The Terri Cole Show

How do you feel about Valentine's Day? Do you often find yourself disappointed? Does it make you feel alone and down? Does your partner forget about it, even though you ask to make plans? Do they give you gifts that feel hollow? Whether you're single or partnered, I invite you to put a self-consideration spin on Valentine's Day with my favorite three-step self-love ritual. All the steps are below along with tips on how to avoid disappointment on the day. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/686 Don't miss the chance to join my free Raise Your Love Vibe Kickstart at terricole.com/love!

Some say you should never talk about politics, religion, or money in polite company – But today's guest doesn't agree! On today's episode, Marianne Williamson contextualizes Christianity and Christ to offer insight into modern challenges: Personal hardships, disconnection from others, and even the growing polarization of the political climate. She offers a perspective that harmonizes Christianity with other religious and spiritual ideologies that can guide us to cultivate healthy minds. Plus, Marianne shares the human moments that bring her joy despite her concern about world events. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/685

Is setting boundaries intimidating because you worry that people will get mad or abandon you if you do? Do you avoid telling the truth or setting limits out of fear? Or do you people-please to keep the peace and avoid rejection? If you're nodding your head, this episode is for you because I'm talking about how fear of rejection is the common root of many of our self-abandoning behaviors, what this fear costs us, and steps you can take to overcome it. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/684

Today I have the pleasure of sharing a chat with my long-time friend and repeat guest Christine Hassler. She shares the incredible story of how she pursued a healthy, mature partnership– And how you can also call that love into your life if you want to be partnered and you're not. We also chat about ways to self-regulate and soothe your immune system and how to seek love from a mindset of growth rather than suffering or lack. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/683

Do you reluctantly agree to things you'd rather not do because you don't know how to say no? When you're annoyed about something, do you say everything is FINE rather than saying what's bothering you? Do you also tend to judge someone if they don't pick up on how you really feel? In these situations, there's an expectation that people will intuit our true emotions from the clues we drop. However, relying on indirect communication can cause stress and resentment in our relationships because how we feel isn't always apparent to others, even if we feel like it is. The solution is authentic and direct communication, which is usually less comfortable, and why we often act rather than talk things out! I want to empower you to choose to talk and assert your needs, which is what this episode is about. I'll cover why we find it hard to speak our minds, why we may find it easier to judge and blame others, and ideas for being more authentic in our communication. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/682

Today I'm chatting with Jillian Turecki about her new book, It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life. She shares how acceptance and shared vision for the future can help you create a lasting love, how to tell if your partner isn't right for you, and some hard truths that will help you get unstuck in love and life. Plus, she answers a question that could change how you approach dating: In order to love someone in a healthy way, do you need to love yourself first? Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/681

Are you overly invested in the feeling states, situations, careers, circumstances, and relationships of the people in your life, to the detriment of your own internal peace? So invested, that setting and maintaining boundaries feels selfish or impossible? If so, you're not alone, and this episode is for you. I'm looking at the Boundary Boss Bill of Rights from my first book, but through the lens of high-functioning codependency because that's what my newest book, Too Much, is all about! For high-functioning codependents (HFCs) who are used to giving, setting boundaries can be challenging, but they're essential to our relationships. These boundary rights can serve as transformative tools for breaking free from the cycle of over-giving, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment so prevalent in HFCs. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/680

Today John and I are doing something new for the show– We're both interviewing each other for our own podcasts, at the same time! We jam on how breakups create the perfect conditions for reflection, how high-functioning codependency interferes with healthy relationships, and the ultimate purpose of love. Plus, I share some details about how I turned to the web to help more people over a decade ago! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/679

Are you tired of being the one doing all the things for all the people? Are you the point person for everything in your family life? Does it feel like you're the only one who can reliably get things done? Then this episode is for you because I am talking about a common relational dynamic I see in high-functioning codependents (HFCs): how one person over-functioning causes the other to under-function. To illustrate this dynamic, I'm sharing an excerpt and case study from my newest book, Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency. You'll learn how this dynamic impacts us, examples of how it shows up in our relationships, and how you can stop over-functioning. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/678

Today, I'm sharing a chat with Katie Bramlett about her perfectionism, self-acceptance, and rejecting messages from society that harm our mental wellness. She tells us how questioning the toxic nature of the fitness industry led her to co-found WeShape, a fitness app focused on emotional safety and self-acceptance. Plus, how listening to and reconnecting with your body can help your mental health! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/677