Love, Evolved: Conscious Relationships with Leigh-Anne LoPinto

‘Hurt people hurt people’ is often true, but not always...Sometimes, hurt people don’t hurt other people.And sometimes, people who haven’t been hurt hurt other people.Why does it matter?It actually matters significantly with how we show up in human relationships and how we approach and respond to harmful, abusive behavior - both in ourselves and in others.I believe understanding the nuance around this and transcending black and white thinking will be key as we co-create and step into the new paradigm of relationships.There are some things I’ve learned along the way in 15 years of assisting people therapeutically and also my personal life, and some of those things blew the lid off of some assumptions I was making about humanity and what true love and care is, what true ‘helping’ is. I want to share these things with you.In this episode, I speak about:* the wrong assumption that trauma always underlies everything* how we often enable bad behavior (unintentionally)* the rescuer side of things and what we need to own* the roots of narcissism and abusive behavior* spiritless humans* moral relativism as an agenda to erode all boundaries* not all misbehavior is caused by trauma* permissive parenting causes dysfunction* facets of healthy character development* healing the relationship between men + women* healthy shame vs toxic shame* the empath-narcissist trap* what many therapists got wrong* transmuting victim consciousness without losing self compassionLINKSStart Here: The Foundational Materialhttps://www.love-evolved.us/start-here.htmlPodcast with Dr. George Simon:Conscious LovingA Shameless Society is a Narcissistic Societyhttps://leighannelopinto.substack.com/p/a-shameless-society-is-a-narcissistic—About me:My name is Leigh-Anne LoPinto, and I’m devoted to the new paradigm of relationships. For the past 15 years, I’ve worked with people 1:1 and in groups to support healing and growth through relationships. and we are the visionaries of the new paradigm, the people going first.I clearly see, know, and live this path, understanding the terrain and pure potential that it holds as the key to the evolution of humanity.The Wayshowers Mentorship | The Visionaries CommunityPodcast intro music: Medicine by HOL - Holly Gottlieb @hollygottlieb This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

In this episode, I speak on the concept of ‘separate, purify, and unite’ in alchemy and how this applies to our inner union process, the process of outer union (especially in romantic relationships), and more importantly, how this applies to the bigger interplay between healing the relationship between men + women.On a basic level, we need to keep the polarities separate in order to purify them deeply, and then use the purified versions for union. Think about this in relation to masculine and feminine, and why we need to transmute the wounded versions of each into their highest expression (divine).I also apply this in a very practical way to what I call ‘the dance of union + separation’ which deeply protects us against codependency, providing the ideal template for the alchemical process of relationships as evolutionary portals.In this episode, I also share why the powers that be are intentionally distorting this process, and why.Please share any comments or questions in the comments section (Substack and Spotify have them) or message me directly on Instagram or in The Visionaries. You can also email me at la@love-evolved.usMuch love to you all!Leigh-AnneRESOURCESAlchemy, Divine Union, and Spiritual Enlightenmenthttps://leighannelopinto.substack.com/p/alchemy-divine-union-spiritual-enlightenmentTowards Sexual Sovereigntyhttps://leighannelopinto.substack.com/p/towards-sexual-sovereignty-the-alchemicalThe War on Love, Sex + Relationshipshttps://leighannelopinto.substack.com/p/the-war-on-love-sex-relationshipsThe Trap of Codependency + How to Break Freehttps://www.love-evolved.us/the-trap-of-codependency.htmlWetiko: Healing the Mind-Virus That Plagues Our World (Paul Levy on The Cosmic Matrix)Email me at la@love-evolved.us—About me:My name is Leigh-Anne LoPinto, and I am a visionary of the new paradigm of relationships. For the past 15 years, I’ve worked with people 1:1 and in groups to support healing and growth through relationships. I now work with leaders of the new paradigm, the people going first.I clearly see, know, and live this path, understanding the terrain and pure potential that it holds as the key to the evolution of humanity.The Wayshowers Mentorship | The Visionaries CommunityPodcast intro music: Medicine by HOL - Holly Gottlieb @hollygottlieb This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

This is a companion podcast episode to the prior one on Energy Clearing and serves as the other side of the coin.Yes, we do our shadow work and energetic clearing. AND, we take responsibility to step into our right sized place as the leaders, visionaries, and wayshowers of the new paradigm of relationships. We are the Keepers of the Frequency and must allow ourselves to come up and out of the darkness, trauma, suffering and ‘underworld journey’ to embody and sustain the frequency of this higher level way of relating.Are you willing to come up and out and hold the flame?Inspiration for this title and transmission from Bringers of the Dawn:The impeccability required, and the acceptance of this ‘awesome task to carry light’ is our work now - especially during this potent Virgo season.Email me at la@love-evolved.us—About me:My name is Leigh-Anne LoPinto, and I am a visionary of the new paradigm of relationships. For the past 15 years, I’ve worked with people 1:1 and in groups to support healing and growth through relationships. I now work with leaders of the new paradigm, the people going first.I clearly see, know, and live this path, understanding the terrain and pure potential that it holds as the key to the evolution of humanity.The Wayshowers Mentorship | The Visionaries CommunityPodcast intro music: Medicine by HOL - Holly Gottlieb @hollygottlieb This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

In this episode, I cover why the energetic side of healing is critically important. For most of us, an combination of psychological healing in addition to energy clearing is a huge key - and one that many people miss. Especially in the field of psychology, this is not widely spoken about - yet. I believe one day this will change.Due to a tough lesson in my own life, I learned that both parts are needed - both the psychological healing and the energetic clearing - and that one or the other will not suffice.This episode is meant to be an introduction for those who may not be aware of the importance, and the links below provide an energy clearing breathwork that you can use as many times as you need to.Email me at la@love-evolved.usLINKS MENTIONED:The Wayshowershttps://www.love-evolved.us/the-wayshowers.htmlThe Visionarieshttps://www.love-evolved.us/The New Paradigm of Relationships (podcast)https://leighannelopinto.substack.com/p/the-work-of-a-lifetime-the-new-paradigmA Brief Summary of The New Paradigm of Relationships (article)https://leighannelopinto.substack.com/p/a-brief-summary-of-the-new-paradigmEnergy Release Breathwork Meditation (David Elliott)—About me:My name is Leigh-Anne LoPinto, and I am a relationship visionary working with the leaders of the new paradigm of relationships.I clearly see, know, and live this new paradigm, understanding the terrain and pure potential that it holds as the key to the evolution of humanity.The Wayshowers Mentorship | The Visionaries CommunityPodcast intro music: Medicine by HOL - Holly Gottlieb @hollygottlieb This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

In this episode, I speak about how this path of relationships is a deeply spiritual path, and will provide enough material for you to evolve over lifetimes.I lay out what I mean when I speak of the 'new paradigm' of relationships and highlight the specific parts and details of this path.We cover:* the huge issue of content addiction without integration or application* why you are the visionaries* moving from insecure attachment to secure attachment* healing from codependency* transcending trauma bonds* how to build a strong and solid foundation for relationships* what conscious relationships truly are* how to become a relationship alchemist* the 'divine union' and 'twin flame' distortions* healing the distortions and inversions in sexuality* why self-love is foundational* moving away from dogmatic polarity teachings into inner union and energetic agility* from fixed mindsets to growth mentality* stepping off of the drama triangle into empowermentThe Wayshowers Mentorshiphttps://www.love-evolved.us/the-wayshowers.htmlA Brief Summary of the New Paradigm of Relationshipshttps://leighannelopinto.substack.com/p/a-brief-summary-of-the-new-paradigmAlchemy of the Heart (foundational work):https://www.love-evolved.us/alchemy-of-the-heart-course.htmlThe Visionaries Community Grouphttps://www.love-evolved.us/—Leigh-Anne LoPinto is a psychologist + relationship visionary specializing in the new paradigm of relationships. She has 14 years of experience working with individuals and groups, and specializes in conscious relationships and spiritual partnership, using relationships to evolve on a soul level.Intro music: Medicine by HOL - Holly Gottlieb @hollygottlieb This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

It is a deep and profound honor to welcome my teacher, Shannon Port, onto the podcast, who shares generously with us about the path of the true Divine Feminine. This episode is not to be missed and is a potent stream specifically for our listeners.In our conversation, Shannon shares how she came into this work from an early age, the unfolding of her life’s work and magnum opus, and how this path has been one of leaning way in to relationships, love, heartbreak, and living and learning all of it.She makes important distinctions between the feminine and masculine spiritual paths (honoring all of it), and brings this work squarely back to relationships of the heart.Shannon Port has been teaching and sharing with the world a profound body of Feminine Archetypal Wisdom for the past two decades through the Divine Feminine Wisdom Teachings in Light Body Yoga and Light Body Woman. Art of the Feminine is a Cosmic Feminine Stream received by a true Female Initiate who has been working in the frequency of the Goddess since birth. Shannon has lived these Mysteries and has traveled the deep feminine path of Goddess Initiation, working closely with the Divine Feminine Spiritual Hierarchies, to restore and regenerate The Inner Mysteries of Divine Love on Earth. Through her heart and her Word, she shares this transmission as her soul’s mission. The work here has been lived, tasted and fully integrated and digested. It is beyond sacred and holds the Divine Feminine Impulse for the coming Age of Venus and The Goddess Epoch.In this episode, Shannon covers:- the trajectory of her life’s work since childhood- her embodied initiations, and the path of the solar feminine- why spiritual growth is about alchemy, not bypassing - especially within love and sexuality- why the feminine mysteries have been left out and are a critical missing piece- how the woman’s heart is the mothership that births, sustains, and redeems life- why Shannon’s work is an expression of a living lineage—not theory, but transmission through embodimentI can’t wait for you to listen. Please reach out to Shannon or myself with any comments or questions!Connect with Shannon at the links below:Website: https://www.artofthefeminine.com/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/ShannonPortInstagram: http://instagram.com/artofthefeminine/Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/lightbodywoman—Leigh-Anne LoPinto is a psychologist + relationship visionary specializing in the new paradigm of relationships. She has 14 years of experience working with individuals and groups, and specializes in conscious relationships and spiritual partnership, using relationships to evolve on a soul level.The Visionaries CommunityIntro music: Medicine by HOL - Holly Gottlieb @hollygottlieb This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

In this episode, I cover a great question from someone in my community group The Visionaries - she asked about how to heal sexuality from a parts work perspective.I cover five different shadow parts that I see often in my work with people, along with a way to begin integrating on your own. However, I highly recommend working with a trusted professional as well within this topic of sexuality.We cover shame, promiscuity, withholding, performative parts, and numb/dissociated parts. These are so common, that I’m sure you will be able to relate to at least one, but probably more.Towards Sexual Sovereignty is a great companion article to this episode, as I mentioned.As always, please reach out with any questions or comments (or share them in the comment section below). You can also message me here on Substack, or email me at la@love-evolved.us—Leigh-Anne LoPinto is a psychologist + relationship visionary specializing in the new paradigm of relationships. She has 14 years of experience working with individuals and groups, and specializes in conscious relationships and spiritual partnership, using relationships to evolve on a soul level.The Visionaries CommunityIntro music: Medicine by HOL - Holly Gottlieb @hollygottlieb This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

This episode is for all of you single people who are drawn to my work and want to do relationships and dating very differently.  I give you a ton of resources in this episode, both practical support and also other resources that I'm linking below.  There is so much to work with here!  Take notes because there's a lot.  And please message me or email me with any comments or questions, I'm here for this.In this episode, I cover:- defining your values and why it's important- why we don't set the bar too low OR too high- boundaries and discernment, including sexually- how to magnetize your people- why this is a practice ground for growth and healing- getting crystal clear on who you are + what you're looking for- the importance of inner work and personal responsibility along the wayRESOURCES:5 Practical Ways to Open to LoveOpening to Love w/ Erin TelfordShadow Work for True LiberationMatrix Relationships vs Higher LoveConscious Loving: 6 Co-CommitmentsTowards Sexual Sovereignty (article)Towards Sexual Sovereignty (podcast)Attachment Styles + How to HealThe Trap of CodependencyHow to Choose a Partner WiselyWhy Women are Attracted to Bad BoysConnect with Leigh-Anne below: THE VISIONARIES: My Community The Wayshowers: Mentorship Leigh-Anne's Instagram Leigh-Anne's Website Leigh-Anne's Substack Book a Free 30 Min Call I hope you enjoy this episode - please share it with anyone who might benefit!And, please rate, review, and subscribe if you find this podcast useful. It really helps this free, supportive content get out to more people.Thanks so much, I appreciate you all!Intro + Outro music: "Medicine" by HOL + LayvHolly's Instagram This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

I cannot believe this is my first full episode about breathwork!  This practice has completely changed my life, and has healed things that years of therapy were not able to fully heal.  Seven years in, I'm still going strong.I have seen this CUT THE WORK IN HALF (if not much faster) with the individuals and groups that I work with.I am so grateful to my teacher David Elliott.We are living in urgent times, and don't have years to waste anymore.  I believe that breathwork is a vital practice - it brings us to the heart of the matter.The type of breathwork that I teach is a longer style done lying down. The breathing is done all through the mouth.  We breathe for 25-30 minutes with a short rest period at the end to integrate.The benefits include:- moving stuck emotions and trauma up and out- deeply opening the intuition and connecting to something higher- getting clarity on things the mind cannot figure out- somatic and energetic healing and clearing- strengthening your connection to God/the Divine- opening the heart and feeling more connected to life and people around you- bypassing the mind to get deeply into the body, heart + intuition- clearing out energetic imprints of abuse (huge for me!  I share my story)This is the most in-depth teaching I have given on breathwork.  I include pro tips for having the best experience and why now, more than ever, we need to clear the fog in our life to get to the truth of who we really are.Please try breathwork!  I have tons of resources below for you to get started today.  Message me on Instagram or email me and let me know how it goes.Breathwork Intro + DemonstrationThe Benefits of BreathworkLos Angeles In-Person Breathwork (Saturday Nights)My Story, Part OneThe Type C Personality (Why We Breathe)Breathwork Audios (Full Sessions)Spiritual PracticeHeart Opening BreathworkReparenting BreathworkMother EarthConnect with Leigh-Anne below: THE VISIONARIES: My Community The Wayshowers: Mentorship Leigh-Anne's Instagram Leigh-Anne's Website Leigh-Anne's Substack Book a Free 30 Min Call I hope you enjoy this episode - please share it with anyone who might benefit!And, please rate, review, and subscribe if you find this podcast useful. It really helps this free, supportive content get out to more people.Thanks so much, I appreciate you all!Intro + Outro music: "Medicine" by HOL + LayvHolly's Instagram This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

This episode includes teachings that I shared over six days, reflecting upon each of the six co-commitments written about in the book Conscious Loving by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks.This book came into my field in 2019, and I have since recommended it to 1000+ people - it's one of my favorite relationship books!Six years later, as I'm reading it again cover to cover, I was inspired to share my thoughts and personal experiences practicing these principles in my own life, as well as helping clients on the path.Some of the big themes in this episode include:- Devotion to self and other:  lifting each other up!- Personal responsibility balanced with self-compassion- Clearing and healing dysfunctional relationship patterns- Shadow work and subconscious reprogramming- The dance of union and separation- The hidden blessing in my dark night of the soul- Living in alignment with Divine Will- Boundaries, self-love, and reciprocity- Emotional feelings before growth mentality- Bringing joy, lightness and fun to this pathThis episode is jam packed and I can't wait for you to listen.  Reach out to me directly with any comments or questions!Here are other episodes that tie in to this one:My Story, Part One:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-evolved-with-leigh-anne-lopinto-conscious/id1589898399?i=1000650388992My Story, Part Two:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-evolved-with-leigh-anne-lopinto-conscious/id1589898399?i=1000650999284The Empath-Narcissist Trap with Dr. George Simon:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-evolved-with-leigh-anne-lopinto-conscious/id1589898399?i=1000625190054Matrix Relationships vs Higher Love:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-evolved-with-leigh-anne-lopinto-conscious/id1589898399?i=1000669488948Conscious Relationships: The Foundations:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-evolved-with-leigh-anne-lopinto-conscious/id1589898399?i=1000538623205Connect with Leigh-Anne below: THE VISIONARIES: My Community The Wayshowers: Mentorship Leigh-Anne's Instagram Leigh-Anne's Website Leigh-Anne's Substack Book a Free 30 Min Call I hope you enjoy this episode - please share it with anyone who might benefit!And, please rate, review, and subscribe if you find this podcast useful. It really helps this free, supportive content get out to more people.Thanks so much, I appreciate you all!Intro + Outro music: "Medicine" by HOL + LayvHolly's Instagram This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com