For the 157th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Margo Steines, author of Brutalities: A Love Story.In this interview, we discuss Margo's experience as a dominatrix, sex work then vs. now, the toxic societal pressures on women's bodies in the 90s and how that resulted in eating disorders for both of us, her stint as a high-rise welder, advice she would give her former self about an abusive relationship, what it was like to be pregnant during the pandemic, how she feels about motherhood, and more.Here's the description of Brutalities:Quarantined in a southwestern desert city in the midst of her high-risk pregnancy, Margo Steines felt her life narrow around her growing body, compelling her to reckon with the violence entangled in its history. She was a professional dominatrix in New York City, a homestead farmer in a brutal relationship, a welder on a high-rise building crew, and a mixed martial arts enthusiast; each of her many lives brought a new perspective on how power and masculinity coalesce―and how far she could push her body toward the brink. With unflinching candor, Steines searches for the roots of her erstwhile attraction to pain while charting the complicated triumph of gentleness and love.For more from today's guest, Margo Steines: Buy Margo's book Brutalities: A Love Story Follow Margo on Instagram @redstateblues Follow Margo on Twitter @margosteines Check out Margo's website margosteines.com Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshowCourtney is also teaching the writing and publishing intensive of your dreams this July. It's called Midsummer Pitch Party, and it will definitely take your writing practice to the next level and help you land those dream bylines. To join the fun, head to courtneykocak.com/teaching and use code PRIVATE for $100 off.Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. Lume is a whole-body deodorant for pits, privates, and beyond. Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get $5 off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code PPU at lumedeodorant.com! #lumepod Bathmate is the world’s best-selling penis pump. Penis pumps might sound funny, but they’re actually an incredible tool to help you attain harder erections, erections when you want them, more intense orgasms, and they can even help you last longer. *Please note: results vary by user and use.* Bathmate is offering our listeners 10% off their first order when you go to https://www.bathmatedirect.com/PrivateParts. STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test. Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout. https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.comLet’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 156th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Tawny Lara, sober sexpert and author of Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze, for a conversation that might have you rethinking your relationship with alcohol.We discuss Tawny's sobriety journey and why she decided to document it, sex with alcohol vs. sex without alcohol, the role liquid courage plays in our romantic lives, ideas for non-awkward sober dates, tips for dating someone who doesn't drink, what to do if you're reevaluating your relationship with booze, and more.For more from today's guest, Tawny Lara: Subscribe to Tawny's Substack, Beyond Liquid Courage https://tawnylara.substack.com/welcome Follow Tawny on Instagram @tawnymlara Buy Tawny's book Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze Check out Tawny's new botanical beverage (parentheses) https://www.drinkparentheses.com/ Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshowPrivate Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. Factor’s ready-to-eat meal delivery takes the stress out of meal planning and sets you up for success in the new year. Head to factormeals.com/private50 and use code private50 to get 50% off. Lume is a whole-body deodorant for pits, privates, and beyond. Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get $5 off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code PPU at lumedeodorant.com! #lumepod STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test. Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout. https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.comLet’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 155th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Gabrielle Stone, author of Eat, Pray, #FML and host of FML Talk.If you've recently been dumped or are struggling to get over a past relationship, this episode is for you! This is the ultimate breakup recovery guide to help you not just survive but thrive after your breakup. No matter how desperate you feel or how embarrassing things have gotten with your ex, you CAN heal your heartbreak, and we'll tell you how.Gabrielle shares her incredible story with not one but two happy endings. We also discussed whether you should implement the no-contact rule, toxic relationships, love-bombing, the benefits of journaling through the pain, "the thought onion," why the length of your relationship doesn't always correspond to the level of post-breakup grief, and more.For more from today's guest, Gabrielle Stone: Check out Gabrielle's website eatprayfml.com Follow Gabrielle on Instagram @gabriellestone Buy Gabrielle's books Eat, Pray, #FML and The Ridiculous Misadventures of a Single Girl Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshowPrivate Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. Bathmate is the world’s best-selling penis pump. Penis pumps might sound funny, but they’re actually an incredible tool to help you attain harder erections, erections when you want them, more intense orgasms, and they can even help you last longer. *Please note: results vary by user and use.* Bathmate is offering our listeners 10% off their first order when you go to https://www.bathmatedirect.com/PrivateParts. STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test. Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout. https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.comLet’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 154th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Ian Kerner for a long-term relationship sex rut reboot.Dr. Ian Kerner is a nationally recognized sex therapist and author of the smash hit She Comes First and the recently released So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex. He also coined the term "cliteracy" and is a Sherlock Holmes of the bedroom—a sexual detective helping individuals and couples solve the mystery of why they're not f*cking like they wish they were. For more Ian Kerner: Order Ian's book So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex Follow Ian on Twitter @IanKerner Check out Ian's website iankerner.com Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshowPrivate Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. Bathmate is the world’s best-selling penis pump. Penis pumps might sound funny, but they’re actually an incredible tool to help you attain harder erections, erections when you want them, more intense orgasms, and they can even help you last longer. *Please note: results vary by user and use.* Bathmate is offering our listeners 10% off their first order when you go to https://www.bathmatedirect.com/PrivateParts. Flure is a dating app where fun, wild, and safe collide. Download the Flure app, set your relationship goals—whether it's a long-term thing or a rendezvous with a hot stud—be real, be shamelessly you, and I promise, you'll have a blast! flure.com STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test. Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout. https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.comLet’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 153rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Joey Tuccio, president and CEO of Roadmap Writers, for the final episode in our three-part series on pet loss.Have you ever lost a beloved pet? It’s the worst. Scientifically, it can be as hard to grieve a pet as a parent or a partner. I lost my beloved dog, Georgia, in early December, and it was so hard for me to process — that experience inspired this series. (If you missed part one with Cherie Doyen, listen here, and part two with Beth Bigler, listen here.)Joey Tuccio is heavily involved with animal rescue efforts, including saving abused dogs from Skid Row. Of course, we talk about pet loss and navigating the grief, but we also share how to get involved and make dogs' lives better, even if you can't take a dog into your home at the moment.For more Joey Tuccio: Follow Joey on Instagram @joey.tuccio Follow Joey on Twitter @joey_tuccio Check out the Roadmap Writers website roadmapwriters.com Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshowPrivate Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. Lume is a whole-body deodorant for pits, privates, and beyond. Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get $5 off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code PPU at lumedeodorant.com! #lumepod STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test. Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout. https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.comLet’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 152nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Beth Bigler, pet loss grief counselor and founder of Honoring Our Animals, for part two in a three-part series on pet loss.Have you ever lost a beloved pet? It’s the worst. Scientifically, it can be as hard to grieve a pet as a parent or a partner. I lost my beloved dog, Georgia, in early December, and it was so hard for me to process — that experience inspired this series. (If you missed part one with Cherie Doyen, listen here.)One of the things that really helped me shortly after Georgia passed away was discovering an Instagram account, @honoringouranimals. I got so much reassurance and validation just from following the account, so I knew I wanted to interview its creator, Beth Bigler, for this series on pet loss. And she did not disappoint.Beth is a double-certified pet loss grief counselor, certified end-of-life animal companion doula, and pet chaplain. She works with individuals and families before, during, and after the loss of their beloved animal companion. We had a super in-depth conversation. It was not a counseling session, but Beth is clearly really good at her job, and just talking to her for this interview helped me get over a big hump in my Georgia grief. I hope it helps you too. We discuss: What does pet loss counseling actually entail? The definition of disenfranchised grief Beth’s #1 euthanasia tip How to talk to your kids about pet loss How to know if you’re ready for a new pet The spiritual questions that death can bring up Navigating the lexicon of pet grief, including the Rainbow Bridge How to be a good ally to others experiencing pet loss How you can keep your deceased pet alive in your life For more Beth Bigler: Follow Beth on Instagram @honoringouranimals Check out the Honoring Our Animals website honoringouranimals.com (Pictured with Beth is her soul cat, Arnie.)Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshowPrivate Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test. Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout. https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.comLet’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 151st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Cherie Doyen of Quantum Therapeutix for part one in a three-part series on pet loss.Have you ever lost a beloved pet? It’s the worst. Scientifically, it can be as hard to grieve a pet as a parent or a partner. I lost my beloved dog, Georgia, in early December, and it was so hard for me to process — that experience inspired this series.Our first guest is Cherie Doyen, one of my best friend’s mom and a professional healer. In this conversation, Cherie explains a bit about her work healing complex trauma. We also talk about grieving our beloved dogs — my Georgia and her Nina — our dogs as protectors and the best friends we could ever have, pets mourning other pets, being visited by your dog's spirit, how hard euthanasia is for pet owners, and the fraught experience of getting another pet (or "calling in your next guide," as Cherie says.)For more Cherie Doyen: Follow Cherie on Instagram @cheriedoyen Buy Cherie's book The Chronicles of Tigua Buy Cherie's book Junebug Check out the Quantum Therapeutix website quantumtherapeutix.com Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshowPrivate Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. Factor’s ready-to-eat meal delivery takes the stress out of meal planning and sets you up for success in the new year. Head to factormeals.com/private50 and use code private50 to get 50% off. STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test. Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout. https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.comLet’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 150th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak speaks to Ashley Madison's Chief Strategy Officer, Paul Keable, to discuss the company's 2024 trend forecast. TL;DR: Non-monogamy is on the rise, but it's playing out differently from generation to generation.Tune in to learn how Gen Z, Millennials, Gen X, and Boomers are approaching polyamory, open relationships, and affairs with their unique generational flare. And how gender equality factors into the changes. Plus, can an affair ever save a marriage?Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshowPrivate Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. Lume is a whole-body deodorant for pits, privates, and beyond. Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get $5 off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code PPU at lumedeodorant.com! #lumepod STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test. Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout. https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.comLet’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 149th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak speaks to Ashley Madison's Communications Director, Isabella Mise, who coauthored "The Good Wife Study" on female infidelity for the final installation in our three-part series on why women cheat.For part one, we heard from an Ashley Madison member going by the alias of "Nikki" to kick off the series. Part two was a conversation with Ashley Madison's Chief Strategy Officer, Paul Keable. (This series also featured former co-host Sofiya Alexandra.) You're gonna want to check your presumptions at the door for this one!Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshowPrivate Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. Factor’s ready-to-eat meal delivery takes the stress out of meal planning and sets you up for success in the new year. Head to factormeals.com/private50 and use code private50 to get 50% off. STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test. Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout. https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.comLet’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 148th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak speaks to Ashley Madison's Chief Strategy Officer, Paul Keable, to continue our three-part series on why women cheat.Last week, we heard from an Ashley Madison member going by the alias of "Nikki" to kick off the series. Next week, for the final installation, you'll hear from Ashley Madison Communications Director Isabella Mise, who coauthored "The Good Wife Study" on female infidelity. (This series also features former co-host Sofiya Alexandra.) You're gonna want to check your presumptions at the door for this one!Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshowPrivate Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com. STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test. Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout. https://linktr.ee/PrivatePartsUnknownAds If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.comLet’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices