For the 28th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – does their 1st foray into guestlessness (don't worry, we'll be back with a guest next ep!) to review the personal & professional strides each has made over the past year, along with some goals for 2019. Among the revelations: Dave (finally!) has a girlfriend, Sofiya gives her best surrogate update yet & Courtney's rejection resolution was a big success. We also talk about our favorite interviews of the season: Michael Feldman & Michael Rachlis, Reza Aslan & Jessica Jackley, Greg Behrendt & Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt, Ryan Singer, Ester Steinberg, Biniam Bizuneh, Jack O'Brien & Miles Gray of The Daily Zeitgeist... gah, all of our guests have been so amazing, it's really hard to choose!   For more Reality Bytes: Follow Reality Bytes on Instagram @realitybytespod Follow Reality Bytes on Twitter @realitybytespod Like Reality Bytes on Facebook @realitybytespod Follow Courtney on Instagram @courtneykocak Follow Courtney on Twitter @courtneykocak Follow Sofiya on Instagram @thesofiya Follow Sofiya on Twitter @thesofiya Follow Dave on Instagram @ddranks Follow Dave on Twitter @saysdaverankin If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 27th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is down a Dave, but nonetheless thrilled to welcome Alexandra Fine, the co-founder & CEO of Dame Products, a Brooklyn-based sex toy company. First: Inspired by reading "5 Sex Trends You Totally Don't Have to Like (or Even Try!)" on Dame's aptly-titled blog "The Horizontal," Courtney & Sofiya unpack their personal preferences for five different sex trends – anal sex; threesomes, group sex, polyamory & other sorts of open relationships; intense stimulation (DOUBLE YES!!); shower sex; BDSM & heavy kink play. Then: Alex fills us in on Dame's origin story & her trajectory into the women's pleasure profession. We also talk about conversations surrounding sex in the workplace during the #MeToo movement when sex IS your business, sexual harassment vs. humans are innately sexual beings, advertising's gender bias, marriage, the necessary work of cultivating the erotic energy in a long-term relationship, our natural addiction to newness, nonmonogamy, terminology to better explain & explore modes of pleasure (orbiting, layering, edging & grounding – thanks OMGYes!) & the company's Kickstarter success. This episode is brought to you by Dame Products. Visit dameproducts.com & use code REALITY to save $10 off your order!   For more Alex Fine: Follow Alex on Instagram @afinehuman Follow Alex on Twitter @afinehuman Follow Dame Products on Instagram @dameproducts Follow Dame Products on Twitter @dameproducts If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 26th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome the hosts of the Love in Limboland podcast Kudzi & Tiffany. First: The triad discusses our tendencies to stay friends with exes vs. banishing them to the dark side of the moon. We also talk about jealousy & the chillness that comes from being secure in your relationship. Then: We get into it with Kudzi & Tiffany about cultural differences between South Africa & the United States, the contrasting tone of race relations in both places, living in the bubble of Los Angeles, being work friends before starting their podcast, bringing a date to the holiday party gone wrong, Watergate: The Great Manners vs. Independent Woman Debate, who should pay for the 1st date, being bad a texting as a dating dealbreaker, how to keep the momentum going without wasting a ton of time texting, the importance of taking it offline as soon as possible, qualities they're each looking for in a potential partner, how long it takes to feel comfortable being vulnerable in a relationship, the riskiness of saying 'I love you' 1st, finding the right crazy-stable ratio in relationship dynamics, dating multiple people & their LA dating horror stories.   For more Kudzi & Tiffany: Listen to their podcast Love in Limboland (Courtney's on the latest ep!) Follow Love in Limboland on Instagram @loveinlimboland Follow Kudzi on Instagram @iamkudzi Follow Tiffany on Instagram @tiffstips If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 25th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome standup comedian & host of the Me & Paranormal You podcast Ryan Singer to talk about his new comedy album Free Love (now available for free!!!). First: The triad talks about that super annoying phenomenon where neurotic people (aka us) will take a little offhand comment someone makes & blow it completely out-of-proportion in their minds. Then: Ryan shares why he calls his podcast a mindcast (thus inspiring us to start calling Reality Bytes a genitalcast), his experience with a lowkey STD called Molluscum (whaddya know, Dave's also had Molluscum!), how he's overcoming his fear of intimacy & abandonment issues, his foray into a serious relationship for the 1st time in seven years, how to stay friends with exes & former hookups, why our society's weird POV on male/female friendship is so wack, a hot tip for younger men, the difference between dark mystery vs. fun mystery, why The Notebook is actually a fucked up standard for romance, the real-life implications of depicting women characters as nagging bitches in film & TV, the dangerous impact of social media & dating apps on social skills when it comes to dating & relationships, exhibitionism as a kink & how he got kicked off Tinder.   For more Ryan Singer: Download his comedy album Free Love (for free!) Listen to his podcast Me & Paranormal You Follow him on Twitter @rysing Follow him on Instagram @rysing If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 24th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome the hosts of the Almost 30 podcast Krista Williams & Lindsey Simcik. First: The triad got a very poignant, special message from a fan this week (thank YOU, you know who you are). We talk about feeling lost, the journey of finding oneself again, and the church of Cheryl Strayed (praise be!). Then: Krista & Lindsey share their most impactful Almost 30 interviews to date (hello, Dan Savage & John Wineland), a more sympathetic way to think about infidelity, what it's like to change at different rates within a relationship, the excitement & fear of having babies, the influence of their parents' relationships on their own, how they reframe sexual harassment & #MeToo-type situations without adding shame, the stifling effect of outrage culture, how they knew right away their connection was special, what it's like to work together & the keys to a successful partnership. This episode is brought to you by Ritual vitamins. Check out ritual.com/reality to try Ritual – happiness guaranteed, or your 1st month's on them!   For more Krista Williams & Linsey Simcik: Listen to their podcast Almost 30 Follow Almost 30 on Instagram @almost30podcast Follow Krista on Instagram @hundredblog Follow Lindsey on Instagram @lindseysimcik If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 23rd episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome Jenna Birch, author of The Love Gap: A Radical Plan to Win in Life and Love & co-founder/CEO of the new dating app Plum, which launches December 1st. First: The triad raves about the Doc Johnson factory tour, including meeting their Leonardo da Vinci of dildos, artist Anjani Siddhartha. Courtney & Sofiya share how fun it was to get their pussies molded, while Dave "Sad Dick" Rankin relives one of his top 3 most awkward moments – aka the erotic horror story of getting his penis molded – & reveals his unsuccessful "Big Dick Daddy" self-talk. Then: Jenna explains the impetus for her book, the interview process involved in its writing, the definition of "End Goal" woman & the types of men she's likely to encounter in the dating pool, the correlation between feminism & hypermasculinity, her relationship status & the unique features of her new dating app Plum (download it on December 1st!!!). Plus, Dave shares his San Diego theory.   For more Jenna Birch: Read The Love Gap: A Radical Plan to Win in Life and Love Download the Plum dating app Follow her on Twitter @jennabirch Follow her on Instagram @jennabirch If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 22th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome the hosts of the HowStuffWorks podcast The Daily Zeitgeist Jack O'Brien (who also co-founded Cracked.com) & Miles Gray to talk becoming a dad & finally being with someone who challenges you, respectively. First: The triad gives a glowing review of the "Beastie Boys Book: Live & Direct" tour, Dave fills us in on his new apartment & we talk about sleepover expectations for hookups vs. relationships.   Then: The Daily Zeitgeist fellas go deep with us about Jack proposing to his now wife, their wedding announcement rejection from The New York Times, how having kids has deepened their relationship, the ways fatherhood has changed him, the growth Miles has unlocked by being with a partner who challenges him, talking to his mom about #MeToo, his days in a rap group with Shia LaBeouf (!!!), the importance of being true to yourself in a relationship, the intangible effects of your parents staying together vs. splitting, the concept of "the one" & the derivatives of tech-induced loneliness (cuddle parties, sugar babies, podcast communities, etc.). Plus, Miles busts a rhyme!   This episode is brought to you by Solmar Hotels & Resorts. Check out solmar.com for booking & more information!   For more Jack O'Brien & Miles Gray: Listen to their podcast The Daily Zeitgeist Follow Jack on Twitter @jack_obrien Follow Miles on Twitter @milesofgray If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 21st episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome power couple Reza Aslan (religion scholar & author of God, Zealot & more) & Jessica Jackley (co-founder of microlending company Kiva.org & author of Clay Water Brick). First: The triad talks about women still being defined by their attachment to a man despite advances in gender equality & the decision whether or not to change your last name.   Then: Reza & Jessica open up about being introduced via email, their TED Talk "Higher Love," raising boys with consent culture, challenging previous relationships, serial monogamy, dating after a sexless relationship, sowing wild oats, Reza's 1st three trigger-happy engagements, Jessica's post-divorce Eat Pray Love phase, realizing they wanted to commit to each other, getting pregnant right away, their surprise wedding (to the 3rd power), marriage counseling, being an interfaith couple, fostering a multifaith family, the distinction between religion & faith, traveling around the world with their kids & how they talk to their kids about sex & sexuality (hot tip: get the book It's So Amazing! by Robie H. Harris to start the conversation).   This episode is brought to you by Solmar Hotels & Resorts. Check out solmar.com for booking & more information!   For more Reza Aslan & Jessica Jackley: Watch their TED Talk "Higher Love" Read their blog Around the World in 80-ish Days Check out Reza's website Check out Jessica's website Follow Reza on Twitter @rezaslan Follow Jessica on Twitter @jessicajackley If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 20th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome Delanie Fischer, co-host of The Self-Helpless Podcast & founder/CEO of Dicks by Delanie. First: Courtney & Sofiya check in on the blowjob challenge. Dave is blown away by their updates! We also talk about going to bed at the same time as your partner. Then: Delanie does a deep dive with us on finding her way into a happy relationship after being single for a long time, her hit podcast’s origin story, favorite podcast moments including interviewing Brian Regan (the nicest comedian ever), her fuckboy days, turning a hookup into a LTR, her self-help journey, being really in love for the first time, moving in together, getting comfortable, growing up in Simi Valley, being homeschooled during high school & having older friends, her party days, starting standup, then realizing she wanted to quit, the awkwardness of a career identity shift, limiting beliefs about work & money, quitting her corporate job to draw dicks full-time, her art aspirations coming full circle, masturbating with her #1 favorite sex toy the Hitachi Magic Wand, Whiskey clit, landing a numbers guy from the Midwest & deciding whether or not to have kids.   This episode is brought to you by Ritual vitamins. Check out ritual.com/reality to try Ritual – happiness guaranteed, or your 1st month's on them!   For more Delanie Fischer: Listen to The Self-Helpless Podcast Order a personalized penis mug from Dicks by Delanie Follow her on Instagram @delaniefischer Follow her on Twitter @DelanieFischer If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 19th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome Tito Bonito, aka "the Cuban Missile Crisis of burlesque," a male burlesque performer & hilarious emcee. First: The triad talks about their stripper fantasies, nude work experience & shared obsession with 80s masterpiece Dirty Dancing – plus pay homage to Jennifer Grey's original nose.  Then: Tito spills the tea about the burlesque scene in LA & across the United States, how dropping out of Columbia College led to trying drag for the 1st time, why drag wasn't his thing, finding his voice in burlesque, playing with masculinity & femininity on stage, consent as it applies to crowd work, the difference between the comedy in standup and burlesque, audience feedback, flirting with straight guys after shows, his favorite costumes including Batman's Robin, a boy scout & his "problematic" Elián González character, when he realized he was gay, coming out to his Cuban family, his relationship status (hint: single AF), being demisexual, his type & the joys of having of a prostate.  For more Tito Bonito: Check out his website Follow him on Instagram @cubanmissilecrisis Follow him on Twitter @TitoBonito If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices