Love, Evolved: Conscious Relationships with Leigh-Anne LoPinto

The first episode of Season Two is a powerful conversation with my friend and colleague Anna Boughlam. This is for you if you've ever experienced any form of mistreatment, have struggled with boundaries, have the caretaker/rescuer/fixer pattern, and could benefit from developing a spine.We speak about how we recovered from breakups and divorce by taking personal responsibility for our part, using the material that comes up in relationships for deep inner work, and how to alchemize really hard things into our greatest blessing.In this episode, we talk about:- how to take personal responsibility- getting humble and seeing our part- stepping out of victim mentality- how our initial relationship patterning comes from childhood- overcoming codependency- taking off the rose colored glasses- the distortions within 'hurt people hurt people'- developing discernment + boundaries- how this all relates to parenting- learning what true love is- how empathy without boundaries is self-destruction- energy vampires-  empath/narcissist dynamics- losing ourselves in relationships-  taking responsibility for where our energy is 'leaking' -  the rescuer/caretaker pattern Anna's YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/@GrowwithAnnaB Anna's Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/growwithannab/ The Pitfalls of Parenting + The Healthy Middle WayNonviolent CommunicationEpisode with Dr. George SimonIn Sheep's ClothingCharacter DisturbanceDodging Energy Vampires Lynne Forrest's article on the drama triangleHow to shift the drama triangle into empowermentIntro + Outro music:  "Medicine" by HOL + Layv:https://open.spotify.com/track/4BqVa6DrpX8h7RWEBIcy6H?si=01c847feae5c45dehttps://www.instagram.com/hollygottlieb/Connect with Leigh-Anne below: THE VISIONARIES: My Community The Wayshowers: Mentorship Leigh-Anne's Instagram Leigh-Anne's Website Leigh-Anne's Substack Book a Free 30 Min Call I hope you enjoy this episode - please share it with anyone who might benefit!And, please rate, review, and subscribe if you find this podcast useful. It really helps this free, supportive content get out to more people.Thanks so much, I appreciate you all!Intro + Outro music: "Medicine" by HOL + LayvHolly's Instagram This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

In this episode, I'm so happy to speak with Joel Schafer, a shamanic dreaming arts teacher, about sexuality and relationships from a shamanic perspective.We get into so much together - the predator energy at the heart of sexual trauma and abuse energy, working consciously with our sexuality, collective patterns of open relationships, how monogamy is a path of honor, and gender confusion.We also speak about the dynamics between men + women, working together in a complementary way, evolutionary relationships, and so much more.This episode is a joy to listen to, and Joel offers so much wisdom.Joel Schafer is a shamanic dreaming arts teacher offering courses as well as mentoring sessions for individuals and couples in which he assists and guides people in emotional & energetic transformation. Joel teaches shamanic movements, recapitulation, dreaming awake training & gazing disciplines. He has been a student to some very rare medicine men & women, seers, psychics, healers & sorcerers and he shares his knowledge on his channel Perceiver on YouTube and offers free consultation to those that are called to connect.Connect with Joel below:Perceiver (YouTube channel)FacebookInstagramRESOURCES:Alfa Vedic Podcast #219 - Neo-Shamanism for a New Era with Joel SchaferHere for the Truth:  The Art of Conscious RelationshipsTowards Sexual SovereigntyConnect with Leigh-Anne below: THE VISIONARIES: My Community The Wayshowers: Mentorship Leigh-Anne's Instagram Leigh-Anne's Website Leigh-Anne's Substack Book a Free 30 Min Call I hope you enjoy this episode - please share it with anyone who might benefit!And, please rate, review, and subscribe if you find this podcast useful. It really helps this free, supportive content get out to more people.Thanks so much, I appreciate you all!Intro + Outro music: "Medicine" by HOL + LayvHolly's Instagram This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

This week, I share the story of my almost 20 year relationship with my ex-husband and father of my child, the man I truly believed was my soulmate, and how I moved through total rock bottom when our marriage collapsed.I share the hard lessons I had to learn about what I was bringing into the relationship that was not working (things like insecure attachment, low self worth, codependency, and victim mentality) and how I healed.I also share how I learned to love and value myself, moved into secure attachment, learned about boundaries, and unhooked from codependency.  And, how I stopped being a people pleaser and moved into true authenticity.  I also speak about how I learned to navigate conflict, speak truth, and become an empowered empath.  There's so much more in this episode, too!Healing from divorce and hard break-ups is 100% possible when we understand that there is wisdom in the wounds and have support people around us who can help alchemize and learn the lessons that we need to learn.As always, I share tons of resources in the show notes, including my video lessons on How to Heal from a Breakup and The Trap of Codependency.RESOURCES:Video Lesson:  How to Heal From a BreakupVideo Lesson:  The Trap of Codependency + How to Break FreePodcast:  Conscious Relationships: The Foundations for SuccessFree Guide:  How to Choose a Partner WiselyLynne Forrest's article on the drama triangleBook: Conscious LovingBook:  Transformation through IntimacyConnect with Leigh-Anne below: THE VISIONARIES: My Community The Wayshowers: Mentorship Leigh-Anne's Instagram Leigh-Anne's Website Leigh-Anne's Substack Book a Free 30 Min Call I hope you enjoy this episode - please share it with anyone who might benefit!And, please rate, review, and subscribe if you find this podcast useful. It really helps this free, supportive content get out to more people.Thanks so much, I appreciate you all!Intro + Outro music: "Medicine" by HOL + LayvHolly's Instagram This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

This is the most public I have ever been about my story. [Note: I don't get into details of the abuse, but rather focus on the negative affects I faced as a result, and the approach I took to heal.  This is a fairly easy listen, so please dive in.]  I have learned that a dual approach to healing is required - working both psychologically and energetically - and share why.  Sexual abuse is a major challenge we are facing collectively, and in order to heal, we need to speak openly and honestly, remove the shame, and get to work.The energy behind this is a predator that seeks to control and manipulate in order to gain power.  Once you understand this, it gives you a much more complete picture of how to address it.In this episode, I share:- How the negative impacts of abuse showed up in my life, both psychologically and energetically- Dealing with social anxiety, poor boundaries, low self worth, sexual shame, promiscuity, distrust of men, internalized misogyny, and major drug and alcohol abuse- How a history of this kind of abuse can create love and sex addictions- The story of my last major partnership and how the energy was working behind the scenes to destroy things- How healing needs to include a psychological approach in addition to an energetic approach, and what that looks like- Tons of resources below:Sexual SovereigntyThe War on Love, Sex + RelationshipsBreathwork:- My intro video here.- Here is the first energy clearing breathwork. - This is the second audio that focuses on clearing the sexual abuse energy.Eve Lorgen - The Dark Side of CupidBernhard Guenther's articleHere for the TruthHealing - David Elliott (p 140-175)Energetic BoundariesConnect with Leigh-Anne below: THE VISIONARIES: My Community The Wayshowers: Mentorship Leigh-Anne's Instagram Leigh-Anne's Website Leigh-Anne's Substack Book a Free 30 Min Call I hope you enjoy this episode - please share it with anyone who might benefit!And, please rate, review, and subscribe if you find this podcast useful. It really helps this free, supportive content get out to more people.Thanks so much, I appreciate you all!Intro + Outro music: "Medicine" by HOL + LayvHolly's Instagram This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

In this episode, I go deeper on the topic of codependency in parenting.I talk about what codependency is and how it shows up in the parent/child relationship - through a lack of healthy boundaries, enmeshment, over-involvement, and more.  Codependency in parenting also correlates to permissive parenting.  Single parents need to be especially vigilant, as codependency can unconsciously cause them to treat the child as their spouse.  They may fill an internal void with the child's life and not give them space to develop their own sense of self.I speak about the negative impacts codependency in parenting has on children and teenagers, and also speak about energetic cords and energetic standpoint of problems it can cause.Ultimately, every step forward in your own healing of codependence will benefit your child (or future children).  I hope this episode is helpful for you; please reach out if you need support.Connect with Leigh-Anne below:Book a Free 30 Minute CallLeigh-Anne's InstagramLeigh-Anne's WebsiteSubstack ArticlesFree Guide: How to Choose a Partner WiselyI hope you enjoy this episode - please rate, review and subscribe to support the podcast.Resources:The Trap of Codependency + How to Break Free:https://www.love-evolved.us/the-trap-of-codependecy.htmlHere for the Truth Episode #167:  The Art of Conscious Relationshipshttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/here-for-the-truth/id1570026970?i=1000645752674Sexual Sovereignty:https://leighannelopinto.substack.com/p/towards-sexual-sovereignty-the-alchemicalThe War on Love, Sex + Relationships:https://leighannelopinto.substack.com/p/the-war-on-love-sex-relationshipsThe Rise of Narcissism with Dr. George Simon:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-evolved-conscious-relationships/id1589898399?i=1000625190054Alfa Vedic #219 - Neo-Shamanism with Joel Schafer:Connect with Leigh-Anne below: THE VISIONARIES: My Community The Wayshowers: Mentorship Leigh-Anne's Instagram Leigh-Anne's Website Leigh-Anne's Substack Book a Free 30 Min Call I hope you enjoy this episode - please share it with anyone who might benefit!And, please rate, review, and subscribe if you find this podcast useful. It really helps this free, supportive content get out to more people.Thanks so much, I appreciate you all!Intro + Outro music: "Medicine" by HOL + LayvHolly's Instagram This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

This is a very special episode where I asked my client Alysondra Duke to share her story of building an incredible life of empowerment, self-love, expansion, and conscious relating.  Alysondra has come from a life that has not been easy - a tough childhood with less than ideal caregiving that led to relational wounding that impacted her adult relationships.  When we met, she was settling for way less than she deserved in relationships.  Now, with committed work and dedication to building a life that she is proud of, she is a completely different person.  I can't wait to share this inspiring conversation with you!We talk about:- How childhood dynamics with parents/caregivers imprint us and play out in our adult relationships- Rebelling against being told you can't do something/be something (using it as fuel)- The pattern of choosing unavailable partners and where this comes from- The wound of 'needing to be chosen'- People pleasing and needing to caretake others, abandoning our own needs- Developing healthy self-love and self-worth as a foundation for healthy relationships- Learning to put ourselves first when we are 'givers' or empaths- Moving towards secure attachment from avoidant or anxious attachment- Owning your patterns and healing them as a source of empowerment vs. being stuck in victim mentality- The empath-narcissist dynamic and the importance of boundaries- How gaslighting chips away at self-esteem and creates confusion and self-distrust- Calling bad behavior what it is vs. being overly nice and accepting- The 'high tolerance for b******t' that is so common with empaths- Spotting red flags and developing discernment while dating- How to use the body as an instrument, tuning in to what it's telling you when you're around other people- How trauma can impact our sexuality- Watching our attraction patterns as we are healing (when we know we are typically attracted to partners who don't treat us well)- Our grand visions for what incredible relationships look likeConnect with Alysondra below:Alysondra's WebsiteAlysondra's InstagramConnect with Leigh-Anne below:Book a Free 30 Minute CallLeigh-Anne's InstagramLeigh-Anne's WebsiteSubstack ArticlesFree Guide: How to Choose a Partner WiselyI hope you enjoy this episode - please rate, review and suConnect with Leigh-Anne below: THE VISIONARIES: My Community The Wayshowers: Mentorship Leigh-Anne's Instagram Leigh-Anne's Website Leigh-Anne's Substack Book a Free 30 Min Call I hope you enjoy this episode - please share it with anyone who might benefit!And, please rate, review, and subscribe if you find this podcast useful. It really helps this free, supportive content get out to more people.Thanks so much, I appreciate you all!Intro + Outro music: "Medicine" by HOL + LayvHolly's Instagram This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

In this episode, I define this concept of sexual sovereignty that I've been speaking about over the past few months, offering a casual chat/intro to this work that I took much deeper on Substack.  Here's the article I referenced - a great resource to take this work deeper.Today I cover:Just as we are shaped and molded and conditioned throughout our life by external influences, our environment and everything around us, the same thing happens with our sexuality.What this means is, for those of us who are interested in getting to the truth of who we really are, the path from the false self to the true self, we should include a deep dive into our sexuality to find out what is true and what is not true for us.I don't hear many people talking about this, instead it's just a debaucherous celebration of anything goes and all urges running wild without questioning or caring where some of these impulses came from.I understand that there's a collective process happening and some people need to throw off the reigns when it comes to sexuality to explore.However, we also need to be aware that the larger forces that be are VERY intent on programming us in a certain direction.They are taking advantage of this collective urge and turning it haywire.What I see clearly within this is that there is an attack on love, sex, and relationships (I began talking about this in 2021).Within this, there is an attack on healthy, stable, long term monogamous relationships.And, there is an attack on God.  because all of this is very anti-life and anti-God.Much more on all of this in today's episode.  As always, would love to hear your questions and comments, and I'll be speaking a lot more about sexuality and how we can elevate it moving forward.  Be in touch if you need support, you can book a free call with me below.Connect with me below:Book a Free 30 Minute CallWebsiteInstagramSubstackEmail ListI hope you enjoy this episode!  Please rate, review and subscribe to support this work.  Thank you for listening!  I do this for you 🙏Connect with Leigh-Anne below: THE VISIONARIES: My Community The Wayshowers: Mentorship Leigh-Anne's Instagram Leigh-Anne's Website Leigh-Anne's Substack Book a Free 30 Min Call I hope you enjoy this episode - please share it with anyone who might benefit!And, please rate, review, and subscribe if you find this podcast useful. It really helps this free, supportive content get out to more people.Thanks so much, I appreciate you all!Intro + Outro music: "Medicine" by HOL + LayvHolly's Instagram This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

Listeners have been asking me to share more of my personal story, and I speak about intergenerational trauma within the relationship between men + women and why I was literally born for this work.  This was a tough episode for me to record, but I hope it helps you to better understand where all of my work has emerged from, how it all ties together, and why I am devoted to this mission.Sister Episode:  The War on Love, Sex + RelationshipsConnect with me below:Book a Free 30 Minute ConsultLove, Evolved - my websiteLeigh-Anne's InstagramI hope you enjoy this episode - please rate, review and subscribe to support the podcast.  Thank you for listening!  I do this work for you.Connect with Leigh-Anne below: THE VISIONARIES: My Community The Wayshowers: Mentorship Leigh-Anne's Instagram Leigh-Anne's Website Leigh-Anne's Substack Book a Free 30 Min Call I hope you enjoy this episode - please share it with anyone who might benefit!And, please rate, review, and subscribe if you find this podcast useful. It really helps this free, supportive content get out to more people.Thanks so much, I appreciate you all!Intro + Outro music: "Medicine" by HOL + LayvHolly's Instagram This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

I'm so happy to share this conversation that I had with my friend Katrina Hart, talking about the journey of evolution through integrating and working with the inner masculine (Carl Jung refers to this as animus integration).This episode is for any woman who wants to learn more about working with the inner masculine for overall balance and harmony - both within herself and with relationships with others.  We speak about the importance of discernment, boundaries, logic, courageousness and overall strength.When we develop our inner masculine in healthy ways, it can help hold our embodiment of the feminine principle at deeper levels.  This also helps us to learn the energetic agility to dance between both energetics as needed in our day to day lives - in addition to knowing the energetic signature of the healthy masculine so we can spot it in men if we are choosing partners.Books:The Archetypes and The Collective Unconscious - Carl JungAnimus and Anima - Emma JungThe Animus: The Spirit of Inner Truth in Women - Barbara HannahNathan Martin - The Unity Process Mark Passio - The Unholy FeminineConnect with Katrina via email - katrina@loveyoutobeyou.com Connect with Leigh-Anne below:Book a Free 30 Minute ConsultLove, Evolved - my websiteLeigh-Anne's InstagramI hope you enjoy this episode - please rate, review and subscribe to support the podcast.Connect with Leigh-Anne below: THE VISIONARIES: My Community The Wayshowers: Mentorship Leigh-Anne's Instagram Leigh-Anne's Website Leigh-Anne's Substack Book a Free 30 Min Call I hope you enjoy this episode - please share it with anyone who might benefit!And, please rate, review, and subscribe if you find this podcast useful. It really helps this free, supportive content get out to more people.Thanks so much, I appreciate you all!Intro + Outro music: "Medicine" by HOL + LayvHolly's Instagram This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

In this episode, I speak about this huge problem that I see with the women who come to me for support - they continually get themselves involved with men who do not treat them very well.  The sexual attraction to these "bad boys" is so strong that despite their best intentions, they get pulled in and mixed up in very unhealthy relationships.I talk about why this problem is so widespread, what we can do to rewire our sexual attraction so that we desire healthy, stable partners, and how to begin deconditioning ourselves from the programming that has influenced us around what traits are desirable in men.  I also speak about the link between sexual abuse and trauma and how healing these wounds can help heal your sexuality by removing the mixed up abuse and sexual energy so that you can experience relationships filled with love and support while reclaiming your right to have a fulfilling sex life.Links mentioned in this episode:Raise the BarThe War on Love, Sex + RelationshipsMark Passio: The Unholy FeminineConnect with me below:Book a Free 30 Minute ConsultLove, Evolved - my websiteLeigh-Anne's InstagramI hope you enjoy this episode - please rate, review and subscribe to support the podcast.Connect with Leigh-Anne below: THE VISIONARIES: My Community The Wayshowers: Mentorship Leigh-Anne's Instagram Leigh-Anne's Website Leigh-Anne's Substack Book a Free 30 Min Call I hope you enjoy this episode - please share it with anyone who might benefit!And, please rate, review, and subscribe if you find this podcast useful. It really helps this free, supportive content get out to more people.Thanks so much, I appreciate you all!Intro + Outro music: "Medicine" by HOL + LayvHolly's Instagram This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com