The Art of Charm

Psychologist Susan David discusses emotional agility, the purpose of negative emotions, and breaking patterns that lead to ineffective responses. She challenges the emphasis on constant happiness and encourages embracing discomfort for growth. The podcast explores handling emotions with self-compassion and realigning behaviors with personal values for sustainable change.

Justin Ramsdell is a clinical psychologist and an assistant professor of forensic psychology at George Mason University. His current work focuses on law enforcement interactions with individuals with severe mental illnesses, crisis de-escalation, and the psychology of victim experiences. "If somebody tells you that something works for everything, then it probably works for nothing." -Dr. Justin Ramsdell The Cheat Sheet: Understand what the Daubert Standard is, how it factors into scientific expert testimony admissible in court, and how it helps keep Dr. Justin Ramsdell honest with his own psychological work. Why we should consider a panacea that supposedly solves all problems, answers all questions, and cures all ills as a red flagbearer of pseudoscience. How science seeks to clarify and refine with concise terminology while pseudoscience remains vague and reliant on hollow jargon. Practice these critical thinking exercises to keep one step ahead of pseudoscience peddlers who might not have our best interests in mind. Who "they" are and what "they" don't want you to know! And so much more... Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/675/ Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Rhone makes gear for the modern man who demands modern style, comfort, and quality. Click here or go to rhone.com and enter promo code CHARM at checkout to get 20% off your first purchase! Whether you're a lady or a gent, you don't need to know what MicroModal fabric is to enjoy the comfort of MeUndies; you just need to wear them -- support this show (and yourself) with MeUndies here for 20% off! Save time. Look great. Stitch Fix is the personal styling service customized to your fit, lifestyle, and spending preferences. Get started now at stitchfix.com/CHARM and you'll also get 25% off when you keep all five items in your box! As security breaches make headlines with increasing frequency, is your identity protected? Go to LifeLock.com or call 1-800-LIFELOCK and use promo code FORBES for 10% off your LifeLock membership! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Free yourself from typing notes, reports, and documents by going with the transcriptionists we trust here at AoC: TranscriptionOutsourcing.net -- 99% or higher accuracy guaranteed! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. If you're new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn't a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format. Listen to recent guests A.J. Jacobs and Kevin Rose for a better idea of our regular programming. Also make sure to check out our Best Of picks or the Fundamentals Toolbox episodes. There, we've got the fundamentals of body language and nonverbal communication, attraction, negotiation, networking, and everything else we teach here at The Art of Charm. Let's cut to it! In this episode: Do we know any good conflict de-escalation techniques? What's the best way to re-enter your alumni network? Have you ever experienced this kind of imposter syndrome? How do you suggest ways someone can improve when they're immediately insulted you don't think they're perfect? How can a late bloomer shed the sidekick role developed over the years with a close friend? A couple of police officers weigh in on our episode with criminal defense attorney Corbin Payne. Documentary of the Week: Obey Giant Quick shoutouts to: Jen Kerr, Matt Knight, Joanne Alilovic, Leanne Hughes, Sean Lavin, and Loretta Kreet! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @TheArtofCharm and Instagram at @jordanharbinger, and check out Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/fmf143/ Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Turns out the comfiest and most sustainable shoes in the world are made of wool — even Time Magazine said so. Try Allbirds' 30-day trial period with free shipping and free returns this holiday season! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text AOC to 38470. We'll take you step by step to becoming better at making personal and professional connections, becoming a better networker, increasing your personal social capital and charisma. This is for both men and women! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Being stuck isn't a barrier to greatness; it's part of greatness. Here are nine things you can do right now to get un-stuck and on your way to greatness. The Cheat Sheet: Losing momentum happens to everyone, no matter the task at hand. Consider it a temporary setback rather than a permanent condition. Understand what you can do to prevent being overwhelmed. Know how to ask for help and gain perspective by helping others. Don't underestimate the power of moving your body. Learn how to change your tools. And so much more... Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/674/ Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Rhone makes gear for the modern man who demands modern style, comfort, and quality. Click here or go to rhone.com and enter promo code CHARM at checkout to get 20% off your first purchase! As the holidays approach, where can you snag a family gift pack of meat for only $49.99? Go to omahasteaks.com, enter code ART in the search bar, and get a 75% savings for being an AoC listener! Learn over 500 subjects (no tests or homework!) at The Great Courses Plus -- The Art of Charm listeners get one month free here! Capterra helps you find the right tool for your business -- email marketing to scheduling to accounting and beyond -- from 500 categories of software. See how Capterra can help you here! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Free yourself from typing notes, reports, and documents by going with the transcriptionists we trust here at AoC: TranscriptionOutsourcing.net -- 99% or higher accuracy guaranteed! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A.J. Jacobs (@ajjacobs) is a New York Times best-selling author who went on a quest to help build the biggest family tree in history, as detailed in his latest book It's All Relative: Adventures Up and Down the World's Family Tree. The Cheat Sheet: What did A.J. Jacobs learn by following every rule of the Bible literally for one year? How much do you really know about your heritage? See how relating to one another on a family tree of millions is a step toward overcoming the ills of modern tribalism and race relations. Why acknowledging the bad as well as the good revealed by digging into family history is important. The disciplined daydreaming of A.J.'s brainstorming sessions and how we can cultivate our own big picture thinking. And so much more... Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/673/ Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Turns out the comfiest and most sustainable shoes in the world are made of wool -- even Time Magazine said so. Try Allbirds' 30-day trial period wih free shipping and free returns this holiday season! As security breaches make headlines with increasing frequency, is your identity protected? Go to LifeLock.com or call 1-800-LIFELOCK and use promo code FORBES for 10% off your LifeLock membership! Stocks $5 a trade. Options 50¢ per contract plus $5 per trade. Futures $1.50 per contract, per side. Ready to make your move? Come to TradeStation.com/Charm! By The Book is half reality show, half self-help podcast, and one wild social experiment. Join comedian Jolenta Greenberg and her skeptical friend Kristen Meinzer as they live by the rules of a different self-help book each episode to figure out which ones might actually be life changing. Check it out here or wherever you listen to podcasts. Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Free yourself from typing notes, reports, and documents by going with the transcriptionists we trust here at AoC: TranscriptionOutsourcing.net -- 99% or higher accuracy guaranteed! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. If you're new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn't a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format. Listen to recent guests Kevin Rose and Corbin Payne for a better idea of our regular programming. Also make sure to check out our Best Of picks or the Fundamentals Toolbox episodes. There, we've got the fundamentals of body language and nonverbal communication, attraction, negotiation, networking, and everything else we teach here at The Art of Charm. Let's cut to it! In this episode: How do you make sure you're not wasting the opportunity of a good introduction? Why don't we read positive reviews on the show? Some great listener feedback for the child with ADHD from FMF #140 who blames himself for his mother's issues. How does someone who's visually impaired network effectively without being able to read body language? Is your writing style too verbose for most? If so, how can you clarify your message without feeling like you're "dumbing it down?" What's one of the meanest things Jordan has done? How Jordan got a peek into the world of being a woman online. Out of curiosity, if you were going to rename The Art of Charm podcast, what would you call it? Drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com if you have ideas! Documentary of the Week: Hunting the KGB Killers Quick shoutouts to Melanie Pipkens out of Lansing, Michigan, and Susie and Jojo! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @TheArtofCharm and Instagram at @jordanharbinger, and check out Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/fmf142/ Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! CastBox introduces an in-audio search capability that offers a brand new way to search for podcasts you may love based on words or topics. Download CastBox for iOS or Android now to try it out for yourself! Turns out the comfiest and most sustainable shoes in the world are made of wool -- even Time Magazine said so. Try Allbirds' 30-day trial period wih free shipping and free returns this holiday season! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text AOC to 38470. We'll take you step by step to becoming better at making personal and professional connections, becoming a better networker, increasing your personal social capital and charisma. This is for both men and women! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kevin Rose (@kevinrose) founded social news site Digg, created fasting tracker Zero, made meditation app Oak, and hosts a podcast called The Kevin Rose Show where he explores how to reach peak personal and professional performance while living a minimal and balanced life. "The best ideas often sound extremely crazy to almost everyone...but not to the founder." -Kevin Rose The Cheat Sheet: What does Kevin Rose -- a serial entrepreneur who's experienced his own massive successes and failures -- look for when investing in a new startup? What current trends get Kevin excited about the future? What habits have helped Kevin recover from his own trysts with distraction, anxiety, and overall burnout? How do wearables actually help Kevin disconnect from the technology in his life? How is Kevin's new, free meditation app Oak different from the other meditation apps out there, and what features are on the horizon? And so much more... Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/672/ Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! As security breaches make headlines with increasing frequency, is your identity protected? Go to LifeLock.com or call 1-800-LIFELOCK and use promo code FORBES for 10% off your LifeLock membership! With an unmatched selection of audiobooks, original audio shows, news, and comedy, Audible is your best source for summertime entertainment. Art of Charm listeners: start a 30-day trial and download your first audiobook for free by going to audible.com/aoc here! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! By The Book is half reality show, half self-help podcast, and one wild social experiment. Join comedian Jolenta Greenberg and her skeptical friend Kristen Meinzer as they live by the rules of a different self-help book each episode to figure out which ones might actually be life changing. Check it out here or wherever you listen to podcasts. Free yourself from typing notes, reports, and documents by going with the transcriptionists we trust here at AoC: TranscriptionOutsourcing.net -- 99% or higher accuracy guaranteed! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Corbin Payne (@the_sue_chef), aka The Sue Chef, is a criminal defense attorney who explains why the innocent as well as the guilty should know how to interact with the police in a way that protects their own rights. The Cheat Sheet: What are your rights regarding search and seizure? Why shouldn't we allow the police to search our car or home without a warrant -- even if we think we have nothing to hide? Why should we exercise our right to remain silent -- even if we're innocent? Why would an innocent person ever need a lawyer present when talking to the police? How do you get the police to see your side of the story? And so much more... Full show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes// Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Rhone makes gear for the modern man who demands modern style, comfort, and quality. Click here or go to rhone.com and enter promo code CHARM at checkout to get 20% off your first purchase! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! DesignCrowd helps startups and small businesses crowdsource custom graphics, logos, Web design -- even tattoo designs! Check out DesignCrowd.com/Charm for a special $100 VIP offer for our listeners or enter the discount code CHARM when posting a project. By The Book is half reality show, half self-help podcast, and one wild social experiment. Join comedian Jolenta Greenberg and her skeptical friend Kristen Meinzer as they live by the rules of a different self-help book each episode to figure out which ones might actually be life changing. Check it out here or wherever you listen to podcasts. Free yourself from typing notes, reports, and documents by going with the transcriptionists we trust here at AoC: TranscriptionOutsourcing.net -- 99% or higher accuracy guaranteed! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away. Are you trying to understand the motivation behind someone's alleged actions? Here's an exercise from episode 651 guest Frank Sesno, author of Ask More: The Power of Questions to Open Doors, Uncover Solutions, and Spark Change. Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet: As a hypothetical scenario, imagine you're in charge of prosecuting someone charged with plagiarism. Simply asking if the subject is guilty is pointless -- they've already denied it. Instead, write down ten questions that are less directly confrontational. Examples: Why would somebody possibly do something like this? Why spend time doing something like this? Who would have the resources to do something like this? What resources do you think this person might have used? Would this have been difficult to do if you had been guilty and done it? Who might have wanted to make it look like you did it? What other plausible explanations are there? Asking these kinds of questions is a great way to figure out someone's motivations as well as getting them to build a narrative for you. Coming up with these types of questions -- even if you don't end up needing to ask them -- helps you think inside, outside, and underneath for a more complete picture of any scenario. To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text AOC to 38470. Also be sure to check out our Social Capital Intensive here! Let us know about how you put today's Minisode Monday into practice! Tweet with @TheArtofCharm in your response or write to Jordan directly: jordan@jordanharbinger.com (he actually reads everything)! Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/minisode-monday-80-ask-questions-uncover-motivation/ Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text AOC to 38470. We'll take you step by step to becoming better at making personal and professional connections, becoming a better networker, increasing your personal social capital and charisma. This is for both men and women! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Listen to The Art of Charm, Adam and Dr. Drew Show, and hundreds of your favorite podcasts with the free PodcastOne app (on iOS and Android) here! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode: What do you say when you meet a celebrity -- without being awkward? Is it still called imposter syndrome when you're an imposter by design? How do you tell a loved one their behavior is freaking you out? How do you help a sibling whose bad behavior is having a negative impact on the whole family? Should you have to take the lead when it comes to keeping in touch with family? Listener advice for people who need to collect from chronic check bouncers. Quick shoutouts to Teiki Kimball and Lena, and Korhan and Amber! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @TheArtofCharm and Instagram at @jordanharbinger, and check out Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/fmf141/ Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Learn over 500 subjects (no tests or homework!) at The Great Courses Plus -- The Art of Charm listeners get one month free here! By The Book is half reality show, half self-help podcast, and one wild social experiment. Join comedian Jolenta Greenberg and her skeptical friend Kristen Meinzer as they live by the rules of a different self-help book each episode to figure out which ones might actually be life changing. Check it out here or wherever you listen to podcasts. Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text AOC to 38470. We'll take you step by step to becoming better at making personal and professional connections, becoming a better networker, increasing your personal social capital and charisma. This is for both men and women! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices