The Penis Project Podcast: Breaking Taboos in Men’s Sexual Health

In this powerful and uplifting episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett is joined by Dr Jane Foster, an educator and author who’s spent more than 40 years helping people understand and manage their emotions.  Jane’s groundbreaking “steering-wheel” metaphor teaches us that while we can’t control life’s bumpy roads, we can control how we steer through them. Her simple, evidence-based approach to emotional resilience encourages us to replace judgment and blame with choice and responsibility.  Together, Melissa and Jane explore how our emotions, stress responses, and everyday habits shape mental and physical well-being — from coping with anxiety and overwhelm to managing relationship challenges and recovering from life’s rough patches.   In This Episode, We Cover:  How emotional resilience begins with understanding your “steering wheel” — you choose how you respond.  Why rough roads (stress, setbacks, grief) are vital for personal growth.  The importance of shifting language: swapping “good and bad” for “rough and smooth” to remove self-judgment.  Jane’s research on how simple daily SMS reminders transformed emotional well-being — and even saved lives.  The concept of TEPS and PETS: identifying everyday triggers (TEPS) and creating healthy coping strategies (PETS).  How partners can use this model to communicate better and manage intimacy challenges after illness or surgery.  Practical tools for dealing with overwhelm, from mindful breathing to setting boundaries and creating space for recovery.    Key Takeaways:   You can’t control the road, but you can control your steering.  Emotional resilience is a skill — built by practicing calm responses on life’s rough roads.  Reframing our language reduces guilt and self-criticism, improving relationships and mental health.  Stress, anger, and anxiety aren’t “bad” — they’re part of a healthy pulse of life.  Small daily actions (your PETS) can prevent emotional overload and support long-term well-being.  Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett  Melissa reflects on how Jane’s approach can be applied in men’s health — especially for those recovering from prostate cancer or experiencing sexual dysfunction.  Learning to recognize emotional “rough roads” and respond with awareness can make a huge difference to physical recovery, relationship harmony, and confidence.    Resources & Links:  Dr Jane Foster  Website: emotionalresiliencetraining.com.au  Book: It’s In Your Hands – Your Steering Wheel, Your Choice (available via website & Audible)  Follow Jane on Instagram, Facebook & LinkedIn  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  LinkedIn: Melissa Hadley Barrett  Connect With Us    We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.     Email: admin@rshealth.com.au    Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett    Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814    Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

In this Episode which marks the 5th anniversary of the Penis Project Podcast, Kate and Melissa, practitioners from Restorative Health Clinic talk to Kirk (59), who shares his very recent journey with prostate cancer — from vigilant PSA screening due to a strong family history, through biopsy and robotic prostatectomy(Gleason 9), to an unusually swift return of continence and erections (yes, really… at 5 weeks!). We chat about why a good GP relationship matters, common myths (no, PSA screening is not a finger-up-the-bum), and practical rehab steps that set you up for the best outcome. We also touch on the challenges recent Medicare telehealth changes pose for rural men and why community conversations save lives.  Key Takeaways:     PSA screening saves lives: It’s a blood test. Many men still believe screening means a rectal exam — that misconception stops blokes from testing.  Early and regular checks matter, especially with family history. Kirk and his GP were “on it,” which likely changed his trajectory.  Rehab starts before surgery: Pre-op pelvic floor coaching and early, structured penile rehab support faster continence and sexual recovery.  Expectations matter: Being clear about how important sex is to you helps the team tailor a plan (medications, devices, or injections) so intimacy continues post-treatment.  Modern prostate cancer care is not what it was 20 years ago — minimally invasive surgery, targeted radiation, and better side-effect profiles.  Episode Highlights  Family history matters: Kirk, a 59-year-old anaesthetist, always knew prostate cancer was a “when, not if.” Vigilant PSA screening caught it early.  PSA test = blood test: Many men still mistakenly think screening means a rectal exam — this myth stops blokes from testing.  Gleason upgrade: Biopsy showed 7, but post-surgery pathology was 9 — reinforcing why early surgery was lifesaving.  GPs are gold: A trusted GP relationship ensures timely checks and continuity of care.  Rehab starts before surgery: Pelvic floor exercises and penile rehab education gave Kirk the best start.  Fast recovery: At 5 weeks post-op, Kirk is dry, pad-free, and already regaining erectile function with support strategies.  Community conversations: Kirk shared his diagnosis with ice-hockey teammates — most had no idea PSA was just a blood test.  Rural barriers: Medicare telehealth changes risk limiting access for country men as of November 1st 2025 — highlighting the importance of policy that supports remote care.  Positive outlook: Kirk’s story proves recovery can be quicker than many expect, and modern treatments offer far better outcomes than in the past.  Take-home message: Don’t wait for symptoms — get your PSA blood test done and talk to your mates about it.  Shareable quotes  “Good news — PSA screening is a blood test. That’s it.”  “Pre-hab matters: start pelvic floor and penile rehab before surgery.”  “Sex after prostate cancer is absolutely possible — the toolkit is bigger and better than ever.”  “Men will talk footy all day — let’s talk our health the same way.”    Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us  We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.     Email: admin@rshealth.com.au    Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett    Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814    Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA     

In this episode of The Penis Project podcast, Melissa sits down with world-leading urologist Dr Landon Trost to unpack Peyronie’s disease, traction therapy, and what’s next in men’s sexual health. Dr Trost shares his journey from training under Professor Wayne Hellstrom to leading research and innovation in Peyronie’s management, fertility, and penile rehabilitation. Together they explore the Restorex device, emerging treatments, and the vital role of early intervention. Episode Overview: What Peyronie’s disease is and how common it really is How to tell the difference between a natural curve and a problem curve The new classification system for penile curvature The psychological impact of Peyronie’s, including anxiety and dysmorphic disorder Restorex traction therapy – why it works when others don’t The importance of early treatment vs “waiting until stable” What options exist when surgery is (or isn’t) the right answer Partner perspectives and how relationships are affected Emerging therapies, from nutraceuticals to genetic testing Where treatment might head over the next decade Key Takeaways: Peyronie’s is often under-diagnosed and misunderstood. Not all curves are Peyronie’s – some are congenital or age-related and not necessarily a problem. Restorex is unique in its ability to generate therapeutic force and counter-bend effectively. Early intervention with traction, PDE5 inhibitors (like sildenafil), and anti-inflammatories may prevent progression. Surgery is effective but comes with risks and regret can be high – conservative options should be maximised first. The psychological toll is often greater than the physical curve – reassurance, partner involvement, and counselling are vital. Future treatments may include new collagenase drugs, natural compounds, and even gene-based therapies.   Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett:   At Restorative Health Clinic, we see many men early in their Peyronie’s journey. This conversation reinforced the importance of not dismissing early symptoms. Doing “something” – whether traction, PDE5 therapy, or anti-inflammatories – can help men feel in control, protect their erections, and preserve penile length. Just as you wouldn’t ignore a broken bone, Peyronie’s deserves timely care.   Resources & Links: Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com Dr Landon Trost https://malefertilityandpeyroniesclinic.com/about/ To access references that were mentioned by Dr Trost in this episode please go to https://malefertilityandpeyroniesclinic.com/about/ and scroll to the bottom of the page. Listen & Subscribe If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app. Connect With Us We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.   Email: admin@rshealth.com.au Websites: https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders https://makehardeasy.com.au https://melissahadleybarrett.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett   Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814   Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/  TEDX https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA  

In this raw and refreshingly honest episode of The Penis Project podcast, Melissa chats with Mitch—a 21-year-old who opens up about his journey with primary premature ejaculation (PE). From rural farm life and open family chats to medication mishaps and sexual self-esteem struggles, Mitch shares his experience with warmth and humour.  Mitch talks about:  Growing up with PE and its emotional toll  Navigating sexual intimacy and relationships as a young man  His experience with online men’s health services like Pilot  The turning point that led him to seek help at Restorative Health Clinic  Finding the right treatment—and relief—through personalised care  This episode is a must-listen for any man who's felt alone with PE, and for partners or parents who want to better understand the experience from a younger male’s perspective.   In This Episode, We Cover:  What it’s like living with lifelong (primary) premature ejaculation  How a father’s prostate cancer treatment led to a cheeky encounter with penile injections—and eventually helped Mitch seek help  The cost, pros and cons of online health platforms like Pilot  Why in-person or telehealth consults with a practitioner can make all the difference  The emotional impact of PE: shame, self-doubt, and how it affects confidence in and out of the bedroom  The power of humour and honesty in breaking sexual health stigma  Key Takeaways:  PE can affect men of all ages—including young blokes—and it’s more common than you think.  Medication isn’t one-size-fits-all. Finding the right dose and drug with a skilled clinician can be life-changing.  Open conversations with family, partners, and mates can reduce shame and build resilience.  Telehealth can be a more accessible, cost-effective way to get specialist support—especially in rural areas.  Tackling PE early builds long-term sexual confidence and can improve relationships.  Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett:  Premature ejaculation can feel devastating for men, but it’s both common and treatable. We see men every day at Restorative Health Clinic who’ve been told to “just relax” or “it’ll go away with age,” but that doesn’t always happen. Treatment is individual and may include:  Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs)  Behavioural therapy  Mindfulness and arousal control strategies  Support for partners to reduce pressure and enhance intimacy  Every man deserves to enjoy sex without anxiety—and we’re here to help you do just that.    Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au   Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.     Email: admin@melissahadleybarrett.com    Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   http://prost.com.au/   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett    Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814    Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

In this episode, Melissa chats with David, who was diagnosed with prostate cancer in 2023 and underwent a prostatectomy. David candidly shares his journey—how a routine PSA test led to a life-saving diagnosis, what recovery was really like, and how he’s taken a scientific, data-driven approach to his penile rehabilitation.  With warmth, wit and wisdom, David opens up about his experience with erectile dysfunction (ED), continence concerns, vacuum pump rehab, and using the FirmTech ring to monitor nocturnal erections—describing it as a “FitBit for your dick.” He also talks about the importance of talking openly about men's health and encouraging others, including his sons and mates, to get checked early.  In This Episode, We Cover:  Why tracking PSA trends—not just the number—can save lives  David’s experience with no symptoms and the surprise diagnosis  The emotional toll and stigma around ED and incontinence post-surgery  Why using a penile pump isn’t weird—it’s essential rehab  Real-world side effects of tablets vs low-dose daily Tadalafil  Monitoring erections with FirmTech and what the data can reveal  The surprising link between erectile function, heart health, and alcohol  The power of talking: How David's openness has led others to get tested  Tips for men navigating life post-prostatectomy  Why your penis might be the first clue your heart’s in trouble  Key Takeaways:  Prostate cancer is often silent—many men have no symptoms at all.  Early detection matters. David’s long-term PSA monitoring saved his life.  Erectile rehab works best when started early. Pumps, Tadalafil, and data help.  Talking saves lives. One conversation might be what pushes someone to get checked.  Nocturnal erections are a sign of good health—and you can measure them.  FirmTech isn’t just about sex—it's a window into your cardiovascular system.   Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett:  “As a sexologist and nurse practitioner, I see too many men suffer in silence after prostate cancer. David’s story shows that recovery is possible—with data, determination and a bit of humour. Erectile function is not just about sex—it’s a vital sign of your overall health. So yes, monitoring your function might just save your life.”    Listen & Subscribe:  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review! Your feedback helps us spread the word about men’s health and break down stigma. Find us on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite app by searching “The Penis Project Podcast.”  Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our experienced sexual health team at Restorative Health Clinic    Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   http://prost.com.au/     Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814    Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA   

In this milestone 200th episode, the tables are turned as Dr Amy Pearlman interviews The Penis Project's own Melissa Hadley Barrett. From wet hair and time zone mix-ups to powerful patient stories and favourite sex toys, this episode is a heartwarming, hilarious, and deeply honest look into what Melissa has learned after 200 interviews about penises, pleasure, relationships, and recovery. Amy has been a popular guest on The Penis Project and a friend and colleague to Melissa over the past few years and for something different the tables have turned, and Amy is interviewing Melissa to see what she has learnt being a part of The Penis Project community for 200 episodes and just under 5 years of posting. On the 14th of September the Penis Project will have been live for 5 years. This may not seem like a long time for most people but for Melissa it has been huge. Keeping the interviews coming and arranging editing and show notes etc. whilst running a busy growing practice has been hard but worth it, and she has learnt way more from her patients and interviewees than she thought possible.   Together, Melissa and Amy explore:  How a podcast that began during COVID lockdowns with Melissa and Dr Jo Milios (Physiotherapist) and then without realising became a global resource for men’s health  Why it’s time to stop joking about penises and start listening  The emotional side of male sexuality and how assumptions miss the mark  What men really want after prostate cancer (hint: it isn’t just erections)  How patients have reshaped Melissa’s clinical approach over time  Products that have changed lives—and a few that scared her husband  New conversations about sounding, Tantra, and intimacy beyond intercourse  What Melissa hopes to do with the next 200 episodes—and who she dreams she will interview next and her dream to be interviewed by….  In This Episode, We Cover:  How the podcast began as a way to help patients and became so much more  Learning from patients about loss, masculinity, and connection  Rethinking the urgency of "getting it up" and embracing broader definitions of intimacy  The importance of not making assumptions as clinicians  Sex toys and tools Melissa now recommends—and the ones she avoids  What a Tantra workshop has taught her about relationships  Sounding: safety, stigma, and why we need to talk about it  The power of podcasts to create change and community connection  Key Takeaways:  Empathy, humour and curiosity matter more than bravado  Real stories help others feel seen, supported, and less alone  Sexual health is about connection, not just erections  There is no one-size-fits-all solution, but there is always a way forward  Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett: "My goal is to open up the conversation. Whether it’s about erectile dysfunction, sex after cancer, or pleasure in new ways. Men and their partners deserve honest support and practical options. This podcast has become my passion project, and it’s changed how I practice. Most of all I want to thank the people who have let us interview them for sharing stories and teaching me so much I could never have learnt from a book or another health professional. I hope my patients and listeners realise how important they are to me, my growth as a human and as a health professional."  Useful Mentions:  FirmTech erection ring ("Fitbit for your dick")https://rshealth.com.au/shop/p/firmtech-techring , Manta by The Fun Factory  https://rshealth.com.au/shop/p/fun-factory-manta-deep-sea-blue   VaxAid pump – TGA approved hydro pump for ED  Tantra retreats by Sanctuary of Ananda  Beaming Beaver organic lubricant  My Ilo Australian-designed sex toys  Steve "The Poet Who Didn't Know It" and his book Words Woke Me    Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au   Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.   Email: admin@melissahadleybarrett.com    Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   http://prost.com.au/   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett    Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814    Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

In this episode, Melissa is joined by Dr. Eric Chung, to dive deep into a topic that many men feel too embarrassed to ask about: tight/painful/unretractable foreskin- phimosis. Whether you've never been able to retract your foreskin or it's become tight and uncomfortable later in life, you're not alone—and you're not without options. This issue affects 2-6% of men worldwide.  This episode explores the two main types of phimosis, how to recognise it, what causes it, and what treatments are available beyond circumcision, including the innovative Novoglan device. They also bust myths around hygiene, sensitivity, and when tight foreskin becomes a medical emergency.  This is a must-listen for anyone experiencing foreskin issues, for clinicians wanting better tools for patient care, and for partners who want to understand more about this issue.  In This Episode, We Cover:  What phimosis is—and why it only affects uncircumcised men  The difference between congenital phimosis and BXO (balanitis xerotica obliterans)  Common causes: scarring, trauma, infection, and stretching injuries  What is Novoglan and how does it work to gently treat phimosis?  Why circumcision isn’t the only answer?  Risks of ignoring phimosis—urinary issues, infections, and paraphimosis  How tight foreskin can cause sexual dysfunction and distress  The role of steroids and soap-free hygiene in treatment  Empowering men to make informed choices about their bodies     Key Takeaways:  You’re not alone. Phimosis is common but often hidden behind shame.  Not all tight foreskins need to be cut. Devices like Novoglan offer non-surgical options.  BXO is a progressive condition. Early management can preserve both function and comfort.  Paraphimosis is a medical emergency. Know the signs and don’t delay seeking help.  Sexual function is more than physical. The psychological impacts of phimosis are real and valid.  Gentle hygiene is key. Avoid soaps—use warm water and a cotton cloth to keep things clean and healthy.   Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett:  “As a nurse practitioner and sexologist, I see firsthand how foreskin issues like phimosis affect not just a man’s body, but his confidence, relationships, and sexual wellbeing. The good news is—we can help. There’s more to treatment than just circumcision, and men deserve options, dignity, and evidence-based care. That’s what we’re all about at Restorative Health Clinic.”    Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au   The Penis Project podcast Episode 107- Penis Skin Conditions with Dermatologist Dr Ahmed  Check out our Youtube for more information on phimosis  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.    Listener Offer:  Available in Australia and worldwide – shop vis www.rshealth.com   Use code TPP10 for 10% off  Global Access:  Australia: Ships via Restorative Health Clinic    Connect With Us  We love hearing from real people navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.   Email: admin@melissahadleybarrett.com  Website: www.rshealth.com.au    Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   http://prost.com.au/   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814    Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA     

In this episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Nurse Practitioner and Sexologist Melissa Hadley Barrett chats with Mish Middelmann — a prostate cancer survivor, men’s leadership coach, and founder of The Recovering Man. Mish is also the author of a book about sex beyond erections, called Beyond Erections - reclaiming sexual pleasure and intimacy with erectile differences. Diagnosed with prostate cancer in 2019, Mish shares his raw and insightful journey of treatment, recovery, and rebuilding life as a man post-cancer. From Johannesburg to Canada, his story spans continents and emotions — and ultimately, his experience led him to create a space for other men navigating the often-silent challenges of prostate cancer recovery.  Mish now supports men and their partners through personalised coaching, offering emotional guidance, tools for self-reinvention, and a path toward rediscovering identity and intimacy. He also speaks about the recent release of his book — including why the original title sparked controversy and was later renamed.    In This Episode, We Cover:  Mish’s prostate cancer diagnosis and the decisions he faced  The physical and psychological recovery process after treatment  How prostate cancer affects male identity, sexuality, and relationships  The importance of support networks for both men and their partners  His work as a men’s health coach and the creation of The Recovering Man  The evolving conversation around masculinity, vulnerability, and healing  Insights from his newly released book on finding sexual pleasure without relying on hard erections.   Key Takeaways:  Life after prostate cancer is about more than just surviving — it’s about reclaiming who you are. Mish encourages men to explore healing not only of the body but also of self-image, connection, and purpose.    Resources & Links:  Book a confidential consult, in clinic or on telehealth, with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au   Visit The Recovering Man: https://www.recoveringman.net/  – Coaching, articles, and resources for men navigating life after prostate cancer.   Book by Mish Middelmann: Beyond Erections available as paperback or eBook. Details at www.beyonderections.com/book.   Learn more about men’s sexual health services: www.rshealth.com.au  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to follow, subscribe to the podcast and help us reach more men by rating and reviewing the show. Because penile health matters — and it’s time we talked about it.  Connect With Us  We love hearing from real people navigating penile health—just like Mish. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@melissahadleybarrett.com  Website: www.rshealth.com.au  Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   http://prost.com.au/     Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814    Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

In this special episode, Melissa connects with longtime friend and renowned psychosomatic therapist Frida, founder of Body Nature Therapies in Byron Bay. Frida shares her personal and professional journey—from a background in fine arts to pioneering her Body Mapping Method, a therapeutic process that bridges the body-mind connection.  Frida explains what psychosomatic therapy really is (hint: it’s simpler than you think!), and how disconnection between body and mind often lies at the root of illness, fatigue, and sexual dysfunction. With wisdom grounded in yoga, Ayurveda, remedial bodywork, and Eastern and Western healing philosophies, she shares how aligning your physical form can profoundly impact your mental and emotional wellbeing.  From postural alignment to pelvic floor balance and the power of the breath, this conversation uncovers the life-changing benefits of reconnecting to your body—especially for men dealing with erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, or post-cancer recovery.  In This Episode, We Cover:  What is psychosomatic therapy—and how can it help?  Frida’s journey from artist to bodyworker to therapist  The Body Mapping Method: what it is, how it works, and why it’s so powerful  How posture and muscle tone affect sexual function, stress, and overall health  Real-life client transformations through simple body realignment and breathwork  Why balance (front/back, top/bottom) in the body is essential—especially for men  The link between gym routines, hypertonic pelvic floors, and erectile dysfunction  Why breath is the unsung hero of healing and optimal sexual health  Key Takeaways:  Your body tells a story. Posture and breath reflect your stress, habits, and mindset.  Balance matters. Overtraining visible muscles while neglecting the rest (like glutes and pelvic floor) can contribute to erectile dysfunction and pain.  Small tweaks, big impact. Conscious breathing, posture correction, and gentle movement can lead to major improvements in wellbeing and sexual health.  The body remembers. Emotional trauma can live in our tissues; releasing it through bodywork can be incredibly healing.  Self-agency is powerful. When you understand your body, you reclaim the power to heal.    Expert Insights:  “You are not a sum of disconnected parts—you are one beautiful, functional whole.”  — Melissa Hadley Barrett  “The breath connects everything. Your nervous system depends on the frequency and depth of the breath.”  — Frida  About Frida & Body Nature Therapies:  Frida is a psychosomatic therapist, yoga teacher, remedial massage practitioner, and artist. She founded Body Nature Therapies in 2004 and developed the unique Body Mapping Method, a process that uses illustrated posture analysis to help people visually reconnect with their bodies.  With decades of experience and a deep passion for self-empowerment and natural healing, Frida helps clients access lasting change—physically, mentally, and emotionally.   Learn more: Instagram - @body_nature_therapies  Available for online consultations https://bodynature.org/     Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au    https://bodynature.org/  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us:  If you’d like to share your journey, special skills or ask a question, get in touch.   Email: admin@melissahadleybarrett.com  Website: www.rshealth.com.au  Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   http://prost.com.au/     Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814    Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

In this refreshingly honest episode, Melissa chats with the inspiring and trailblazing Dr. Amy Pearlman—a US-based female urologist, twin, and co-founder of the Prime Institute in Florida. Known for her progressive and patient-first approach, Amy opens up about her journey into men’s health, the procedures she performs (including penile girth enhancement), and the power of confidence in sexual wellbeing.  This episode dives deep into:  Why Amy chose a career in urology  How penile enhancement treatments like hyaluronic acid fillers are helping men regain confidence  The rise of penile retraction as a commonly ignored concern—and what can be done about it  Using tools like Restorex and vacuum erection devices for rehabilitation and enhancement  Why Botox for the penis (Bocox) might be the next frontier in treating ED and penile retraction  The role of filler sleeves in preserving shape post-injection  Her concierge model of care and how it allows for more personalised, holistic men’s health treatment.  Dr. Pearlman also busts myths and shares real-world insight from her clinical experience. Melissa shares a fascinating case of six men from Papua New Guinea searching for penis enlargement in Perth!  Key Topics Covered:  Penile girth enhancement with hyaluronic acid filler  Filler safety, reversibility, and realistic expectations  Why sexual confidence matters in treating premature ejaculation  Treating penile retraction and post-surgical shrinkage  Erectile dysfunction therapies: PDE5 inhibitors, daily tadalafil vs. on-demand Spontan spray  How Dr. Pearlman learned procedures after formal training—and why that matters  The difference between snake oil and real innovation in men’s health  Cosmetic urology vs. functional outcomes: bridging the gap    About Dr. Amy Pearlman:  Amy is a board-certified urologist, medical educator, and co-founder of the Prime Institute. Her career spans academic medicine, transgender surgery, male sexual health, hormone therapy, and now cosmetic urology with a focus on confidence, body image, and function. Known for her progressive mindset, Amy trains other professionals and speaks globally on men’s health and innovation in urological care.  Prime Institute: www.theprimeinstitute.com  Follow Amy on Instagram: @amypearlmanmd  Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au   Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us  We love hearing from real people navigating penile health—just like Amy If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.  Email: admin@melissahadleybarrett.com  Website: www.rshealth.com.au  Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/    https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   http://prost.com.au/  Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814  Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA