The Terri Cole Show

I am so excited to have fellow therapist Todd Baratz on the show to talk about his new book, How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind: Forget the Fairy Tale and Get Real. You might know Todd on Instagram as @yourdiagnonsense, which is how I came across his amazing work. Todd wrote this book for anyone feeling stuck in their relationship, and it was inspired by his own relationship struggles. As we mention in the interview, just because we're therapists doesn't mean we have it all figured out! We cover a range of topics, from what inspired Todd to write this book and become a therapist specializing in sex, to the importance of differentiation in long-term relationships and intergenerational trauma. I hope you enjoy this therapist jam as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/617

Do you think father wounds are obvious? That you can only have a father wound if you had a 'difficult' father? Or do you think successful women can't have father wounds? There is a lot of misinformation about the father wound online, from what causes one to how it impacts us. In this episode, I set the record straight by sharing the top six father wound myths I've encountered and the truth behind each. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/616

I am so excited to welcome my new pal and expert on narcissism, Dr. Les Carter (known as Dr. C) to the show to talk about the traits of narcissists. Dr. C walks us through the 8 questions narcissists can't answer and why, and it is incredibly illuminating. We talk about the inability of narcissists to be vulnerable, respect differences, manage conflict healthily, consider other opinions, and their need to be in control. Dr. C also shares his definition of narcissism and the most common misconceptions he sees about it. I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at http://terricole.com/615

Explore how an unhealed father wound impacts relationships, careers, and health, influencing partner choices, self-worth, and attachment issues. Delve into childhood experiences, over-functioning, codependency, and navigating dynamics shaped by distant father figures. Reflect on attracting unhealthy partners, repeated relationship patterns, and the subconscious pull towards familiar yet unhealthy behaviors.

Are you intolerant of how you actually feel? Or are you intolerant of what others believe? My amazing guest and pal, Africa Brooke, is here to tell us how to get curious and be in the middle with her new book, The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of Intolerance, which I think is a much-needed antidote right now. Africa shares why she believes curiosity is a dying art, how to spark more of it (especially in ourselves), and how we can begin bravely expressing ourselves in the world, one step at a time, without censorship. Toward the end, Africa also tells us about her own experience of self-sabotage and how this led her to her current body of work. I hope you enjoy this enlightening conversation as much as I enjoyed having it. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/613

Exploring personal father wounds in relationships, the speaker shares their own story of fear and realization. Reflecting on family dynamics and gender perceptions, they navigate emotional distance and confront the father wound. Through therapy and honest conversations, they seek healing and healthier connections

My amazing guest this week is Kara Loewentheil, a feminist lawyer-turned-life coach. She's here to tell us how a sexist society gets in our heads and how to get it out with her new book, Take Back Your Brain. We talk about the messages we absorb from society at a young age, how they shape our thoughts, and how we can slowly replace those thoughts with less crappy ones. If you're a high-achieving woman who feels like you need to do it all and be everything to everyone, this episode is for you. As Kara says: You can't hate yourself into liking yourself! If this episode resonates with you, don't forget to preorder her book, Take Back Your Brain, releasing May 21!

Explore the causes and symptoms of the father wound, its impact on relationships and mental health, effects on ambition and self-worth, and the transformative journey of healing and gratitude for supportive relationships.

I am so excited to welcome Dr. Frank Anderson, renowned trauma expert, to the show to talk about his newest book, To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation. It's both a memoir and a beautiful exploration of healing trauma. I absolutely loved what Frank had to share about the different types of trauma, the healing process, forgiving the perpetrator, forgiving ourselves, and reclaiming our own narratives. If you've experienced childhood trauma of any type, I think you'll get a lot out of this conversation. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. Gentle TW: there is a mention of suicide at 21:15. If this is a tender topic for you, please skip forward 20 seconds Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/609

Does Mother's Day bring up hard feelings for you or give you anxiety? Do you find it difficult or frustrating to find a Mother's Day card that speaks to your relationship with your mother? Is it a day you'd rather pretend doesn't exist? If you answered "yes" to any of these, you're in the right place. I am sharing ideas for how to honor, grieve, mourn, and celebrate on Mother's Day, no matter what kind of relationship you have with your mother. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/608