The Art of Charm

"A day of pain is worth a lifetime of pride." - Jon Vronman The Cheat Sheet: How he invested his last $4k and how it motivated him. The 53-mile double marathon that changed Jon's life. Do you have to be an extrovert to be in the front of your life? The 3 people you admire most: a life evaluation exercise. What is one of the most powerful questions on Earth? The reason most people don't achieve their life's purpose. And so much more... If you imagined your life playing out like a concert, where would you want to live it: the front row or somewhere in the upper deck? The front row of course - that's where the action, energy and enthusiasm is happening. Jon Vroman has built a business and a life around teaching people to live like they're in the front row and he's our guest for episode 306 of The Art of Charm podcast. Join us as we talk about what it means to live life from the front row, how to reframe experiences in a positive way, why your networks are so important and how to be a contributor who makes every moment an awesome one. More About This Show: Jon Vroman wasn't always a front-row kind of guy. In fact, in high school he admits his mindset and his life were about as big as his 4'10", 85 pound frame. Until one day he found himself at a concert and had the revelation that he was living life at the same pitch as the section he was sitting in: the back rows of the show where everyone was checked out and low energy. Decided he no longer wanted that for himself, he made a commitment to shift. He began studying the greats, the people who were high energy, front-row kind of people. And he found the courage to leave his corporate job to pursue something greater than his 9 to 5. Within two years, he had $85,000 in credit card debt and was choosing whether to buy groceries or pay his mortgage. He was being paid to speak, but it wasn't yet a thriving endeavor for him. He made a front row decision to invest his last $4,000 into a mailing promoting his speaking services. He got no response from the mailing. But that didn't stop him, he understood he needed to take care of his family and so he continued to dig, dig, and dig until he worked his way out of debt and into a whole new business: The Front Row. Jon learned immeasurably valuable lessons along the way like how to treat everyone like a rock star and how to take any situation and find the positive. When it comes to treating people like rock stars, Jon says to write a list of the top 10 people in our lives, those who matter the most and add the most to our lives, and then find out what their biggest dream or goal is for this year. Now write down what you can do to help them achieve that goal. And when it comes to finding the good in a seemingly "bad" situation, always ask yourself: what else could this mean? When you habitually do that, you'll see the positive a lot faster. We also talk about legacy versus currency, and how to be a "moment-maker" versus an energy-taker. Jon was generous enough to detail a few actionable exercises to practice right now. Of course, there's plenty more Jon and I discuss on this show. Tune in, I hope you enjoy listening! Resources from this episode: Jon's web site Jon on TwitterConnected, by Nicholas Christakis and James FowlerQuiet: The Power of Introverts, by Susan Cain You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox -Best of The Art of Charm Podcast HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Email jordanh@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imagine what you could do if you could always know what someone else was really thinking - no matter what they were saying to you. How would that change your work life, your life at home and your relationships? Here to help you do just that is Vanessa Van Edwards of the Science of People, a human behavior research lab. She's joins the Art of Charm podcast to give us the inside scoop on human behavior, micro-expressions, being a human lie detector and how to read people like a book. MORE ABOUT THIS SHOW: Vanessa Van Edwards has long been fascinated by people's behaviors. In fact, she thought she would work for the CIA or the Secret Service, until she realized that would mean interrogating people. Instead she opted to combine her interest in people with self-help for the business world, which eventually led to her joining the Science of People. The work she and her colleagues do there has been recognized around the world and has been featured on such notable media outlets as Fast Company, Forbes and NPR BusinessWeek to name just a few! In her words, her work combines "sexy science with self-help" and she brings her it to this episode. We talk about how to use non-verbal communication as a secret weapon and the art of decoding hidden messages so you know what people really mean, regardless of what they are telling you. The finer details of this show include: Can you tell someone's success or power based just on their face? Vanessa tells all. What's the facial feedback hypothesis? What's one of the hardest micro expressions to recover from? 93.6% accurate predicator of divorce - what is it? The one micro expression that can open an opportunity to connect with a woman. And so much more! In this show, Vanessa and I give you the 7 micro expressions, specific ways to recognize them, and why they are important. From anger and contempt to happiness and sadness, we dive deep into each so you can begin to recognize them in your friends, family, co-workers and romantic interests. We also talk about mirror neurons, which are like brain copy cats, and they help us "mirror" the person or people we are interacting with to create connections and that feeling of familiarity. We cover so much in this show and it's all information you need to know! This is a primary on reading expressions and the scientific research behind it. Even if you aren't familiar with how to decode body language or how to read other forms of non-verbal communication, you're going to take away A LOT from this show and you're going to be able to learn it and use it quickly. At the Art of Charm, we talk about the mind following the body and the body following the mind so having Vanessa here was a natural fit. I loved talking with her and sharing as much of her knowledge as we could on this show! Resources from this episode: Vanessa's website Vanessa on Twitter Microexpression videos You'll also like: -The Art of Charm Toolbox -Best of The Art of Charm Podcast   HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordanh@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Nobody ever got rich working for a living." -Grandpa TipsIf the 'World's Most Interesting Man' were a dad, he'd be Charlie Tips. Charlie gives parenting and life advice to those of us shooting for the stars, including:-How to educate your kids to be 'billionaires'-Why public schools actually teach poor mindsets inadvertently-How a 12 year old kid created his own high school packed with world-travel and won two Emmys by age 30-Quora takeaways from article: no prep schools, teach generosity, love of work, and how to be worthy of wealth-How trading time for money is a losing battle, and how a total schlub learned the skills and mindset of capitalism and put it into actionHere's the original answer on Quora You'll also like:-The Art of Charm Toolbox-Best of The Art of Charm Podcast HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!  This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunesClick here to subscribe via RSSYou can also subscribe via Stitcher FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhoneEmail jordanh@theartofcharm.comGive us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"If you don't like the way the world is, you change it. You have an obligation to change it. You just do it one step at a time." -Marian Wright Edelman James Swanwick of Alpha Male Club swings by to discuss: -Why fear of success is just as real as fear of failure -Bluffing his way onto ESPN and into a job as a SportsCenter anchor -How to formulate a plan and take action despite your fear ("feel the fear and do it anyway") -Recognizing sticking points (fear) and moving forward -Why failure is an integral part of success How he stopped drinking and you can too (if you decide to do it, that is!) You'll also like: The Art of Charm Toolbox Best of The Art of Charm Podcast   HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhone Email jordanh@theartofcharm.com Give us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“You cannot run away from weakness; you must some time fight it out or perish; and if that be so, why not now, and where you stand?”—Robert Louis Stevenson We've all heard of 'flow'. That mysterious in-the-zone state that athletes, performers and other professionals consummate in their craft seem to attain when they're really crushing it. But what is it and how do we get there deliberately, calling forth flow when we need (or want) it?We'll cover that and more in this episode of The Art of Charm Podcast with Steven Kotler, including:-The flow genome project (can we ENGINEER flow?)-What is FLOW?-What happens in your brain during flow?-How do we trigger flow and harness it for ourselves?-How flow saved Steven’s life and helped him recover from Lyme disease-The flow cycle which is a roadmap for flow as well as practical things we can do and work on to make this cycle a reality for us-More bullet points, likely all including the word 'flow' at some point ;)You’ll also like:The Art of Charm ToolboxBest of The Art of Charm Podcast  HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!  This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunesClick here to subscribe via RSSYou can also subscribe via Stitcher FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhoneEmail jordanh@theartofcharm.comGive us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Where you are is a result of who you were, but where you go depends entirely on who you choose to be." Hal Elrod died and came back to life. But, he didn't just want ANY old life...In this episode, we'll talk about:-How Hal went from dead for 6 minutes to ultra-marathoner to RAPPER to speaker and trainer (and yes, we have Hal freestyle the rap -don't worry)-How we cause our own emotional pain (the gap between what we wish were true and what is, and how much we wish we could change it)-Remaining positive even in the face of death and disability-Why an acute case of impostor syndrome in your career can be worse than death-The best way to structure your morning for productivity, happiness and your best shot at getting in the zone (hint: it’s not coffee and it’s not just exercise)You’ll also like:The Art of Charm ToolboxBest of The Art of Charm Podcast  HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!  This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunesClick here to subscribe via RSSYou can also subscribe via Stitcher FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhoneEmail jordanh@theartofcharm.comGive us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“To be in the 1% you have to do what the 99% won’t.” -Unknown Noah Kagan got fired from Facebook...and proceeded to kick ass, again and again.Noah Kagan of Okdork.com was a cubicle slave at Intel, #30 at Facebook (AND GOT FIRED), #4 at Mint.com and has gone on to start two 7-figure businesses, his latest is AppSumo.com.In this entrepreneurship-oriented episode of the show, we'll discuss:-Why scarcity mindsets hinder growth-How networking REALLY works and why you need to do it no matter what industry you're in-Tips from the pros on how to ‘get known’-How to “give value” even when you think you have nothing to offer-Digging your well before you need it-Why it’s “all about who you know” and why this is a GOOD thing-Why spending your time with high-quality people is crucial-How to reverse-engineer anything and work backwards from what you want-How to engage your creative brain and defeat creative block-Where to start when creating and running a new business-Finding out who has your customers-Where to look for and acquire them for yourself-Where to start selling and how Testing and gaining experience to master your own business.You’ll also like:The Art of Charm ToolboxBest of The Art of Charm Podcast  HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!  This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunesClick here to subscribe via RSSYou can also subscribe via Stitcher FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhoneEmail jordanh@theartofcharm.comGive us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Either you run the day or the the day runs you." - Jim Rohn This one starts off a little scattered but gets fun and goes deep quick. Jordan and Jordan (yes, we've not doubled but SQUARED the Jordan in this one), discuss:-What men have been led to believe women want in a relationship vs. what they actually need-How to get and give relationship feedback in less than 5 words-Why waiting behind self-optimization is a fallacy when it comes to finding your significant other (aka "I'll start dating again once I'm healthier/richer/etc.")-Why investing in your love life is the greatest thing you can do for your health, wealth, and happiness-How to open your woman sexually and emotionally-How and why to give your partner consistent praise and appreciation.-Why it's important to let your partner see every side of you.-How to never stop dating your partner.-How to cut out habits from your life that you know aren't serving youThis is a great one so grab a notepad and enjoy!You’ll also like:The Art of Charm ToolboxBest of The Art of Charm Podcast  HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!  This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunesClick here to subscribe via RSSYou can also subscribe via Stitcher FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhoneEmail jordanh@theartofcharm.comGive us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“The greatest fear in the world is of the opinions of others. And the moment you are unafraid of the crowd you are no longer a sheep, you become a lion. A great roar arises in your heart, the roar of freedom.” – OshoBrace yourself for some woo-woo-ness in this episode as Jordan Harbinger and Mike Hrostoski discuss:-The death of Mike's mother, how it affected him and spurned him into a deeper way of experiencing the world-Honesty versus vulgarity (open vs closed heart)The mens movement and our place in it-‘Holding space’ -what this means and why Jordan let this fly on the show-Exercises such as "1 month to live" How to decide which friends to keep in your life as you work on yourself.You’ll also like:The Art of Charm ToolboxBest of The Art of Charm Podcast  HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!  This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunesClick here to subscribe via RSSYou can also subscribe via Stitcher FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhoneEmail jordanh@theartofcharm.comGive us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Wishful thinking is NOT a strategy." -Josh Shipp Josh Shipp is a motivational speaker and author with an awesome story (in both the good and the bad way).Jordan and Josh uncover:-The journey from depression and criminal behavior to successful entrepreneur-How to ditch the victim mentality-The importance of mentors and how to get them-Breaking things down to baby steps and WHEN to get training (and what kind) in order to overcome your hurdles-How to deal with critics and hatersJosh Shipp is a former at-risk foster kid turned teen advocate. His TV series TEEN TROUBLE (A&E / Lifetime) documented his work with teens in crisis. He is the author of “The Teen’s Guide to World Domination“, and was listed on Inc. Magazine’s 30 under 30 list. He helps adults understand teens & teens understand themselves.You’ll also like:The Art of Charm ToolboxBest of The Art of Charm Podcast  HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!  This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunesClick here to subscribe via RSSYou can also subscribe via Stitcher FEEDBACK + PROMOTION Hit us up with your comments and guest suggestions. We read EVERYTHING. Download the FREE AoC app for iPhoneEmail jordanh@theartofcharm.comGive us a call at 888.413.7177 Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices