Kaira Jewel Lingo is a mindfulness and meditation teacher with a lifelong interest in blending spirituality and meditation with social justice.She spent her formative years growing up in an ecumenical Christian community where families practiced a new kind of monasticism and worked with the poor.When she turned 25 she entered a Buddhist monastery and spent fifteen years living as a nun under the guidance of Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh. Today she sees her work teaching Buddhist meditation, mindfulness, and compassion, as a continuation of the Engaged Buddhism she learned from Thich Nhat Hanh,As well as the work of her parents, inspired by their stories and her dad’s work with Martin Luther King Jr. on desegregating the South. In our conversation we will take a deep dive into Kaira Jewel’s story of entering the monasteryAnd the reasons for leaving 25 years later.The moments she’ll describe are deeply human.They are examples of those times we find ourselves at a crossroads, uncertain about which path to take.Kaira Jewel will generously share some of the practices and insights that were most helpful for her as she navigated these moments:From finding the strength to be in a place of not knowingTo sitting in the questions and discerning whether she was making these decisions driven by fear, or pulled by love. To engaging in the practice of finding stillness and listening to her life.As we explore these themes through Kaira Jewels story we’ll also talk about:What she’s learned about transforming the fear that often accompanies uncertainty into hopeful possibilityFinding the balance between letting go and taking wise action What she learned from her father and Thich Nhat Hanh about opening the heart in the face of some of the most pressing challenges of our time The possibility of fighting for what we care about from a place of love. This raw and moving conversation was inspired by themes from her beautiful book:We Were Made for These Times: Ten Lessons for Moving Through Change Loss and Disruption, which you can find wherever books are sold.Did you find this episode inspiring? Here are other conversations we think you'll love:Meeting a World in Crisis with Courage, Integrity, and Love | Oren Jay SoferNeuroscience, Spirituality, and the Quest for an Inspired Life | Dr. Lisa MillerMore about Kaira Jewel:Kaira Jewel Lingo is a mindfulness and meditation teacher with a lifelong interest in blending spirituality and meditation with social justice. She began practicing mindfulness in 1997 and at the age of twenty-five she entered a Buddhist monastery and spent fifteen years living as a nun under the guidance of Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh. She is also a teacher in the Vipassana Insight lineage through Spirit Rock Meditation Center. In addition to writing We Were Made for These Times: Ten Lessons for Moving through Change, Loss and Disruption, and co-authoring Healing Our Way Home: Black Buddhist Teachings on Ancestors, Joy and Liberation, she is also the editor of Thich Nhat Hanh’s Planting Seeds: Practicing Mindfulness with Children. She teaches and leads retreats internationally, provides spiritual mentoring, and interweaves art, play, nature, racial and earth justice, and embodied mindfulness practice in her teaching. Visit kairajewel.com to learn mSupport the show

There is a beautiful teaching metaphor that comes out of buddhist psychology about 2 darts.As we move through life we inevitably experience pain.From minor bumps and scrapes,To major injury, loss, heartbreak, and catastrophe.This is the 1st dart.What’s interesting about pain though is that it can often be accompanied by thoughts about the pain:“This shouldn’t be happening.”“What if this doesn’t end?”“There’s something wrong with you." Etc.These are add ons.They’re the extras that in moments where we are in pain, can pile on.Adding to the weight and intensity of the experience.Turning what is already painful into experiences marked by additional suffering.These add ons are the 2nd dart. Within this metaphor though there is a possibility for less suffering. When we learn to put the second darts down, to not throw them as much, or not throw them at all, we suffer less and we experience more freedom. Today, we'll look at a simple practice for turning this possibility into a reality which in part was inspired by yesterday's Courageous Life conversation with renowned therapist Dr. Jacob Ham.Curious to explore this topic further? Check out the full conversation with Dr. Ham:The Art of Meeting Life with Curiosity, Presence, and Love | Dr. Jacob HamThank you for your practice today.I look forward to continuing together next Thursday!-JoshuaWant these practices delivered via text?If you are located in the U.S. text the word COURAGE to 805-430-6801 to join Joshua's text community and you'll get a text once/week with a link directly to the practice.Looking for more practice opportunities? Check out:Free Meditation Events - 60 minute gatherings with Joshua held 2x a month over zoomThe Practice Pass - An annual membership that gives you on-demand access to robust practice experiences including the 28-Day Practicing Courage Challenge, The 5-Day Transforming Stress Challenge and the brand NEW Creativity Challenge.Past Practicing Courage episodes in the podcast feedThe FREE Practice LibrarySupport the show

Renowned therapist Dr. Jacob Ham discusses attuning to individuals' growth journey and relationship dynamics, emphasizing the art of meeting people where they are. The podcast explores empathy, healing relationships, and growth, highlighting the importance of love and responding to hate. Dr. Ham's journey in psychotherapy, opening one's heart, and navigating emotional closures in relationships are also discussed, focusing on cultivating wisdom, compassion, and surrender for personal growth.

In the hero's journey, the hero or heroine is called to adventure. Often in the form of a quest, a challenge, or an adversity,And often in unexpected ways.One of the things that’s interesting about the hero's journey is that shortly after the call a helper enters the picture.A mentor, sage, guide, or a coach of some sort.They help the hero:Navigate the adventureStrengthen themselvesAnd ultimately transform in ways that allow them to meet their life from a wiser, more skillful, and more responsive place. As we looked at starting a new series featuring everyday heroes, the role of the helper was striking. And we couldn’t help but think this new series would be incomplete if we didn’t include episodes featuring helpers. So here we are. Launching our fourth episode in this new adventure on the larger Courageous Life podcast. Conversations featuring inspiring stories from everyday heroes and the helpers who walk beside them. Last week we released a helper interview with Executive and Leadership Coach Alfreda McCray where we explored the practice of becoming your own inner ally.Today, I am honored and excited to share another beautiful helpers conversation, with Amy Dong. Amy is a therapist who specializes in working with individuals and couples, navigating anxiety, supporting relational health, healing from burnout, reprocessing trauma, and finding steady footing through life’s inevitable twists & turns.Amy is also a gifted writer.You can find her beautiful and inspiring work on her substack: The SofteningWhich she describes as a walk through our internal landscape, a journey with mental health and well-being in long form. Personally I subscribe to Amy’s blog and look forward to receiving each new piece as I find her writing a breath of fresh air. It offers an invitation to slow down in the midst of the hustle of everyday life, to reflect on what’s truly important, and often leaves me feeling hopeful and energized. I would encourage you to check it out.Today, we’ll explore:The story of a helper who during a particularly challenging point left a deep positive impression on Amy - not in what she did, but rather through her way of being. How she approaches her work, and the ways in which she walks beside her clients. Some of her favorite tools for regulating the nervous system, and finding greater ease as we navigate the 'messy middle' parts of our lives. Reflections about the practice of becoming a better friend to yourself. This conversation was deep, heartfelt, and also offered a number of practical takeaways. I hope you enjoy the time with Amy as much as I did. Did you find this conversation inspiring? Here are other episodes we think you'll love:Becoming your own inner ally with Alfreda McCrayCuriosity, trust, and inner wisdom with Shandra Lamotte Enjoying the show? Please rate it wherever you listen to your podcasts.   Thanks for listening!Support the show

Why can it be so difficult to receive? Whether it’s something small like a compliment,Or something bigger, like receiving help when we are in some form of pain or distress. While the response can vary of course, For many of us the instinct  can often be:To brush off the compliment To minimize the recognitionTo turn down the help Essentially to close off in one form or another. And there are a whole host of reasons why this might happen.From the way we’re raised,To:Expectations or cultural norms that have to do with identity, the workplace, etcFears of being perceived as weak, of not being liked, or not fitting in.The list goes on.This past week as I was engaged in a discussion around receiving (and the difficulty with it) with my long time collaborator Matt Donner.And in the process was reminded of a past Courageous Life conversation with Dr. Kelly McGonigal where we explored self-compassion.In particular, challenging the popular forms of self-compassion practice that so often focus on Going off by yourself and doing your self compassion practice, Alone. Don't get me wrong, individual practices like self-compassion meditation or journaling can certainly be helpful, but they are also somewhat limiting and incomplete. The limits of these practices can be seen when we start to consider important practice questions like:What about self-compassion that looks like opening to and receiving help when you’re in pain?What about allowing others to carry some of the weight that you’ve been shouldering on your own?What about self-compassion that is found in relationship and community?And that involves taking the risk to be vulnerable,And to receive?Becoming a better friend to ourselves isn't always done in isolation. It can include engaging in the powerful practice of opening toAnd receiving help,Rather than closing off to it. So today this is what we will explore and you will have the opportunity to hear directly from Kelly McGonigal in a moving clip from our conversation, about how this not only benefits us, but how it can be a gift to those offering their help. Curious to explore this topic further? Here are some conversations on the podcast we think you'll love:Courage, Hope, and Human Transformation | Dr. Kelly McGonigalThank you for your practice today. I look forward to continuing together next Thursday!-JoshuaWant these practices delivered via text?If you are located in the U.S. text the word COURAGE to 805-430-6801 to join Joshua's text community and you'll get a text once/week with a link directly to the practice.Looking for more practice opportunities? Check out:Free Meditation Events - 60 minute gatherings with Joshua held 2x a month over zoomThe Practice Pass - An annual membership that gives you on-demand access to robust practice experiences including the 28-Day Practicing Courage Challenge, The 5-Day Transforming Stress Challenge and the brand NEW Creativity Challenge.Past Practicing Courage episodes in the podcast feedThe FREE Practice LibrarySupport the Show. Support the show

When you hear the word provoke what do you think of? What about the word provocative? For many (including myself)This idea, of provocation, often holds a negative connotation.Look it up in the dictionary and you’ll even see one definition that reads:Purposefully stirring up a fight.But as you can imagine there’s a very different form of provocation. One that when harnessed can:stimulate curiosity, open us to new perspectives and outside-the-box ideas, and one that ultimately invites  us to see our work, relationships, and the world we live in with fresh eyes. It’s a thrill to have Dr. Robert Biswas-Deiner on the show today as we explore this alternative form of provocation and fresh thought-provoking ideas inspired by his latest book: Positive Provocation: 25 Questions to Elevate Your Coaching Practice.In today’s episode:Robert’s story about how he came to be doing the work he is engaged in today as a coach, trainer, researcher, and author. Including making a very tough decision to drop out of graduate school. The details surrounding an invitation Robert received to be The Provocateur for an international coaching conference.How he defines Positive Provocation and what key elements support doing it well, both at work and in life.What he calls the 90 degree view - a sweet spot for inviting people into curiosity, and rethinking conventional ideas.Intriguing stories from coaching sessions, that offer insight into what he’s learned about the art of challenging people effectively.How to stay open to being positively provoked, including the importance of cultivating intellectual humility.How research on the psychology of hospitality ties into being a positive provocateur.If you found today’s conversation interesting, I would encourage you to check out Robert’s new book, Positive Provocation where you can learn more about this approach, and see how he puts it into practice.Did you find today’s conversation inspiring? Here are other episodes we think you’ll love:Practicing the Art of Principled Rebellion | Dr. Todd KashdanGentle Power: Shifting the Way We Define True Strength | Dr. Elisabet LahtiMore about Robert:Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener is widely known as the “Indiana Jones of Positive Psychology” because his research has taken him to such far-flung places as Greenland, India, Kenya, and Israel. He is a leading authority on strengths, culture, courage, and happiness and known for his pioneering work in the application of positive psychology to coaching. Robert has authored more than 60 peer-reviewed academic articles and chapters, two of which are “citation classics” (cited more than 1,000 times each). Dr. Biswas-Diener has authored eight books, including the New York Times Best Seller, The Upside of Your Dark Side. For more about Robert please visit robertdiener.com, and if you’re a coach looking for more details on Robert’s coach trainings and classes check out positiveacorn.comEnjoying the show? Please rate it wherever you listen to your podcasts!Thanks for listening!Support the show

Dr. Jessica Tracy is the Director of the Emotion and Self Lab at the University of British Columbia, and someone I have been looking forward to interviewing for a long time. Back in 2016 she published a book titled: Take Pride: Why the Deadliest Sin Holds the Secret to Human Success.The title grabbed my attention.Largely because the form of pride that I have seen more often discussed is hubris. Which shows its face in different ways:An overinflated egoPeacockingFlaunting success Dominance and instilling fear as a leader, etc.This hubristic side is well known, but what Jessica’s work shows is that pride has another face. One that is essential for helping us become our best, brightest selves. In the right doses and the right contexts, pride has been proven to boost creativity, motivate altruism, and confer power and prestige on those who display it. Today we’ll dive deep into this, covering hubristic pride, but also really exploring this less often discussed form of pride. What she calls authentic pride.Which when harnessed may just hold the secret to success. In today’s episode:How to cultivate authentic pride, including practices of getting quiet, listening to your life, and asking big questions about who you want to be and becomeKey differences between hubristic and authentic prideIntriguing findings that Jessica and her team have discovered about pride, both it’s drawbacks, and surprising benefits in life, at work, and in relationshipsDominance and prestige - two leadership styles that manifest from hubristic and authentic pride and the impact each style has on teams, and organizationsWhy authentic pride can be a catalyst for creativity, innovation, and thriving organizational culturesThe connection between pride and grit - how experiencing authentic pride can be the fuel for perseverance toward very long term goalsHow cultivating authentic pride can be a path to living wellI hope you enjoy the conversation with Jessica as much as I did!Did you find this conversation inspiring? Here are other episodes we think you'll love:The Transformative Power of Humility | Dr. Daryl Van TongerenNeuroscience, Spirituality, and the Quest for an Inspired Life | Dr. Lisa MillerMore about Jessica:  Dr. Jessica Tracy is a professor of psychology at the University of British Columbia in Vancouver, Canada, where she also directs the Emotion and Self Lab. Her research focuses on emotions and emotion expression, and especially on the self-conscious emotions of pride and shame. She has published over 80 journal articles, and her groundbreaking work on pride has been covered by hundreds of media outlets, including ABC’s Good Morning America, NPR’s All Things Considered, the New York Times, the Economist, and Scientific American. Enjoying the show? Please share with friends, and rate it wherever you listen to your podcasts. Thanks for listening!Support the show

At the end of each day we do a mental scan, reviewing our experiences from that day.When people do this, they often find:The moments where they moved outside of their comfort zoneThe moments where they pushed themselvesAnd the moments where they were courageousAre often the moments that they end up being most proud of.Additionally, leading courage researcher, Dr. Jim Detert asserts that when looking back on life its acts of courage that are often associated with greater fulfillment, meaning, and positive legacy. Today I am going to offer a practice that will invite you to explore a simple process for intentionally increasing the capacity to be with discomfort, and how practicing this in low stakes moments can help strengthen your mind, body, and skillset to help unlock courage in moments that matter. All practices can be found for free in The Practice Library. Access the library here: https://www.practicingcourage.com/join-libraryInterested in taking a deeper dive into practices that support greater calm, clarity, courage, and meaningful connection?In an effort to create a delightful and seamless on-demand practice experience we created The Practice Pass, an annual membership that gives you access to all of this dynamic original content including both live and on-demand learning experiences.If you sign up up for the Practice Pass you’ll receive:Existing on-demand meditation challenges:Unlocking Creativity: A 5-Day Challenge The Practicing Courage ChallengeThe 5-Day Transforming Stress Challenge3 live challenges each year. Future topics for 2024 include: Navigating Transitions, and Finding Purpose.Learn more and register for the pass here: https://www.practicingcourage.com/signup-practice-passCurious to explore this topic further? Here are some conversations on the podcast we think you'll love:Courage is Developed Through Practice | Dr. Jim DetertLessons in Hope, Courage, and Human Transformation | Dr. Kelly McGonigalFinding Fulfillment in a World Obsessed with Happiness | Emily Esfahani SmithTill next time,-JoshuaSupport the show

Today we are re-releasing one of our most popular episodes ever on the show, a powerful conversation with Dr. Marc Brackett. In this episode, we'll explore themes from his book Permission to Feel  as well as his broader work as a leader in the field of emotional intelligence. Marc, is on a mission to educate the world about the value of emotions and the skills associated with using them wisely. “I want everyone to become an emotion scientist. We need to be curious explorers of our own and others’ emotions so they can help us achieve our goals and improve our lives.”In today's episode:How events in Marc's childhood, including surviving abuse, led to his dedication to the work he does todayWhy people so often suppress emotions and what happens in our brains and bodies when we doWhy it’s important to ask people “how are you feeling?” and to genuinely listen to the answerThe story of his Uncle Marvin, and what he learned from him about the power of creating safe spacesHighlights from the biggest study he has ever conducted and the case for empathy, compassion, non-judgment, and good listening as life changing qualities for leaders, parents, and individuals.An introduction to the RULER skills (Recognizing, Understanding, Labeling, Expressing, and Regulating emotions)How he uses the RULER skills in his own life to navigate daily challenges, enhance wellbeing, and stay on track with goals that are important to himThe link between emotions and performance - why and how emotions matter when it comes to thriving teams and organizationsWhy giving people the permission to feel may be one of the most important things we can do to help people thrive at work and in life. More about Marc:Marc Brackett, Ph.D., is founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and professor in the Child Study Center, Yale School of Medicine. As a researcher for over 20 years, Marc has focused on the role of emotions and emotional intelligence in learning, decision making, creativity, relationships, health, and performance. His book, Permission To Feel,  has been translated into 22 languages. Most recently, with Pinterest co-founder Ben Silbermann, Marc and his team co-created the Apple award-winning app, HowWeFeel, that was designed to teach emotion skills and enhance well-being. Marc is the lead developer of RULER, a systemic, evidence-based approach to social and emotional learning that has been adopted by over 5,000 schools across the United States and has reached over 4 million children. Marc regularly consults with large companies such as Google, Amazon, and Microsoft on best practices for integrating the principles of emotional intelligence into training and product design. For more please visit: https://www.marcbrackett.comDid you find this episode inspiring? Here are more episodes we think you’ll love!Dr. Jud Brewer - Is Curiosity is a Superpower?Kelly McGonigal - Finding the Hope, Connection, and Courage to TransformSupport the show

In the hero's journey, the hero or heroine is called to adventure. Often in the form of a quest, a challenge, or an adversity.And often that adventure arrives unexpectedly.One of the things that’s interesting about the hero's journey is that shortly after the call a helper enters the picture.A mentor, a sage, a guide, or a coach of some sort.They help the hero to navigate the adventure, as they strengthen themselves and ultimately transform in ways that allow them to meet their life from a wiser, more skillful, and often more responsive place. As we looked at starting a new series featuring everyday heroes, the role of the helper was striking. And we couldn’t help but think this new series would be incomplete if we didn’t include episodes featuring helpers. So here we are. Launching our third episode in this new adventure on the larger Courageous Life podcast. Conversations featuring inspiring stories from everyday heroes and the helpers who walk beside them. Last week we released our first helper interview with Stanford compassion teacher, and family systems coach Shandra Lamotte as we curiosity, trust, and uncovering our inner wisdom. Today, I am thrilled to share another beautiful helpers conversation, with Alfreda McCray. Alfreda is a board-certified Executive Coach, a writer, social justice advocate, and doctoral student examining the intersections of identity, leadership, and authenticity. She is a life-long learner with a passion for optimizing wellbeing, reducing harm, and increasing compassion in the workplace and beyond. Her background includes over 20 years of experience in professional services and consulting. To learn more about Alfreda you can follow her on LinkedIn. In this episode we’ll explore: Alfreda’s inspiring journey and the story of a helper, who in her words, saved her life.How she approaches her work, and the ways in which she walks beside her clients.Some of her favorite tools and practices for slowing down, and meeting life from a more responsive place.This conversation was both moving and practical, and I hope you enjoy the time with Alfreda as much as I  did. Did you find this conversation inspiring? Here are other episodes we think you'll love:Faith, Hope, and Love with Eddie GarciaCuriosity, trust, and inner wisdom with Shandra Lamotte Enjoying the show? Please rate it wherever you listen to your podcasts.   Thanks for listening!Support the show