Parenting The Adlerian Way

Q1. 4yr girl leaves tables and sneaks food from fridge – do I lock it? Q2. 4.5yr boy can’t settle and wait in line at JK Q3. 11yr son refused to leave car.  We sat for an hour.  Did he win the power struggle? Q4. 15yr son is getting angry with my rule that his phone has to be in my room at night.   Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Feeding the family can be a chore.  Planning, cooking, table manners and picky eaters all present challenges, so I invited Canada’s Master of Mealtime, Claire Tansey, onto the podcast to give parents tips and tricks to not only navigate these challenges, but also to see the importance of happy meal times and teaching your own children to be inspired in the kitchen.  Listen in!    You can follow Claire here:    Twitter @tanseyclaire FB  facebook.com/clairetanseyskitchen IG @tanseyclaire YouTube Claire Tansey’s Kitchen   Claire’s book! Dinner, Uncomplicated is available everywhere books are sold or right here: Claire’s classes:  Visit learn.clairetansey.com to see what’s coming next or to sign up for the 60-minute Picky Eaters masterclass. Claire's private counselling! Visit clairetansey.com   Meal Planner Type Quiz:   https://quiz.clairetansey.com/sf/f4c2fbf5 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I am so excited to introduce you to Ned Johnson, co-author of  What Do You Say: How to talk with kids to build motivation, stress tolerance and a happy home. Written during COVID but useful anytime. I met Ned years ago when he attended a presentation of mine in MD for the Adlerian organization in the Washington DC area known as PEP ( Parent Encouragement Program). Ned and Bill Stixrud have written an amazing follow-on book to their first national bestselling book The Self-Driven Child. I am so happy to see so many references to Adlerian quotes, books, concepts being catapulted into the mainstream through this important book. Enjoy the interview! He’s a gem.  You can find the books here:  What Do You Say?  The Self-Driven Child   And follow Ned here: Linkedin Twitter Facebook Instagram YouTube TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Could it be that your “monkey child” who annoyingly hangs upside down from the furniture is actually not seeking your attention, but is a kid solving their own vestibular issues? Sabrina Adair (M. Sc. O.T.) discusses her new book “Understanding a Child The Occupational Therapy Way; Recognizing and Communicating the Unique Potential of a Child.  Sabrina is not your every day occupational therapist! She is a like-minded professional working to help the world understand children through a developmental, holistic perspective that includes the Adlerian usefulness of behaviour but so much more.  Sabrina invites us to be curious instead of reactionary to use the wisdom of OT’s to really getting to know your child inside and out, so you can make educated decisions and choices in creating an environment at home and school that helps them thrive!  Everyone experiences the world uniquely.  Your kids don’t have to be symptomatic for you to learn how to best foster their potential.    Sabrina’s website is www.enablingadaptations.com You can email her at info@enablingadaptations.com You can follow Sabrina through any of her social media handles:  Linkedin  linkedin.com/in/sabrinaadair Twitter  @EnablingAdaptn FB Facebook.com/enablingadaptations/ IG @enablingadaptations YouTube  Enabling Adaptations Inc You can find Sabrina’s new book here:  Understanding a Child the Occupational Therapy Way: Recognizing and Communicating the Unique Potential of a Child Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. How do I deal with perfectionism? Beats themselves up if they don’t win, get a good grade.  Q2. How do you make a kid more organized? Q3. Getting your child started on a clothing allowance. Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. My 14 yr old lies and we don’t want her dating  Q2. What are the signs of anxiety and how can we help kids manage? Q3. How do we manage FOMO in the age of social media?   Centre for Humane Technology:  https://www.humanetech.com Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jane and Chip just launched their co-authored book “Positive Discipline in the Montessori Classroom”.   We discuss the shared philosophies of Adler and Montessori, and the need to incorporate a consistent classroom management plan. You can find more about Chip here:   Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chip-delorenzo-53568a10/ FB:  https://www.facebook.com/pdformontessori You can find out more about Jane, all her book titles and Positive Discipline here:  https://www.positivediscipline.com https://www.positivediscipline.org https://www.facebook.com/positivediscipline https://www.twitter.com/PDTweets https://www.pinterest.com/pdpins1 https://www.instagram.com/positivediscipline https://www.youtube.com/user/PositiveDiscipline Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 5yr old son is biting in kindergarten class  Q2. 3.5yr son keeps sitting on his 5 mo baby brother  Q3. 3.5yr daughter makes shy / anxious with strangers  (esp. men)   Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Encouragement is one of the main tenets of Adler psychology, so I called on my friend and colleague Pascale Brady, Parent Educator and Certified Life Coach to help unpack this complicated word while sharing our personal stories.   You can find Pascale here:   https://www.facebook.com/Pascale.Brady.TheChallengeCoach www.linkedin.com/in/TheChallengeCoach https://twitter.com/PascaleBrady https://www.instagram.com/the_challenge_coach https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIOFPqTy0v3G2_waTVMeDfA And the PEP workshops here:   https://pepparent.org Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. Best way to help kids wind down after school and prevent them from meltdowns. Q2. Help with creating consequences versus punishment for when a kid is turning off the bathroom light and jumping on the bed.    Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.