Almost Adulting with Violet Benson

WELCOME TO VAULT ARCHIVES EVERY OTHER TUESDAY!! Where I share previous episodes or never before aired episodes from the vault that never made it on the show. Good or bad, you decide!Your toxic relationsh*t may actually have a chance IF you listen to this episodeToday I have Empathy therapist Figs on the podcast where we discuss, Types of empathy, the importance of having empathy for yourself, becoming the one you've been waiting for, our coping mechanisms, what your partner is really feeling but not saying when you fight.We then dive into turning your toxic relationship back into love, attachment styles, being emotionally unavailable, self sabotaging, reaching true intimacy, and why it's so hard letting go of a relationship where the other person has moved on.For more information on licensed therapist Fiachra "Figs" O'Sullivan, his free quiz, courses, or therapy, VISIT: WWW.EMPATHI.COMThank you for listening besties! To support this podcast make sure to subscribe, write a 5 star review and follow the podcast Youtube channel!! Also check out our sponsors for the week :)Follow me on Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissues/videosSubscribe to my other show - Hey Besties on Spotify Live every Thursday at 7pm pt - https://spotifylive.link/gVAWrZtn0qbSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey, Besties! It’s the first Thursday of July and this month, we are celebrating relationships! My favorite topic because I am OBVIOUSLY so good at them! So get comfortable because we’re about to get uncomfortable! This entire month we’re discussing love, partnerships, the different types of partnerships, and unpacking all the good, bad, and the ugly that comes with them! But before we get into that, Violet gives a quick life update and tells us about her recent rendezvous to Greece, where she planned on sight seeing and ATVing, but…all she got was c*caine and ket. Better luck next time!See the thing is, we’re ALMOST Adulting. Never said we were all the way there yet! Today, we have Bridget Kelly & Mandii B, hosts of the See, The Thing Is podcast - and with Violet joining the mix, we’ve found the trio you never knew you needed! In this episode we’re covering it ALL. From being the other woman, being the cheater, why or why not we plan on getting married, and even childhood trauma that shaped how we approach relationships in our adult lives. Violet, Bridget, and Mandii start the conversation off hot by diving into the various types of relationships, from the most traditional types, to the polar opposite. With varying opinions on basically everything, this episode is sure to open your mind to some things you definitely have never considered before. The trio also discusses living as modern day women (who’s independent and doesn’t need ANY man - but may want one!) and where men stand when in a relationship with self-sustaining, self-providing, successful career women. We’re starting this month off hot besties, so get ready!THIS WEEK'S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:Lumi Labs & Microdose:Microdose is available nationwide, to learn more about microdosing THC just do a quick search online or go to Microdose.com and use code: ADULTING to get free shipping & 30% off your first order.Dave: If you’re in a pinch and need some extra help, don’t freak out! Download Dave and think of it as a helping hand from Future You! Download the Dave app from the App store right now.Don't forget to tune into Violet on Spotify Live every Thursday at 7PM PST!https://spotify.link/heybestiesWhat to Listen For:00:00 Introduction03:21 My “amazing” vacation in Greece 12:43 Compartmentalizing relationships13:53 Do you believe in marriage?17:53 Is a healthy polyamorous relationship sustainable?22:39 When you cheated on your partner…27:00 How does it feel like to cheat on someone?28:41 The perfect partner?37:24 As a modern day woman42:19 Is it so strange to have so many friends?46:23 Don’t discount your education completely51:30 Successful women set the bar high52:37 What are the 3 things you look for in someone?56:17 Should you forgive your parents for not being perfect?58:50 Dating a man with children01:05:58 You don’t need to agree but stay respectful01:11:05 You can tell when someone goes to therapy01:13:16 Living with the truth of who you really areConnect with See The Thing Is on:"See, The Thing Is..." PodcastYouTubeInstagramTwitterPatreonGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are things ever going TOO well so your brain forces you to mess it up?Trust me, you’re not alone! As part of our human nature, we yearn for genuine love and affection. We tend to gravitate toward relationships that will reinforce our need for affection and validate our feelings. We always search for someone who can be there with us when we feel lost and helpless, and someone who can embrace us even when we feel unworthy of love. Sounds simple enough right? But if all of that is true, why do all of my relationships keep turning into relationsh*ts?! Well today besties, we’re getting some answers. Today, we have Jessica Baum. Jessica is a psychotherapist, author, thought leader, relationship coach, and founder of the Be Self-full® - a company that provides tailored coaching services, helping women empower themselves. Out of the four relationship attachment styles, Violet and Jessica put their focus on the Anxious and Avoidant style and why people who possess these attachment styles are easily drawn to each other. So if you’re wondering why things can be going GREAT only for your brain to shut down and force you to run away, you’re about to find out! Don’t worry, you’re not as messed up as you think you are. The duo also talks about how love bombing, despite its negative connotation online, can be pleasantly genuine, how to set healthy boundaries for you and your relationships, how we actually CAN get addicted to a person, and why we are responsible for our own anxiety. We’re unpacking A LOT today -  but whatever it is you do, do NOT text your ex after this. So hit play and listen up!THIS WEEK'S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:ApostropheSave $15-off your first visit with an Apostrophe provider at https://www.apostrophe.com/pod/ADULTING/ when you use our code: ADULTUNG to get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for $5. Just Break Up PodcastSubscribe to https://www.JustBreakUpPod.com/ for a weekly dose of love and laughs and all the relationship advice you want to hear!What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction01:09 What’s your attachment  style?06:42 Avoidant and anxious styles both fear intimacy08:14 Anxious-avoidant dance12:52 Genuine love bombing15:22 Partner with someone who could stay calm for you19:39 How can you help a partner with anxious attachment style26:33 Setting boundaries without hurting other people29:17 From really good to really bad relationships real fast30:41 Why do we tend to self-sabotage?33:33 How is the nervous system related to our relationship?35:26 Is it possible to get addicted to someone?38:50 What is a healthy chemistry like? 40:59 Anxious people are responsible for their own anxiety43:19 How do you recognize an unhealthy pattern in your love life?47:45 What does it mean to be “Be Self Full”?50:37 Self full is all about loveConnect with Jessica on:Be Self FullInstagramLinkedInAnxiously Attached BookGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

WELCOME TO VAULT ARCHIVES EVERY OTHER TUESDAY!! Where I share previous episodes or never before aired episodes from the vault that never made it on the show. Good or bad, you decide!On Today's episode, we close hookup month on the podcast and pride month with my favourite humans who are also part of the LGBTQ+ community, Amy Ordman and Jack Doge.We start the episode with coming out stories before diving right into zodiac signs, the rule of thumb for dating, how to not get affected with being ghosted, our love for toxic people, why we push people away, love at first sight, why you shouldn't change for someone, myths about gays and lesbians, vageens insecurities, seggs seggs seggs, wild stories and butthole pics, and open relationships in the gay community.Thank you for listening besties! To support this podcast make sure to subscribe, write a 5 star review and follow the podcast Youtube channel!! Also check out our sponsors for the week :)Follow me on Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissues/videosSubscribe to my other show - Hey Besties on Spotify Live every Thursday at 7pm pt - https://spotifylive.link/gVAWrZtn0qbSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What’s your craziest hookup story? And don’t leave out the juicy (or gross) details!It’s probably one that involves a first date, dinner, alcohol, and some intimate moments that are either hilariously funny or morbidly disastrous. Whatever your story is, I don’t think it can even come close to the one you’re about to hear today. What about the time your boyfriend cheated on you, only for the girl he cheated with to end up pregnant? Today we’re talking about the things that should definitely be told to a therapist, but are honestly way funnier to tell on this podcast. Today, we have Alex Papiccio! Alex is a social media personality, a comedic soul, a recurring guest, and one of Violet’s dearest friends. With their already developed chemistry, Violet and Alex dive straight into their hilarious hookup stories, Alex’s extremely hot boyfriend how their s*xual activities have significantly changed after living together, tips on how you can score a sugar (or splenda!) daddy, and why women need to stop doing “wifey” duties when they only have the “girlfriend” title. I know that one may have stung a bit, but it’s a reality check that we ALL need to hear sometimes. This episode is jam packed and will have you in tears - happy tears that is! Tune in now, besties! THIS WEEK'S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:AwayStart your 100-day trial and shop the entire Away lineup of travel essentials, including their best-selling suitcases at awaytravel.com/adulting.Hello Fresh Go to http://www.hellofresh.com/adulting16 and use our code: ADULTING16 for up to 16 free meals and 3 free gifts.Function of BeautySay goodbye to generic hair care for good today! Go to FunctionOfBeauty.com/ADULTING to get 25% off of your first order.What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction01:12 “My boyfriend of 5 years cheated on me…”10:28 Have you gotten an STD?12:57 Tips on how to score a Splenda Daddy19:48 Do you still get ready from d*ck appointment?25:21 Setting boundaries for your alone time29:26 Are you scared?31:43 What’s your craziest hookup story?45:12 Do you need sex toys or not?48:26 What’s a pillow princess?53:04 Doing wifey duties when you’re not even the girlfriend59:39 What do you think about female best friends?01:07:00 Work on your best self first Connect with Alex on:InstagramTwitterTikTokGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

HERE ARE 3 SIGNS The D Is Smol </3 AND 3 WAYS TO TELL THE D IS HUGE! / This is probably one of the most hilarious episodes yet, no cap.WELCOME TO CONFESSION CORNER BESTIES!!!! Your weekly short bonus episode every Tuesday where I will be featuring YOU GUYS, the listener's, wild stories or questions surrounding the current month's topic. (you can submit stories/questions weekly via a call in number on the podcast instagram that I will be sharing this week! don't miss it)Episode time stamps:0:00-4:32 - I deliver some bad news. Kinda...4:33 - 7:41 - Netflix & disappointment phenomenon - 3 signs the D is small7:42 - 12:09 - Sign #1 (Dry humping test)12:10 - 15:34 - Sign #2 (Too dirty to write it out on here)15:35 - 18:45 - Sign #3 (Godly woman)18:47 - 23:23 - 3 ways to tell if the D is packing (100% backed by research science. Kinda)Thank you for listening besties! To support this podcast make sure to subscribe, write a 5 star review and follow the podcast Youtube channel!! Also check out our sponsors for the week :)Follow me on Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissues/videosNew episodes every Tuesday, Thursday, and Sunday <3See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

WELCOME TO VAULT ARCHIVES EVERY SUNDAY!! Where I share previous episodes from the vault that never made it on the show. Good or bad, you decide!On this episode (from 2019), Remi Cruz and Alisha Marie join me to discuss being single, feeling rejected, getting cheated on, and how to win a breakup even if you never actually dated.We end this episode on a hilarious note where I share fan's first date horror stories from a pop Ziplock bag to sh*tting yourself in front of your date. lol. It's gonna be a sh*t show! Pun intended.Don't forget to rate and subscribe to this podcast so you never miss an episode again!!! New episode every Tuesday, Thursday, and Sunday :)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Let's talk about sex baby! Sex PARTIES, that is…Sex parties, are they a common thing now? Or are they still considered ‘don’t ask don’t tell’ events that are exclusive to a VERY select community? We think we know what these parties are all about from the outside looking in, but you’re about to find out what really goes on behind the scenes. In today's episode Violet gets the inside scoop on Hollywood’s most elite members and what they do to fulfill some of their darkest fantasies. We’re still not sure if money can buy you happiness, but we have confirmed that it definitely can buy you your own 50 Shades of Grey experience.  Today’s guest Damon Lawner is the founder of world renown sex club, Snctm, a private members club hosting erotic black-tie Masquerades, dinners, and classes specializing in fetish & erotic arts. Violet and Damon dive deep into the private world of Snctm events, while also discussing celibacy, masturbation, the art of the orgasm, and how to reach your sexual nirvana. Violet makes sure to get ALL the juicy info you need to know so tune in now!THIS WEEK'S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:Modern Fertility Go to http://www.modernfertility.com/adulting for $20 off your first fertility test. Just Break Up PodcastSubscribe to https://www.JustBreakUpPod.com/ for a weekly dose of love and laughs and all the relationship advice you want to hear!  What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction00:39 What is Snctm?03:38 First experiences with sex07:23 It’s a created playground to live out everything09:33 Do you find yourself to be very sexual?13:37 A lot of girls don’t orgasm through sex16:20 It’s like Cinderella’s glass slipper19:36 My kids found out about Snctm23:48 Doing some phases of celibacy25:55 “I like the person I’m slowly becoming.”29:40 Connecting with someone and giving your full self35:03 Masturbation and orgasm-drunk36:16 Your first BDSM experience?40:07 Self respect versus self-awareness47:34 We are the worst narrators of our own stories50:11 Rigorous application at Snctm55:24 The wildest parties are happening in…58:33 “I tried m*th the first time I came to the US…”01:00:33 Saying YES and NO to someone’s application01:02:28 Craziest sex stories in the club01:07:35 Sex clubs aren’t really male dominated01:10:07 Oh orgies01:14:46 “Yeah, that’s your experience.”01:18:12 Rope tying demoConnect with Damon on:InstagramSecret GardenGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This just in... Violetta Elaia Benson isn't perfect!We all get tired. We all make mistakes. And we all mess up. It’s normal because it is in our nature to not get things right the first try. It’s okay to not be okay when you don’t feel okay. Hello, Besties! Today, I’m sharing an acupuncture session turned therapy session where I was told holding in my emotion is stressing my body out! And speaking of stress, the interview with Bella Thorne came out last week. Before the interview, I had one of the worst days of my life, it made me breakdown afterwards. And I was being hard on myself, which I shouldn’t be doing. So, if you want to know what this is all about and how I was trying to stay alive the whole time, hit that play button! THIS WEEK'S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:ApostropheSave $15-off your first visit with an Apostrophe provider at http://Apostrophe.com/ADULTING when you use our code: ADULTING - to get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for $5.ManscapedGet 20% off and free shipping at https://www.Manscaped.com/ and use the code: ADULTINGWhat to Listen For:00:00 Introduction03:12 The acupuncture session07:51 What happened two weeks ago?10:55 Before the interview with Bella Thorne18:21 And then the camera stopped recording21:46 Programming your brain when to have a breakdown28:59 Take your mental health walks33:27 Imagine our life as a little play38:40 Setting boundaries and prioritizing yourselfGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

“Our society makes victims feel like villains.”Final Episode of May’s Mental Health MonthPeople deal with childhood trauma differently just as the horrible experience is different for every person, for every victim. The only consolation that victims have is a support system that is always there for them, that is present with them when their overwhelming feelings arise and when painful memories are triggered. It is in our support group that we can learn to accept what happened, live through it, and move on with life. But what if we don’t have that kind of support group?Today’s guest is actress, model, singer, and songwriter Bella Thorne. Warning: We are discussing sensitive topics and our way of dealing with these issues may not be what people might expect. Nonetheless, we get to listen to how a victim and a survivor of sexual abuse grew up to be a forward-focused person, always working hard to make a name for herself, and is now open about her experiences with dating and relationship struggles.  THIS WEEK'S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:Diet Smoke Go to https://www.dietsmoke.com/ and use promo code: ADULTING for 20% off your entire order. What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction01:17 Something weird most people don’t know about you?04:53 How did you get into acting so young?10:17 When you’re feeling a little hateful13:05 “She must have an easy life…”17:16 Losing your father at a young age22:37 Coping with a losing a loved one27:43 We don’t get enough support from our system35:54 The long-term effects of sexual abuse41:41 Talking about your trauma 48:40 Crazy things I did with my sister54:37 Non-negotiable when it comes to dating57:23 What's the worst day you've ever been on?   01:08:25 How do you break up with someone?01:10:32 What are you currently working on?Connect with Bella on:InstagramFacebookYouTubeTwitterTikTokThe Life of a Wannabe Mogul: Mental DisarrayGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.