ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

Your job as a parent is to have your children for a season in your house. While they are there you must equip them with the tools that they need to leave your house and live on their own. Being your child's savior, rescuing them and providing for all of their needs and wants impacts three generations. These three generations could be impacted for the positive or for the negative. You get to decide. In this week’s show Tony & Alisa talk about the impact of continuously putting your kids ahead of your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR    Date Nite Box is the FIRST and ONLY company to plan, book, box and send custom date nite boxes. Each box includes tickets/ vouchers for your event/activities/dinner along with directions, itinerary, a virtual date nite concierge and fun goodies to enhance each date. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Fear or worry can stop you in your tracks when it comes to moving forward in your marriage. Events in the past, words spoken or unspoken, or what may happen leave you feeling helpless. Fortunately for you love is great than fear. The love you have for your spouse can overcome the fear that is holding you back. It's time to push past the fear. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the impact fear has on your marriage and your intimacy. EPISODE SPONSOR Melt: Massage for Couples will teach you how to massage your spouse and vise versa in the comfort of your own home. Since 2006 Denis & Emma have been teaching couples the best massage techniques for each other, Melt will show you how to do just this as you treat your spouse to a romantic massage. Join thousands of other couples who are learning to make each other Melt through massage. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You and/or your spouse may struggle with how to be vocal and speak up during sex. There isn't a one-size fits all, but there are a few different ways that you can speak up. Vocalization during sex is one way to encourage your spouse during sex. Both of you share in the enjoyment and excitement. Incorporate any of these and you will transform your sex life as it brings another form of communication to your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the different ways you can speak up and vocalize your satisfaction to your spouse during sex. EPISODE SPONSOR      Melt: Massage for Couples will teach you how to massage your spouse and vise versa  in the comfort of your own home. Since 2006 Denis & Emma have been teaching couples the best massage techniques for each other,  Melt will show you how to do just this as you treat your spouse to a romantic massage. Join thousands of other couples who are learning to make each other Melt through massage. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There will come a time when you will come to a point in your life when you feel depleted, whether it is because of circumstances at home, at work, with family or health. At some point you are going to run out of steam and hit the wall. Your marriage is great when all is running smooth and yet it is what you do in those times when you bonk. You will either push through and let your ego take over, you may freeze up to ask your spouse for help, or when help is offered you'll accept it so you can heal. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about what happens when you are doing great in your marriage and then it happens…you bonk. You are complete depleted of all energy to move forward in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR      Melt: Massage for Couples will teach you how to massage your spouse and vise versa  in the comfort of your own home. Since 2006 Denis & Emma have been teaching couples the best massage techniques for each other,  Melt will show you how to do just this as you treat your spouse to a romantic massage. Join thousands of other couples who are learning to make each other Melt through massage. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When your spouse gives you advice that is unsolicited you may become defensive toward them. It's times like these that you need to check yourself and understand where they are coming from. Advice that is given in love without complaining or grumbling could very well be one of the most important things you can do. When you do this you show your spouse that you value them for seeing something you may not have seen. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about listening and taking advice given in love from your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR      Melt: Massage for Couples will teach you how to massage your spouse and vise versa  in the comfort of your own home. Since 2006 Denis & Emma have been teaching couples the best massage techniques for each other,  Melt will show you how to do just this as you treat your spouse to a romantic massage. Join thousands of other couples who are learning to make each other Melt through massage. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You are uniquely made as there is no one else on this earth that is like you. Even though this is true, you have a personality type that can be learned to better understand yourself and your spouse. The Ennegram with it's nine personality types is a tool that should be used by you so that you can grow in your life and marriage. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about how personality types impact perception when it comes to the high desire spouse and low desire spouse. Wisdom of the Ennegram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types Understand Yourself, Understand Your Partner: The Essential Ennegram Guide to a Better Relationship Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The Intimacy Lifestyle at it's core is about being able to set specific days that you initiate sex and the days your spouse will initiate sex each week. It's also a fantastic way for the both of you to not put off sex to another time, but to make it a priority in your marriage. By having days where both of you initiate sex it ultimately brings you closer together. There will be times though when both of you or one of you is not tracking. We can totally relate because we have been there. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about what happens when there is a lack of clarity on which days you are to initiate sex. You don't dump all that you have accomplished, instead you communicate what can be done better moving forward. Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy In Your Marriage He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In your marriage the vulnerability you experience sexually with your spouse can be a challenge. Trying any position outside of the missionary position feels uncomfortable. For you it may be that the missionary position is efficient. Your spouse does this, you do that and wham bam it’s all done. You’re on your way and the next thing on your to-do list. Or maybe it’s routine. No need to think outside the box and complicate things. Your go-to position works so why rock the boat and change things up. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share why it's important to try new positions in your marriage. As they talk about the vulnerability you and your spouse face when trying new sexual positions you will gain insights on how you can add some to your marriage bed. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Taking Charge of Your Fertility 31 Days to Great Sex Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There are many ways that you can connect with your spouse. The way that you do this depends on where you are and the time you have scheduled for each other. You may even FaceTime your spouse if you are traveling or away from each other. FaceTime is important in many ways as you get to experience more than just their tone of voice. The same goes for us here as our main way of connecting with you is through emails, phone calls or voice mail. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share why the FaceTime they had with couples at FlameFest as well as the Meetups in the Midwest were so important for them. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Low libido due to stress can be frustrating to you and your spouse over time. You want to have a libido that is ready to go and yet the stress you endure has impacted you. This may be a phase or it may be going more prevalent due to work demands, family or other issues that you face. Stress has a direct impact on you libido because there is an increase in hormones such as cortisol and epinephrine (adrenaline). The increase of these in your body can also interfere with the hormones involved in your sexual libido. In this week's show Tony and Alisa share how stress has impacted their libido over the years. Even though this has been the case there are ways that they have continued to make their sexual intimacy a priority during these times. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices