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Boundaries are essential after betrayal, but few have any experience of knowing what boundaries to set and how to set them.In this episode, Tammy Gustafson helps us navigate this delicate but necessary topic. Tammy is a licensed counselor who is passionate about helping women recover from trauma, PTSD, and betrayal. Boundaries are more than just drawing lines and enforcing consequences when they are crossed. They are about safety, responsibility, self-care, and the building (or rebuilding) of healthy relationships. To learn more about Tammy and her resources, visit BetrayalHealing.com.More Resources:Betrayal Healing CoursesWives Care GroupsFirst 7 Days for WivesRelated Podcasts:The Why and How of Boundaries in a Recovering MarriageBoundaries for WivesMore Boundaries for Wives----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

Addiction can be simply defined as a repeated cycle of unhealthy or harmful behaviors that gets worse over time. In order to break free from addiction, recovery must include understanding this cycle and how to respond differently to its triggers.Today’s guest is Vern Tompke, a 30-year pastor, podcaster, and founder of Band of Brothers, a community of men helping men find freedom from unwanted sexual behaviors. Vern has developed what he calls the Stopwatch Acting Out Cycle as a tool for helping men understand their addictive cycle and how to respond more quickly when tempted to go down old paths of self-destructive behaviors. To learn more about Vern and his resources, visit BandofBrothers.care or Vern's Podcasts.Download the Stopwatch Acting Out Cycle DiagramMore Resources: Finding Traction CourseGateway to Freedom Workshop for MenFind a CounselorRelated Podcasts:Beating Porn Through All Ages and Stages of LifeExposing the True Impact of PornBreaking Free with Russell Willingham----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

There is an old saying used in Alcoholics Anonymous, “If nothing changes, nothing changes.” Also, you may have heard of a simple statement to describe insanity: “Doing the same thing over and over, but expecting a different outcome.”If you want to be free from destructive and unhealthy patterns in your life, change must happen. But how can you know if change is actually occurring? In today’s episode, Stephen and I will unpack some core principles and practices that will indicate if true change is happening.More Resources:40 Days of Purity for MenUntangling EmotionsFind a GroupRelated Podcasts:Addicted Thinking vs. Healthy ThinkingHow Do I Know He is Changing? For Men Who Want to Finish Strong----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

For 20 years our ministry has been helping men break free from unwanted sexual behaviors and pursue a life of integrity and purpose. And most of these men are married – all of whom need lots of growth in the area of emotional health and maturity. Today, I get to interview Doctor Marriage. You have known him as my cohort and co-host, Stephen Cervantes. But he is a true expert on the topic of marriage and what it takes for husbands, especially, to revolutionize their marriage by focusing on emotional growth. In this episode, we highlight three of Stephen’s workbook resources to help husbands grow emotionally: 49 Days of Growth: Growing in Emotional SkillsGrowth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest, and Joy40 Days to Oneness: Start Connecting with Your Spouse To learn more about these resources and how to buy them, visit DoctorMarriage.org.More Resources:Gateway to Freedom workshop for menWives Care GroupsHusbandMaterial.comRelated Podcasts:About Your Emotional Connecting SkillsAre You Open or Closed to Emotional Growth?What Can Stunt Your Emotional Growth Mission?----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

Many Christian leaders struggle silently with various sexual temptations and sin. And too many never get the help they need to heal and grow in their personal sexual integrity. Today our guest is Jorge Suarez, co-founder of CCI Counseling, a counseling ministry that provides therapy to couples as they overcome infidelity, sexual addiction, a lack of intimacy, betrayal trauma, and intimacy disorders. Jorge especially has a heart for leaders and helping them live out their God-given purpose. In our conversation, we talk about the four key areas where leaders (and anyone, really) need health in order to thrive: EmotionalSpiritualRelationalSexual If you are a leader or want to help Christian leaders in your life, this conversation will inspire and encourage you toward greater health and wholeness. To connect with Jorge for further help, visit CCICounseling.com.More Resources:Broken Vessels: Restoring Broken Pastors for Kingdom UseGateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveThe Christian Response to Moral Failure in the ChurchRelated Podcasts:Restoring Broken Pastors for Kingdom UseA Hopeful Response to Church Leaders Struggling with Sexual SinPastors on Porn----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In the best of circumstances, marriage is hard work. But when a couple has histories of brokenness and unresolved pain, it’s even more challenging. Today’s guests are Travis and Adelle Graham, founders of The Noble Marriage, a ministry dedicated to helping struggling marriages discover true intimacy. Travis and Adelle share their broken pasts (even though raised in Christian homes) and how that affected their marriage; how it led them both to build false images about themselves and their relationship. Eventually, their masks were removed in favor of pursuing an authentic relationship with Christ and each other. This is their story and a message of hope for couples wondering if their struggling relationship can be redeemed. To learn more about Travis and Adelle and their marriage resources, visit TheNobleMarriage.com.More Resources:Online Marriage AcademyGenesis Christian Mediation40 Days of Oneness by Stephen Cervantes (paid link)Related Podcasts:The Recovery Process for CouplesGod, Sex, and Your MarriageRebuilding Your Marriage After Sexual Betrayal----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

We all have a story. And stories are one of the things we value greatly in our ministry. Why? Because it is through our stories that we connect and discover and learn. Today’s guest is Neil Getzlow and he has quite a story to tell. He was raised in a Jewish home but eventually left his family tradition in preference of atheism. Along the way, he developed a porn and sex addiction, which made him miserable. Eventually, God chased him down and invited him to stop running and instead find rest and freedom in Christ. Neil shares his experience of needing to learn how to be alone as a kid, how he was introduced to porn, the effect of his parent’s divorce, and how he came to believe that love and sex were basically the same things. He also shares the radical way in which God broke him out of his secret addiction and led him to a place of truth, grace, and hope.To learn more about Neil and get his book, visit NeilGetzlow.com. More Resources:Unmasked (book)Unmasked Podcast with NeilBebroken.org/menRelated Podcasts:Keys to Long-Term Freedom from Unwanted BehaviorsThe Importance of Whole Man RecoveryBecoming the Type of Man Who Doesn't Look at Porn----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

For couples who want to pursue reconciliation and restoration after sexual betrayal, what does the process of recovery look like?Today’s guest is Cat Etherington, Director of Recovery at Naked Truth Project. She helps us understand the key principles and practices that allow for the best possible results for couples wanting to heal and grow after betrayal.There is hope for recovery in your marriage.To learn more about Cat and her work and resources, visit http://NakedTruthProject.com. Retreats by Naked Truth Project:US Grief retreat - https://www.nakedtruth.training/wholehearted-retreat-TexasUS Couples retreat - https://www.nakedtruth.training/couples-retreat-texasAustralia Grief Retreat - https://www.nakedtruth.training/wholehearted-grief-retreat-AustraliaPrevious episode (#872) with Cat: The Journey of Healing from Betrayal Trauma - https://youtu.be/WuUexC7Ucc8More Resources: DisclosureHope.comHelp for HusbandsHelp for WivesRelated Podcasts:Helping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual BetrayalRebuilding a Healthy Marriage After BetrayalThe Goal is Connecting----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

A man recently shared, “I don’t want to live the next 20 years of my life the way I have lived the past 20 years.” This is a man who wants to get on a mission of growth and change.In today’s episode, Stephen shares the journey of this man who wants to finish better than he started. We unpack many of the fundamental issues and principles that must be examined and worked on if long-term transformation is going to happen. If you are a man who wants to finish life better than you started it, this episode will give you encouragement and insights to help you experience deep contentment and freedom.More Resources:40 Days of Training for Your SoulGateway to Freedom 3-Day WorkshopBebroken.org/menRelated Podcasts:8 Comments from Men Struggling to Pursue IntegrityHow Long Does Change Take? Struggling to Come Clean and Find Rest----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

This is our 900th episode! And it’s such a delight to release this milestone episode on my birthday. I hope it blesses you as much to listen as it did for me to record it. Today’s episode is getting back to the basics of living a life of sexual integrity. Stephen Cervantes and I have been working with men desiring greater integrity for over 20 years, and we know that a life of integrity is not static. You must be on a daily growth mission to mature. In our conversation, we share some of our personal growth tips and many other insights we have seen that help men get on a growth mission and discover their God-sized purpose in life.A great next step in your pursuit of greater integrity is our Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive workshop. This Friday-Sunday event will help you get down to the roots of your unwanted sexual behaviors and provide practical, powerful direction for living each day with integrity and purpose. Learn more about Gateway to Freedom and how to register at Bebroken.org/gtf.More Resources:FREE Integrity Webinar for Men40 Days of Purity for MenThe 4 Pillars of PurityRelated Podcasts:Keys to Long-Term Freedom from Unwanted Behaviors3 Levels of SobrietyInsights and Action Steps for Men----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.