We Need To Talk with Paul C. Brunson

Do younger partners make you happier?In this episode, Cindy Gallop, founder of Make Love Not Porn, shares her bold perspective on living authentically and challenging societal norms. From rejecting pressures to marry or have children to embracing the joy of dating younger men, Cindy redefines intimacy and celebrates individuality.Drawing on her successful advertising career and groundbreaking work in reshaping conversations about sex and relationships, she offers insights on breaking free from conventional expectations to live a uniquely fulfilling life.Tune in for an inspiring conversation that encourages you to rethink what it means to live on your own terms.Follow Cindy Here:Cindy's Instagram https://g2ul0.app.link/neknglRJJObMakeLoveNotPorn Instagram https://g2ul0.app.link/ANV19lVJJObMakeLoveNotPorn Fundraiser https://g2ul0.app.link/3nwgfqdMJObSupport MakeLoveNotPorn Here:https://www.wefunder.com/makelovenotpornFollow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod00:00 Introduction: Who Is Cindy Gallop?02:02 What Does "Cindy’s Brand" Really Mean?03:45 How Cindy Views Herself vs. How The World Sees Her04:25 How Cindy’s Background Shaped Her Authentic Self06:28 Steps To Embracing Your Authentic Self09:00 Breaking Down The Most Harmful Societal Norms12:07 Has Cindy Ever Experienced True Romantic Love?13:47 Why Cindy Isn’t Focused On Finding Romantic Love15:44 Why Young Men Are Choosing To Date Older Women17:51 What’s The Age Gap Between Cindy And The Men She Dates?20:56 Why Cindy Gallop’s Relationships Are Different From Love24:53 Will Traditional Ideas About Love And Family Ever Change?25:47 How To Stop External Pressures From Influencing Your Choices27:19 The Dangerous Myth Of “The One” In Relationships28:44 How Cindy Maintains Successful Relationships With Younger Men35:25 Debunking The Myth Of The “Nuclear Family”37:58 Advertising’s Misrepresentation Of Age And Its Impact42:34 Is “Make Love Not Porn” Competing With Mainstream Porn?46:26 Why Cindy Created “Make Love Not Porn” And Its Mission53:16 What Is The Social-Sexual Revolution “Make Love Not Porn” Aims To Spark?58:49 How “Make Love Not Porn” Differs From Mainstream Porn’s Addictive Traits01:02:18 Cindy Gallop’s Definition Of True Consent01:05:23 Can Sharing Your Sex Life Help Correct Misconceptions About Sex?01:08:11 A Look At Paul’s Research On “Make Love Not Porn”01:11:21 Cindy’s Innovative Approach To Educating Young People About Sex01:13:42 How And When Parents Should Talk To Kids About Sex And Porn01:16:15 Inside The “Make Love Not Porn” Academy01:22:03 Cindy Gallop’s Most Memorable ConversationsSponsored by:Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paulHuel: https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAULTinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Paul sits down with Dr. Karen Gurney, a renowned psychologist and sex expert, to explore the topic of intimate relationships and sexual satisfaction.From demystifying the concept of being "good in bed" to unpacking the historical biases shaping our perceptions of sex, Dr Karen provides a refreshing perspective that prioritises emotional connection and individual fulfilment.Join us as we tackle key topics such as the orgasm gap, the complexities of sexual compatibility, and the impact of cultural myths on our intimate lives.Dr. Gurney offers practical advice for fostering meaningful conversations about sex, building trust, and embracing the full spectrum of pleasure. Whether you're navigating a long-term relationship or exploring casual connections, this episode is a thought-provoking guide to cultivating a healthier, more fulfilling sex life.Follow Dr Karen Here:Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/MU8rewKCxObKaren's Book 'Mind The Gap' https://g2ul0.app.link/4i3z7QkDxObKaren's Book 'How Not to Let Having Kids Ruin Your Sex Life' https://g2ul0.app.link/YjgD9soDxObFollow us here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod--00:00 Introduction  1:16 How External Influences Impact Your Sex Life  1:52 What Is Sex And Why Does It Matter?  3:07 The Essential Rules Of Sex Everyone Should Know  5:49 Understanding The Sexual Scale: Where Do You Fit?  7:42 The Truth About Sexual Compatibility: Does It Exist?  10:14 Good Sex Vs Bad Sex: How To Tell The Difference  15:37 Rating Sexual Pleasure In Different Scenarios  18:08 The Truth About Orgasms And Society's Expectations  21:06 What Is The Orgasm Gap And Why It Matters  27:32 1st PTC (Post Topic Commentary)  28:17 Does Penis Size Actually Matter?  31:47 Why Society Is Obsessed With Penis Size  34:02 The G-Spot: Myth Or Reality?  36:22 Are Fetishes Becoming More Common?  37:33 Is Pornography Helpful Or Harmful In Today's World?  40:49 2nd PTC (Post Topic Commentary)  41:27 Sex Today Vs Past Generations: What’s Changed?  45:11 The Future Of Sex: Robots, AI, And Beyond  47:23 Huel Sponsorship Ad  48:25 Fiverr Sponsorship Ad  49:35 What Is The Kinsey Scale And Why Does It Matter?  52:22 Sexual Currency Explained: Why It's Crucial In Relationships  1:00:40 How To Build Sexual Currency In Your Relationship  1:01:58 3rd PTC (Post Topic Commentary)  1:02:41 How To Make An Invitation For Sex More Inviting  1:04:16 How Sleep Impacts Your Sex Life  1:05:10 How Often Should You Be Having Sex?  1:09:16 How Long Should Sex Last For Maximum Pleasure?  1:15:08 How Conscientiousness Influences Your Sex Life  1:19:20 What Is Self-Expansion And How It Improves Relationships  1:22:44 When Is Lack Of Sex A Valid Reason To Leave A Relationship?  1:27:37 How A Strong Sexual Connection Benefits Your Relationship  1:29:40 Why Understanding Sexual Anatomy Is So Important  1:34:28 Can Having Sex Make Someone More Physically Attractive To You?  1:37:53 The Most Memorable Conversation About Sex  1:41:58 Key Takeaways From This Discussion On Sex  1:43:55 Tinder Sponsorship Ad  --Sponsored by:Huel: huel.com/paul use code PAULFiverr: https://fvrr.co/paulTinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Toni Tone and Taiwo Ogebule share the transformative journey that has redefined their approach to love and relationships.Through overcoming personal challenges, cultural pressures, and managing a long-distance romance, they reveal how a foundation of trust, mutual respect, and deep emotional connection has kept their bond strong.Together, they challenge conventional narratives around attachment, masculinity, and "struggle love," showing how self-discovery and resilience create a partnership that goes beyond expectations.Follow Toni Here:Toni's TikTok: https://g2ul0.app.link/JazIAMKurObToni's Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/sFCGcJOurObFollow Taiwo Here:Taiwo's TikTok: https://g2ul0.app.link/0wuUp8WurObTaiwo's Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/pUhyd2SurObFollow Me Here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod00:00 Introduction to the Episode03:04 Dating Culture Differences: USA vs. UK05:15 Toni and Taiwo’s Relationship Histories06:18 How Relationships Can Impact Attachment Styles11:06 How Toni and Taiwo Met: Their Love Story16:22 Toni’s Viral Tweet After Their First Call16:53 Understanding Demisexuality: What Does It Mean?18:23 Tips for Maintaining a Long-Distance Relationship20:46 Managing Conflict Across Borders: Toni and Taiwo’s Approach25:49 The Biggest Misconceptions About Our Relationship29:51 What Makes a “Good Man” in Modern Dating?30:55 Shopify Ad31:54 Huel Ad33:25 What Is Gut Instinct and Why It’s Important in Love35:37 Breaking Down “Struggle Love” and Its Impact38:51 Can a Strong Woman Really Intimidate Men?49:00 Our Most Memorable Conversations Together54:24 Key Takeaways from Paul56:59 Tinder AdSponsored by:Shopify: www.shopify.co.uk/needtotalk Huel: huel.com/paul use code PAULTinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Judith Joseph, a leading psychiatrist and mental health expert, to explore high-functioning depression and anhedonia—two often-overlooked mental health conditions that can profoundly affect both personal well-being and relationships.Dr. Judith shares her insights on how people may appear to have everything under control while silently struggling, and she provides practical advice for identifying these hidden signs and managing them effectively. With her clinical background and deep understanding of trauma and attachment issues, Dr. Judith offers listeners tools to foster self-awareness, resilience, and healthier connections.Whether you’re dealing with these challenges yourself or supporting someone who is, this conversation will equip you with valuable strategies for navigating the complexities of these struggles.Follow Dr Judith Joseph here:Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/CWNtxBUHfObDr Judith Pre-Order Link: https://g2ul0.app.link/JOBEG4qIfObDr Judith Anhedonia Quiz: https://g2ul0.app.link/iKrl1RxIfObFollow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod0:00 Intro 0:46 Judith’s Early Life and Background 2:33 Pros and Cons of Being an Immigrant 5:04 Judith’s Strong Work Ethic 6:06 Why Judith Switched to a Career in Psychology 8:45 How Judith Found the Confidence to Change Careers 10:18 Why Judith Chose to Pursue Psychiatry 12:08 What Exactly Is Psychiatry? 13:34 The Role of a Lab in Psychiatry and Why It Matters 15:40 How Race Affects Access to Therapy 18:28 Can You Overdo Therapy? 20:45 Understanding and Defining Trauma 23:38 How the Pandemic Has Shaped Our View on Trauma 24:42 What Is Scarcity Trauma? 25:55 What Happens If You Don’t Address Trauma 27:27 The Key Differences Between Guilt and Shame 28:56 How to Support Someone Going Through Trauma 32:20 What Is Scarcity Envy and How Does It Affect Us? 35:15 High-Functioning Depression Explained 36:38 What Is Depression? Signs and Symptoms 38:06 Ad Break 40:27 Are People More Depressed Than Ever? 42:23 What Is "High-Functioning Depression"? 44:03 How to Check In on Friends and Family 46:51 What Is Anhedonia and Why It Matters 51:33 The Impact of Anhedonia on Mental Health 53:18 Should We Slow Down to Improve Mental Health? 54:55 The 5,4,3,2,1 Exercise for Anxiety Relief 58:20 Procrastination Caused by Worry: How to Manage It 59:10 Should You Stay in a Relationship Where Depression Is Present? 1:01:59 Are We All Somewhere on the Neurodivergent Spectrum? 1:03:48 How to Raise Awareness Without Misdiagnosing Yourself 1:06:07 Taking Control of Your Thoughts 1:08:05 The Cognitive Behavioral Triangle Explained 1:08:47 What Judith Would Tell Her Younger Self 1:09:21 Is Judith Truly Happy? 1:11:23 Judith’s Most Memorable Conversation Sponsored by:Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this exclusive episode, Love Island star Maura Higgins opens up about the intimate and personal aspects of her life journey, shedding light on the emotional challenges she’s encountered since entering the spotlight.From heartbreak, loss, and betrayal to the pressures of living in the public eye, Maura discusses how embracing vulnerability and practicing self-love have helped her stay true to herself.In her debut podcast episode, Maura’s story of resilience and personal growth is both empowering and relatable, especially for anyone navigating similar hardships.This conversation includes sensitive topics such as grief and sexual assault.If you are affected by anything in this podcast, please use these links to organisations that can offer support:CALM: https://g2ul0.app.link/uULaUXcM3NbMIND: https://g2ul0.app.link/gbuRaxjM3NbFollow Maura here:https://g2ul0.app.link/7kCDv2mM3NbFollow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod—00:00 Introduction01:38 Maura Reveals Why She Rarely Shares Her Story02:45 Why Maura Chose Now for Her First In-depth Interview03:30 Exploring Maura's Complex Relationship With Her Mother04:21 Insights into Maura's Childhood Experiences05:39 Understanding Maura's Relationship With Her Father08:59 Analyzing Maura's School Life Experiences12:40 What Was It Like in Maura's Childhood Home?13:49 Toxic School Experiences: Maura's Story14:32 Weekends in Maura's Childhood: A Deep Dive15:11 How Maura's Early Life Influenced Her Adult Relationships15:58 Maura's Dating Life Beginnings Uncovered16:25 Maura's First Romantic Relationship Explored18:24 Maura's Journey to Becoming a Hairdresser21:09 Maura's Early Days in the Public Eye22:55 Promotional Segment: Tinder Advertisement23:48 The Story of Maura and Her Best Friend26:04 Can Men and Women Be Just Friends? Maura Discusses28:24 Maura Confronts the Loss of Her Best Friend35:26 Maura's Lack of Emotional Support from Her Father36:08 The Truth About Maura's Cheating Ex-Partner45:50 Maura Discusses Her Experience with Sexual Assault52:22 Inside Maura's Love Island Adventure58:54 Exploring Maura's Relationships on Love Island01:01:34 Public Perceptions of Maura Post-Love Island01:05:06 Life Changes for Maura After Love Island01:10:54 Maura's Mental Health After Love Island: A Breakdown01:25:45 Exploring the 'Triangular Love' Theory01:27:11 Has Maura Ever Been in a Fulfilling Relationship?01:29:44 Maura Discusses: What It Means to Truly Love01:39:49 Maura on Staying Relevant: Career Pressures Post-Fame01:41:58 Maura's Advice on Relationships01:43:49 Maura at the BAFTAs: Celebrity Connections Revealed01:50:41 Most Memorable Questions Asked to Maura01:53:33 Key Insights from Paul's Interview with Maura01:56:26 Advertisement Segment: Fiverr Promotion—Sponsored by:Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gabor Maté, a best-selling author and expert on addiction and trauma, shares profound insights into how our childhood experiences shape adult relationships. He discusses the invisible costs of emotional suppression and the critical role of authenticity in fostering healthy connections. Listeners learn how unresolved trauma can trigger stress and a cycle of repeating past behaviors. Maté emphasizes kindness and vulnerability as tools for healing, advocating for self-awareness as the essential pathway to personal growth and stronger relationships.

In episode, Paul sits down with Ashley Cain, a former professional footballer and reality TV star, who bravely shares his transformative journey of grief and healing following the devastating loss of his daughter, Azaylia, to leukemia. Ashley opens up about the struggles he's faced, the lessons he’s learned, and the powerful mission he’s now embraced to raise awareness for childhood cancer and men’s mental health.Through this heartfelt conversation, Ashley discusses the emotional challenges men often encounter and how understanding and addressing these needs can lead to personal growth. We explore the sudden end to his football career, the impact that trauma has had on his life, and how he's used his experiences to help others find strength, even in the darkest of moments.Ashley offers valuable advice on finding happiness, achieving well-being, and transforming relationships—with ourselves and others—through a process of healing.His work with The Azaylia Foundation continues to inspire people all over the world, offering hope and support to families facing similar tragedies.Please note: This episode covers sensitive topics like child loss and grief, which may be difficult for some listeners.--Ashley's Book:Strong - https://g2ul0.app.link/Ow8Hgaq5HNbAshley's Instagram:https://g2ul0.app.link/SWyyCc2UGNbAshley's Charity - The Azaylia Foundationhttps://g2ul0.app.link/YP3IHk8UGNb--Follow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod--02:19 - How Are You Feeling Right Now?03:18 - Growing Up Mixed Race: Challenges And Experiences04:57 - How Race And Upbringing Shaped Ashley's Identity08:01 - If You Could Change Your Past, Would You?10:06 - How Football Transformed Ashley's Life11:42 - Life After Football: Losing Fame And Status13:49 - Becoming A Dad For The First Time15:38 - When Ashley Discovered Azaylia's Illness22:57 - Staying Positive And Advocating For Azaylia's Health32:35 - How To Cope With Trauma38:50 - Supporting Men Through Trauma: Advice For Partners42:08 - The Male Mental Health Crisis: What Needs To Change50:39 - Shopify And Tinder Ad Break52:32 - Is Ashley Truly Happy?54:36 - Ashley's Wellness Journey56:31 - The 6 Dimensions Of Psychological Wellbeing Explained01:00:10 - How To Handle Trauma In Relationships01:02:50 - What Ashley Would Change About His Past Relationships01:03:27 - Relationship Advice: Loving A Man Like Ashley01:05:00 - Is Ashley Single Right Now?01:05:55 - Is Ashley Open To Dating?01:07:00 - Who Should Make The First Move In Dating?01:08:00 - Chirpsing Roleplay: How To Approach Someone01:12:10 - How Opening Up Has Affected Ashley01:12:46 - The Most Memorable Conversation Ashley's Had01:15:09 - Paul's Key Takeaways--Sponsored by:Shopify - www.shopify.co.uk/needtotalkTinder - https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. John and Dr. Julie Gottman, world-renowned relationship experts and founders of The Gottman Institute, share their research-based insights into what truly makes relationships work. With over 50 years of research on marital stability and parenting, they dive deep into key issues like how contempt can destroy your immune system, and why certain toxic behaviors—like criticism and stonewalling—are major red flags in relationships.They also debunk common myths such as "Never go to bed angry" and explain how empathy and emotional intelligence are critical to lasting love.The Gottmans provide practical advice on how to manage conflict, heal from childhood trauma, and create deeper emotional connections. Whether you're navigating daily disagreements or looking to rebuild trust after betrayal, this conversation is filled with valuable takeaways to help you strengthen your relationship and build a healthier, more fulfilling partnership.Find the Gottmans here:The Gottman Institute - https://g2ul0.app.link/H16ipH9ywNbInstagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/CJZlSOczwNbFollow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpodTopics:00:00 - Intro  02:02 - Do People Still Believe In Marriage Today?  09:23 - What Defines A Successful Marriage In Modern Times?  13:09 - What Percentage Of Couples Are Truly Happy In Their Relationships?  15:47 - Inside Paul’s Matchmaking Process On MAFS (Married At First Sight)  17:51 - Are Successful Couples Less Exciting? The Truth About Stability  21:24 - What Is The Love Lab And How Does It Work?  22:38 - Shocking Discoveries From The Love Lab: What Science Says About Love  26:18 - The Power Of The 'Six Second Kiss' In Relationships  29:38 - Do The Gottmans Use Their Own Research In Their Marriage?  32:51 - How Important Is Sex For A Healthy Relationship?  37:46 - Why Date Night Matters More Than You Think  40:37 - The Ingredients Of A Perfect Date: How To Get It Right  43:03 - Paul's Ultimate First Date Test: Does It Predict Success?  45:52 - The Key Principles Of A Successful Marriage Revealed  49:46 - The Top Reason Couples Fight And How To Avoid It  50:45 - The Different Conflict Styles In Marriage: Which One Are You?  55:27 - Is Conflict Good For Your Relationship? Here’s The Answer  57:22 - How Important Is Compatibility In A Relationship?  58:40 - The Questions You Should Ask To Truly Understand Your Partner  01:06:16 - How To Resolve Conflicts And Strengthen Your Relationship  01:08:57 - Should You Stay With A Partner Who Won't Resolve Conflicts?  01:11:10 - Tinder Ad: How Modern Dating Apps Are Changing Relationships  01:12:12 - The Four Horsemen Of Relationships And Why Contempt Is The Worst  01:14:47 - When Is It Time To End A Relationship? Key Signs To Watch For  01:16:24 - What Is Flooding In Relationships And How To Manage It  01:18:46 - How To Self-Soothe When You’re Emotionally Overwhelmed  01:21:17 - Should You 'Never Go To Bed Angry'? The Real Answer  01:22:22 - Can You Rebuild Trust After Infidelity? Here’s How  01:28:33 - How To Know If Your Relationship Is Failing: Warning Signs  01:31:26 - What’s The Most Memorable Relationship Conversation You’ve Had?  01:35:00 - Outro  01:35:28 - Paul’s Final Takeaways On Love And RelationshipsSponsored by:Tinder - https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, dance power couple Oti Mabuse and Marius Iepure sit down for their first joint interview.Together, they share the highs and lows of their relationship, revealing how hey transitioned from dance partners to life partners, and navigated the challenges following their daughter’s premature birth.Oti opens up about how her obsession with winning Strictly strained their marriage and how Marius supported her during her lowest moment as a professional dancer.Join Paul for an inspiring conversation about resilience, unwavering support, and the vital importance of showing up for one another in life’s toughest moments.Oti's Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/EyHZ8NAnjNb Marius's Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/Qc1t4kFnjNbOti and Marius' Website: https://g2ul0.app.link/SrgkUdenjNbFollow me here:https://www.instagram.com/needtotalkhttps://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpodSections:00:00 - Introduction02:17 - Why Share Your Private Life Now?04:48 - How Childhood Lessons Shape Your Life Today13:25 - Building Strong Connections Despite Differences17:49 - How Dance Brings People Together21:35 - The Global Impact of Afrobeats and Dance24:58 - Redefining Masculinity in African Culture28:12 - Navigating Power Dynamics in Modern Relationships32:44 - Why Failure and Rejection Are Essential for Growth36:10 - How Setting Boundaries Transforms Your Life40:23 - Does Fame Change Who You Are?44:56 - The Pressures of Being a Role Model49:12 - How to Stay True to Yourself in a Demanding World53:39 - Your Path to Self-Acceptance and Confidence58:27 - Why Mental Health Should Be a Priority01:02:14 - How Vulnerability Can Empower You01:07:06 - Living Authentically in a Digital Age01:11:35 - Mastering How to Handle Criticism01:16:02 - How to Find Inner Peace in a Busy World01:20:47 - Discovering Your Life's Purpose01:25:33 - Overcoming The Fear Of Being Judged01:29:50 - How to Become Your Best SelfSponsored by:Tinder - https://tinder.com/en-GB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sadia Khan, a relationship expert and coach, dives into the chaos of modern dating. She discusses how the sexual revolution has shifted masculinity, with women gaining power while men struggle. Sadia critiques adult platforms like OnlyFans for damaging intimacy and fuelling infidelity. She emphasizes the importance of being a 'high-value man' and debates the viability of non-monogamous relationships. This thought-provoking conversation tackles trust, evolving relationship dynamics, and the clash between traditional values and modern dating culture.