

Don't Change A Thing
StyleLikeU
Join hosts Elisa Goodkind and Lily Mandelbaum, the mother-daughter duo renowned for their groundbreaking YouTube channel StyleLikeU and 'What's Underneath' series, as they delve deep into the heart of radical self-love in an intimate filmed podcast. From cultural icons to lesser-known gems, each episode features a guest working to proudly embrace their identity through the lens of unapologetic personal style, challenging societal norms and owning their differences as superpowers.Through candid conversations exploring themes of redefining beauty, dress as self-expression, and shedding shame, Elisa and Lily not only spotlight those who defy conformity but also unravel the complexities of their own evolving relationship in the name of self-acceptance.
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Jul 19, 2025 • 58min
Rejecting the Hetero Blueprint Was My Gateway to the Good Life: Lava La Rue
Musician and director Lava La Rue opts out of any system that seeks to control them. From embracing their queerness in the face of a traditional Christian background to rejecting the idea of a 9 to 5, they take accountability for their choices, which has aligned them with their truth and set them free. Tune in now to learn why having the bravery to stand out not only brings your life together but is the antidote to our world’s judgement, hatred, and violence.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU ON IG: https://www.instagram.com/stylelikeu/SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW LAVA ON IG: https://www.instagram.com/lavalarue/?hl=enDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jul 5, 2025 • 58min
How Adversity Gave Me My Voice: Intersex “Ponyboi” Filmmaker River Gallo
Intersex filmmaker and actor River Gallo debuted their first feature-length film “Ponyboi” on June 27th, turning their “otherness” into their power. Coming of age in an antiquated world that tried to erase them by deeming their intersex variant medically and socially “faulty,” River discovered the truth of their wholeness through the joy of self-expression, sobriety, and spiritual enlightenment. Tune in now to learn how they overcame the crushing weight of being forced into the mold of manhood and unlocked their creativity through their fluidity: when there was no room for them at the table, they built a stage.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU ON IG: https://www.instagram.com/stylelikeu/SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW River ON IG: https://www.instagram.com/rivergallo/Director: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jun 21, 2025 • 1h 19min
Hot, Wise, and Free in her 70s: Creator of “The Vagina Monologues” V (Formerly Eve Ensler)
V (formerly Eve Ensler), rebellious flower child and author of “The Vagina Monologues”, DEMANDS liberation. In a world that once tried to destroy her, surviving family sexual abuse as a child, she claims life, committed to feeling the depths of pain and the heights of joy. V defends humanity in the face of fascism, from protesting nude in her 20s to embracing her sensuality in her 70s. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how V healed from her trauma and reconnected with the magnificent creature she’s always been.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU ON IG: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW V ON IG: @eveenslerDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jun 5, 2025 • 1h 13min
Everything You’ve Been Told Is a Lie: Barry Brandon
Queer, creative powerhouse Barry Brandon found his way back to his heel-wearing, unshackled childhood self by embracing a radical truth: everything he’d been told was a lie. After surviving multiple heart surgeries before his mid twenties, Barry realized early on that he couldn’t live his life “safe,” watered-down, or stuck behind a desk. Instead he unlocks the portal to his most freed self through small moments of defiance that ultimately turn into life-defining choices. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how Barry truly breaks out of the Matrix – refusing the victim-narrative, calling out the myths designed to keep us small, and not only taking freedom into his own hands, but creating it.Barry’s gorgeous garment was made by designer Maciej Bohen.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUWe want to hear from you! Submit a question https://forms.gle/qBSPjn88TWYSRAaN8 or DM us about topics you’d like us to discuss in our monthly mother-daughter “Don’t Change a Thing” episodes.FOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW Barry: @BarrybrandonFOLLOW Maciej Bohen: @maciejbohenDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

May 29, 2025 • 1h
A Rockstar With a Limb-Difference: Victoria Canal
Singer-songwriter Victoria Canal was born with one arm – but that never stopped her from stepping into the spotlight. Victoria challenges assumptions and questions celebrity culture, embodying the liberating belief that your body doesn’t define how you move through the world. Embracing her limb-difference, position in the public eye, and recovery from sexual assault, Victoria makes space to live out her depth and nuance. She reveals that while her wildest dream is to win a Grammy, she also craves creating art off-the-grid for the sake of self-expression; simply “being” and living out your complex wholeness is, and always has been, enough.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUWe want to hear from you! Submit a question https://forms.gle/qBSPjn88TWYSRAaN8 or DM us about topics you’d like us to discuss in our monthly mother-daughter “Don’t Change a Thing” episodes.FOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW Victoria: @VictoriacanalDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

May 15, 2025 • 58min
“Bad Feminist” Roxane Gay: Is Perfection Holding You Back from Self-Acceptance?
Author, "bad feminist", and cultural icon Roxane Gay believes that self-acceptance isn’t a destination – in a society obsessed with robotic perfectionism, embracing our messy, complex humanity is a radical mindset. She attempts to welcome the parts that don’t fit the mold of her “ideal” self, including her trauma, fatness, age, lack of self-love and finding romance later in life. Roxane chooses acceptance over shame, nuance over binaries, and grace over judgement for herself and others. How would you feel if you forgave yourself for your short-comings and mistakes?Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUWe want to hear from you! Submit a question https://forms.gle/qBSPjn88TWYSRAaN8 or DM us about topics you’d like us to discuss in our monthly mother-daughter “Don’t Change a Thing” episodes.FOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW Roxane: @Roxanegay74Director: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

May 8, 2025 • 38min
I’m 35 and the Biological Clock Is Ticking: Elisa & Lily on Motherhood vs Career
In this special Mother’s Day episode of DCAT, Elisa and Lily get raw about the pressure of the biological clock—from Lily’s decision to freeze her eggs at 35 to Elisa’s choice to leave her styling career to become a full-time mom. Together, they explore the sacrifices motherhood demands, the tension between ambition and caregiving, and the intergenerational conflict around bringing children into an uncertain world. Is choosing motherhood an act of hope—or a gamble on a future that feels impossible to trust?Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUWe want to hear from you! Submit a question https://forms.gle/qBSPjn88TWYSRAaN8 or DM us about topics you’d like us to discuss in our monthly mother-daughter “Don’t Change a Thing” episodes.FOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW Elisa and Lily: @Elisagoodkind @LilymandelbaumDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

May 1, 2025 • 45min
How Chappell Roan’s Stylist Failed Her Way to Success: Genesis Webb
How did Genesis Webb go from a misunderstood, punk wallflower in the Bible Belt to superwoman stylist to artists like Chappell Roan and Lisa? A mixture of constant failure and unyielding faith in her authentic self. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how being an outcast gave Genesis the strength to drive pop culture.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUWe want to hear from you! Submit a question https://forms.gle/qBSPjn88TWYSRAaN8 or DM us about topics you’d like us to discuss in our monthly mother-daughter “Don’t Change a Thing” episodes.FOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW Genesis: @GenesiswbbDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Apr 24, 2025 • 45min
The Bible Says the Truth Will Set You Free… & I’m GAY: Queen of Melrose Cosmo Lombino
How do you get to be the Queen of Melrose? You start as a little catholic queen with a mob dad and an accepting family, punching the bullies back, and living steadfastly by his own version of the Bible adage “the truth will set you free.” That’s how gay internet personality, fashion designer, and stylist Cosmo Lombino did it anyways. From his battle with addiction to the soaring success of self-expression that is his store “Cosmo’s Glamsquad,” tune in to get inspired by Cosmo Lombino and how he never waited for permission to crown him/her/themself!Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUWe want to hear from you! Submit a question https://forms.gle/qBSPjn88TWYSRAaN8 or DM us about topics you’d like us to discuss in our monthly mother-daughter “Don’t Change a Thing” episodes.FOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW Cosmo: @queenofmelroseDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Apr 17, 2025 • 49min
I Failed Loudly to Get This Fearless: Amber Ruffin
After over a decade of being vulnerable on stage, comedian Amber Ruffin delivers the magnetic message that someone else’s truth is your lie, so take risks and fail loudly, because you are discovering your most authentic path. Amber has learned not to shrink herself – in fact, she’s embraced herself so much that she was uninvited from hosting the White House Correspondents' Dinner. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how Amber taps into her “consequences be damned” attitude, pushing humor to access the deep courage and honesty that our society so desperately needs.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUWe want to hear from you! Submit a question https://forms.gle/qBSPjn88TWYSRAaN8 or DM us about topics you’d like us to discuss in our monthly mother-daughter “Don’t Change a Thing” episodes.FOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW Amber Ruffin: @AmberruffinDirector: Elisa GoodkindProducer and editor: Kimberly HenryCasting: India IsaacsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.