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Today is one of my very favorite kinds of shows, a Parent-Coaching Call with an NPC member! – – A HUGE tree fell in our yard during a buck wild nor'easter last week, and we lost power for days! (Click here to check out the video I made of the tree!) All back now and everything is okay… But I had to delay the start of our epic "How to Help Your Child Navigate the Choppy Social Waters of Life Without Getting Pulled Under Yourself or Losing Your Mind" mastercourse. The first live module now goes up on Tuesday, November 14, giving you until Monday, November 13 to enroll! If you can't make it to the modules live, you'll always be able to catch them in our password-protected online classroom - plus ask questions over the whole 6 weeks of the mastercourse in our private Survive the Social Stuff Facebook group, exclusively for those enrolled in the course.… To learn more and sign up go to weturnedoutokay.com/socialstuff! – – In each parent-coaching call, NPC members disclose their struggles and I put my years of experience with young children and degrees in early childhood education and human development/family relations to work, figuring out exactly what steps will help most (and fastest). It's an exclusive benefit for members of my private coaching community, and the great thing is that even if you're not a member, you get answers to mind-bending parenting conundrums as well! Here are the issues that Jen is seeing with her 5-and 3-year-old daughters: 1) What to do about endless whining, when all the tools in the toolbox have been tried – redirection is not working, making no sound like yes is not working, and her head is about ready to explode? 2) What to do when the girls take one or two bites out of an apple and then want to throw the rest of the apple away, or similar food conundrums, usually having to do with snacks, especially those that "don't portion out well" If either of these seems familiar, you are going to LOVE this episode. NPC members: view the expanded notes and action steps – and read about how Jen did with these issues – by clicking here (just remember you must be logged in to view). Not a member of the Ninja Parenting Community? Click here. Go to weturnedoutokay.com/195 key links : ) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

– – A HUGE tree fell in our yard during a buck wild nor'easter last week, and we lost power for days! (Click here to check out the video I made of the tree!) All back now and everything is okay… But I had to delay the start of our epic "How to Help Your Child Navigate the Choppy Social Waters of Life Without Getting Pulled Under Yourself or Losing Your Mind" mastercourse. The first live module now goes up on Tuesday, November 14, giving you until Monday, November 13 to enroll! If you can't make it to the modules live, you'll always be able to catch them in our password-protected online classroom - plus ask questions over the whole 6 weeks of the mastercourse in our private Survive the Social Stuff Facebook group, exclusively for those enrolled in the course.… To learn more and sign up go to weturnedoutokay.com/socialstuff! – – Today's conversation is one of those awesome ones that went in a completely different direction than I had thought it would. I knew we were going to talk about racism, and parenting, and how New York Times best-selling author Joshilyn Jackson teaches creative writing to prisoners – but when, early on in our conversation, Joshilyn shared "I didn't have any empathy until I became a mom," my heart just stopped. How could that possibly be, I wondered? And so we raced off into a discussion that will help you understand empathy as a crucial parenting skill, perhaps the most important ninja tactic of all. You are going to LOVE it. Go to weturnedoutokay.com/194 for key links : ) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

It's agonizing to watch your child go through the social stuff of life. You know what I'm talking about: When you spend your days stopping angry sibling fights, as if you were a boxing referee. When one of them gets made fun of at school – or worse, bullied. When they get broken up with by a friend. When they have a crush on a fellow eight-year-old and say to you "who could love a face like this?" If your heart breaks or you feel shellshocked when something like this happens, you are not alone. I'm offering a new approach that gives you the power to support your child, set aside your inner demons, and be happier in your parenting. It's a new 6-week mastercourse, and it changes everything: How to Help Your Child Navigate the Choppy Social Waters of Life Without Losing Your Mind or Getting Pulled Under Yourself Click the course title or go to weturnedoutokay.com/socialstuff to learn more… Space is Limited!! Sign up now to save your spot – LOTS of listeners struggle with the social stuff and spots will go fast! The course starts this coming Tuesday, November 7… And you can go to the course's secret Facebook group immediately upon registering and paying! You'll learn: – How to help your child navigate the social landscape – Strategies for helping your child stand up to a bully, deal with sibling rivalry, and gain social confidence and competence – Why your agony and heartbreak over your child's struggles may be hurting him or her socially – How to feel better within yourself while helping your child feel better Come get started on this new approach right away – Sign up now! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Today, I answer a listener question about how to buckle in a squirming child who doesn't want to be in a car seat. And then I tackle something that makes us all squirm… The unhappy social stuff in our kids' lives. You know what I'm talking about: When you spend your days stopping angry sibling fights, as if you were a boxing referee. When one of them gets made fun of at school – or worse, bullied. When they get broken up with by a friend. When they have a crush on a fellow eight-year-old and say to you "who could love a face like this?" If your heart breaks – or you feel shellshocked – when something like this happens, you are not alone. You need to learn about the new approach that gives you the power to support your child, set aside your inner demons, and be happier in your parenting. This new 6-week mastercourse changes everything: How to Help Your Child Navigate the Choppy Social Waters of Life Without Losing Your Mind or Getting Pulled Under Yourself Click the course title or go to weturnedoutokay.com/socialstuff to learn more… Space is Limited!! Sign up now to save your spot – LOTS of listeners struggle with the social stuff and spots will go fast! The course starts this coming Tuesday, November 7… And you can go to the course's secret Facebook group immediately upon registering and paying! Come get started on this new approach right away – Sign up now! Find out how to handle squirmy social stuff in today's episode and go to weturnedoutokay.com/193 for key links. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Listen to today's episode for a quick and easy way to cut down on your child's bad behavior : ) – – – New Course Offering: It's agonizing to watch your child go through the social stuff of life; getting called a mean name or crybaby; getting "broken up with" by a friend, encountering sibling strife. It upsets us parents because 1) our heart breaks for our beautiful child, and 2) we don't know what to do to help.. I'm offering something new and different that will create a new opportunity for you: The Surviving the Social Stuff course. It's tailored to participants' needs, so whatever social stuff is going on in your child's life – THAT'S what you'll learn how to handle. It's super helpful as we get into the high-emotion holidays, with weekly class meetings starting Tuesday, November 7 and running right through into January. Space is limited!! So, if you're struggling with anything social in your child's life, Click Here to sign up.. Then you'll be feeling less alone and learning new ways to Survive the Social Stuff! – – – For key links, go to weturnedoutokay.com/192! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Each fall as the nights get longer and Halloween gets close, spooky feelings crop up. They can be fun, but for kids these feelings also be downright frightening. Today I'm excited to bring you my conversation with my youngest, Jason, who remembers well the feeling of being afraid of the dark and shares really great advice for helping your kids cope with their fears. We talk about all kinds of Halloweeny stuff, and also: – Einstein's view of the world – Why validating a kid's fears is the gateway to helping them feel less afraid – Jay's all-important question: "How does pretending an avocado is alive show a mastery of empathy?" … Just to give you an idea of the kind of conversations we have around here : ) Key links, including the one about Surviving the Social Stuff, the course that will help you feel less alone AND help your child navigate scary social waters, at weturnedoutokay.com/191! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Sexually abused at age 7, I consider myself not a victim, but a survivor. In today's bonus episode, brought on by the #MeToo movement, I share the most important tool in my healing – and the conviction that, if you or a loved one has been sexually abused or harassed, there is help and hope for a good life (even a great one). Click here for key links, and please consider sharing this episode if you feel like it will help somebody in your life feel better. Thanks, and thanks for listening! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Given their small stature and relative powerlessness, the idea of something as powerFUL as a gun captivates young children. But in the violent world we live in, their fascination can seem to us morbid and frightening… All the more so in the wake of mass shootings like the one just a few weeks ago in Las Vegas. Today's show gives you concrete ideas about how to raise a nonviolent child in our violent world, and how to feel better if you, like me, share your home with a pint-sized gun enthusiast. Key links at weturnedoutokay.com/190; Click here to get concrete help for the huge and important questions in your parenting, by checking out the Ninja Parenting Community! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

In which a coaching client of mine shows me that something I'd always thought to be truly impossible is, in fact, possible. It brings up the question "what happens to our children when we believe something is impossible?" Alternatively, what happens to them when we believe that something is possible? Key links at weturnedoutokay.com/189; Click here to learn more about the Ninja Parenting Community, if you're at your wit's end with your child, and need some help making the impossible become possible! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Today's guest knows that we live in a time where everything around us – the challenges, the technology, changing culture – can seem both terrifying and awesome. Former psychotherapist and current creativity coach Mark McGuinness teaches how to embrace the awesome, and mitigate the terrifying with his podcast, 21st Century Creative, and today he brings wonderful ideas for you to enjoy more of your parenting in this turbulent time. Mark also brings something new to We Turned Out Okay: a guest-challenge! An expert at helping people find time to accomplish their goals, Mark drops the gauntlet, setting YOU a challenge in this episode. Completing Mark's challenge not only can help you find time in your life for the things you love, but might just when you a copy of his book, Productivity for Creative People… Three copies of which Mark has graciously offered three lucky WTOO listeners. Listen to find out what the challenge is, and how to enter the giveaway – which ends Tuesday, October 17, 2017! To take up the challenge: sometime on or before October 17, 2017, go to weturnedoutokay.com/contact and tell me how you did with Mark's challenge… More key links in the show notes at weturnedoutokay.com/188! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe