding of the world as a dangerous place, you might experience intense moments of stress, distress, and trauma. The antidote? Cultivating a sense of safety from within.Listen in this week to learn what happens when nervous system safety is lacking, how it impacts everything from our relationships to our physical well-being, and practical remedies that will help you cultivate a regulated nervous system that brings you greater calm and clarity. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/275Mentioned in this episode:Buy Your Copy of End Emotional Outsourcing Today!Please support the book by reviewing it on Amazon or Goodreads. It helps the book reach more folks who are still living in old survival patterns and don’t have language for it yet. Drop your screenshot at beatrizalbina.com/book and you’ll get access to thank-you gifts and raffles for free breathwork sessions, coaching, and audiobook copies. I appreciate you more than you know. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

#274: Defensiveness is a protective mechanism embedded in our evolutionary history that we can be grateful for, but it can also be painful to you and those you’re in relationship with. What can you do to step out of this deeply ingrained habit?Tune in this week to learn where defensiveness stems from and how to cultivate patience and compassion towards yourself and others when it shows up. I’m showing you the connection between defensiveness and self-esteem, why thought work often isn’t enough to stop this habit, and my favorite remedies for reducing the impulsivity of your defensive responses.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/274 Mentioned in this episode:Buy Your Copy of End Emotional Outsourcing Today!Please support the book by reviewing it on Amazon or Goodreads. It helps the book reach more folks who are still living in old survival patterns and don’t have language for it yet. Drop your screenshot at beatrizalbina.com/book and you’ll get access to thank-you gifts and raffles for free breathwork sessions, coaching, and audiobook copies. I appreciate you more than you know. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

#273: How often do you find yourself mired in stories filled with past regrets? Thinking about "what could have been" may feel constructive, but on the podcast this week, I'm exploring why these thought patterns don't serve you the way you think they do.Tune in this week to learn why regret doesn’t change a darn thing, and how living in regret is a form of self-abandonment. You’ll hear how staying stuck in regret doesn’t save you from old patterns, what becomes possible when you ditch regret for good, and most importantly, my four-step remedy for beginning to heal regret. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/273Mentioned in this episode:Buy Your Copy of End Emotional Outsourcing Today!Please support the book by reviewing it on Amazon or Goodreads. It helps the book reach more folks who are still living in old survival patterns and don’t have language for it yet. Drop your screenshot at beatrizalbina.com/book and you’ll get access to thank-you gifts and raffles for free breathwork sessions, coaching, and audiobook copies. I appreciate you more than you know. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale