ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

When you first got marriage you  may have thought of you marriage as a covenant and/or as a contract. To this day in your mind your marriage is either one of these or both and yet do you know which each of them mean in your marriage? If you view your marriage as a contract it is self-focused. In a covenant you are other-focused. This week Tony and Alisa discuss the major differences between the two to help you better understand which marriage you are in. Either a covenant or a contract you should know so that you can fully experience your marriage. The Bondage Breaker Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You don't have the sex drive you once had within your marriage. It's waned over the years and really you're a bit frustrated that you don't have "IT" like you once did. Your physical well being may be an area that is having a big impact on your sex drive and libido. Being physically fit, eating the proper nutrition, getting the vitamins and minerals you need, as well as having the motivation is paramount to your sexual intimacy. This week Tony and Alisa go over where they are in their continued pursuit of having a healthy sex drive. It's something that they thrive for individually and together. Don't miss how you can make changes to your body to crank up your sex drive. Thrive90 Fitness Program Happy, Healthy, & Hot Les Mills Pump Fitness Program What Are Your 50 Reasons? Irwin Naturals Men's Living Green Liquid-Gel Multi Irwin Naturals Women's Living Green Liquid-Gel Multi Irwin Naturals High-Performance Ripped-Man Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You know those noises that come from your spouse. Either in the bathroom or right there in the kitchen they come out and boy is it getting a bit much. Never did you think about the burps, farts, throw up, diarrhea, or those weird noises in bed when you first got together. Now after years of marriage they are beginning to wan on you. This week Tony and Alisa share those noises in their marriage and how they have been able to understand why they occur and when. You don't want to miss this episode on Those Weird Noises. Mattress Warmer  Pain Free: A Revolutionary Method for Stopping Chronic Pain Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ouch! My body hurts. Physical ailments can cause strife in your marriage when you are unable to be sexually intimate with your spouse. You are not doing this to hurt your spouse and yet there is frustration for both of you. Is the pain manageable? Can you make changes to your medication? Would non-vaginal sex satisfy both of you? This week Tony and Alisa share ideas that you may not have thought of so you can be physically intimate with your spouse. Take one action step this week toward healing your body. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There are times in your marriage when everything seems to not be going as you planned. It's easy to point the finger at your spouse for all that is happening and yet the issues may be with YOU. Yes, you may be what's wrong with your marriage. Most times it is easier to lay the blame on your spouse. Why do you have to go through all the work to change yourself when your spouse can do it. This week Tony & Alisa share times in their marriage when one of them was the problem in their marriage. They share how they have looked at their issues and how they have been able to overcome them. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You feel alone, unworthy, spoken to like a child, or watched everywhere you go. Physically your spouse hasn't laid a hand on you and yet the verbal and emotional barrage that you get daily has you at wits end. Have you experienced: Humiliation, degradation, discounting, negating. judging, criticizing Domination, control, and shame Accusing and blaming, trivial and unreasonable demands or expectations, denies own shortcomings Emotional distancing and the “silent treatment,” isolation, emotional abandonment or neglect Codependence and enmeshment If so, then you are in an emotional and verbally abusive marriage. This week Tony & Alisa shine the light on what these may look like in your home. More importantly they share the 5 steps you need to take to free yourself and your spouse from continued abuse. If you need help don't wait. Call or contact the agencies below for assistance. Women call: US: Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 UK: call Women’s Aid at 0808 2000 247. Australia: Call 1800RESPECT at 1800 737 732. Worldwide: Visit International Directory of Domestic Violence Agencies for a global list of helplines and crisis centers. Men call: U.S. and Canada: Call the The Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men & Women at 1-888-7HELPLINE UK: Call the ManKind Initiative at 01823 334244 Australia: Visit One in Three Campaign Other links: Creating a Safety Plan Uberlube Luxury Lubricant Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Get out of your comfort zone and do something exhilarating with your spouse. When you do amazing changes can happen in your marriage. You're flying high as you face your fears and stay present in the moment. To often in your marriage there is so much going on, kids activities, electronics, church function, etc, that you put on the brakes before you ever get the chance to do something new. This week Tony & Alisa are flying high as they talk about how flying on the trapeze helped them overcome some fears, expand their level of trust, and grow together in their marriage. He Zigs, She Zags: Getting Your Communication on the Same Path Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Your marriage is a participation sport. There are no rewards for sitting on the sidelines watching as the weeks, months, and years pass by. It's time for the two of you to stand on the field together, playing together, and enjoying this game we call marriage together. When you do your emotional, spiritual, financial, and sexual intimacy are going to be in sync. This week Tony and Alisa share how you can stand together on the ball field and participate in your marriage together. It's time to Play Ball! 19 Questions to Amazing Sex with Your Spouse Fireproof (Movie) The Love Dare  Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Those underwear you are wearing are dragging you down. Nobody except your spouse sees them and yet when you are wearing them you don't feel sexy. Why would you want to have them around any longer if all they do is bring you down? Git rid of those hoely underwear! It's time for some spring cleaning so get those holey underwear out of your drawer and put them in the trash. In the process you'll lift your self-esteem and self-confidence. This week Tony and Alisa share their experiences with holey underwear, what they have done to rid themselves of them, and how it has impacted them as well as their marriage. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Cuddling up with your spouse after a great love making session can do wonders for both of you. Your skin is the largest organ on your body and when it is in contact with your spouse's skin it can do wonders for your marriage. The act of cuddling with your spouse releases the hormone oxytocin, "the feel-good hormone", which can lead to overall happiness. Cuddling can also release endorphins, which are the same hormones that are released during a good workout. This week Tony & Alisa share how the act of cuddling, which was prevalent in their early years of marriage, has faded over time. They get to the root of why cuddling has faded over time and what they are going to do to get more cuddling in after sex. Cuddle Positions Intimacy Ignited Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices